Nine of Cups: Self-Validating Unicorns

I’ve been noticing with special clarity lately how vastly dependent “good” and “bad” is on perspective.

It’s always been there. What’s fat or skinny, what’s rich or poor? And yes, even what’s good or bad–it’s all completely subjective. I’ve done enough weight loss support and talked to enough Tarot clients to say this without hesitation!

What’s more, these designations will alter not based upon the circumstance, but ALWAYS based on the in-the-moment perspective of the individual.

The job that seemed utterly perfect at one point may be considered the worst ever at another point (or even another point in the same week).  Same for the relationship or the house or the car or whatever it is you’re concerned with at any given moment. People I consider thin may worry about their weight. People who seem rich to me can be upset about money. It’s an internal state, NOT an external one.

And however you feel is however you feel and there is no rightness or wrongness about that. It just is.

And it makes sense to make peace with wherever you are at, because what choice do you have? It’s current. It’s where you are at. Feeling crummy about it doesn’t change it. It just makes it harder to change it.

That’s not equivalent to resignation, by the way. It’s actually what unsticks you, not anchors.

Being at peace with where you are gives you a choice where you go with it. You can lean into whatever feels a little better, a little more satisfying, from wherever you’re at. That can be steered with just a little effort, caring about feeling better over other considerations. Choosing the thoughts you follow based on what soothes.

Or you can lean into worry and tension and upset. It’s always up to you, which way you lean from where you’re at.

And I’m not going to tell you one is right and one is wrong, because I don’t see the world that way. But I will tell you, one feels better. That’s the one I like to pick.

And that’s the topic of the Tarot forecast for next week.

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This week, for outlook we have the Nine of Cups (Water) with advice coming in as the Seven of Wands (Fire) from The Good Tarot.

Now, the Nine of Cups is definitely a card of satisfaction–a wish being fulfilled. (Were you wishing for Mercury to go direct? Granted!) So I would expect to have some relief in the coming week if you’ve been struggling. And if not, still expect there to be icing on your cake, okay? This looks good to me.

Interesting in terms of advice, though…that Seven of Wands. To keep the “satisfaction vibe” active, you may have to reject or ward off the opinions of others. This is easier to do than you may appear at first glance, but it definitely takes practice.

What someone else thinks of you? Doesn’t matter. Whether or not anybody else agrees on what’s best? Doesn’t matter. Who approves of what or how many people sign on to your vision? NONE of this matters, not even one tiny little bit.

Insecurity fuels seeking outside validation. That’s a short-lived reassurance because it can and does change based on where someone else is at, at any given moment. The only lasting form of security comes from within. There is no other route.

You be your fancy, unique Unicorn self and *%#% the rest of anything else, okay?

Take care out there!

And if you want a one-on-one check to clear your head here, give me a holler.

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Seven of Wands: Fighting for the Right, Personally

There’s a lot of talk right now about right and wrong.  So much disagreement, with so much passion!  Like everybody else, I have my own ideas of what’s what. But not-like-everybody-else, my ideas in that regard are mostly kept to myself. I seldom share the specifics.

That doesn’t mean I don’t further what I truly believe is right, though. The upcoming Taort forecast answers exactly how to do that.

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For the weekly outlook, we have the Seven of Wands, with advice coming from The Empress from the lovely Star Tarot Deck.

Now, I always think of the Seven of Wands as representing a stand-your-ground sort of vibe. Entrenched in your own vision of what’s right, you fight off any who would seek to topple your own moral authority.

But a lot of people misunderstand this card. The Seven of Wands is a very personal type of fight. We’re not talking about controlling what the rest of the world does here. We’re talking about maintaining your dominion over your personal values and morality.

The deck author describes this card as representing a conflict between inner values and outer reality, and that’s a wonderfully apt characterization. There is a sense of isolation or mismatch with this card. What you see around you, what’s expected of you and what you feel is right may not match up this week.

You may have to put your foot down. But understand this is not a call for global activism. It’s a call to live true to your own values despite whatever forces are rumbling to the contrary. Forcing others to go along with your morals is not only ill-advised but impossible. But living according to your own morals? That’s do-able.

