Real Healers? Sort Of.

“You’re a healer,” the reader says decidedly, looking down at the worn deck of playing cards spread out on the cloth before her.

“Yes,” I nod.

“A very good one…” she adds, looking surprised.

“Thank you,” I said.  I wasn’t sure what else to say about that.

I don’t introduce myself as a healer, but it’s not uncommon for readers to describe me as such, just as this reader at a recent psychic fair. I do understand what she’s talking about. But the designation of “Healer-with-a-capital-H” is harder for me. It’s not a way I usually think of myself.

I usually just think about it as “having good energy.” I can comfortably own that. I’m very good at encouraging people who are open to and seeking encouragement.

Maybe that’s what healing actually is. Encouragement.

Healer is a funny term, the way it’s most commonly used. It implies one person–the “healer”–somehow works some sort of magic on another person–the “patient,” I guess, or the wounded one–to afford an improvement. The patient is in need of help, and the healer gives that help. There is a suggestion the healer is strong and well, and the to-be-healed is not. The healer is supposed to fix the wounded one. Except that’s not how I see it at all.

I cannot fix anybody! I don’t try to fix anybody. I don’t even try to fix myself, for God’s sakes.

There’s a very simple reason for this. I don’t see anyone as broken. 

I do understand people hurt. They struggle  They may be in physical or emotional pain. They want changes. They want to feel better. I can often help facilitate that, but I always understand implicitly, I’m only a helper here. Like an amplifier, I can turn up the natural signal of their well-being by clear focus.

What I do–getting grounded and centered, plugging in for divine inspiration and insight and translating what I receive–is a process available to literally everyone on the planet. EVERYONE. No exceptions.

You don’t have to be some kind of glow-in-the-dark-holy-special-gifted-with-the-sight-at-birth-psychic-healer to do this. It’s easier when you’re calm, and harder when you’re upset.  It’s helpful to have your own energy focused as a matter of practice and to be clear about your intention. Your beliefs and attitudes will influence what processes you may choose to do this There infinite ways to approach it and some habits definitely make it easier. But it’s not a special gift given unto a select few. And you already do it, probably a whole lot more than you realize.

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Those times when you know just what to do or to say, when the perfect words are inspired to you? Those times when you lean into self-care, or comfort a friend or make a comment or come to a realization about how to approach a topic? You are tuning in. That’s all that it is. That is “healing” energy in a nutshell. It’s being connected and inspired.

I have some skill at execution for sure, probably due to years of study and practice. I prioritize my connection because, with that connection, everything else works better. It’s more important to me to maintain my connection than it is to please anyone else. That all helps tremendously, but it’s not something only I can do. I’ve made a practice of it, but you can, too. Literally, any person on the planet can choose to do this for themselves.

When I’m working with someone one-on-one, I’m not reaching for a way to mend them. I don’t mend what I don’t see as broken. Do I hope to help them improve their experiences? Of course!  There is certainly more and less comfortable. There’s happiness and pain. There’s easy and hard. I know which ones I prefer, as do the people I work with. But there is not broken and whole, at least to me.

When I work with someone, I’m reaching for insights: information, tidbits or advice that will be of practical use. I’m looking to serve as an amplifier for an individual’s strengths and abilities. I’m asking for perspective and wisdom to shine light upon what someone already knows within their own heart. In my world, healers are not those gifted in furrowing out dysfunction and magically correcting it. I guess I think of “healers” as those particularly skilled at tuning in to an individual’s goodness and helping to amplify that by recognizing and reflecting it.

Healers don’t heal people. People heal themselves. It’s up to the individuals involved, however, how they attribute the outcomes.

Personally, I consider it an incredible honor to be able to participate at all. I feel good about my role in it, but I’m certainly not going to take credit for it. The credit always goes to the individual who is doing the real heavy lifting by adjusting their own vibration.

