Two of Swords & King of Cups: Help with Uncertainty

In times such as these, I don’t know that it’s so much the facts of a current situation that weigh on people as the uncertainty.

We may be okay, today. Our loved ones may be okay, today. But since we don’t know what to expect tomorrow, many are struggling just the same. And not being able to see a clear path from now to then just makes it all feel that much less secure.

There’s no real cure for uncertainty other than waiting (and faith, if you’ve got some available).

But the advice for next week can be well implemented in times of uncertainty and it will help.

Next Week in Tarot

I pulled out The Good Tarot this week because, well, I wanted to see something “good!” Pretty pictures sounded like a great idea to me. For outlook, we got the Two of Swords (air). And for advice, it’s the King of Cups (water).

Many choices are being made right now–some of them hard. In fact, whether we do or don’t do anything at all, in that very doing or not doing, a choice has been made. One need is being weighed carefully against another and we’re making the best of what we’ve got to work with. This is on both personal and collective scales.

Advice is just as straightforward as the outlook: live from your heart. Speak from your heart. Act from your heart. The King of Cups is creative and caring. He’s very aware of emotional currents and not afraid to express his feelings or acknowledge another’s. He doesn’t need to agree with you to be emotionally supportive. The point of view doesn’t matter. Only the “give-a-damn” factor matters here.

This coming week, make the most rational decisions you can and focus on the love. As I’m fond of saying, there’s plenty of both beauty and ugly out there. Our choice isn’t about which exists. Our choices are about what we amplify, by means of our attention, discussion and personal energetic contribution. That’s it. So use your choices to amplify what you want to see more of, okay?

Stay safe. And share as much love as you’ve got to share. It helps.

p.s. I know many  are struggling right now. If you think some Tarot Love could help, please reach out. I’m happy to do whatever I can, so I will be offering sessions on a pay-what-you-can-afford basis for anyone who needs it while we’re in the middle of all this crazy. ♥

Hanged Man Rx: Choose Well

Before becoming a card slinger, I used to work in mental health. I’ve done stints at crisis hotlines and women’s shelters as well as working in detox for a few years.

In other words, I’ve spent a good hunk of my professional life talking to people in crisis or supporting those who’ve had some sort of major emotional challenges. The training and experiences from this time has proven to be an unexpected blessing.

One thing I’ve noticed consistently: experiences at the more extreme ends of the spectrum will always change people. That’s a given. But HOW those experiences change people varies tremendously. For some, it shuts them down. For others, it opens their heart. That “how” part is largely a personal choice.

If you are feeling a heavy weight of the collective stress right (as many sensitive folks are), I’d encourage you to consider on how you’d like to wear the experience, longer term. Maybe the personal impact isn’t such that you consider the experience “extreme.” I hope that’s true! But no matter what, there is a collective stress right now and it seems to be impacting almost everyone in one way or another.

There aren’t right or wrong feelings–any emotional reaction can be justified–but there are certainly more or less comfortable feelings. I’m going to lean into thoughts and feelings of kindness, compassion and optimism over the coming weeks. If I’m to be changed by any of the experiences in this weird time we’re living, that’s how I want it to change me.

Next week is the perfect time to start practicing this.

Next Week in the Cards

For outlook next week, we’ve got the Hanged Man reversed. Advice is coming in as The Fool, both from the Crystal Visions Tarot.

The collective vibe next week is characterized by sometimes wavering faith–it’s tidal, comes and goes–and an environment where people feel driven to act without clear indication of what action to take. I wouldn’t need to be psychic to predict unease and restlessness, but I’m predicting it anyway.

The Fool as advice next week is ridiculously appropriate. We’re unchartered territory. It feels risky for good reason. But acknowledging risk is very different from becoming overcome by fear. It always behooves us to do the best we can with whatever we have to work with. And if we can cultivate a sense of adventure along the way? All the better!

The Fool steps into the unknown with a full heart and curious mind, understanding there will be challenges along the path. It’s all part of the process of living and growing and becoming. No one undergoes the Fool’s journey unchanged. So we’re not even looking at that question.

Instead, the question to ask is, “How will it change you?”

Look for opportunities to ground yourself, care for your fellow humans, and find something to be grateful for amidst the stress. There is plenty of both ugly and beauty in the world every single minute of every single day. We choose where to aim our attention. Choose well.

