Everyday Tarot, 05/09/11: Reflecting Better Relationships/Two of Cups Tarot

two-cups-tarot-card-meaningDoing a daily Tarot column for a while now, I’ve been known to fuss and cuss repeat appearances. I draw these cards specifically for the daily Tarot forecast, relying on Tarot to give what is most needed. So I mean no disrespect to the cards as a tool—I know better than to do that! It just makes my job of thinking of something insightful to say that much harder is all. But hey. I’m not one to shy away from a challenge.

Today’s Tarot is the Two of Cups (again), aka “The Lord of Love” and associated with Venus in Cancer. Nice to see this one upright! Tarot twos speak to union, duality and balance and cups, as representing the Water element, speak to emotion. So the Two of Cups is, at it’s most basic level, a coming together of feelings, balancing interests of two people in a loving (Venus), nurturing (Cancer) way. The relationship may be personal or business, but the feelings are quite real either way.

The good news about seeing this card again, now upright, is that the loving energy and sense of connection that was sketchy a few days ago is now expressing freely. The air has been cleared!

golden-rule-law-of-attractionOne point you’ll often hear mentioned about the Two of Cups is the reflective nature of the relationship. See how the pair mirrors one another? When you have a Two of Cups pairing, what you are experiencing is always comparable to what you are giving. You see yourself reflected in the other, and the other sees themselves reflect in you.

In terms of energy, like attracts like (aka The Law of Attraction). Energy vibrations can be either accidentally or intentionally directed, but we all have them nonetheless. If there is a disparity in vibrations with those closest to you, over time the rates either sync up or the relationship falls away. There’s no other way. If two people do not express a complimentary vibration, they cease to be paired. But since when is following the Golden rule ever bad advice?

So in considering the Lovers’ energy, ask yourself what you see in your partner because invariably, you are offering some version of the same vibration. You want more love, affection, trust or generosity? Express that yourself, and display gratitude when you receive it, which turns it up. Give freely what you want to have, and balance emerges naturally.

Do you see a reflection of yourself in your close relationships?

Radiant Rider-Waite Tarot
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Everyday Tarot, 05/08/11: Knight of Swords and his Chaffing Armor

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“Just do the best you can, Dixie. Because that’s all you can do.” My parents always told me this, and it was one of the things that stuck, I’m glad to say.

Most do fine with the “doing the best you can” part. It’s the letting it go afterward part that proves challenging. It can become a never-ending game of “What if?” if you’re not careful where you can never win.

Today’s Tarot is the Knight of Swords, associated with Air in Air. He tends towards an intellectual idealism. Sometimes cutting or sharp towards others, his judgment secretly falls most heavily upon himself when he falls short. Since his standards are based on ideals, he eventually will fall short.  In his black and white worldview, addressing his own fallibility can easily become an Achilles’ heel if he doesn’t learn to grant some latitude.

Ideal and Reality don't always machThe Knight of Sword misses the mark at times, refusing to acknowledge ambiguity. Always full of ideas and logic, life is an equation that doesn’t always add up properly. His ideals serve as a great starting point, a compass and guide, but life is lived in  everyday experience. The two do not necessarily coincide.

Those areas he’s most aggressive about controlling in others are almost always sore spots in his own self image. His armor chafes there, the swell of agitation internally prompted. This is where his sense of himself the ideals he wants to fight for are in conflict.

If you are the Knight of Swords, cut yourself some slack. Look after those raw spots with a little tenderness and care to allow them to heal. Trying to block it off is only rubbing the wound raw so cushion and tend. And if you know the Knight, approach him with the same kindness and compassion he has difficulty showing to himself. He’s demanding, but discerning. He can not only be soothed by your kindness, but learn from it.

Do you know a Knight of Swords?

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Everyday Tarot, 05/06/11: Strength through Feelings & Queen of Cups

mystic-dreamer-tarot-card-queen-cups“You’re emotions are not a weakness. They are your strength,” my husband says to me, in midst of a particularly messy meltdown. On top of the issue (which I no longer remember), I was supremely upset with myself for not having control over those emotions! My Saturn (limits) is hooked up with Pisces (feelings), so I work (Saturn) very hard on maintaining control (Saturn). Um…it’s an ongoing project.