So in the sense I hold steady in my own connection (which allows me to help influence those looking for to shift their own energy), I guess I’m a “healer.” Or maybe it would be more accurate to say, I’m a helper. I’m a professional encourager. And yeah, I do think I’m good at it.

Whatever you call it, it’s an incredibly rewarding line of work.

What do you think being a healer is all about?

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8 Ways to Spot a Psychic Fraud

One thing that blows me up like a Supernova–and makes honest readers across the universe cringe–is the scam artist, the bullshit Tarot Reader (or psychic, or astrologer, or whatever). Because so much of what we do isn’t easy to quantify, because people seek readings in times of stress or uncertainty, the fields draw plenty of neer-do-wells looking to cash in on somebody else’s pain. That is some ugly karma, right there.

So to everyone who consults readers, psychics and other spiritual advisers, please know the signs of being taken for a ride so you can hop off!

Do not trust a reader who…

  • Promises  100%, TOTAL ACCURACY/ PERFECT TIMELINES!!! Readers are HUMAN beings, period. Nobody is perfect. You and everyone else you know has FREE WILL. The future is always in motion and we each have options about how we live it. That’s the point of consulting spirit, you know?
  • Tells you how glow-in-the-dark-HOLY-SPECIAL-GIFTED YOU ARE!!! Flattery gives  a buzz, and I’m sure you’re totally awesome and super-spiritual, really! Your aura may shine into the next state for all I know. But too much is too much. It’s sort of like the smarmy guy in the bar. You know he says, “You have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen!” to all the chicks, but you kind of want to believe he really means it this time…He doesn’t.
  • Tells you what a WONDERFUL/INSTANT/FATED CONNECTION they feel with you!!! This is a variation of the glow-in-the-dark-holy-special ruse.
  • Has “VERY IMPORTANT/TIME-SENSITIVE NEWS” just for YOU!!! Doesn’t matter about what. Whether it’s lotto numbers or impending doom dangled as bait, the objective is getting the hook into you!
  • Diagnoses a CURSE, BAD KARMA/A DEMON/MALEFIC ENTITIES/HOLES IN YOUR AURA/BLOCKED CHAKRAS/GENERIC METAPHYSICAL ILL…that the reader happens to specialize in clearing!!! (For a hefty fee.) Just to be clear: I actually BELIEVE in magic, spirits, charkas, the whole shebang. And people can, indeed, have problems as a result of energetic imbalances. But if you’ve purchased a reading, you’ve ALREADY paid for assistance. This reader isn’t a professional selling spiritual services; this is a con artist selling fear. Run!
  • Aggressively PURSUES YOU FOR MORE READINGS!!! I’m not talking about signing up to an email list to get notice of reading specials. I’m talking about getting hounded with requests for setting up appointments. Ethical readers look to empower YOU to direct your own life more succesfully. Con artists look to foster dependency.
  • Tells you to KEEP YOUR READING SECRET!!! Your reading belongs to YOU. Whom and what you share from your reading is your business. If you’re being told not to share, there is a reason and the reason isn’t going to be about protecting your interests.
  • Says they are the ONLY ONE WHO CAN HELP!!! Spiritual gifts are by grace. We ALL have psychic and intuitive potential. Good readers develop skills through study and hard work, and deserve to earn from their services if they choose. But by no means does ANY reader possess something no one else can access. Anyone who claims otherwise is either very confused or very dishonest–neither especially desirable traits in a spiritual counselor.

Sometimes people confuse a reader’s ability to get hits–accurate information–as proof the reader is “genuine.” Unfortunately, that’s not going to protect you. Some frauds are masters of cold reading, making it seem like they know all about you when they don’t, while others may actually be able to access psychic information–anyone can learn–but use that information unethically. Free will is always a factor. Not everyone is getting their info directly from your guardian angels and guides, man.

