Queen of Cups Rx & Justice: Don’t Be an Ass

I was talking with a customer service rep a few days ago. He wasn’t able to do what I wanted to be done.

“I’m frustrated with this answer, but I know it’s not your fault,” I told him.

The relief he expressed was palpable, even through a text chat.

I acknowledged his job is a hard one and customer service reps are getting hammered. I expressed appreciation for his efforts, regardless of the outcome. He was doing his best and I knew that.

I don’t know how many people he’d dealt with before me, or how they’d behaved. I don’t know was going on in his personal life or what other worries he was juggling. All I know is I felt a wave of relief and appreciation wash over the me minute it became clear I wasn’t going to dump on him for being the bearer of bad news.

Essentially, I was the recipient of profound appreciation for a kindness as humble as not being an ass.

I’d like to think I can almost always meet the “don’t be an ass” standard of humanity. It’s not an especially high bar, but worthy of consistency nonetheless.

Next week? I’m expecting plenty of the feels. This might get messy. Be kind anyway.

Next week in Tarot

This week, the outlook is the Queen of Cups (coming in reversed/pictured upright) with Justice for advice–here, pictured from The Good Tarot.

Emotions continue to rule the coming week–don’t expect them to retain consistency with any specific version of reality. Don’t expect the emotions to necessarily even agree with one another. The “feels” are not about conforming to expectation or answering to reason. Hello!

Emotion doesn’t have to make sense. It just is, and just being is enough.

Graciously accept whatever emotional wave rolls in–fighting doesn’t help anyway. Besides, even the most challenging emotions always roll back out again. Feel it. Cry your tears or rant your rants or whatever you’ve got to do. Let it flow through and when it subsides, consider a nap. Naps are good medicine.

But in terms of dealing with one’s fellow humans, employ the judiciousness and careful thoughtfulness of Justice. Weigh out responses. Act fairly and impartially. Do what you’ve agreed to do. Don’t try to force others to be you. Be as reasonable as you can manage. It will make things easier, especially as everyone out there is riding their own waves of the feels.

There is valid role for both emotion and reason, It’s not difficult to honor both. The difference isn’t in the which so much as it’s in the when.

Be kind to yourself and one another out there.

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Queen of Pents: Feed Yourself. Seven of Swords: Don’t Dictate Anybody Else’s Menu

What really “feeds” you? Maybe it seems especially relevant to you as it does to me right now, but it always matters.

For me, it’s quiet time. That coffee outside on the front porch, listening to the birds and wind rustling through the trees. And time spent hanging out with my loved ones, be it in person or virtual. The distractions from the daily noise I find in a good movie, a video game or crocheting something also go to “feed” me, refill my energetic cup so to speak.

A step back from conflict and sometimes, the “realities” of the day is consistently what’s most helpful. Thinking about what refills your cup and indulging in that is a very good plan for this coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

For the outlook this week, we have the Queen of Pentacles (Earth here), with advice as the Seven of Swords (Air) from The Good Tarot. Because I’m still looking for a softer, gentler vibe.

I love seeing this Queen for a weekly outlook, because she brings with her a sense of stabilization. I’m not saying all is right with the world next week. It’s gonna be a minute, you know? But next week, looks like we’re getting fed at lest. In one way or another, we’ll be fed.

Maybe we’ll get some encouraging news. Maybe we’ll start to feel some more hopeful in general. Maybe something in our world is stabilizing. Any way you slice it, this queen always brings some kind of meal. So look for it and appreciate whatever bounty is delivered in the days ahead.

Now in this deck, the Seven of Swords is described as suggesting an independent, non-conformist approach. Tarot sevens do point to self-direction in general, regardless of where the crowd is going. When I see this card in the space for advice, I’m generallygoing to suggest an indirect or under-the-radar approach.

Do what YOU feel is right, without trying to convert the world. Just contribute you own little part to the greater whole you believe is best.

Got that? Feed yourself. Don’t worry about what others are choosing to eat. No need to fight over it. Just feed yourself.

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Tower & Emperor: Matter of Viewpoint

Some of what I’m seeing lately makes my heart hurt. Not just because people are suffering, although some are and of course, I feel for them. But it’s more the (to me) needless and self-inflicted suffering that leaves an ache.

People see a huge amount of ugliness in the world. I can’t say there’s not some of that, though I don’t choose to dwell. But I can say that in some instances, it strikes me more like dirty glasses than actual ugliness.

Having the “proper” set of beliefs/attitudes/actions is not a reliable litmus test for being a good person, no matter what appears to be obvious to the observer.

You know how many times in my life my beliefs have changed? A lot! My intentions, however, are consistently good. My value and worth as a person did not change back and forth just because my interpretation of how to live best changed.

I am not a good person or not one because of what I think should be done about this or that, which public figure I support or do not approve of, or what my idea of “solution” to any issue looks like. It’s not so black and white. Good people can have very different viewpoints. That diversity is our collective strength, not a weakness.

