Ten of Wands Rx: Going Zen

Back in prehistoric times when I was in college, what turned out to be my toughest class came as a surprise. It wasn’t biology or statistics or algebra, some of the classes I though might challenge me. It wasn’t even the graduate psych seminar I finagled my way into as an undergrad.

None of the other classes compared to an intro to Eastern Civ class at the community college.

The professor wasn’t just insanely knowledgeable. He was extremely demanding. He expected us to develop a level of expertise on the subject far beyond what I would have imagined, even for a much more advanced class.

It was a small group of maybe 25. The tests were very difficult and frequent.A few dropped out after the first test. I wasn’t entirely sure if I would be able to pass, which is saying something for me. But I hung in there.

Those of us who stayed soon began recording his lectures, so that we could listen several times before the next class because that’s really what it took. By the end of the semester, there was a little tape recorder on every desk.

He joked that he felt like he was giving a press conference.

I think I studied more for that final than any other I’ve ever taken. When I got to the room, one of my classmates was holding up a sign she’d made. It read, “We Overcame!”

The professor said the sign was a bit dramatic, but it was obvious he took at as a compliment.

When we were all settled in and ready to go, he sported an impish grin and said he was going to play the devil today and offer us some temptation.

The final was to be the majority of our overall grade. But we could opt out of it.

He made his way around the room with a yellow legal pad, privately showing each of us a letter grade.  “If you want to skip the final, this is the grade I’ll give you…”

When it was my turn, he looked at me and considered for a couple of seconds. Then he scratched out a “B” on the pad.

I about fell out of my chair. I wasn’t sure how I was doing to be honest, so a B was better than I expected.

I didn’t take the offer. though. Nobody did. We had done some insane studying for that final and we were going to take the damn thing!

Leaving the room after taking a final was always one of my favorite moments of every class. At that point, I’d done everything I could do and it was time to let it go. Leaving that room was especially sweet.

I got an A in the class, incidentally. I think I was more proud of that A than any other. I don’t know for sure if my final answers were that great or the professor gave us “extra credit” for skipping the temptation.  I suspect he was more interested in our working to learn than in our answers to the final. But the spectre of the final was the vehicle for motivation.

Next week, I’m expecting it to feel a lot like walking outside the door after taking a tough final. It’s time to just let go and focus on doing the best you can with whatever you’ve got to work with—specifically, working on your own business.

Next Week in Tarot

Ten of Wands Rx: Going Zen 1

For outlook, we’ve got the Ten of Wands reversed, with advice showing up as the Eight of Pentacles from the lovely Star Tarot Deck.

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It’s time to let go. If it’s not ours to worry about (or even if it is), it’s just time to release the sense of burden and responsibility for all that happens. Instead, our job is to just do the best we can with what we’ve got to work with.

We’re looking to improve, not solve. We’re looking to our own jobs, not anyone else’s jobs. Salvation isn’t coming in the form of the big picture here. Instead, we progress by working with the now, the details, giving full attention to the immediate, in-the-present-moment doing our best. Everything else sorts itself.

Just work your way through what is right in front of you and let the rest of the world (your world or the bigger world, doesn’t matter) sort itself. I’m not saying don’t care. You just express your cares here by how you live your own self. Yuo know? Your life is, in itself, the art you’re making.

If you want some help sorting it out, give me a holler and we’ll see about a one-on-one.

Page of Cups: Turning Down the Judgey

I have resolved to be less judgemental.

Not that I think of myself as particularly judgemental. I am not.  If I were shooting for a below-the-mean-rate of judgmentalness, I’ve have it sewn up already.

But when I recently found myself feeling super judgey at folks whom I perceived to be super judgey, the irony wasn’t lost on me. Being judgey at anybody for their judgmentalness makes me one of the judgey! Once you’ve seen this…well, it can’t very well be unseen.

I’d say the results of this personal campaign are mixed.

Most of the time, it’s not too hard. Every person on the planet has their own bag of weirdness, issues and what-have-you. It’s not a big struggle to guess that almost all of them are doing the best they can with whatever neurons are firing off in their heads.