The very best way to protect yourself from psychic frauds (and a whole lot more) is really very simple: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own life. Trust your inner voice and walk away as soon as you feel uncomfortable! Never, ever, ever give away your power–to someone calling themselves a psychic, a minister, a medium, a friend, a spouse or your mother. Never, ever, ever rely on someone else to make your decisions, live your life, or call the shots for you. That’s your job. Readers can be a huge help for those seeking clarity, insight, perspective and assistance in making informed choices. But a reader who is willing to make your decisions is not a reader who has your best interests at heart.

Be smart. Even if you’re given solid insight from a reader, always look for your own confirmation, always do a gut-check, and never accept as truth anything that doesn’t ring true for you. Keep your power intact and readings can be a powerful tool!

Do you have any to add?


About the Author: Dixie Vogel is a Tarot Reader and Spiritual Counselor who focuses on empowering her clients to regain control of their own lives. This article, 8 Ways to Spot a Psychic Fraud, was originally published on Dixie’s website, A Fool’s Journey.


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Hit-and-Run Doomsday Psychic Readers

I recently wrote on negative predictions in readings, from the angle that folks sometimes zero in on less-than-glowing bits in an otherwise optimistic reading. One of the comments I got on that piece was heartbreaking–and I think deserves a followup.

First of all Julie, I’m SO sorry this happened! I’d argue with the “reputable” label, though I realize it’s based on how the reader is perceived as opposed to who they really are. But even then, I just cannot bring myself to repeat the word without a rebuttal. Ugh!

I obviously don’t know your specific situation, but wanted to take this opportunity to comment on  those readers who don’t fit the m.o. of a run-of-the-mill psychic fraud scam artist but still do a huge amount of damage, what I call “Doomsday Psychic Readers.” Such a reader’s reputation may not reflect the self-aggrandizing insensitivity with which they toss out horrific and disturbing predictions. So many traumatized by this sort of reading do not talk about it, so the fear-mongering style, what essentially amounts to emotional violence, can often remain under the radar.

Consumers may not be able to completely avoid these types, but it can help to be informed. I’m hoping these thoughts may help someone avoid some unnecessary pain…

Signs of a Quality Reader

  • A psychic, Tarot reader, astrologer or any other metaphysical professional IS NOT GOD! We are just as human as you, regardless of what tools we  use. That means we do not know everything and even if we do “get” something, we can still be wrong. Responsible readers are upfront about their own human fallibility.
  • A good reading will leave you feeling empowered! If the reader tosses out a lot of dire predictions–especially without offering support and coping skills for constructively addressing your situation–it’s a strong sign of someone who is selling fear, not truth. Whether the point is to hook you into more readings or simply flame up an over-sized ego at your expense, the outcome is much the same and not pretty.
  • Responsible readers can articulate an ethical code for their work. The specifics will vary, but this is an area that every professional reader should have given serious attention.
  • Responsible readers answer questions you actually ask. A given reader may or may not volunteer some stray information that comes through in the course of a session, but if you’re getting horrific revelations without asking about a given topic, that’s a huge red flag.
  • Attitude is instructive: responsible readers do not savor delivering dire news. Quality readers look to HELP and support their clients, not appear important. We may sometimes have to deliver tough readings, but a good reader won’t be matter-of-fact about your pain.
  • High-quality spiritual communication always comes from a place of love. While everybody has some form of intuition and a person does not have to be “spiritual” to access it, the best readers are going to be “plugged in” spiritually. Ideally, a reader will work on personal spiritual development before undertaking a career involved in guiding others spiritually. You want readers who are generally kind and loving. (In my observation, these folks tend to have the most advanced skills, as well as being the least likely to deliver irresponsible emotional smacks to clients.)

You cannot always avoid a Doomsday Psychic Reader, but you CAN honor your own path by making sure that anyone you choose to listen to is actually helping you! If a reading is simply upsetting and not constructive, if a reading drums up fear and dread but not a sense of direction for improving your life, you can bet the reader is NOT serving your higher good. You do not have to accept what such a person has to say.