Be safe out there, friends. ♥


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High Priestess & Eight of Cups Rx: Riding it Out

I had to go grocery shopping a couple of days ago. I wasn’t sure what to expect given the fact that the Coronavirus seems to have just penetrated the mass consciousness of America and people are shopping like there’s no tomorrow.

But we were running out of food. I was about to run out of coffee creamer, for goodness sakes!

Ample coffee creamer is synonymous with “civilization” in my world.

I wasn’t entirely surprised to find no toilet paper–the aisles at Aldi’s had been picked clean. A lonely, beat-up tissue box was all that remained (after I tossed a couple boxes into my cart, because…well, no toilet paper). I decided not to grab the last tissue box in case someone else needed it more.

No more toilet paper or tissues.

I’ve seen many admonitions not to panic. I’m sure somebody somewhere is panicking, but it wasn’t what I personally witnessed. People were focused for sure, but most were not giving out cranky or anxious vibes. Overall, I was feeling a sense of camaraderie. People were kind to me and one another, albeit across increased personal space.

I don’t think of more aggressive shopping as proof positive of mass panic. Folks want to have a good supply of toilet paper and soap (and yes, coffee creamer) because this provides a sense of predictability and control. That’s what’s lacking in the bigger world right now. It feels like doing something, you know? People are preparing to hunker down and ride things out if need be, and would like to be comfortable doing so.

In a weird way, I found the whole experience oddly comforting. Realizing most of us have a lifestyle such that having enough toilet tissue, hand soap and Ramen in the cabinet qualifies as disaster preparedness? It drives the point home: most of us live a very good life!

Next week, I’m expecting the mass vibe to be very similar to this shopping trip.

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook this week, we’ve got the High Priestess. On advice, the Eight of Cups is joined by the Tower, all from the Radiant Rider-Waite deck.

There’s plenty going on, but much more is under the surface than out in the open. So you can’t really put your finger on issues directly so much as you can just FEEL it. Your spidey senses will do the best job of guiding you this week (as always).

We’d be well advised not to make any grand, sweeping gestures this week. Don’t burn any bridges. There could be an itch to “get things settled, once and for all” but there won’t be a need to scratch it. Bridges that most need burning are likely to spontaneously combust. If you take a step back emotionally, you’re far less likely to feel the heat.

Let events sort themselves out because they will–potentially with great drama and fanfare. Tower energy isn’t exactly subtle. The upside of the Tower sort of disruption is that it tends to be quick. Dramatic, sure. But usually it’s not going to drag on and on. Once the Tower begins to fall, it’s coming down and there will be no stopping it. Our choice is only in how close we’re standing to ground zero.

The key point here is that any drama does NOT have to be largely disruptive on a personal level. Step back. Let go what you can and wait for what you cannot let go to settle down.  It will.

The world is a little weird right now. But that’s okay. We can be okay individually, weirdness in the bigger world or not. Take a step back and ride it out!

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Page of Cups Reversed: Homemade Peace

Our experience of reality is never the sum total of some sort of objective facts, although we certainly may be looking intently at those facts. The meaning we give, the explanations and assumptions made to draw conclusions, is central to how we feel about whatever we see. That meaning is all internally generated.

We take observations and we run them through our own filter of what we consider reasonable, how we would respond, and what makes sense to us in order to make sense out of what we see. Sometimes, the conclusions can generate compassion or understanding but a lot of the time, they just sow discord.

People talk about the “benefit of a doubt” as if it’s something you offer to others, a way of not assuming they’re evil or something. Personally, I find a generous appraisal benefits me more than the recipient. I don’t care if it’s objectively accurate or not. I just care that my own conclusions are comfortable for ME.

That doesn’t make me a doormat by any stretch. I can assume the best without further engagement. The point is to adopt the perspective that serves myself best and nothing else…Next week might be a good time to test this strategy.

Next Week in Tarot

Outlook next week is represented by the reversed Page of Cups, with advice being the Eight of Cups. These lovely cards are from the Crystal Visions Tarot.

Expect an emotionally intense week. That’s the bad news, or at least maybe bad news. Kind of depends on the emotions, you know? The good news is that periods of extra emotionality aren’t extended. The Page of Cups is pretty easily distracted or soothed, even by simple things.

