King of Pentacles Reversed: Help that is Helpful

“Believing in someone is a much greater gift than protecting them. ” I was handing out this (unsolicited) advice to a friend recently, and I felt the punch of it even as I said the words.

I had to laugh later when I realized: this is advice I could well stand to heed myself. That’s why I felt the extra punch.

Parenting helped me some in this regard, but it sure didn’t eradicate the drive to fix or rescue. No matter whose knot it is, I want to untangle it. The urge is compelling, not subtle. And the urge says a lot more about me than the specific person or predicament I’m looking at.

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Of course, there is nothing wrong with being part of another’s solution. That’s a very humbling and rewarding role. I get the honor of this often when I read Tarot. But that doesn’t mean I’m the ultimate origin of the solution. Anything but!

It may seem like a subtle distinction, but in reality, it’s huge: if I’m solid, tuned in and steady, I remain receptive to the ongoing flow of intuitive inspiration. So in those interactions, I can easily find the just right words to deliver at just the right time. I know exactly what to do and exactly when to do it.

My faith in what I know about the Universe and the power I know everyone has can help override their worries. I’m not infected by their distress. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s really the opposite: I see them in their power and I know in a very strong way, they are equipped to create their own lives, whether or not they’re plugged into that fact.

Really, feelings of love, caring and faith are my cues I’m actually being helpful. When I feel scared or upset for someone–and see myself somehow as the path to their salvation or worry that I don’t know how to save them–that’s evidence I’m currently off-center and have little to offer beyond amplifying what they are already feeling.

Thanks, Tarot, for another timely reminder in the form of next week’s forecast.

Next Week in Tarot

This week, our forecast shows up in the guise of the King of Pentacles reversed with advice from the Eight of Wands reversed (Mini Radiant Rider-Waite in a Tin). While these aren’t particularly harsh Tarot cards, seeing them both reversed adds an element of tension.

For a little more clarification,  I grabbed my Botanical Inspirations deck and we got Amaryllis: Determination and Creative Achievement. It’s speaking to the outcome of following this advice.

I suspect we’ll generally have what we need to manage this coming week, but may not feel very sure of that fact. We may reach out to others, especially for practical or physical assistance. There’s also a potential for over-extending personal resources in an effort to rescue or otherwise provide for others you may not see as capable of taking care of themselves.

So questioning either your own ability to manage or someone else’s may be part of the mix. In either case, you want to make sure any action taken is done so from the right place. If you find yourself saying something like, “If I don’t do this, who will?” that’s your cue, you’re buying into a mirage. Same goes for thinking, “There’s no way I can manage this.” Both are illusion.

The advice here is to the point: don’t see anything as “an iffy situation.” It’s not. See it as workable. See any problem or crisis as serving a purpose, a turning point or improvement opportunity.  See whatever situations that crop up as necessary, even helpful to strengthing and clarifying the greater picture. See it all as a means of leveling up.

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” –Maya Angelou

True creativity is inspired. That’s why you cannot use it up. Your job isn’t to produce it from thin air, either for yourself or someone else. Your job is to tune in and allow the flow. This also sets the stage for other people hooking up to it as your connection helps influence them at the same time.

I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t provide support. Done right, that’s a beautiful experience for all involved! But when you do it from a position of strength in compensation for another’s weakness, it’s only reinforcing the status quo and lack of stability. If it doesn’t feel good, it’s not really helping.

I AM saying to only offer your own energy up from a steady and grounded space. If you want to provide meaningful support, do so only when you’re feeling strong love, appreciation, and respect for the strength and abilities of the other person you wish to assist. In such cases, you are tuned in and whatever you give will have a much more meaningful and longer-lasting impact. And isn’t that why we do it?

How comfortable are you with providing support? Have you noticed it working this way for you?

If you’d like a little support coming from a space of faith in your abilities to master your life, give me a holler for a personal session. ~Dix

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Two of Cups & Page of Swords: Communicating Minus the Baggage

Back in the old days when I had a job-job, I used to work with my husband. We usually went to lunch together. Captain Virgo is a news hound to the core, so we often listened to talk radio in the car.

