Two of Cups & Page of Wands: Peace & Passion

I’m tired.

I had to get up up much, much earlier than my body wanted to accommodate repairmen. So I started this column in the morning but set it aside for lack of focus.

When I came back to it, I realized the cards weren’t merely showing me next week’s forecast. They were very succinctly setting my cranky butt straight over what’s been churning through my brain all day.

This is obviously a function of being tired, because Tarot never talks back to me like that otherwise.

Snort!

Seriously, though: I’m going to do my best to follow this advice not only the rest of the day, but next week and beyond. It’s damn good advice.

Next Week’s Tarot Forecast

I’m sticking with The Good Tarot for now because I’m still in the mood for a softer, prettier interpretation of life.

We’ve got the Two of Cups (Water) as outlook, which traditionally is depicted as a couple, sort of like a lesser version of The Lovers. For advice, there is the Page of Wands (or as she’s presented here, Messenger of Fire).

Now, the Two of Cups often heralds a young romance or the like, so it’s a welcome addition to any forecast. As with any Tarot card, there are layers you can unpack. My friend, Josi, prompted me to associate this card with making peace at some point, and it stuck.

You may not have any external interactions whatsoever. It’s not necessary, although it may be part of the mix. But whatever is weighing on your heart, you have the power to make peace with it right now.

Ruminating? Feeling misunderstood or underappreciated? It’s not anybody else’s job to value you. It’s your job to do it for yourself. The arguments you’re making in your head are ultimately with yourself.

The Two of Cups suggests we hold fast to optimism. Good intentions have been set and there’s unfailingly a hopefulness inherent in the energy of this card. People enter into relationships expecting everything to work out. While the future remains unrevealed and perhaps even anxiously anticipated, long-term expectations are nonetheless positive. People don’t enter into unions expecting those unions to break down.

It’s an encouraging outlook. We don’t know what we’re getting. But we are in the position to make peace with the ride anyway, holding out reasonable hope for safe and ultimately beneficial travels.

Furthermore, this little fiery Messenger giving advice would have us let our inner flames glow and grow–but more importantly, act on the fires of passion. Wands are the no-compromise family of the Tarot court.

Allow yourself to imagine successful scenarios and  move forward in that direction. You may have to alter course, but you won’t have to compromise the root, the true heart of your intentions. Just trust that you’ll work it out as you go along. Because you will.

Next week, make peace with wherever you are–or where the world is, whatever. This will help clear your head and settle the din so you can hear (and follow) the truest intentions of your heart. It’s so much less confusing when you’ve made your peace first.

Have a great week, friends. And if you want to schedule a one-on-one to work things through, give me a holler.

Fool and Hermit: Finding Your Own Way

I’m sitting back and watching the world right now. Or maybe “feeling” is a more apt description than just watching, because all the observation has included a hefty helping of emotional tone baked right in.

Everyone is trying to find their way, setting  some sort of new normal and seeking balance in a world where we just don’t know so much. People don’t strike me as not caring about other people’s concerns. They just have different things they are afraid of. It’s not even the struggle that people can buckle under so much as the prolonged uncertainty. The not-knowing is as much pandemic as the viral pandemic.

Many proudly declare they believe in “science,” but right now, it’s easy enough to find credible-scounding presentations of “science” to support whatever you are already prone to believe. I find it’s important to remember this, when others’ versions of expertise doesn’t match my own flavor. There isn’t a perfectly crafted understanding of all this mess.

In the end, I don’t look to what anyone believes particularly, because that’s not my business. What I will say, though, is make sure you follow your own moral compass here.  Nobody else’s will do.

Next Week in Tarot

The outlook this week is covered by The Fool, with advice from this very lovely rendition of the Hermit from the Good Tarot deck.

We’re in uncharted territory, period. The Fool does not know what will crop up along the journey. I will hasten to add, this fact isn’t necessarily good or bad. It just is. So expect dangers, for sure–but in equal proportion, expect potential rewards and meaningful discoveries. It’s never a one-way street with the Fool. The road to change is always prefaced with disruption and this is no exception.