So with that in mind, I absolutely love the Empress showing up for advice.  She’s not telling us to fight for what we believe is right. She tells us to live it instead! That’s a whole lot more effective. Instead of fighting for what you don’t want, give birth to what you do.

If I want to live in a world that’s loving and respectful, guess what? Yelling at those who I don’t consider to be loving and respectful doesn’t really further the cause, you know? It just turns me into what I’m railing against. On the other hand, by practicing and embodying the qualities of love and respect even in situations where it may be challenging, I am actually giving birth to a tiny piece of the world I want to live in. I’m being it.

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There is a huge amount of dissatisfaction coming from many, many different quarters. Instead of getting upset over what doesn’t resonate for you, channel it into inspiration for what you’d rather give birth to instead.

Create what you want, first in your own life where it grows to influence others as well. You’re no less a warrior approaching change from the inside out. Even better, you’ll feel the difference immediately.

Are you feeling this? 

If you’d like to discuss how to make changes in your own life, give me a holler for a one-on-one.

 

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8 of Wands Rx: Just in time?

Thoughts about time have been rolling around in my brain lately. The feelings of pressure to get it done. Or the worry over how long it takes. The guilt over not doing it yet. The longing and wondering, if it will ever happen. Of course, there’s also the swift flight of time when I’m having fun or the surprise at learning what day of the week it actually is.

Because yes, that happens. I know it’s not just me. 

I have a million and two ideas of things I want to do. Additionally, there are some I feel I need to do or should do, but one could argue I need to clear up my energy on those subjects. And I wouldn’t disagree. But that’s okay, too. It’s not my job to be perfect.

I’m very blessed to be in a position of working with my natural rhythms and cycles. This helps everything so much! To the extent you’re able, it’s a great idea to honor that. And it would be a great idea to be especially mindful of your own cycles and doing your best to roll with them over the next week.

Hint, hint! 

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The Eight of Wands reversed tells us what to expect, with the Queen of Wands lends a regal presence as advice from the colorful Tarot Illuminati. I’m getting this as temporal disruptions. Like it may feel like time is out of whack: either worries that unwanted situations will never end or anxiety that your world is moving too fast to manage. Either way, the question of “how long?” doesn’t have an obvious answer and it may be disconcerting. Feeling out of sync and a little disoriented is to be expected in such circumstance.

But that Queen of Wands is very clear: no compromise and no fear. If one door closes, another will open. This isn’t a blind hope, but more a knowing. The task at hand is to remain clear, focused and purposeful. Let no setback bother you! Nor do you need to worry over readiness. Your job, next week (and always) is not lining up the particulars. Instead, get your energy lined up! Clear energy helps you easily navigate the particulars just as surely as muddy energy attracts a muddled mess.

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To stay sharp and focused, be mindful of your own cycles and need to recharge. I see people so often, cussin’ and fussin’ at themselves because the whole power-through approach wears them down. To stay in the groove, you need downtime. You need replenishment. You need at least a little bit of quiet and rest and good food to support your physical apparatus. It makes a world of difference.

Good timing isn’t luck or chance. It’s a predictable outcome of tuning in to your intuition. Like any other skill, it’s greatly enhanced by regular practice. The key is a light touch, not being too emotionally wrapped up in the question. Detaching a little. Don’t expect the answer as you ask the question. Let it go and allow the Universe to deliver it up to you instead. If you’re willing to let the Universe lead that dance, it will.

Is your time feeling fluid lately?

I expect to be offering the 2019 Zodiac Look-Ahead readings until the end of the year. It’s a keep-able mp3 format with pictures of your cards, forecasting on all the major areas of your life for the coming year. If you’d like one, shoot me $50 and I’ll put you on the list.

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I’m (Not) Offended

I do my best to avoid being offended. Like, ever. For anything.

That doesn’t mean nothing is offensive. I mean, c’mon. There is plenty to be offended about. (There’s also plenty to be joyful about, but that’s a different conversation.)

Counting myself out of the ranks of offended is also not out of some glowing-holy kindness to all the asshats of the world.

I don’t like being offended. It feels like a loss of control to me.

