Should you “Test” your Tarot reader?

Testing the Tarot Reader?

Should you test your psychic readers?

Anybody who’s done readings has, at some point, heard those lame jokes. “Why don’t you tell ME what my question is? You’re the psychic, right?”

Sniff. Sniff. Smells like smug. Bah!

And God help us if they start in on why I haven’t won the lottery yet. Someone is liable to get smacked.

Now, I don’t consider it my mission in life to proselytize for the Woo-Woo. Which may seem odd, considering this website, because I do preach it. I love preaching it! But I’m not seeking out to win over people who are antagonistic toward what I do. Not my mission.

You don’t like Tarot? You think psychic work is a big load of bull? Okay.  I can see that’s not our common ground. Been there, myself, and respect your sacred right to find your own path. I can wish you well, regardless. Love and light right out to your skeptical ass.

Sometimes, though, I’m tested by people who already believe in the work I do. They just want to make sure that I’m capable of doing it, right. They want to know if what I’m saying right now is what they’re needing to hear.

I understand this. Being sparse with details, looking for clearer signs, is seeking confirmation. Most want clear evidence. Especially when we’re anxious or in pain, we seek extra reassurance. I understand and trust the Source will provide whatever is most needed.

But I’ve had less benign tests at times. Sometimes, people set up little snares, to see if I catch on. I keep my mouth shut even if I do notice–what’s the point of calling it out? But it doesn’t mean it’s not bothersome or offensive.

I see the real test for any reading is an internal sense of “fit.” A good reading leaves you feel informed, empowered, and, well…right. It’s like a click in your brain, a sense of relief or resolution washes over. You know you’ve gotten a good reading because you can feel it. You know best here.

What do you think about testing your psychic reader?

Is it okay to repeat Tarot questions?

Don’t keep asking. Let the answer come into focus.

We approach Tarot on issues that matter to us–sometimes, a lot. Maybe this is why some fear Tarot–there’s almost an air of inevitability once “the cards have spoken,” as if all has been magically preordained and there is nothing left save cowering at the eternal manifestation. And we get upset, because, well, even with Tarot talking, we’re just not necessarily hearing.

“What does it mean? Am I sure I’m understanding this message? What if it’s really not what I want? What if I’m getting it wrong? Can I change it? Does Tarot say the same thing today as yesterday? Why? Oh my God, oh my God. What now?!?”

We believe Tarot holds answers, which is why we ask the questions. But sometimes we don’t understand  the answers or don’t like them. So we may ask, again and again–all with the same intense, scattered emotional energy. Panic readings, I call them. And you know, they don’t help much.

Tarot works predictably. The readers’ emotional state IS part of the energy connection. Fear produces static and distortion, scrambling signal. If you keep pulling cards repeatedly on the same question–let’s be honest, most of us have–you’ll start getting nonsense. Or at least, this is how it works for me.

I consider repeating Tarot questions akin to asking a sage for wisdom on the same issue nine times in a row. The first five or six times, you’ll likely get patiently delivered versions of the same message. But eventually, the sage will say something ridiculous to snap you out of your daze. Good! And honestly, I think it disrespectful to overindulge in repetitive grilling. Aren’t you more inclined to share your wisdom with those who try to listen and understand it?

I favor not repeating a question unless conditions have changed or marked time has passed. When I’m not finding the answers I’m seeking, I make note, set the question itself aside, and visualize opening up my chakras with light. I ask for understanding to come to me at the right time, in the right way, and release the question. This creates an empty space for the answer to appear. When I’m willing to let it in this way, I’ve found it does come. Not always on my schedule, but it would be hard to argue, not on the right schedule.

What do you think about repeating Tarot questions? Do you have a rule?

Should a Tarot reader answer medical questions?

Asking psychics and Tarot readers medical questions?

When can a Tarot reader answer medical questions?