The Hermit for advice is a bit humorous, given the current state of the world. We’re all Hermitted out!

In this context, though, I’m reading him as advising keeping your own council. Make your own decisions. Live according to your own standards of rightness.

I realize it’s tricky to live according to your own compass when you start to factor in others. What if they don’t behave the way you feel is best?

You could be very upset about it all and try to humiliate them into compliance. You could expound upon what you perceive their motives or shortcomings to be. I don’t think I’ve personally ever been criticized into adopting a different perception, but people still try.

I do think setting an example is a much more powerful persuasion technique than shouting down those that disagree. But then again, you’re free to disagree with me.

As far as the advice I’m getting, it’s pretty easy here. Mind your own morals. Live what you feel is right and be measured and judicious about your interactions with others. The Hermit does not speak out of turn. He will counsel those wise enough to seek his opinion out but for the most part, he keeps to himself, does his own research and runs his own life. For me, that’s enough without trying to figure it out for the rest of the world.

Stay safe out there, friends.

And if you’d like to hook up for a personal consult, give me a holler. I’ll never tell you what to do, but I will do my best to help you tap into your own wisdom.

Queen of Cups Rx & Justice: Don’t Be an Ass

I was talking with a customer service rep a few days ago. He wasn’t able to do what I wanted to be done.

“I’m frustrated with this answer, but I know it’s not your fault,” I told him.

The relief he expressed was palpable, even through a text chat.

I acknowledged his job is a hard one and customer service reps are getting hammered. I expressed appreciation for his efforts, regardless of the outcome. He was doing his best and I knew that.

I don’t know how many people he’d dealt with before me, or how they’d behaved. I don’t know was going on in his personal life or what other worries he was juggling. All I know is I felt a wave of relief and appreciation wash over the me minute it became clear I wasn’t going to dump on him for being the bearer of bad news.

Essentially, I was the recipient of profound appreciation for a kindness as humble as not being an ass.

I’d like to think I can almost always meet the “don’t be an ass” standard of humanity. It’s not an especially high bar, but worthy of consistency nonetheless.

Next week? I’m expecting plenty of the feels. This might get messy. Be kind anyway.

Next week in Tarot

This week, the outlook is the Queen of Cups (coming in reversed/pictured upright) with Justice for advice–here, pictured from The Good Tarot.

Emotions continue to rule the coming week–don’t expect them to retain consistency with any specific version of reality. Don’t expect the emotions to necessarily even agree with one another. The “feels” are not about conforming to expectation or answering to reason. Hello!

Emotion doesn’t have to make sense. It just is, and just being is enough.

Graciously accept whatever emotional wave rolls in–fighting doesn’t help anyway. Besides, even the most challenging emotions always roll back out again. Feel it. Cry your tears or rant your rants or whatever you’ve got to do. Let it flow through and when it subsides, consider a nap. Naps are good medicine.

But in terms of dealing with one’s fellow humans, employ the judiciousness and careful thoughtfulness of Justice. Weigh out responses. Act fairly and impartially. Do what you’ve agreed to do. Don’t try to force others to be you. Be as reasonable as you can manage. It will make things easier, especially as everyone out there is riding their own waves of the feels.

There is valid role for both emotion and reason, It’s not difficult to honor both. The difference isn’t in the which so much as it’s in the when.

Be kind to yourself and one another out there.

If you’d like a personal consult, please reach out. I’ll  work with folks on fees as needed during these weird times we live in. Stay well, friends!

Queen of Pents: Feed Yourself. Seven of Swords: Don’t Dictate Anybody Else’s Menu

What really “feeds” you? Maybe it seems especially relevant to you as it does to me right now, but it always matters.

For me, it’s quiet time. That coffee outside on the front porch, listening to the birds and wind rustling through the trees. And time spent hanging out with my loved ones, be it in person or virtual. The distractions from the daily noise I find in a good movie, a video game or crocheting something also go to “feed” me, refill my energetic cup so to speak.