If I find myself bothered by what someone else is doing, if a feeling of offense grows, then I’m enslaved to the notion the situation must be altered for me to be happy and whole. Eek! Because how often does that end well, hmm?

If you require outside cooperation to be happy, you’re screwed.  Freedom comes from being grounded to who YOU are, no matter what sort of asshattery is going down. Freedom is knowing one’s worth so clearly, outside confirmation would be superfluous.

I won’t say I never find myself uttering a gasp or getting a little hot flash. I just don’t roll in it. I move on as soon as I possibly can. Because really, who wants to pay attention to that sort of crap? I can stand around sniffing the trash or I can look for the flowers to smell. There’s plenty of both in the world.

If I don’t worry so much about what other people are doing. I’ve found my life goes a lot smoother. Offense by its nature puts you in a place of being tied to how other people are doing. I’ve got a limited amount of time to frolic upon this Earth. You can be damn sure I’m going to spend it having the best time I can conjure.

Offended or not, be well, friends.

Signed Dix “I’m Not Challenging You to Offend Me Now” Zen Goddess

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Real Healers? Sort Of.

“You’re a healer,” the reader says decidedly, looking down at the worn deck of playing cards spread out on the cloth before her.

“Yes,” I nod.

“A very good one…” she adds, looking surprised.

“Thank you,” I said.  I wasn’t sure what else to say about that.

I don’t introduce myself as a healer, but it’s not uncommon for readers to describe me as such, just as this reader at a recent psychic fair. I do understand what she’s talking about. But the designation of “Healer-with-a-capital-H” is harder for me. It’s not a way I usually think of myself.

I usually just think about it as “having good energy.” I can comfortably own that. I’m very good at encouraging people who are open to and seeking encouragement.

Maybe that’s what healing actually is. Encouragement.

Healer is a funny term, the way it’s most commonly used. It implies one person–the “healer”–somehow works some sort of magic on another person–the “patient,” I guess, or the wounded one–to afford an improvement. The patient is in need of help, and the healer gives that help. There is a suggestion the healer is strong and well, and the to-be-healed is not. The healer is supposed to fix the wounded one. Except that’s not how I see it at all.

I cannot fix anybody! I don’t try to fix anybody. I don’t even try to fix myself, for God’s sakes.

There’s a very simple reason for this. I don’t see anyone as broken. 

I do understand people hurt. They struggle  They may be in physical or emotional pain. They want changes. They want to feel better. I can often help facilitate that, but I always understand implicitly, I’m only a helper here. Like an amplifier, I can turn up the natural signal of their well-being by clear focus.

What I do–getting grounded and centered, plugging in for divine inspiration and insight and translating what I receive–is a process available to literally everyone on the planet. EVERYONE. No exceptions.

You don’t have to be some kind of glow-in-the-dark-holy-special-gifted-with-the-sight-at-birth-psychic-healer to do this. It’s easier when you’re calm, and harder when you’re upset.  It’s helpful to have your own energy focused as a matter of practice and to be clear about your intention. Your beliefs and attitudes will influence what processes you may choose to do this There infinite ways to approach it and some habits definitely make it easier. But it’s not a special gift given unto a select few. And you already do it, probably a whole lot more than you realize.

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Those times when you know just what to do or to say, when the perfect words are inspired to you? Those times when you lean into self-care, or comfort a friend or make a comment or come to a realization about how to approach a topic? You are tuning in. That’s all that it is. That is “healing” energy in a nutshell. It’s being connected and inspired.

I have some skill at execution for sure, probably due to years of study and practice. I prioritize my connection because, with that connection, everything else works better. It’s more important to me to maintain my connection than it is to please anyone else. That all helps tremendously, but it’s not something only I can do. I’ve made a practice of it, but you can, too. Literally, any person on the planet can choose to do this for themselves.

When I’m working with someone one-on-one, I’m not reaching for a way to mend them. I don’t mend what I don’t see as broken. Do I hope to help them improve their experiences? Of course!  There is certainly more and less comfortable. There’s happiness and pain. There’s easy and hard. I know which ones I prefer, as do the people I work with. But there is not broken and whole, at least to me.

