Judgement & Nine of Wands: Prepping for Fresh Starts

Merry Christmas, Blessed Solstice, and Happy Whatever-You-Celebrate! As we wind up 2018, I’m feeling excited about the fresh start and renewed optimism a new year implies. Wrapping up this year’s energy is naturally part of that mix.

I’ve been getting pings lately to rush less and allow things to unfold at their natural pace. The rushing itself and interpreting my progress as insufficient is the issue, not the actual pace. In fact, what I’m hearing here is that things will actually progress more quickly and smoothly if I drop the angst factor.

Of course, I’m sure I’m the only one who does that. HAHAHA! –Tarot reader joke.

Another tidbit from the 2019 Look-Ahead Zodiac reading themes: let other people have their own processes, while you have yours. Don’t contort your behavior to fit into someone else’s ideal or to garner approval. It’s not sustainable. Likewise, don’t try to enact solutions for other people’s worries. Let them have their path, while you have yours. The biggest support you can give anyone is believing in their ability to navigate their own life. This helps shore them up a million times better than any “fixing” you can do.

This all flows very nicely into what Tarot has to say here.

Next Week In Tarot

We’ve got Judgement as the outlook, with the Nine of Wands coming in for advice from the Star Tarot. I followed up with a draw from the Botanical Inspirations deck, and we got a lovely Gerber Daisy.

I always think of Judgement as a path to clarity. Ironically, I usually read this card as being decidedly “non-judgemental” in the sense of not assigning blame. It’s more of an observational thing, where what has been planted is bearing fruit and you can determine what works and what does not. This isn’t so much about right or wrong as it is informational. All information is good information, you know?

The same theme is echoed in the advice we’re getting with the Nine of Wands. This version features the black and white wolves–what we would consider shadow and light. We couldn’t see light without shadow. It’s all part of the same whole. While there is an inevitable sense of being tired with this card, it also lets us know that standing your ground is indeed possible and that the situation(s) it refers to are close to being resolved. Tarot Nines are indicative of nearing the end of a cycle. So let that knowledge shore you up!

Finally, we’ve got our lovely Daisies, standing for “purity, cheerfulness & innocence.” It’s a powerful attitude, and one I try to embody as much as I can manage.

Don’t be quick to judge yourself (or anyone else) as “good” or “bad” this week. People are where they are, and that includes YOU! I’ve found I am most likely to look upon others as lacking when I’m feeling that way about myself and I can’t be the only one. Moreover, what looks “bad” at first glance can really lead to wonderful improvements in the big picture.

Let other people do what they do and wish them as well as you can as they do it, regardless of whether or not you’d approve. Keep steadfast to what rings true to your heart of course. And always, expect things to work out. Good and bad are in the eye of the beholder, you know?

Are you prepping for a fresh start?

p.s. Last call for the 2019 Zodiac Year-Ahead readings! If you want an overview of what to expect next year in audio format (with a keep-able mp3) and pictures of your cards to guide your upcoming year, just shoot me $50 on Paypal and I’ll put you on the list. I’m doing pretty well with staying caught up, so there’s not a long wait.

Helping with an Open Heart: Knight of Cups

I’ve been actively seeking a kinder, more loving perspective. I don’t believe I’m terribly lacking in that regard. But there’s always room for improvement. And I really like the way it feels. So I want more of it.

This process hasn’t been quite as obvious as I expected at first.

For example, I used to think helping others was more or less always an act of kindness. Of course, it’s not.

You cannot divorce your own values and needs from your interactions with others. Even if your intention is not about manipulation or enforcing your own worldview, it’s impossible to remove the “you” from the equation. We have no other vantage point than self.

You can empathize and imagine and intend from now until kingdom come. But you can never truly put yourself in another’s shoes because you are you, with your own unique blend of energy, experience and conclusions.

Helping behavior can be motivated from the discomfort or frustration of seeing matters not handled to personal standards. It can be motivated from distress over vicariously experiencing struggle, or fear for the person involved, or worry about being on the hook to help rectify unpleasant outcomes. All of this can come into play even without us noticing.  See how it’s difficult to keep the intention pure?

But what’s really sticking with me more than anything is the realization of the implications. Leaping to action whenever someone appears to be in the slightest need says as much as anything, “I don’t trust you are up to this task.” And that’s not the message I want to send anybody!

I’ve come to see it as a much greater service to express my faith in the other person’s capacity. That’s what I want to bolster. They have access to the same connection I do–plugging in and receiving divine inspiration. Their conclusions and solutions may not look like mine. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t right, for them.

My goal here isn’t just to butt out of other people’s business. It’s more about keeping my own heart open and trusting that everything in the universe is where it needs to be. It’s understanding I don’t have all the answers, but I’m not called to provide all the answers.

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It’s taking more time for me to apply this on a larger scale. I see many things in the world that don’t suit my idea of righteous or good.  That doesn’t mean those things aren’t contributing to a greater whole. It only means that I don’t know how.

I used to feel the need to classify everything into categories of right or wrong, good or bad, wanted or unwanted. Social media amplifies this dynamic. But life isn’t so dichotomous.

What if we tried to view everything, personally appealing or not, as having a meaningful contribution in the greater tapestry of humanity? What if we trusted everything is always all right?

In the big picture, that’s exactly what I see.

This week features the Messenger of Water (aka Knight of Cups) from The Good Tarot, along with the Gerbera Daisy from Botanical Inspirations: Purity, Cheerfulness and Innocence. We’ve seen that daisy before.

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive you will see it.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

Try assuming the best, for and about everyone. Take responsibility for your own decisions and only your own decisions. Of course, you can be supportive and helpful. Sometimes that is your role! And it’s a lovely role to play, when that happens. But make sure that helping is invited and done with the desire to be of service instead of “fixing.” Then, your efforts should hit their mark. You can send out love anywhere. And sometimes? The most loving thing you can do is trust the rest of the world (or just your little corner) to right itself.

If you’d like to take a closer look at your life and get yourself back into the flow, give me a holler for a one-on-one session.