Queen of Wands Reversed: Impulse Control

The last few years, I’ve aimed to make it more of a practice to mind my own energy.  So if somebody is behaving in a way I don’t like, I try to step back as soon as I notice myself reacting.

Bottom line, I have no rights to what goes on with somebody else, regardless of any relationship we might have. It doesn’t matter what that person is thinking: about me, about the world, about anything. It’s not my business. I may certainly care, but it’s not mine to own.

I don’t know why people do what they do sometimes.  I don’t always get it. And sometimes, I don’t even want to.

Does it always work? Hell no. I ain’t claiming to be Jesus here. But it’s a practice, you know? It’s a process, not event.

Following this practice will probably make next week easier.

Next Week in Tarot

The outlook next week is the Queen of Wands reversed, with advice coming through as the Two of Swords–pictured here from the Radiant Rider Waite mini deck.

This says “frustrated desires” to me. Maybe you feel disrespected or undervalued. I would expect to see dynamics like a battle of wills, attempts to force issues or people feeling generally inhibited from doing what they very much want to do.

When you feel hemmed in, tied down, or somehow thwarted, that’s your cue to take a step back. Don’t act while in the throes of frustration. It won’t end well.

Instead, calm your emotions. Get settled down and settled in, fully in the here and now. Once you feel clear, you can logically weigh it all out and you’ll be able to find the most comfortable course. The cards as suggesting a deliberate and thought-through approach, not impulsive reactions.

The question, “What do I hope to accomplish?” may come in handy here. Or maybe, “What really matters?” Because if you’re acting on impulse right now, there’s a good chance you’re going to be missing the point.

So breathe. Take a step back. Don’t take anything personally (and don’t volunteer to handle anybody else’s baggage, either).

It’s your job to figure out what’s what for you and you alone. Everybody else gets to carry their own weight on that one. While we may sometimes want to step in an “help” because it seems like folks are making a mess of it? Yeah, I get it. But it usually doesn’t work out well and absolutely, next week is not the time to try.

Be the feather – let go and wait until you’ve floated down to earth. Relax, let go and allow your thoughts to clear. Do this and everything goes a lot smoother. Go out there and have a good week!


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Devil Reversed: Releasing the Tether

Recently, I heard myself telling one of my Tarot peeps to imagine positive potential outcomes as well as the negative ones. Give optimistic expectations as much airtime as the pessimism demands. At least acknowledge the possibility things could go RIGHT as well as wrong.

In practice, life always provides some of both: what we want and what we don’t. But if we focus near-exclusively on what we don’t want, visions of it dominate our perspective and keeps us tethered to a very uncomfortable spot. It feels like being stuck.

Next week, there is a way to cut the tether.

Next Week in Tarot

The forecast is the Devil reversed. Advice is the Nine of Swords plus the reversed Queen of Cups. Because as advice, the Nine of Swords needed a little clarification. All from the mini Radiant Rider Waite deck.

Expect a somewhat chaotic week – you might not know which end is up! (Yeah, we see you Mercury Retrograde.)

Good news here? The reversed Devil generally presents a potential for escape. In case you’ve got a case of deja vu here, remember this is still on from last week.

Here, the escape happens through acknowledging current feelings: good, bad and ugly. Ultimately, you’re looking to make the thoughts that spawn the feelings of  a given moment more conscious. If it’s a conscious thought, you have choices which way to lean it.

An awareness helps establish emotional distance from beliefs that are doing little more than making life harder. Feelings of not-enoughness visit almost everyone., But these unpleasant emotions can operate like emotional sludge, heavy, weighing us down. They’re like a tether to the ground, inhibiting flight.

In any ways that you may feel stuck this week, question your assumptions. Where are they coming from? Are they accurate, or do they have to be? Would you use the same narratives regarding someone you love as you are using for yourself? (‘Cause being loving to yourself is a good idea, always.)

There’s a very good possibility that establishing some emotional distance from ugly self-narratives will over you an exit ramp in the form of a more self-supportive perspective. Take it!

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Hierophant & Knight of Pentacles: Working Out

I had thought I was going to slide under the radar during the recent eclipse cycle. I’d hoped Mercury retrograde wouldn’t notice me. I’d just keep my head down and my mouth shut and I’d slip through it without issue.

Silly me!

Eclipse day, I had a hard drive failure.

Actually, failure isn’t the right word. “Capital-D Die” would be a more accurate description. Since it was not on my main computer, I was still able to function. So that helped.

But the dead hard drive that held about a thousand recipes, pictures and posts I use for my low carb Facebook page. So yes, still kind of a big deal.

There were backups, of course…all on the same hard drive. Because la-la-life-is-wonderful-Dixie somehow hadn’t thought about backing up on a different drive. Even though the computer was old and had shown signs of impending doom, my unfailing optimism was able to just erase the symptoms from my conscious awareness. Neat trick, huh?

Funny thing, though. It took me approximate 3 seconds to realize, this event was decidedly not a catastrophe.

My content had grown stale. But it was THERE, so it was easy enough to just let it ride, you know? I’d considered switching tools, but put it off because of the need to re-do everything. My system was working. I realized it needed some fresh life, but it wasn’t a priority so it didn’t end up getting any love because it wasn’t a fire.