Even those that don’t appear to be doing the best they can, who is to say? Righteousness is subjective and the level of individual certainty on the matter is irrelevant. I don’t trust someone to be right just because they are sure. I look inside for that.

So much of life now seems to be comprised of people lining up to declare what they are for and against, or perhaps it’s “who” instead of “what.” Nobody needs my vote here.

Of course I have my own standards of right and wrong. Maintaining my own standards are my job and one in which I do my best to excel. Nonetheless, other people’s standards are theirs to maintain…and ne’er the twain shall meet.

I initially started this practice because I don’t like feeling judged; I realized if I don’t want it done to me, I also need to avoid doing it to others. It’s the same thing, no matter what side of the table you are sitting on. But I realized as I’ve been working on this a while, it’s also given me a greater sense of freedom. I don’t have to be outraged or convince anyone of anything. I choose to just be the best “me” I can me. That is my contribution to the whole.

If I assume the best and ignore what I consider worst, I am happier. I have less outrage to manage and I can focus on the energy that is most pleasant and important to me. For me, that’s a win. For you? It’s up to you to decide! But I will say, next week looks like this approach would be well-advised.

Next Week in Tarot

Page of Cups: Turning Down the Judgey 2

The outlook this week in Understanding reversed (Page of Cups), with Projections (Seven of Cups) as advice from the Osho Zen Tarot.

We may hear things people say, but we don’t necessarily get how they’re feeling. Perceived meaning has a lot more to do with us than with them. This is both a personal and collective phenomena.

So understand, assumptions are what we’ve got to work with. Just realize any given assumption says more about the assumer than anything else. So why not choose the assumption that works best for you?

If a call doesn’t come or an email is not returned, why not just assume it isn’t personal? Why not say, “Oh, things must have gotten busy?” over, “Oh, this person doesn’t care about me?”

If I don’t agree with someone…I can listen to see where they’re coming from. I can ignore it and turn my attention elsewhere. I can note the difference and just move on. I’m not required to beat them over the head with my own perspective. Knowing this sure makes it a lot easier to interact with other humans.

I haven’t completely escaped the tendency to be judgemental or those flashes where I assume the worst about someone else or their intentions, towards me or not. But I’m making progress. And that’s all I expect from myself.

Do you usually try to assume the best of others?

Want a personal consult? Give me a holler and we’ll talk.

Nine of Cups: Self-Validating Unicorns

I’ve been noticing with special clarity lately how vastly dependent “good” and “bad” is on perspective.

It’s always been there. What’s fat or skinny, what’s rich or poor? And yes, even what’s good or bad–it’s all completely subjective. I’ve done enough weight loss support and talked to enough Tarot clients to say this without hesitation!

What’s more, these designations will alter not based upon the circumstance, but ALWAYS based on the in-the-moment perspective of the individual.

The job that seemed utterly perfect at one point may be considered the worst ever at another point (or even another point in the same week).  Same for the relationship or the house or the car or whatever it is you’re concerned with at any given moment. People I consider thin may worry about their weight. People who seem rich to me can be upset about money. It’s an internal state, NOT an external one.

And however you feel is however you feel and there is no rightness or wrongness about that. It just is.

And it makes sense to make peace with wherever you are at, because what choice do you have? It’s current. It’s where you are at. Feeling crummy about it doesn’t change it. It just makes it harder to change it.

That’s not equivalent to resignation, by the way. It’s actually what unsticks you, not anchors.

Being at peace with where you are gives you a choice where you go with it. You can lean into whatever feels a little better, a little more satisfying, from wherever you’re at. That can be steered with just a little effort, caring about feeling better over other considerations. Choosing the thoughts you follow based on what soothes.

Or you can lean into worry and tension and upset. It’s always up to you, which way you lean from where you’re at.

And I’m not going to tell you one is right and one is wrong, because I don’t see the world that way. But I will tell you, one feels better. That’s the one I like to pick.