When I work with someone, I’m reaching for insights: information, tidbits or advice that will be of practical use. I’m looking to serve as an amplifier for an individual’s strengths and abilities. I’m asking for perspective and wisdom to shine light upon what someone already knows within their own heart. In my world, healers are not those gifted in furrowing out dysfunction and magically correcting it. I guess I think of “healers” as those particularly skilled at tuning in to an individual’s goodness and helping to amplify that by recognizing and reflecting it.

Healers don’t heal people. People heal themselves. It’s up to the individuals involved, however, how they attribute the outcomes.

Personally, I consider it an incredible honor to be able to participate at all. I feel good about my role in it, but I’m certainly not going to take credit for it. The credit always goes to the individual who is doing the real heavy lifting by adjusting their own vibration.

So in the sense I hold steady in my own connection (which allows me to help influence those looking for to shift their own energy), I guess I’m a “healer.” Or maybe it would be more accurate to say, I’m a helper. I’m a professional encourager. And yeah, I do think I’m good at it.

Whatever you call it, it’s an incredibly rewarding line of work.

What do you think being a healer is all about?

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Four of Cups: Flowers in the Weeds

When life is not coming up roses, look to the weeds and find the beauty hidden within them. –L.F.  Young

What do you do, when life is not cruising along in line with your preferences? 

Maybe you sell for a living, and the world doesn’t seem to be buying. Or maybe you got a new job, and it’s just not what you’d hoped.  Maybe your relationship isn’t full of relating. Or maybe your kids are giving you fits. Whatever you’re looking at you don’t like, and it’s got you wound up in knots.

But here’s where it gets interesting. You have a choice, in every given moment.

You can focus on what’s wrong and work up a full-blown emotional explosion. You just start ramping up what you don’t like in your head and it grows.  Or you can reach for whatever feels the least little bit better and look for some beauty in the weeds.

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How you feel about an unwanted situation is never, ever dictated by that situation. It cannot be by definition, because reaction is never external. A sense of well-being is not something that life bestows upon us, by doling out superior circumstances.

We generate our own happiness, through actively and consciously focusing on what pleases us, what we appreciate in any situation. This has nothing to do with outer circumstances and everything to do with what we practice every day.

We give the outside world far too much credit for (and therefore, too much control over) the state of our own well-being. Well-being is always an inside job, friends. When you don’t like what’s in front of you, fair enough. Your flowers aren’t blooming. You’re in the middle of the weeds. So start looking for the beauty there. Understand when life isn’t flowing smoothly, you are getting a nudge–maybe a hard nudge–to shift your energy. And that’s truly a helpful thing.

If we habitually complain and fuss (even internally) about everything that’s wrong in our world? Rough times are going to hit harder.  But if we have a habit of looking for the beauty anyplace we can find it, weeds or not? Life feels better, right then and there.

The less it feels like you have to appreciate in a given moment, the more important it is to do just that.

It helps. Every single time, it helps.

Next week in Tarot: Dream it Up

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We have the Four of Cups (or 4 of Water from the Good Tarot) and the Venice Mallow Hibiscus from the Botanical Inspirations deck: Delicate, Fleeting Beauty.

I just got back from flower shopping with my daughter. She took home/dixiblog/domains/afoolsjourney.com/public_html some Hibiscus that was speaking to her. Hibiscus is associated with love, dreams and divination. The Venice Mallow variety is sometimes known as the “Flower-of-an-hour” because of the short time it opens its blooms in the morning.

If you see a bloom? Take it in, right then and there.

The Four of Cups is always a dreamy energy–here, we’re considering what we don’t have, or perhaps imagining what we might want. You are the dreamer of this dream. It’s up to you to guide it.

This week, I expect we’ll have opportunities to dream up, or dream down wherever we are standing. This active steering of attention and imagination is a very effective way of flowing energy.  Make a practice of putting out what you want to get, because that’s how you tune this. And a very easy way to find the sweet spot here is looking for the good, the flowers, wherever you are.

Weeds or not, look for the flowers!

Are you finding flowers in your weeds?

If you want some support re-orienting, give me a holler for a one-on-one.

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