Empress & Queen of Fire: Heart has the Answers

I’ve been thinking about how much more complicated life becomes when trying to accommodate other people’s wishes for us.

Damn near everyone has very specific notions of how they’d like to see us behave. Even strangers! But that doesn’t mean it’s a sound idea to acquiesce no matter who it’s coming from.

Trouble is, nobody else can make you happy. You cannot make anyone else happy. For each individual, happiness is a choice. We have no control over how anyone thinks or what they want from us. So why nominate ourselves to manage it?

There is generally self-deception in jumping through hoops to please others. We tell ourselves we’re hoping to make that person happy or spare them some discomfort. We want to make things better. We tell ourselves they need us to fix something or that it’s our responsibility to do what’s demanded of us.

The discomfort that’s avoided is actually personal. If we do what we’re “supposed to do,” then we can take that as proof we’re a good person. If we jump through hoops to please or save another, then we can tell ourselves we’re being kind and loving and helpful.

But kindness and love and caring are not actions–they are states of being. Specifically, they are states of being that don’t require a committee to achieve.

To be a loving person, feel love. To be a kind person, think kind thoughts. To be a supportive person, believe in those you would encourage.  You become who you are by way of the feelings you feed, which in turn informs the actions you choose to take.

I see this as so much easier than I used to. I get my feelings on straight FIRST. Then, I see what actions feel best in my heart, where I feel inspired, what most closely reflects what I actually feel good about.

Nobody else needs a vote.

Next week, I’d recommend that approach.

Next Week in Tarot

This week’s forecast comes in the maternal form of the Empress, with advice as the Queen of Wands (here, Fire) from the Good Tarot.

Think in terms of the world being pregnant with potential. Lots being birthed and unearthed and coming into being right now.

And what do we do in the midst of all this? The Queen of Fire is unequivocal: follow your passion. Let your heart guide you.

I woke up with this song playing loud on the psychic soundtrack.

For me, it just reinforces the theme of self-direction. One aside, however: considering the topic of this song and the Empress showing up, be aware of the potential for pregnancy. ‘Nuff said.

Follow your heart. It won’t lead you astray.

If you’d like a personal Tarot check-in, find me here. And have a good week, friends!

 

 

 

 

Temperance & The Sun: Airtime for Optimism

“Give optimism at least as much airtime as anxiety.”

I heard these words coming out of my mouth recently, and it struck me even then, this is damn good advice.

How you feel is how you feel. There are no right or wrong feelings. There’s never cause to feel guilty over having any particular feelings we don’t like. Feelings are an amazing source of guidance and there’s every reason to be appreciative of each and every one of them!

But that doesn’t mean we have to constantly swim in feelings that are disruptive. We definitely have a choice of which feelings we feed our energy to–determining which feelings grow and gain momentum through our focus.

I remind myself regularly:  I am out here preaching to stay connected and grow your faith. I encourage people to remain optimistic and work directly with their intuition to create the best outcomes. I tout self-care, love, optimism and directing energy consciously.  So it behoves me to walk the talk.

One way to do this is making the choice to give my optimism more airtime. Next week is a great opportunity to practice that, so sayth the cards.

Next Week in Tarot

Here, we have forecast in the form of Patience–a lovely rendition of Temperance. And the advice card this week is The Sun. There cards are from the completely elegant Good Tarot Deck.

I don’t always read Temperance as strictly a matter of patience, although it’s easy enough to see the element of patience being relevant in the card’s meaning. With the traditional version of this card, there is an angel mixing fire and water. The theme is of various, disparate elements coming together in a cohesive whole. The angel managing the operation suggests otherworldly intervention here.

Having the faith and willingness to step back from any sort of dogmatic advocacy for any particular side, instead letting it all come together organically, would be required to let this card do its work. So yes, patience would be an undeniable asset!

Be willing to acknowledge the bigger picture you are not yet able to see. Nurture a feeling of knowing if you can summon it, or faith if you cannot, that all will come together as it should.

Be as happy, carefree and trusting as you can manage. Expect the best. Look for the sunshine and appreciate every single ray of it that strikes you. Optimism is your ally. Make use of it.

Are you finding some optimism?

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Hierophant & Knight of Pentacles: Working Out

I had thought I was going to slide under the radar during the recent eclipse cycle. I’d hoped Mercury retrograde wouldn’t notice me. I’d just keep my head down and my mouth shut and I’d slip through it without issue.

Silly me!