A step back from conflict and sometimes, the “realities” of the day is consistently what’s most helpful. Thinking about what refills your cup and indulging in that is a very good plan for this coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

For the outlook this week, we have the Queen of Pentacles (Earth here), with advice as the Seven of Swords (Air) from The Good Tarot. Because I’m still looking for a softer, gentler vibe.

I love seeing this Queen for a weekly outlook, because she brings with her a sense of stabilization. I’m not saying all is right with the world next week. It’s gonna be a minute, you know? But next week, looks like we’re getting fed at lest. In one way or another, we’ll be fed.

Maybe we’ll get some encouraging news. Maybe we’ll start to feel some more hopeful in general. Maybe something in our world is stabilizing. Any way you slice it, this queen always brings some kind of meal. So look for it and appreciate whatever bounty is delivered in the days ahead.

Now in this deck, the Seven of Swords is described as suggesting an independent, non-conformist approach. Tarot sevens do point to self-direction in general, regardless of where the crowd is going. When I see this card in the space for advice, I’m generallygoing to suggest an indirect or under-the-radar approach.

Do what YOU feel is right, without trying to convert the world. Just contribute you own little part to the greater whole you believe is best.

Got that? Feed yourself. Don’t worry about what others are choosing to eat. No need to fight over it. Just feed yourself.

If you want a private consult, you know where to find me. Anyone who is having a hard time due the world craziness, please reach out and we’ll arrange a fee you can manage comfortably okay?

Tower & Emperor: Matter of Viewpoint

Some of what I’m seeing lately makes my heart hurt. Not just because people are suffering, although some are and of course, I feel for them. But it’s more the (to me) needless and self-inflicted suffering that leaves an ache.

People see a huge amount of ugliness in the world. I can’t say there’s not some of that, though I don’t choose to dwell. But I can say that in some instances, it strikes me more like dirty glasses than actual ugliness.

Having the “proper” set of beliefs/attitudes/actions is not a reliable litmus test for being a good person, no matter what appears to be obvious to the observer.

You know how many times in my life my beliefs have changed? A lot! My intentions, however, are consistently good. My value and worth as a person did not change back and forth just because my interpretation of how to live best changed.

I am not a good person or not one because of what I think should be done about this or that, which public figure I support or do not approve of, or what my idea of “solution” to any issue looks like. It’s not so black and white. Good people can have very different viewpoints. That diversity is our collective strength, not a weakness.

We might admonish one another or ourselves to “walk a mile in someone else’s shoes.” Usually this comes up as a suggestion when we feel misunderstood. That’s all fine and well, but we cannot spend even a minute living in someone else’s brain.  I’m doing good to keep up with just my own. At best, we can weakly imagine what someone else’s experience may be like based on our own past experiences. It’s just not a very precise art, so I’m completely unwilling to damn someone else over my inability to understand where they are coming from.

The truth lives in the heart, not in the path taken to express that that truth. You cannot see what’s in your neighbor’s heart, although you can sometimes feel some of it out, if you are open to it. But really, understanding what is there it’s not so important as you may think it is. From the folks I’ve met, most want to do good, even if they have no idea how to go about it.

Next week’s cards addresses the general chaos that’s about and suggests a reliable path forward.

Next Week in Tarot

I have been sticking with The Good Tarot right now, hoping for some sunshine. But even a softly colored rendition of The Tower is still the freakin’ tower man. That’s the outlook. Advice is likewise unequivocal in the form of the Emperor.

Why does the Tower not surprise me now? Pluto is stationing retrograde. The world is in quite a bit of chaos, and those areas of our lives that were not especially shored up, maybe a little iffy, now stand before us, glaring and obvious as proof of what’s not working. “Disruption” is a sterile-sounding but still accurate description for what most people are feeling right now. The Tower is loud and clear.