And sometimes, this little habit drove me up the wall.

Why? Because he listened to all kinds of programs, featuring all kinds of viewpoints. Not just viewpoints I considered rational or valid, but ALL kinds.

So there were some programs I found quite agreeable, but others drove me nuts. I didn’t understand how on Earth he could listen to some of it without becoming infuriated. I certainly couldn’t!

It took a while for me to catch on: he likes to understand not only what others think, but why they think it. He likes to consider issues from multiple perspectives doesn’t automatically dismiss an idea based on who it came from. He finds the food for thought reward for listening, not solely seeking the quick emotional payoff of hearing someone else say what he already believes.

I’ve developed a huge amount of respect for this trait over the years and can even listen to a lot more without getting flustered. Not everything, because I’m not a double Virgo. But a lot more.

This coming week, I’d suggest we all look to focus more on relevant details and leave the emotional baggage–be it our own or another’s–by the door.

Next Week in Tarot

Our weekly outlook came in as the Two of Cups, with advice from the Page of Swords from the Radiant Rider-Waite deck.

Listen to a short audio version of this week’s forecast below (3:42). Real-time Dix!

 

The Two of Cups signifies a lovefest of sorts. Like will be attracting like this coming week–well okay, it works that way in general, but you’ll really notice it this week. People will be especially inclined to hook up with others who feel and believe similarly.

So the vibe, in general, may be more comfortable in terms of feeling assured of your ultimate “rightness,” but that doesn’t mean anything has really been resolved on a grand scale or positions become less entrenched. In fact, I’m expecting the opposite as people paying near-exclusive attention to others who agree with them, thus providing a self-fulfilling sort of proof.

The world is bigger than what you can see, you know? This is true for all of us, no matter who we are.

Advice is coming in via the Page of Swords. Make your messages clear and to the point. Don’t a lot of emotional baggage to your words.  I wouldn’t bother telling people off or trying to sneak any guilt trips in your speeches here. Keep communications businesslike and fact-based.

It’s not so much about keeping the peace. It’s just that any extraneous emotion in communications at this point is very likely to muddy up the water and make your interactions far less effective. Be judicious with your words. Speak clearly. Focus on relevant details without emotional editorializing.

You don’t have to change your opinions. Just don’t assume everybody else has to share those opinions in order to be a decent human being. They don’t. Stick to what needs to be said as much as you can, respecting others to have the capacity to draw their own conclusions. They do have to capacity, every bit as much as you do.

How are you doing with managing those divides?

Need help sorting out your own communication issues (or anything else)? Drop me a line for a one-on-one consult.

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Seven of Pentacles: Tending Your Personal Garden

The world is virtually popping with unsolicited advice–and loud advisors. Have you noticed?

Whether you consider it outright criticism or desire to lend a helping hand, it’s all more or less the same thing. People line up to tell the rest of the world how they “must” think, act and feel about anything and everything.

I always want to ask, “How’s that working out for you?” But I don’t. I’d rather fly below that particular radar myself.

I realize much of this comes from a natural desire to help. I’ve offered unsolicited advice for the same reason. Other times, people preach in an attempt to shore up their own sense of stability surrounding a particular topic. Or sometimes, people are fighting what they perceive as ignorance or misinformation.

The common denominator isn’t the justification list for telling you what to do. Truth be told, the list of “musts” has very little if anything to do with you, but a whole lot to do with who gets to make decisions for you, who gets to define your own reality.

Gotta own what’s yours in order to steer your own life. Absolutely! And the flip side of that is letting other people own their own reality.  Just know, when you are hit with incoming criticism or a how-to-live lecture, it’s not about you. By (my) definition, it cannot be. But the response, or the decision to fire your own reality right back at ’em?

That is all about you. I expect these issues to be relevant the coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

For this week’s outlook, we have the Seven of Pentacles, with the inverted Page of Pentacles coming in as advice from the mini Radiant Rider-Waite deck. (Aside: if you’re looking for a travel deck, this one is a lovely choice: petite and manageable, in its own little tin.)