Like romance, career, or parenting issues, people have all kinds of questions for Tarot readers! If you read for others any length of time, it’s a sure bet you’ll also be asked some medical questions. This isn’t an area you want to screw up, so it’s especially important to have clear guidelines for how you address them. Here are mine…

Working Guidelines for Medical Questions in Tarot Readings

  • I make clear that I have no medical background or special expertise, and do not specialize in medical readings.
  • I do not give medical advice. Giving medical advice without credentials is illegal.
  • I do not diagnose or attempt to treat medical issues. I am not trained in healing work.
  • I never suggest someone go against medical professionals’ advice.
  • I don’t advocate alternative therapies in place of traditional care, but in conjunction with traditional approaches as selected by the individual.
  • While I don’t believe the Source is ever wrong, I know I can be! I cannot make medical decisions for anyone else; health is a personal responsibility.

If we’re good on all points, I will ask the cards about health issues, and share what I get. Under the right circumstances, we’ve found suggestions and assistance to provide comfort, enhanced well-being, and needed insight while managing health issues.

These are the same kind of questions to look at for any sort of professional advice–psychiatric, financial, substance abuse, etc. For me, it seems most important to clearly define my expertise and maintain solid boundaries around what sort of support I’m most suited to provide. It’s worked well thus far.

What do you think about Tarot readers and medical questions?

Asking about Third Parties in Tarot Readings

Asking about Absent Third Party in Tarot Readings

Asking about people who aren’t there?

People come to readings looking for guidance and answers–often, involving situations about people important to them, like spouses, significant others, friends or children. One question that comes up frequently is: What’s okay to ask about other people in readings?

There are definitely ethical considerations. As one of my clients puts it, it’s like “peeking into someone else’s windows.” I can’t think of a better analogy. And yet, questions about your loved ones, coworkers or family and your relationships with them is a very legitimate reason to seek guidance! So, how do you know?

Intent and consent are both central to the reading process. Tarot should be a tool of self-empowerment, not for spying or meddling in others’ affairs. If you don’t focus on yourself, you’re missing a golden opportunity for change right there.

My personal rule is that it’s okay to ask about other people only in the context of the questioner’s relationship to the people and situations. If a wife is trying to determine if her husband is cheating, that’s pretty relevant to the wife, don’t you think? But if she’s wondering if her ex-husband’s cheating on his new girlfriend because, well, she just knows the S.O.B. is like that…eh, that’s gossip. Gossip isn’t very spiritual, y’know.

It can get a little sticky sorting it out at times but it’s important enough to be worth the trouble. I know the information I get is all by grace, and believe if I were to abuse and misuse that source, it would close to me. That’s pretty good motivation to stay away from the dark side.

But beyond conviction I’d lose my ability to tune in the same way, I want to feel good about the work I do. Keeping boundaries intact helps me do that.

What do you think about questions involving other people in readings?

What Direction to Flip Tarot Cards?

Orient yourself!

Sometimes people wonder how they should flip the cards, relevant if reading reversals. Personally, I always flip them horizontally instead of vertically, toward or away, to maintain the orientation.

But like most techniques in Tarot, other options will work so long as you are clear on your intent to work that way. That lets the cards know how to give you information and keeps uncertainty from adding a layer of confusion to the reading. It’s been my experience that feeling confused and uncertain adds that energy to a reading, leaving you with confused and uncertain answers. I like a clean, confident vibe in working the cards.

What do you think?

Selecting Your First Tarot Deck

Make a pretty home for your first deck!

People aiming to learn Tarot wonder how to pick their first deck. Does it have to be traditional, Rider-Waite-Smith (RWS) or a clone deck? Does someone have to give it to you? Hmmm?

There is an advantage, using a traditional deck, in the sheer number of resources available. The imagery in RWS and it’s kissing cousins are especially rich, multi-layered and rooted in many esoteric traditions, so there is a lot to work with, in mastering a broad vocabulary of potential divinataory insights.

On the other hand, RWS may just leave you flat or another deck may simply sing to you. Are you supposed to ignore your inner voice in learning to better exercise your inner voice?

One of my favorite answer for these kinds of questions is, “It’s up to you!” Every step of befriending Tarot is another inch along your own Fool’s Journey, and it’s personal. No one else can tell you which deck to begin with because no one else is YOU.

As far as waiting to be given a deck–well, I can tell you for a fact your first deck doesn’t have to be a gift to “work.” Otherwise, me and whole bunch of other readers would have been out of luck!

That having been said, I usually suggest people get RWS  or clone, and buy it themselves instead of waiting on divine providence, as soon as they take a notion. Ha!

What do you think is important to remember in selecting your first deck?

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