We might admonish one another or ourselves to “walk a mile in someone else’s shoes.” Usually this comes up as a suggestion when we feel misunderstood. That’s all fine and well, but we cannot spend even a minute living in someone else’s brain.  I’m doing good to keep up with just my own. At best, we can weakly imagine what someone else’s experience may be like based on our own past experiences. It’s just not a very precise art, so I’m completely unwilling to damn someone else over my inability to understand where they are coming from.

The truth lives in the heart, not in the path taken to express that that truth. You cannot see what’s in your neighbor’s heart, although you can sometimes feel some of it out, if you are open to it. But really, understanding what is there it’s not so important as you may think it is. From the folks I’ve met, most want to do good, even if they have no idea how to go about it.

Next week’s cards addresses the general chaos that’s about and suggests a reliable path forward.

Next Week in Tarot

I have been sticking with The Good Tarot right now, hoping for some sunshine. But even a softly colored rendition of The Tower is still the freakin’ tower man. That’s the outlook. Advice is likewise unequivocal in the form of the Emperor.

Why does the Tower not surprise me now? Pluto is stationing retrograde. The world is in quite a bit of chaos, and those areas of our lives that were not especially shored up, maybe a little iffy, now stand before us, glaring and obvious as proof of what’s not working. “Disruption” is a sterile-sounding but still accurate description for what most people are feeling right now. The Tower is loud and clear.

But for advice, we have the Emperor. Little thing I’ve noticed about the Emperor–most people tend to focus on him being in charge, a leader. That’s true but it is not what comes first. Outer control isn’t sustainable. Inner control is. The Emperor is always first and foremost in charge of himself. If he loses control of himself, he’s of no good to any kingdom that may be looking to him for guidance. By keeping his own focus and resolve, however, he becomes an inspiration and example to others. But he’s not likely seeking out that ends.

Instead, he’s doing his best to live true to his own heart and values. He uses whatever authority he has judiciously, in support of the greater good. If he were not to walk the talk himself, he’d be utterly ineffective.

This coming week, understand there is (still) much disruption and chaos. That is not something any individual one of us can fix. We do, however, control what energy we bring to the table. We can (and would be well-advised to) run our own lives the way that makes the most sense to us. Bring as much kindness, caring and love to the table as you’ve got.

Instead of trying to convince the rest of the world to act out my version of a good person, I’m going to be doing my damnedest to embody that goodness myself. Will I single-handedly change the world in this way? Of course not. But I didn’t single-handedly generate the world we have now, either. Instead, I’ll be doing my part.

Way I see it, I can be part of the the hurt or part of the healing. I can be part of the waves of disgust or part of the equally powerful waves of appreciation. I can focus on what I don’t approve of or I can focus on what my heart tells me is kind and loving and true.

I know where I want to settle in. What about you?

Stay well and safe out there, friends!

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Page of Wands: Yelling it Like (You Believe) it is

Something’s been eating at me the last couple of days. I couldn’t quite put it into words until I read this story my friend, Josi, wrote on letting the heart speak.

There was something more important than being right in that moment. Being kind. Being honest. And, sharing how I really felt.” – Josi

The focus on being more “right,” better informed, and frankly, far more morally justified than one’s neighbor is strong right about now.

Personally, I don’t think I’ve ever been lectured into becoming a better human being. But it doesn’t mean people ain’t gonna try. Just look at these cards for next week…

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook this week, we have the Page of Wands (Fire), with advice being the Queen of Pentacles (Earth) reversed. These cards are from The Good Tarot deck.

People are speaking passionately–often, that reads as angrily. Fear is a great activator for anger and the fear is thick right now.

Messages coming from the Page of Wands may be brash or blurted, but are seldom moderated. Dump a lack of tact into a mix of uncertainty and you’ve got explosive potential. Expect next week to be full of people telling one another what’s-what in no uncertain terms. Expect those others being told to push back.

Furthermore, understand both sides of these arguments near-universally believe they are holding the moral high ground while smacking one another back and forth.

Advice for the week–the reversed Queen of Pents–would suggest not to be the one to light the fuse on any firecrackers or “truth bombs” or whatever you want to call it. Step back. Take no action. Do not feed your own voice into the noise when you’re feeling all wound up and self-righteous because I can guarantee you, it almost certainly will do no good.

Now, I’m not even suggesting many of the folks a-yellin’ aren’t objectively “right.” Or maybe your clever comebacks are more “right.” Or somebody is partially right and the others are or are not or what the Hell ever. I don’t know and in utter frankness, I don’t care.

The bigger picture, the higher truth, isn’t a specific set of facts. The higher calling is giving a damn about both yourself and your fellow human beings.

The higher calling is kindness. The higher calling is compassion.

The higher calling is LOVE.

Of course, we aren’t going to feel loving full on 24/7/365, especially in the midst of stress and uncertainty. And that’s fine. But neither will anybody else. You need to give not only each other but also yourself plenty of space and understanding in this regard.

My advice is pretty simple. as usual: If you want to share your perspective or make your case, great! Just make sure you do so ONLY when you’ve reached a point you can speak from a loving place. There is a whole lot better chance your words will hit the mark to be heard if you tune in your heart before you let your mouth take over. And yes, I’ll say it: this is never bad advice. It’s just extra timely right now.