And that’s the topic of the Tarot forecast for next week.

Next Week in the Cards

Nine of Cups: Self-Validating Unicorns 3

This week, for outlook we have the Nine of Cups (Water) with advice coming in as the Seven of Wands (Fire) from The Good Tarot.

Now, the Nine of Cups is definitely a card of satisfaction–a wish being fulfilled. (Were you wishing for Mercury to go direct? Granted!) So I would expect to have some relief in the coming week if you’ve been struggling. And if not, still expect there to be icing on your cake, okay? This looks good to me.

Interesting in terms of advice, though…that Seven of Wands. To keep the “satisfaction vibe” active, you may have to reject or ward off the opinions of others. This is easier to do than you may appear at first glance, but it definitely takes practice.

What someone else thinks of you? Doesn’t matter. Whether or not anybody else agrees on what’s best? Doesn’t matter. Who approves of what or how many people sign on to your vision? NONE of this matters, not even one tiny little bit.

Insecurity fuels seeking outside validation. That’s a short-lived reassurance because it can and does change based on where someone else is at, at any given moment. The only lasting form of security comes from within. There is no other route.

You be your fancy, unique Unicorn self and *%#% the rest of anything else, okay?

Take care out there!

And if you want a one-on-one check to clear your head here, give me a holler.

Seven of Wands: Fighting for the Right, Personally

There’s a lot of talk right now about right and wrong.  So much disagreement, with so much passion!  Like everybody else, I have my own ideas of what’s what. But not-like-everybody-else, my ideas in that regard are mostly kept to myself. I seldom share the specifics.

That doesn’t mean I don’t further what I truly believe is right, though. The upcoming Taort forecast answers exactly how to do that.

Next Week in Tarot

Seven of Wands: Fighting for the Right, Personally 4

For the weekly outlook, we have the Seven of Wands, with advice coming from The Empress from the lovely Star Tarot Deck.

Now, I always think of the Seven of Wands as representing a stand-your-ground sort of vibe. Entrenched in your own vision of what’s right, you fight off any who would seek to topple your own moral authority.

But a lot of people misunderstand this card. The Seven of Wands is a very personal type of fight. We’re not talking about controlling what the rest of the world does here. We’re talking about maintaining your dominion over your personal values and morality.

The deck author describes this card as representing a conflict between inner values and outer reality, and that’s a wonderfully apt characterization. There is a sense of isolation or mismatch with this card. What you see around you, what’s expected of you and what you feel is right may not match up this week.

You may have to put your foot down. But understand this is not a call for global activism. It’s a call to live true to your own values despite whatever forces are rumbling to the contrary. Forcing others to go along with your morals is not only ill-advised but impossible. But living according to your own morals? That’s do-able.

So with that in mind, I absolutely love the Empress showing up for advice.  She’s not telling us to fight for what we believe is right. She tells us to live it instead! That’s a whole lot more effective. Instead of fighting for what you don’t want, give birth to what you do.

If I want to live in a world that’s loving and respectful, guess what? Yelling at those who I don’t consider to be loving and respectful doesn’t really further the cause, you know? It just turns me into what I’m railing against. On the other hand, by practicing and embodying the qualities of love and respect even in situations where it may be challenging, I am actually giving birth to a tiny piece of the world I want to live in. I’m being it.

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There is a huge amount of dissatisfaction coming from many, many different quarters. Instead of getting upset over what doesn’t resonate for you, channel it into inspiration for what you’d rather give birth to instead.

Create what you want, first in your own life where it grows to influence others as well. You’re no less a warrior approaching change from the inside out. Even better, you’ll feel the difference immediately.

Are you feeling this? 

If you’d like to discuss how to make changes in your own life, give me a holler for a one-on-one.

 

8 of Wands Rx: Just in time?

Thoughts about time have been rolling around in my brain lately. The feelings of pressure to get it done. Or the worry over how long it takes. The guilt over not doing it yet. The longing and wondering, if it will ever happen. Of course, there’s also the swift flight of time when I’m having fun or the surprise at learning what day of the week it actually is.