But for advice, we have the Emperor. Little thing I’ve noticed about the Emperor–most people tend to focus on him being in charge, a leader. That’s true but it is not what comes first. Outer control isn’t sustainable. Inner control is. The Emperor is always first and foremost in charge of himself. If he loses control of himself, he’s of no good to any kingdom that may be looking to him for guidance. By keeping his own focus and resolve, however, he becomes an inspiration and example to others. But he’s not likely seeking out that ends.

Instead, he’s doing his best to live true to his own heart and values. He uses whatever authority he has judiciously, in support of the greater good. If he were not to walk the talk himself, he’d be utterly ineffective.

This coming week, understand there is (still) much disruption and chaos. That is not something any individual one of us can fix. We do, however, control what energy we bring to the table. We can (and would be well-advised to) run our own lives the way that makes the most sense to us. Bring as much kindness, caring and love to the table as you’ve got.

Instead of trying to convince the rest of the world to act out my version of a good person, I’m going to be doing my damnedest to embody that goodness myself. Will I single-handedly change the world in this way? Of course not. But I didn’t single-handedly generate the world we have now, either. Instead, I’ll be doing my part.

Way I see it, I can be part of the the hurt or part of the healing. I can be part of the waves of disgust or part of the equally powerful waves of appreciation. I can focus on what I don’t approve of or I can focus on what my heart tells me is kind and loving and true.

I know where I want to settle in. What about you?

Stay well and safe out there, friends!

If you’d like a personal consult, reach out. I’ll work with you on fees if needed.

Page of Wands: Yelling it Like (You Believe) it is

Something’s been eating at me the last couple of days. I couldn’t quite put it into words until I read this story my friend, Josi, wrote on letting the heart speak.

There was something more important than being right in that moment. Being kind. Being honest. And, sharing how I really felt.” – Josi

The focus on being more “right,” better informed, and frankly, far more morally justified than one’s neighbor is strong right about now.

Personally, I don’t think I’ve ever been lectured into becoming a better human being. But it doesn’t mean people ain’t gonna try. Just look at these cards for next week…

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook this week, we have the Page of Wands (Fire), with advice being the Queen of Pentacles (Earth) reversed. These cards are from The Good Tarot deck.

People are speaking passionately–often, that reads as angrily. Fear is a great activator for anger and the fear is thick right now.

Messages coming from the Page of Wands may be brash or blurted, but are seldom moderated. Dump a lack of tact into a mix of uncertainty and you’ve got explosive potential. Expect next week to be full of people telling one another what’s-what in no uncertain terms. Expect those others being told to push back.

Furthermore, understand both sides of these arguments near-universally believe they are holding the moral high ground while smacking one another back and forth.

Advice for the week–the reversed Queen of Pents–would suggest not to be the one to light the fuse on any firecrackers or “truth bombs” or whatever you want to call it. Step back. Take no action. Do not feed your own voice into the noise when you’re feeling all wound up and self-righteous because I can guarantee you, it almost certainly will do no good.

Now, I’m not even suggesting many of the folks a-yellin’ aren’t objectively “right.” Or maybe your clever comebacks are more “right.” Or somebody is partially right and the others are or are not or what the Hell ever. I don’t know and in utter frankness, I don’t care.

The bigger picture, the higher truth, isn’t a specific set of facts. The higher calling is giving a damn about both yourself and your fellow human beings.

The higher calling is kindness. The higher calling is compassion.

The higher calling is LOVE.

Of course, we aren’t going to feel loving full on 24/7/365, especially in the midst of stress and uncertainty. And that’s fine. But neither will anybody else. You need to give not only each other but also yourself plenty of space and understanding in this regard.

My advice is pretty simple. as usual: If you want to share your perspective or make your case, great! Just make sure you do so ONLY when you’ve reached a point you can speak from a loving place. There is a whole lot better chance your words will hit the mark to be heard if you tune in your heart before you let your mouth take over. And yes, I’ll say it: this is never bad advice. It’s just extra timely right now.

Don’t forget what matters. And stay safe out there, friends!

~Dix

p.s. Give me a holler for a personal consult if you think it would help. I’m more than willing to work with you on fees if that’s an issue right now. We’ve gotta look out for one another.