This event forced me to look at the work I’m doing with fresh eyes–and bring fresh energy to it.

I surrendered to the reality almost immediately, because what choice do you have? And in doing so, I saw how the situation was in the big picture, a boon.

I didn’t need to wish away the circumstance. I needed adjust my thinking, which can be done very quickly and easily if you’re open to doing so.

Next week? Do that.

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook this week, we have the Hierophant and the advice is the Messenger of Earth (aka Knight of Pentacles) from the visually evocative deck, The Good Tarot.

Everything will come together as needed–the Hierophant is unfailingly competent. When this spiritual leader shows up, calling upon your faith or actively practicing spirituality to maintain equilibrium is never a bad play.

That knight showing up as advice veritably screamed Mercury Retrograde (the time when communications and electronics tend to go a little haywire). We are still in the midst, in case you were wondering.

So check your facts and then go back and check them again. Stay organized. Be conscientious. Measured, practical, consistent steps yield the best outcome here.

Keep your head about you and don’t freak out no matter what. Make “It’s all working out for me” your mantra, and so it will be.

It’s all working out. Really. Are you feeling it?

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Ten of Wands Rx: Going Zen

Back in prehistoric times when I was in college, what turned out to be my toughest class came as a surprise. It wasn’t biology or statistics or algebra, some of the classes I though might challenge me. It wasn’t even the graduate psych seminar I finagled my way into as an undergrad.

None of the other classes compared to an intro to Eastern Civ class at the community college.

The professor wasn’t just insanely knowledgeable. He was extremely demanding. He expected us to develop a level of expertise on the subject far beyond what I would have imagined, even for a much more advanced class.

It was a small group of maybe 25. The tests were very difficult and frequent.A few dropped out after the first test. I wasn’t entirely sure if I would be able to pass, which is saying something for me. But I hung in there.

Those of us who stayed soon began recording his lectures, so that we could listen several times before the next class because that’s really what it took. By the end of the semester, there was a little tape recorder on every desk.

He joked that he felt like he was giving a press conference.

I think I studied more for that final than any other I’ve ever taken. When I got to the room, one of my classmates was holding up a sign she’d made. It read, “We Overcame!”

The professor said the sign was a bit dramatic, but it was obvious he took at as a compliment.

When we were all settled in and ready to go, he sported an impish grin and said he was going to play the devil today and offer us some temptation.

The final was to be the majority of our overall grade. But we could opt out of it.

He made his way around the room with a yellow legal pad, privately showing each of us a letter grade.  “If you want to skip the final, this is the grade I’ll give you…”

When it was my turn, he looked at me and considered for a couple of seconds. Then he scratched out a “B” on the pad.

I about fell out of my chair. I wasn’t sure how I was doing to be honest, so a B was better than I expected.

I didn’t take the offer. though. Nobody did. We had done some insane studying for that final and we were going to take the damn thing!

Leaving the room after taking a final was always one of my favorite moments of every class. At that point, I’d done everything I could do and it was time to let it go. Leaving that room was especially sweet.

I got an A in the class, incidentally. I think I was more proud of that A than any other. I don’t know for sure if my final answers were that great or the professor gave us “extra credit” for skipping the temptation.  I suspect he was more interested in our working to learn than in our answers to the final. But the spectre of the final was the vehicle for motivation.

Next week, I’m expecting it to feel a lot like walking outside the door after taking a tough final. It’s time to just let go and focus on doing the best you can with whatever you’ve got to work with—specifically, working on your own business.

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook, we’ve got the Ten of Wands reversed, with advice showing up as the Eight of Pentacles from the lovely Star Tarot Deck.

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It’s time to let go. If it’s not ours to worry about (or even if it is), it’s just time to release the sense of burden and responsibility for all that happens. Instead, our job is to just do the best we can with what we’ve got to work with.

We’re looking to improve, not solve. We’re looking to our own jobs, not anyone else’s jobs. Salvation isn’t coming in the form of the big picture here. Instead, we progress by working with the now, the details, giving full attention to the immediate, in-the-present-moment doing our best. Everything else sorts itself.

Just work your way through what is right in front of you and let the rest of the world (your world or the bigger world, doesn’t matter) sort itself. I’m not saying don’t care. You just express your cares here by how you live your own self. Yuo know? Your life is, in itself, the art you’re making.

If you want some help sorting it out, give me a holler and we’ll see about a one-on-one.

Page of Cups: Turning Down the Judgey

I have resolved to be less judgemental.

Not that I think of myself as particularly judgemental. I am not.  If I were shooting for a below-the-mean-rate of judgmentalness, I’ve have it sewn up already.

But when I recently found myself feeling super judgey at folks whom I perceived to be super judgey, the irony wasn’t lost on me. Being judgey at anybody for their judgmentalness makes me one of the judgey! Once you’ve seen this…well, it can’t very well be unseen.

I’d say the results of this personal campaign are mixed.

Most of the time, it’s not too hard. Every person on the planet has their own bag of weirdness, issues and what-have-you. It’s not a big struggle to guess that almost all of them are doing the best they can with whatever neurons are firing off in their heads.