Don’t forget what matters. And stay safe out there, friends!

~Dix

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Nine of Wands & Six of Swords: Transition to Better

I’ve been trying to pinpoint the things I appreciate about this bizzare time we’re in. I’m not trying to be Pollyanna here so much as looking to keep myself grounded and connected to the parts of life that replenish me.

Appreciation tops that list. There’s plenty to be stressed about, so it’s not like we have to seek that out. But there are always things to savor, at the same time.

I really do love the way I see people connecting with one another. People are checking in with each other more often. They are more free in expressing affection. Even between strangers, I see nods and knowing glances of a shared experience.

People are ending conversations with admonitions to “stay safe” and they mean it. I guess some may find that sad, but I find hope and peace in the shared intention of goodwill people are more freely expressing right now.

Kindness always matters but it’s even more potent now than normal. I’m happy to do my best to generate some and would suggest you do the same if you can. It helps.

Next Week in Tarot

I’m not especially surprised at what I’m seeing this week. We have the Nine of Wands upright for the forecast, with Seven of Cups reversed and Six of Swords rounding out our advice. These are from the lovely Star Tarot.

Yes, we’re all tired and feeling kind of beat up, both individually and collectively. We feel the need to hold out because that’s exactly what we do need to do. That’s Nine of Wands in a nutshell. The good news with this card, though: you CAN do it. I always get this guy when you’ve got what it takes to manage. And that is encouraging.

Don’t let your imagination run away with you. Tune out hysteria, know-it-all theories, or completely dismal and unproductive “what ifs” because it does no one any good, least of all you!

I tend to get the Seven of Cups reversed when there is a strong likelihood of misinterpreting the scene, imagining what’s not there. Rather than wallow in what you think you might see or what some guy on the internet is sure he sees, take the Six of Swords approach with this and think of yourself as riding in the “boat to better shores.”

This is a card of transition and when you’re getting a bit worn out, transition is a very good focus to maintain. One foot in front of the other, or one stroke of the rowboat. However you imagine it, we’re talking incremental progress. Don’t for a minute knock that: all progress is good progress.

We’re in a difficult and stressful situation, globally. That’s all fine and well, because what are the other options right now? Like it or not, it is what it is. You do the best you can with what you’ve got to work with, period. And that’s exactly what the cards are saying to do right now.

Hang in there! Don’t get sucked into any mental wormholes of doom–they are not only unhelpful, they are bogus as well. Instead, keep your eye on the perhaps small but utterly significant steps you are making to take care of yourself, look after your loved ones and support others in the world at large. THIS is what matters.

There will be time to look at the bigger picture after the fact, if you’re so inclined. But you can’t see it standing in the middle. Keep your own watch and maintain responsibility for your place in all this and as I’m so fond of recommending, let the Universe sort out everything else. it will.

Stay safe out there, friends! I mean that. And I’ll do my best to do the same.

~Dix

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Chariot Reversed: Going Nowhere (but Standing Strong)

It’s funny. I expect the adjustments I’ve made in the face of what’s upright now are far, far less than what’s been required for most. Because of the life I have already, amendments were minimal.

I have worked at home for decades and seldom venture out.  I already avoid most people, if we’re being honest about it. Amazon prime is officially one of my spirit animals.

“This shouldn’t be that big of a deal for me.” That’s what I keep telling myself.

I don’t always listen to myself, though.

While the world has taken on surreal hues, I can’t decide if I’m comforted or freaked out all the things people are doing to manage, from an individual level all the way up to globally. I guess there’s no rule you cannot feel more than one thing at the same time.

I can tell you one thing, though: “Being a part of history” is damned overrated!

This brings me to next week’s cards, man, because they fit this mood perfectly.

Next Week in Tarot

From the Star Tarot deck for outlook, we have The Chariot reversed, with advice being Strength. It’s not escaped my attention that these are both Major Arcana cards. Normally, majors point to more intense situations with longer-lasting impact.

The coming week has something of a “running around in circles” feel to it. Potentially intense effort to make progress, “get somewhere,” but no significant ground gained.

I wouldn’t push hard on anything, because frankly all it looks to be doing is wearing people out. Think marathon, not sprint.

Instead, Strength has simple advice: stand firm. Gentle but persistent holding fast to your plan. No compromise is necessary, but neither are dramatic (or desparate) measures.  Strength always advises a gently-but-steady consistency over brute force.e

Keep up on those “good ideas” intentions. Maintain your routines. Mediation is a great practice to award “routine” status. Eat well and get plenty of rest. Do everything you can to stay strong and clear because it makes everything else either. Embody the strength card here and it WILL make a difference.

Take care of yourself and be as kind as you can to everyone you interact with. You cannot see the emotional burden others carry. Beyond that, though? Be kind to yourself. Kindness is always the most effective when you start in the mirror and work your way out.

Stay safe and sane out there, friends!

♥ ~Dix

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