Protect yourself by guarding your own mind and heart. Be a vigilant gatekeeper and only let love inside. That will protect you from far more than Doomsday Psychic Readers.

Have you had good luck with readers? Do you have anything to add to this list? 

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Negative Predictions in Readings

This is a psychic readers’ rant: I can say 200 helpful, positive and optimistic things in a reading. But if I have ONE iffy, even remotely negative thing to say, guess which one reverberates loudest? Guess which one people unfailingly zero in on, over and over again?

I am SO not doing this gig to trump up y’all’s anxiety, man. But I also give you exactly what I get. That’s the deal I made with my invisible friends who help me.

“Give me what I’m supposed to share, give me what’s in the highest and best good for this person to know at this juncture.”

Usually they will give me what I ask or related, sometimes something else if it’s especially important. Sometimes, that’s exactly what you want to hear but other times, it’s not.

Now, it is completely and utterly more pleasant to be able to tell you what you want to hear. And most of the time, I know exactly what that is. (Side effect of being psychic.)  But I don’t hold out on y’all because I don’t want to deliver bad news!  I don’t pick and choose what I give you, or spin it down three notches to take the punch out of it. I don’t want to be in the position of making those calls myself, with my everyday Muggle version of wisdom and sunshine-and-roses biases.

Every life has ups and downs. Some lives have a lot more of one or the other. Regardless of what cycle you’re in, if you call upon me to be the messenger, I’ll do my best to deliver the message with integrity.

I’m not a sugar-coating reader. I’m an OPTIMISTIC reader sure, but there is a big difference. If I’m feeling heavy, difficult and hard-to-navigate vibes, that’s exactly what I convey (along with genuine sorrow over the fact).  The validation of hearing the truth is a lot more powerful than any phoney-baloney “It’s all grand starting tomorrow, ain’t it?” BS when it doesn’t ring true.

I do find profound  reason for optimism in life, and in the amazing human spirit! Y’all inspire me and educate me and lift me up with your strength, perseverance and ingenuity, even under difficult circumstance. But sometimes, you all can also drive me crazy. Har! That happens when people hear only one side of the story. It can be just the positive bits, but far more often, it’s what’s perceived as negative. Big picture, it may not actually be negative but either way, the outcome is the same.

Thing is, besides truth, I also look for the exit doors. I actively seek out ways to short-circuit strife, make painful periods easier, quicker  and more constructive for you. There is no reason to suffer without cause! Surgery can hurt but it should ultimately become healing, you know? Healing! That’s what I’m looking to help with.

So don’t come to me if  you “don’t want to hear anything bad.” Also, don’t come to me if you are only ready to hear the bad! Please take what I have to say with exactly the weight I give it, and more importantly compare it to what your intuition tells you. I am good at what I do for sure, but human as the next pink-haired psychic chick. 

Just don’t pile on a ton of fears on top, decide I’m “being nice” and turn it into doomsday. Fears are not the same as intuition. Fears block intuition. Fears create cages; intuition creates doors.

I am here to serve. Take advantage of what I’m trying to provide: tools for living better, truer, and more in tune with your own spirit. Compare what I offer to what your inner voice has been telling you, and you’ll have a powerful means of moving forward in your life.

Do you tend to get worked up over specific predictions in readings?

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Why can’t you tell me what I want to know?

Sometimes, you have a burning question and I WANT to answer it, but cannot. Why?

Short answer: A combination of intent for the reading and the cooperation of the reader’s “people” (or yours) may keep certain information from coming through in a session. What we want to know isn’t always in perfect alignment with our current life lessons and trek.

Do you find this to be the case?

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What if that Tarot Reading makes your client Mad?!?

Got an awesome question from one of my Tarot peeps, so I made a video on it. Sorry it took me a while to get this posted!

Short answer: Apologize, show compassion, try to address the underlying concerns in the reading, acknowledge the role of free will and your own fallibility. And detach!

How do you handle this issue?

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