I’ve been seeing a lot of this seven lately–sometimes cards are just loud, you know? In the context of a weekly forecast, he’s suggesting plenty a-popping underneath the surface. Seeds planted long ago are in process of bearing fruit. So whatever is going on around you either personally or in the wider world, don’t assume it’s something brand new. It’s not. It’s been growing roots for some time now.

However, there’s also no point in assuming you can extrapolate “the ultimate truth” from what you see, either. The page of Pentacles is a master of detail but reversed? He may be getting the message entirely backward. You cannot divine another’s full motivations. Things may work out very differently than intended. Mixed, incomplete or confusing messages are all possible with this page being reversed. What’s more? The Page of Pentacles is not tentative. He may be quite sure of his messages, accurate or not.

I would encourage everyone to step back to avoid huge, sweeping (and irrevocable) declarations in the coming week. Let the harvest be complete here, okay? Stay in your own lane and assume the best of everyone because whether or not they are able to deliver on it, almost everyone does mean well.  It’s been my experience that people who are being unkind in some sort of pain. The worse the behavior, the worse the pain. I may not choose to involve myself with their issues, but that doesn’t mean I must denounce them, either.

Take note of what you perceive this week, sure. When is that a bad idea? But do so in pencil and don’t toss anything important in the mail yet, okay? Sometimes words are hard to take back so save yourself the need by keeping your own counsel right now. This is a lot easier to do if you keep your nose out of anybody else’s life. Stand back and wish them well and let the Universe sort it out.

Do you have a tough time keeping your mouth shut?

If you want some help sorting your thoughts, though, give me a holler for a private session.

 

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Knight of Wands Rx: Impulse Control & Stability

The last few years, I’ve changed how I interact with the world at large, and a lot. While I do still follow the news, I don’t discuss it with anyone other than my husband. I am also much less emotionally vested in what goes on around me–and even less vested in deciding who is right or wrong, good or bad, appropriate or inappropriate.

To some, such a stance is nothing short of abdicating responsibility to right the wrongs of the world. But to me? Maintaining my personal balance and perspective is the only way I have anything meaningful to offer anyone.

I am not any less caring now than I was before. I am just a whole lot more centered.

The coming week, I’m suggesting you prioritize maintaining your own center and personal balance.

Next Week in Tarot

We have the Prince of Wands reversed (aka the Knight of Wands) for our weekly outlook, followed up by Justice as advice from the Tarot Illuminati deck.

The Knight of Wands is passionate, loyal and intense. But reversed, he’s especially prone to hard-headedness, impulsivity and jumping to conclusions.

In other words, I’m expecting a week of people having rather marked and emotional responses to what’s going on around them, generally without fully understanding what’s going on around them.  If you watch the news or have internet access, you already know what I’m talking about on a global scale. I also expect this on a personal level. So not anything super new here, but it will likely be even louder right now.

Justice coming in as advice is straightforward enough: slow down. Breathe. Get clear. Find your center and maintain your balance. Independent thought and full consideration of the facts are in order.

Weigh out decisions logically, giving a full hearing to all with relevant information, whether or not you are warm and fuzzy about the source of the ideas. Libra (who rules the Justice card) demands fairness. She doesn’t make declarations based on whom she likes best. Ideas must be judged according to their own merits, independent of source.

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We’ve got an eclipse on and there’s plenty of raw and intense emotion to go along with it. You can manage this if you are conscious about it. Breathe deeply, and make a point to regularly replenish yourself as needed so you remain solid and clear. This is more helpful to others than most people realize because an example is much, much louder than anything else you can do. A sense of stability is just as available as it ever was. But like always, it’s an inside job.

Are you feeling stable?

If you need a little help, give me a holler for a private session to sort it out. And take care of yourselves out there!

~Dix

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Queen of Swords: Writing Your Own Story

I’ve spent damn near a lifetime separating out what other people think of me from what I think of myself. Most days, it’s pretty automatic now, although occasionally I’ll run something that strikes a sore spot.