The trick is going to be in the advice: Know what to step away from. I’ve got Kenny singing the Gambler in my head. “…know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em. Know when to walk away and know when to run.”

The righteously indignant may be correct about some of their assumptions, but they are not going to be happy. If your vision of happiness requires cooperation, you’re at the mercy of outside forces and even if you can line some of them up, you’ll never line them all up all the time. It’s a losing proposition.

I”m not saying don’t care about anybody else. That’s not a formula for happiness! I’m saying assume the best you can manage and direct your toward something you can positively impact. It may sound trite but this is how you become part of the solution. It’s also a much better way to live.

The only peace that’s dependable is the homemade kind.

Do you make your own peace?


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Lovers: What’s Your Mission?

I’ve been self-employed for years now. It might surprise people who know (non-conformist) me  to hear I often use mission statements with my business ventures. The idea used to strike me as silly, but I came around once I experimented using them.

Ethical questions or practical considerations or choosing what to prioritize are all important parts of the day-to-day journey for any undertaking.  Choice is unavoidable. When you have articulated a big-picture mission, it’s much easier to make sure your day-to-day choices are aligned with that mission.

The mission is the bigger picture, the whole painting. But the individual decisions are the single brush strokes that make up the painting. Next week might be a good time to set the mission and let it guide you through the brush stokes.

Next Week in Tarot

Lovers High Priestess Revesed

Outlook for the week is courtesy The Lovers, with advice from the High Priestess reversed and clarified by the Three of Swords. These cards are from the Crystal Visions Tarot deck.

In the coming week, we’ve got a job to do: getting clear on what matters.

The High Priestess reversed would advise we ACT in concert with our choices and priorities. If not, we stand to lose here (says the Three of Swords).

This isn’t about having the whole scenario mapped out, by the way. If you wait for that, you’re going to miss your window of opportunity. This is a very in-the-moment, clarity-driven, in-touch-with-your-intentions vibe.

Know your mission. Know what’s most important. Know what you want, big picture. Then for each individual choice that comes up, you can use that big-picture perspective to determine which way to turn at the forks.

Success in this environment won’t come from over-orchestration. The idea of ends justifying the means will backfire.

Be true to yourself with each brush stroke and let the painting work itself out.


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Fool Reversed: Silly Mistakes or Opportunities to Excel?

The more I notice, the more I find it stunning how much of our experience is directly driven by perception as opposed to those “cold, hard facts” we think we’re reacting to instead.

It’s not just the obvious like people of different political bents watching entirely different movies when they read the news. It’s not just things like generational differences or how we see the world versus how our parents see it.

It’s more like all of life is a big, fat Rorschach test.

I can especially see this in myself. The difference between considering myself a hot mess versus seeing myself thriving does not really come from the preponderance of evidence. I know this because I have sometimes shifted my perspective when the outside reality is the same.

Instead, the feelings are a function of the conclusions we make about the evidence. This is very good news, because that can be consciously driven.

Next week, we’ll most likely see plenty of room for improvement in your private world. You can either call that “failure” or you can call it a grand opportunity to clean up and level up.

I’m going with door number two here. Hope you’ll join me in the winner’s circle!

Next Week in Tarot

For the outlook next week, we have The Fool reversed. Advice is the Ten of Wands. (Outch!) Pictured here from the Radiant Rider-Waite deck. It’s Mercury retrograde, folks–February 16 to March 9th. The forecast here seemed to notice.

Expect bits and pieces of our world to be upside down. I’m seeing significant potential for foolish mistakes, overlooking the obvious or simply not thinking things through in the coming week.

To deal with this, be responsible for managing important details. If it’s going out with your name on it, I’d advise you to do the final review personally. You might be able to delegate the initial project, but the last (and full) pass-through needs to be personally performed, with full attention.  The Ten of Wands won’t have us skim or multitask our way through the final review.

But what is this period good for (besides taking on extra work)? Edit and rework processes to your heart’s content. Reconsider and revise your work flow, your projects, your management process! Any process is ripe for revisiting during the retrograde, with extra attention to communication flows. Inefficiencies or problem areas will be easy to spot now and the extra effort reworking them pays off.

I’m happy to put in the effort required to clean up my world, though. How about you?


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