Eclipse day, I had a hard drive failure.

Actually, failure isn’t the right word. “Capital-D Die” would be a more accurate description. Since it was not on my main computer, I was still able to function. So that helped.

But the dead hard drive that held about a thousand recipes, pictures and posts I use for my low carb Facebook page. So yes, still kind of a big deal.

There were backups, of course…all on the same hard drive. Because la-la-life-is-wonderful-Dixie somehow hadn’t thought about backing up on a different drive. Even though the computer was old and had shown signs of impending doom, my unfailing optimism was able to just erase the symptoms from my conscious awareness. Neat trick, huh?

Funny thing, though. It took me approximate 3 seconds to realize, this event was decidedly not a catastrophe.

My content had grown stale. But it was THERE, so it was easy enough to just let it ride, you know? I’d considered switching tools, but put it off because of the need to re-do everything. My system was working. I realized it needed some fresh life, but it wasn’t a priority so it didn’t end up getting any love because it wasn’t a fire.

This event forced me to look at the work I’m doing with fresh eyes–and bring fresh energy to it.

I surrendered to the reality almost immediately, because what choice do you have? And in doing so, I saw how the situation was in the big picture, a boon.

I didn’t need to wish away the circumstance. I needed adjust my thinking, which can be done very quickly and easily if you’re open to doing so.

Next week? Do that.

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook this week, we have the Hierophant and the advice is the Messenger of Earth (aka Knight of Pentacles) from the visually evocative deck, The Good Tarot.

Everything will come together as needed–the Hierophant is unfailingly competent. When this spiritual leader shows up, calling upon your faith or actively practicing spirituality to maintain equilibrium is never a bad play.

That knight showing up as advice veritably screamed Mercury Retrograde (the time when communications and electronics tend to go a little haywire). We are still in the midst, in case you were wondering.

So check your facts and then go back and check them again. Stay organized. Be conscientious. Measured, practical, consistent steps yield the best outcome here.

Keep your head about you and don’t freak out no matter what. Make “It’s all working out for me” your mantra, and so it will be.

It’s all working out. Really. Are you feeling it?

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Seven Cups & Emperor: Ecliptic Hangover

Ever start worrying about something and find yourself Googling every possible scenario?

Just digging and digging for that one little bit of information that will reassure you, everything is going to be alright? Or maybe you’ll find the magic steps to fix it all, right now. Sometimes, Googling is like an atheist’s version of praying.

But any little nugget of information found while mired in fear doesn’t begin to knock a dent in the knot in the stomach that comes from mentally rehearsing various disaster scenarios. It just seems to make it worse.

You know we just had an eclipse, right?

Next week looks like that. So I’m calling this an Ecliptic Hangover.

Next Week in Tarot

The outlook this week is the Seven of Cups (Water); advice is to be the Emperor. Cards from The Good Tarot.

Expect lots of distraction this week, coming in the form of intricately woven narratives. I’m seeing flow charts with multiple forks branching out in every direction. Misconception melds around fact to make for a stunning story but it doesn’t necessarily equate with personal reality.

It would be very easy to become mesmerized by the hubbub of “look here, look here, look here!” There’s not much value in doing so, however.

Your mission–one you’d do well to accept, anyway–is maintaining a strong, even courageous independence from the cacophony of freak-outs surrounding you.

The Emperor rules his own roost. He decides for himself alone what is worthy of his attention and what is not. The Emperor’s plans are unambiguously rooted in self-confidence and personal authority. Others may offer up guidance, but nobody else gets a vote.

Your life, your call.

It’s entirely up to you how to accomplish this feat. If you need to back off social media or step away from somebody else’s drama in order to maintain stability, do it without hesitation or guilt.

Remember, this flavor of self-directed authority is a practice, not an event. The sense of being centered and unflappable comes and goes, but becomes easier to maintain the more you do it.

Prioritizing your own connection as ALL that ultimately matters and leaving the universal forces to sort the rest helps  us develop a stronger, more stable sense of inner peace.

The knowing that’s borne from such a solid, centered place always guides true.

This coming week, I’m seeing ample opportunity to practice a highly self-directed energy management. This doesn’t equate with permanent disengagement. It’s more about not stepping into any situation emotionally without finding your own footing first.

Love whomever you love. Care for the world! But before you get caught up in it all or act, understand a helpful contribution is best made from a position of strength. We become strong when we do well managing our personal energy first and foremost. It’s only under such circumstances you are in the position to offer anything of value, anyway.