It took me a very long time to realize unless I agree at least a little bit with any assertion, it doesn’t impact me. If there’s no foothold inside me already, I cannot be touched.

The root of any emotional reaction isn’t from an outside stimulus. It’s internal. Keep that in mind the coming week…

Next Week in Tarot

For the weekly outlook, we have the Queen of Swords paired with advice from the Four of Wands using the Star Tarot (which I may or may not be slightly obsessed with at this point).

Now, I don’t read the Queen of Swords as “negative” per se, although she’s not especially warm and fuzzy, either. She is focused and precise, though. She cuts through whatever stands in her way and some would no doubt describe her as cold.

A “Queen of Swords week” would have facts surfacing, calculations made and some options eliminated. She excels in clarification, honing in on a particular course or outcome. Also, understand none of the Queen’s actions are actually personal regardless of how it may feel. This queen doesn’t operate that way. The Queen of Swords is all about the end game. Her vision of the end game will match her idea of the greater good. But the how-to part of her game puts emphasis on the bigger picture, not the individual components.

In terms of advice, the Four of Wands came in reversed for me (set upright for the picture). I see this as folks potentially feeling disrupted by what they see and hear around them.

Your job–should you choose to accept it–is to create a safe haven for yourself ANYWAY. Regardless of what happens in the outside world, you can foster an internal sense of stability, safety, and comfort for yourself. This is much easier when we remind ourselves such feelings are internal, not externally generated.

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It’s true, events spill over from outside yourself that may impact you. But we give others way too much control over (and credit for) how we feel. We act as if there is nothing we can do about our reactions to anything when in fact, the opposite is true. How you feel about anything is very closely tied to how you choose to think about it.

Others can and will tell whatever story they see fit. But for it to become YOUR story, you have to cooperate by believing it.

Do you feel like have a handle on your own story?


Looking for more internal clarity? Give me a holler to book a private consult.

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Page of Cups: Navigating a Case of the Feels

“Is she avoiding me? Is he mad at me? Am I being stupid? Why didn’t I see that? Why did I say that? Ugh.”

That is what people say when they have what I call “a case of the feels.”

That’s what I call it when your emotions are just a little raw and you can tell, it wouldn’t take too much attention on anything to kick full on into one emotional direction or another. That’s what I’ve been feeling and seeing recently and it looks like it’s relevant for the coming week.

We have the Princess of Cups (Page of Cups) for the weekly outlook, followed by Death reversed for advice from the ever-so-lovely Star Tarot.

The Princess presents a huge (and loud) emotional message. Expect your heart-strings to get pulled this week and when they do? Look for themes in what you’re feeling, not the individual occurrences.

Inverted Death as advice–doesn’t that make you think of the phrase “death warmed over?” This card would suggest that what looks like the end of anything may not be. There is a significant transformation and cutting back, but not complete elimination. Think of it as pruning what isn’t healthy to allow for fresh growth.

Much like with dreams, the specific details are much less important than the FEELINGS. The scenarios will vary but the feelings will tend to run a similar temperature when you get this dynamic rolling. In other words, if you are worried about upsetting someone close to you, then you’ll be calling up multiple examples of this dynamic as you become more emotional about it. That is not proof you’re a clod, by the way! It’s evidence you’re becoming more caught up in the emotional tide with worries of being inadequate or whatever.

When you’re dealing with a case of the feels, be gentle with yourself. Withdrawing from too much stimulation can be helpful. Note the emotional tenor of what sort of content you consume. TV shows, articles or even discussion can have a bigger impact if your emotions are a little on edge already. Naps are great therapy! Distraction helps.

This coming week, go easy on yourself from an emotional standpoint. Make your actions measured and gradual, pruning little by little whatever is uncomfortable around you without pushing for instant resolution. The step back is often enough. Take your time, step gingerly and replenish yourself emotionally by spending time doing things you love and feel good doing.

And don’t worry. It doesn’t help and these emotional blips always do even out in the end.

Do you have a case of the feels?

If you want a little help sorting it out, give me a holler for a private consult. And take care of yourselves out there!

~Dix

 

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