Empress & Queen of Fire: Heart has the Answers

I’ve been thinking about how much more complicated life becomes when trying to accommodate other people’s wishes for us.

Damn near everyone has very specific notions of how they’d like to see us behave. Even strangers! But that doesn’t mean it’s a sound idea to acquiesce no matter who it’s coming from.

Trouble is, nobody else can make you happy. You cannot make anyone else happy. For each individual, happiness is a choice. We have no control over how anyone thinks or what they want from us. So why nominate ourselves to manage it?

There is generally self-deception in jumping through hoops to please others. We tell ourselves we’re hoping to make that person happy or spare them some discomfort. We want to make things better. We tell ourselves they need us to fix something or that it’s our responsibility to do what’s demanded of us.

The discomfort that’s avoided is actually personal. If we do what we’re “supposed to do,” then we can take that as proof we’re a good person. If we jump through hoops to please or save another, then we can tell ourselves we’re being kind and loving and helpful.

But kindness and love and caring are not actions–they are states of being. Specifically, they are states of being that don’t require a committee to achieve.

To be a loving person, feel love. To be a kind person, think kind thoughts. To be a supportive person, believe in those you would encourage.  You become who you are by way of the feelings you feed, which in turn informs the actions you choose to take.

I see this as so much easier than I used to. I get my feelings on straight FIRST. Then, I see what actions feel best in my heart, where I feel inspired, what most closely reflects what I actually feel good about.

Nobody else needs a vote.

Next week, I’d recommend that approach.

Next Week in Tarot

This week’s forecast comes in the maternal form of the Empress, with advice as the Queen of Wands (here, Fire) from the Good Tarot.

Think in terms of the world being pregnant with potential. Lots being birthed and unearthed and coming into being right now.

And what do we do in the midst of all this? The Queen of Fire is unequivocal: follow your passion. Let your heart guide you.

I woke up with this song playing loud on the psychic soundtrack.

For me, it just reinforces the theme of self-direction. One aside, however: considering the topic of this song and the Empress showing up, be aware of the potential for pregnancy. ‘Nuff said.

Follow your heart. It won’t lead you astray.

If you’d like a personal Tarot check-in, find me here. And have a good week, friends!

 

 

 

 

Empress Rx: Rough Birth

As I write this, I’m still neck deep in a personal web project that was supposed to take a couple of days. It’s been over a week of hammering away and I’m still not there. I’m close, but not there. It’s also looking like I may need to go diving deep into databases, code and all sorts of techie muck.

It also reminds me why I quit doing tech work for other people. The end result will still be worth it, but I’m not loving the getting there part as much as I’d like. While I doubt anybody reading this is in the same boat as me exactly, I would not be surprised if you had some similar feelings about something important to you going down in your life.

And you know why I wouldn’t be surprised? These cards.

Next Week in Tarot

This week, we have the Empress reversed for the general outlook, along with Temperance for the advice from the gorgeous Star Tarot Deck. (Isn’t this a great deck? The cards are very large, oversized, so it’s clumsy as all get-out to shuffle but I think it would make a fabulous deck for pathworking if it’s catching your fancy.)

I want to say something’s just not working and it’s draining to boot. Your me-time may get put on hold to some degree or another while it’s sorted. Like a “breech birth” of a project or intentions. It’s coming out, yes, but all upside down!

But not all is lost. You can and do get helpful clarification through addressing what’s going wrong for sure, and you can use that to make the end result better.

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Take some of what you wanted and some of what you didn’t and mix them together to make a better mix. Temperance is particularly suggestive of taking advice or listening to other opinions as well. Consider inspiration and input from unlikely or unrelated sources, as they are likely to hold a key piece of the puzzle. You can take disparate pieces to make a surprisingly cohesive whole.

Just remember as you plug your way through whatever you’ve got to plug your way through, it’s all okay. It WILL work out and you’ll get back to where you want to be. Take a deep breath and be still a moment. Listen for inspiration. Be aware you may be getting helpful hints from outside sources, either directly or indirectly, with a word or comment that can inspire solutions. Don’t let your self-care completely go, even if you have to adjust what and how much for a minute.

Hang in there! The end will be better for it, even if the middle isn’t quite what you want.

Are you feeling this? I hope not but either way, it will work out. Okay?

Be well, friends.

p.s. If you’d like to hook up with me for a one-on-one, just give a holler.

 

Empress: Self Love Blooms Us

He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still. – Lao Tzu

I’ve always loved that quote, because I’ve always felt the truth of it. Self-mastery also feels a lot better and is far more reliable than needing to wrangle outside forces to comply.

“‘Needing to wrangle outside forces to comply’ is euphemism for ‘parenting,'” says Dixie’s brain. 

If you trust the world to spin properly without personal input, if you just let yourself love, knowing the Universe works out the important bits? Then you don’t need to tilt the world just so to feel happy and confident and safe within it.

If you peace is internal, nobody can touch it. That’s freedom.

And the trust? It includes trusting in yourself.

Now is enough. You are enough. Doing what you know how to do, in the place you happen to be right now? It’s enough.

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This Week in Oracles

Here we have “Nurture,” aka the Empress from the Tarot of the Heart. She’s very fertile, in every sense of the word. Creation and regeneration are her very important tasks. She’s couple with Nasturtium, associated with “Victory & Conquest” from the Botanical Inspirations Oracle. She knows how to bring her intentions to life.

One thing you’ll never find the Empress doing is criticizing herself. She hasn’t energy for that! Self-criticism is a weed in the garden that chokes out the blossoms. She’s not going to dilute her creative energy by eating away at her own power.

Make no bother about what you could have done differently, or the mistakes you’ve made. Every second of every day, every bit of every choice, has become thread in the fabric of who you are, right now. It’s part of you. To condemn past you is to condemn present you and that never serves. It takes away your power from the only place you ever really have any–now–and chokes out your blossoms.

Instead of second-guessing ourselves, what if we just declared ourselves doers-of-the-best=we-know-how-to-do? I like becoming more than I was before. I like growth. And every bit of experience contributes to growth.

Even–no, especially–the challenging bits of life shape us in beautiful ways. So who’s to say, the one-of-a-kind works of art we become were somehow “wrong?”

Love every bit of who you are! Love the flaws just as much as the shinier spots–the flaws need it more and besides, love heals flaws. Love helps you understand what you are calling flaws, aren’t. They are just part of your creative process.

Pay no mind to anyone or anything else beyond serving your truest intention of being yourself. Quite simply, that’s living your life full of love and goodwill and unapologetic integrity to the notion of being as much you as you know how to be.

We need you to be you. Nobody else is more qualified for the job!

The beautiful thing about doing this is it becomes easier and easier to feel love for others as you do. Everything starts in the mirror and works it’s way out.

Armchair Astrology

Mercury remains retrograde until the 22nd of December. This one has felt fairly intense to me as far as Mercury retrogrades go. But that doesn’t mean it’s not immensely helpful. Just keep your calm and centered and take on what you’ve got right in front of you. This is a time of energetic cleanup and clarification. You’ll be covering familiar ground in one way or another and you’ll find opportunity and insight within the trek. So just take your time and let it happen. Lean into self care and know that what needs to be sorted out, is being sorted out.

You’re doing fine. Really.

2018 Zodiac Lookahead Readings

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Reserve yours by sending payment ($50) and noting any areas you’d like extra light upon and we’ll get you fixed right up! If you’d like a complimentary Yearly Highlights astrology report, please include your birth date, time and place and order before Christmas.  (I can also do these as gifts. Just let me know , and we’ll work out the details.) Gotten some awesome feedback this year, as these can be powerful.

Be kind to yourselves out there!