Because yes, that happens. I know it’s not just me. 

I have a million and two ideas of things I want to do. Additionally, there are some I feel I need to do or should do, but one could argue I need to clear up my energy on those subjects. And I wouldn’t disagree. But that’s okay, too. It’s not my job to be perfect.

I’m very blessed to be in a position of working with my natural rhythms and cycles. This helps everything so much! To the extent you’re able, it’s a great idea to honor that. And it would be a great idea to be especially mindful of your own cycles and doing your best to roll with them over the next week.

Hint, hint! 

Next week in Tarot

8 of Wands Rx: Just in time? 5

The Eight of Wands reversed tells us what to expect, with the Queen of Wands lends a regal presence as advice from the colorful Tarot Illuminati. I’m getting this as temporal disruptions. Like it may feel like time is out of whack: either worries that unwanted situations will never end or anxiety that your world is moving too fast to manage. Either way, the question of “how long?” doesn’t have an obvious answer and it may be disconcerting. Feeling out of sync and a little disoriented is to be expected in such circumstance.

But that Queen of Wands is very clear: no compromise and no fear. If one door closes, another will open. This isn’t a blind hope, but more a knowing. The task at hand is to remain clear, focused and purposeful. Let no setback bother you! Nor do you need to worry over readiness. Your job, next week (and always) is not lining up the particulars. Instead, get your energy lined up! Clear energy helps you easily navigate the particulars just as surely as muddy energy attracts a muddled mess.

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To stay sharp and focused, be mindful of your own cycles and need to recharge. I see people so often, cussin’ and fussin’ at themselves because the whole power-through approach wears them down. To stay in the groove, you need downtime. You need replenishment. You need at least a little bit of quiet and rest and good food to support your physical apparatus. It makes a world of difference.

Good timing isn’t luck or chance. It’s a predictable outcome of tuning in to your intuition. Like any other skill, it’s greatly enhanced by regular practice. The key is a light touch, not being too emotionally wrapped up in the question. Detaching a little. Don’t expect the answer as you ask the question. Let it go and allow the Universe to deliver it up to you instead. If you’re willing to let the Universe lead that dance, it will.

Is your time feeling fluid lately?

I expect to be offering the 2019 Zodiac Look-Ahead readings until the end of the year. It’s a keep-able mp3 format with pictures of your cards, forecasting on all the major areas of your life for the coming year. If you’d like one, shoot me $50 and I’ll put you on the list.

I’m (Not) Offended

I do my best to avoid being offended. Like, ever. For anything.

That doesn’t mean nothing is offensive. I mean, c’mon. There is plenty to be offended about. (There’s also plenty to be joyful about, but that’s a different conversation.)

Counting myself out of the ranks of offended is also not out of some glowing-holy kindness to all the asshats of the world.

I don’t like being offended. It feels like a loss of control to me.

If I find myself bothered by what someone else is doing, if a feeling of offense grows, then I’m enslaved to the notion the situation must be altered for me to be happy and whole. Eek! Because how often does that end well, hmm?

If you require outside cooperation to be happy, you’re screwed.  Freedom comes from being grounded to who YOU are, no matter what sort of asshattery is going down. Freedom is knowing one’s worth so clearly, outside confirmation would be superfluous.

I won’t say I never find myself uttering a gasp or getting a little hot flash. I just don’t roll in it. I move on as soon as I possibly can. Because really, who wants to pay attention to that sort of crap? I can stand around sniffing the trash or I can look for the flowers to smell. There’s plenty of both in the world.

If I don’t worry so much about what other people are doing. I’ve found my life goes a lot smoother. Offense by its nature puts you in a place of being tied to how other people are doing. I’ve got a limited amount of time to frolic upon this Earth. You can be damn sure I’m going to spend it having the best time I can conjure.

Offended or not, be well, friends.

Signed Dix “I’m Not Challenging You to Offend Me Now” Zen Goddess

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