I took a lot of comfort, because I find it true. I also heard myself telling a client the same recently over “losing it.” Feelings are indeed a strength I wouldn’t want to be without, despite the cost sometimes of having so damn many of them.

Today’s Tarot is the Queen of Cups, associated with Water in Water. This is an emotional gal! Like all queens, her focus is often felt inwardly, or perhaps within her inner circle, in a very yin fashion. You’ll see her  during periods of heavy emotional processing, actively building intuitive skills, or even starting therapy. Matters of emotional import speak most clearly to her. Dreaminess and ethereal knowing are her domain.

Much like working with muscles builds strength, working with feelings builds insight. If you are hearty enough to weather the turbulence, you can get past the impact t0 see more clearly, deeper and better than you could ever hope to not allowing direct access to your heart.

The Queen of Cups knows it’s through emotion we connect by opening up the channel. It’s through feeling anther’s pain, or joy, or fear, or wonder that we broaden our own world. She would have us let those feelings wash in, allow and sit with them, seeing exquisite beauty and exquisite pain as all part of the very same force. Without them, life is flat and dull. With them, yes, we can feel discomfort, but that potential also carries the potential for ecstasy. You  have to let one in to allow for the other.

golden-compass-astrology-tarot“Feelings” are also the main source of intuitive insight. If you shut down your feelings, you’ve shut down your radar. Whereas the more you attend to your feelings, the sharper your intuitive radar becomes. Emotional flux becomes a reliable guidepost for taking stock, finding gratitude, processing loss and finding direction.

The message today is to welcome feelings, and look for what they are there to tell you. By allowing them, you get direct access to the best possible compass you could ever hope to find— a spiritual compass. The needle might waver for a minute when the signal is especially strong, but it’s never completely off. Let it guide.

Do you find emotions a hindrance or strength?

Mystic Dreamer Tarot (Book & Cards)
by Heidi Darras

Everyday Tarot, 05/05/11: How to Wrap the World Around Your Fingers

the-world-tarot-card-morgan-greerSo much of the time, it’s very easy to look at what’s wrong exclusively. We worry. We obsess. We feel our flaws and inadequacies, even the most minor crowding out acknowledgment of all we’ve accomplished.  If ninety-nine things go wonderfully and one does not, we tend to focus exclusively on the one.

That makes the one thing, a misstep or poor choice or single, unkind word that gets singled out much more powerful than it’s due. Tarot has a suggestion, don’t you know?

Today’s Tarot is the World card, number XXI of the Majors and associated with Saturn, although CJ makes a good argument for switching this card to Capricorn and the Devil to Saturn instead. For me, though, it’s a non-issue. Every Capricorn has access to both the Devil and the World’s energy, because it’s just two sides of what Saturn can do. Same energy, but expresses in how you live it. The promise of the World is what makes up for the fears and restriction of the Devil. If you’re doing it right,  you master those chains of restriction with purpose.

The World is the culmination of the Fool’s Journey, synonymous with that part of the Hero’s Journey where you come back home to integrate and teach the knowledge you’ve gained. It’s sign of success. The symbols representing the fixed signs occupy the four corners. The path here is rooted in stability. The XXI reduces to a three, suggesting mastery here will bear fruit. The World is always very encouraging to see, because it is a card of accomplishment. All is right, exactly as it should be.  Celebration is in order.

CelebrateSo what if you don’t feel like celebrating? It’s good to remember our lives are not absolute, black and white dichotomies of good and evil, right and wrong, up and down. If our choices were always clear, we’d have no trouble with them. Instead, we live everyday in this linear time; how much of it is spent reviewing the past—not for clues to live better in the now, but to apportion blame and recrimination, even if but on yourself?

The World here is giving us a nudge to focus on that positive energy we’ve built, if we want it to grow. The hard times? Successfully navigating them is exactly what gives us the gifts that make being here, now, possible. As my husband is fond of saying (and I’m fond of cussing), “Builds character.”

Now is time to take stock of the character you’ve built and see what it’s accomplished. It’s fine to expect a lot from yourself—that’s a good idea! But do remember to feel good about what those struggles earned you. Getting exactly what you deserve can be a good thing. I hope so!