Even those that don’t appear to be doing the best they can, who is to say? Righteousness is subjective and the level of individual certainty on the matter is irrelevant. I don’t trust someone to be right just because they are sure. I look inside for that.

So much of life now seems to be comprised of people lining up to declare what they are for and against, or perhaps it’s “who” instead of “what.” Nobody needs my vote here.

Of course I have my own standards of right and wrong. Maintaining my own standards are my job and one in which I do my best to excel. Nonetheless, other people’s standards are theirs to maintain…and ne’er the twain shall meet.

I initially started this practice because I don’t like feeling judged; I realized if I don’t want it done to me, I also need to avoid doing it to others. It’s the same thing, no matter what side of the table you are sitting on. But I realized as I’ve been working on this a while, it’s also given me a greater sense of freedom. I don’t have to be outraged or convince anyone of anything. I choose to just be the best “me” I can me. That is my contribution to the whole.

If I assume the best and ignore what I consider worst, I am happier. I have less outrage to manage and I can focus on the energy that is most pleasant and important to me. For me, that’s a win. For you? It’s up to you to decide! But I will say, next week looks like this approach would be well-advised.

Next Week in Tarot

The outlook this week in Understanding reversed (Page of Cups), with Projections (Seven of Cups) as advice from the Osho Zen Tarot.

We may hear things people say, but we don’t necessarily get how they’re feeling. Perceived meaning has a lot more to do with us than with them. This is both a personal and collective phenomena.

So understand, assumptions are what we’ve got to work with. Just realize any given assumption says more about the assumer than anything else. So why not choose the assumption that works best for you?

If a call doesn’t come or an email is not returned, why not just assume it isn’t personal? Why not say, “Oh, things must have gotten busy?” over, “Oh, this person doesn’t care about me?”

If I don’t agree with someone…I can listen to see where they’re coming from. I can ignore it and turn my attention elsewhere. I can note the difference and just move on. I’m not required to beat them over the head with my own perspective. Knowing this sure makes it a lot easier to interact with other humans.

I haven’t completely escaped the tendency to be judgemental or those flashes where I assume the worst about someone else or their intentions, towards me or not. But I’m making progress. And that’s all I expect from myself.

Do you usually try to assume the best of others?

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Nine of Cups: Self-Validating Unicorns

I’ve been noticing with special clarity lately how vastly dependent “good” and “bad” is on perspective.

It’s always been there. What’s fat or skinny, what’s rich or poor? And yes, even what’s good or bad–it’s all completely subjective. I’ve done enough weight loss support and talked to enough Tarot clients to say this without hesitation!

What’s more, these designations will alter not based upon the circumstance, but ALWAYS based on the in-the-moment perspective of the individual.

The job that seemed utterly perfect at one point may be considered the worst ever at another point (or even another point in the same week).  Same for the relationship or the house or the car or whatever it is you’re concerned with at any given moment. People I consider thin may worry about their weight. People who seem rich to me can be upset about money. It’s an internal state, NOT an external one.

And however you feel is however you feel and there is no rightness or wrongness about that. It just is.

And it makes sense to make peace with wherever you are at, because what choice do you have? It’s current. It’s where you are at. Feeling crummy about it doesn’t change it. It just makes it harder to change it.

That’s not equivalent to resignation, by the way. It’s actually what unsticks you, not anchors.

Being at peace with where you are gives you a choice where you go with it. You can lean into whatever feels a little better, a little more satisfying, from wherever you’re at. That can be steered with just a little effort, caring about feeling better over other considerations. Choosing the thoughts you follow based on what soothes.

Or you can lean into worry and tension and upset. It’s always up to you, which way you lean from where you’re at.

And I’m not going to tell you one is right and one is wrong, because I don’t see the world that way. But I will tell you, one feels better. That’s the one I like to pick.

And that’s the topic of the Tarot forecast for next week.

Next Week in the Cards

This week, for outlook we have the Nine of Cups (Water) with advice coming in as the Seven of Wands (Fire) from The Good Tarot.

Now, the Nine of Cups is definitely a card of satisfaction–a wish being fulfilled. (Were you wishing for Mercury to go direct? Granted!) So I would expect to have some relief in the coming week if you’ve been struggling. And if not, still expect there to be icing on your cake, okay? This looks good to me.

Interesting in terms of advice, though…that Seven of Wands. To keep the “satisfaction vibe” active, you may have to reject or ward off the opinions of others. This is easier to do than you may appear at first glance, but it definitely takes practice.

What someone else thinks of you? Doesn’t matter. Whether or not anybody else agrees on what’s best? Doesn’t matter. Who approves of what or how many people sign on to your vision? NONE of this matters, not even one tiny little bit.

Insecurity fuels seeking outside validation. That’s a short-lived reassurance because it can and does change based on where someone else is at, at any given moment. The only lasting form of security comes from within. There is no other route.

You be your fancy, unique Unicorn self and *%#% the rest of anything else, okay?

Take care out there!

And if you want a one-on-one check to clear your head here, give me a holler.