Is there something you should be giving yourself credit for?

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by Morgan Greer

Everyday Tarot, 5/4/11: Feeling Disconnected / Inverted 2 of Cups

inverted-reversed-two-cups-tarot-morgan-greerI don’t call myself an astrologer, but I am a sky-watcher. That new moon? Hit my 10th house; all this Taurus stuff coming up is dancing around my the top of the my chart. So we’re talking public persona and reputation.

That’s why I watch the sky. It makes me laugh!

Today’s Tarot is the Two of Cups, reversed. The “Lord of Love” is associated with Venus in Cancer. It speaks to who you love (Venus), the union where you most feel at home (Cancer).

While romance is sometimes referenced, not always. Any kind of coming together, can be implied. But it’s generally a good paring. Twos talk of duality—we have the yin and the yang in equal measure. Inverted, I look for mixed feelings, a holding back, or some kind of disruption in an otherwise comfortable, harmonious union.

You can also see this card inverted when you’re feeling isolated—unloved or unwanted, foreign or inscrutable. Separate. I usually don’t see the Two of Cups for an out-and-out breakup—that’s more the Eight of Cups or Three of Swords venue. The inverted two of Cups shows up more with emotional distancing.

I understand. I’ve had shifts in partnerships, and no matter what the terms, transition are by their nature unsettling. I often feel out of sync with the world at large, and it becomes exaggerated under stress.  So I’m doing my best to be aware of my feelings and deal with them as they surface. I’m focusing on where I want to go, looking to connect to what and whom I love (Venus), people and pockets of energy that feel like “home” (Cancer).

Being aware of your feeling process helps you stay on top of the situation, and finding other outlets eases the sting when you’re feeling less connected. It helps you work your way back to feeling more comfortable.

Are you feeling connected?

Morgan Greer Tarot Deck and Book Set
by Morgan Greer

Everyday Tarot, 5/03/11: Not Quite at Home

reversed-ten-pentacles-morgan-greer-tarotOver the last five years or so, my conception of who is my “family” has shifted significantly, albeit unconsciously. It still is in flux and probably always will be, truth be told.

I never planned to redefine “family” every other Christmas! More than anything, people coming and going from my life have forced me to redefine my tribe, lest I find myself seriously lacking on that front. This works pretty well, unless or until remaining family disowns you.

Today’s Tarot is the Inverted Ten of Pentacles, aka “The Lord of Wealth,” associated with Mercury in Virgo. Like all Tarot tens, we are simultaneously ending one cycle and beginning another. Often, this card heralds family celebrations, along with a sense of prosperity and community. It’s all about what makes you feel abundant and prosperous, centering on home and heath.

I talk sometimes about my biological relatives. They are Jehovah’s Witnesses and in case it’s not glaringly apparent—well, I am not. This makes me persona non grata at family functions. Oh well, you know? The break happened over a quarter century ago, so I’d be a mighty slow processor if I was still mourning it much. But that’s not to say it never tweaks me.

Instead, I turned to other sources for a sense of community. My husband, children and friends have all served at times, as well as a number of “online families.” In the rare event I actually feel at home, I mentally adopt those folks! This works pretty well, except when it doesn’t.

My seventh house can Saturn in Pisces can erase relationships as if they never existed. Square a 10th House moon, this process is generally painful and very often, public. For example, upon leaving the Witnesses, it was publicly announced I was being expelled “for conduct unbecoming a Christian.” (Translation: not claiming I still believed the doctrine.) On the rare occasions where it doesn’t go down that way, I’m terribly grateful. But however it goes down, it is and always will be difficult. That’s the nature of this beast, you know?

The inverted Ten of Pentacles suggests that love (Venus) can indeed be a practical (Virgo) matter. While those we recognize as family may not always wholeheartedly accept us as such, we can continue to welcome those who do, and focus on the elements of family and abundance still present in our daily lives. If you’ve distanced from your family for whatever reason, look for other kindred souls to take their place. Individual perception of family may not be more powerful or than blood ties, but it certainly can take the edge off. Get your dinner where you’re best fed.

Does your sense of who your family is change?

Morgan Greer Tarot Deck & Book
by Morgan Greer