No matter what you’re hearing (or not hearing) out there, tend to self first.

Are you feeling the fervor?

If you need a little help charting your own course, reach out for a one-on-one.

Chariot & Tower Reversed: Productive Obstacles

Everyone’s life is filled with those outcomes that didn’t work as expected. I would venture a guess that the ratio of works-as-expected vs. not is minuscule. But that doesn’t mean you’re off track.

Those relationships that broke up, or the jobs that fizzled or the plans that fell apart may have been upsetting. But in the bigger picture, they become a part of the fabric of who we are and they contribute immeasurably to outcomes. How much drama and pause they offer, however, is up to you.

When what I want isn’t coming together, I find it good to remind myself that what IS happening is still useful. And that’s pretty much the topic this week.

Next Week in Tarot

Our weekly outlook is the Chariot, with advice coming in as the Tower reversed from The Good Tarot. Two major arcana cards (and especially these two) makes me think the week is likely to feel eventful and significant.

The Chariot is associated with the zodiac sign of Cancer the crab. One thing I often find with the Chariot: success is assured with follow through, but progress will be indirect. Crabs move sideways.

The black and white horses on this card (shown as Sphinxes on the traditional Rider-Waite deck) are both shadow and light–suggesting the conscious use of all forces and inclinations to guide the journey. There’s no right and wrong implied: only an overriding goal.

And the Chariot is always taking it’s rider home. It could be a new home certainly, but consider the newness as reflecting a deeper truth, a more honest rendition of identity. Things are moving ahead, even if it seems like the process is taking a very meandering course.

The reversed Tower for advice tells us not to freak out and scrap everything in the midst of trouble. Expect PRODUCTIVE disruption. Understand that what’s happening now is part of the overall process and not “certain doom,” okay?

I know. That’s easier to say than to do. But perhaps taking a step back and a few deep breaths will be helpful anyway. When is it not?

I also think it’s worth noting, the Chariot is numbered 7 and the Tower reduces to a 7 as well. Tarot sevens point to powerful force, stamina and challenge as being central to achievement.  The key to mastering the sevens is following your inner guidance and convictions, even if that isolates you from the approval of others. Definitely, Tarot Sevens are a call to follow the guidance of heart and let the rest of the world do what it will.

Slow-go is better than no-go. In the obstacles, delays, and setbacks we learn and accomplish so much that is usually vital for our ultimate success. And hey, who doesn’t want “ultimate success?”

It’s all a part of the journey, man. Accept it as such, seek it’s usefulness and the trek will be much more pleasant to traverse.

Are you seeing indirect motion?

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Judgement & Eight of Swords: Honestly You

I work online. so the vast majority of what I do is in public, basically. That means I get criticized on a fairly regular basis. We’re talking the internet for God’s sakes! My words reach enough people at this point, it’s physically impossible not to anger, offend, disgust or somehow bother somebody on a regular basis. This morning, I got three hits.

Not trolling for sympathy. That’s just how it is. And I’m okay with it.

The first few times, I did struggle. I cried. I second-guessed and doubted myself. But eventually, I came to realize what someone else says is not about me. Whether or not the words might be considered objectively “right” doesn’t matter. I have no control over how the energy I put out is received. Ever, ever-ever. And neither do you.

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I’ve come to see “knowing myself” not so much as a function of self-honesty, although self-honesty is awesome. To me, knowing myself is about looking inside for those touchstones instead of looking to other people. We spend so much of our lives hoping others will validate and reassure us, we are worthy. When we feel driven to seek outside affirmation, it’s the first clue we’re not feeling it internally. That creates a void that no one else can fill for very long. It’s like a drug that wears off quickly. You always need another hit.

I mean, it’s absolutely lovely when you’ve got people around who uplift. I don’t want to suggest that’s not a helpful and wonderful gift. But if you aren’t close to that realization on your own, whatever comes from outside won’t stick. How you feel about yourself most often is what’s most credible to you. You know? If you’re not somewhere in the neighborhood of a particular conclusion, talky-talk is not going to put you there.

Knowing yourself, feeling your worth, finding your true voice is by nature an inside job. It can be no other way. And at the fresh start of a fresh new year, that’s the job to focus on right now.

Next Week in Tarot

Here, we’ve got Call (Judgement) for the outlook, with the Eight of Air (Eight of Swords) from The Good Tarot. Our Botanical Inspirations messenger is the White Rose, symbolizing new starts and wisdom. Happy 2019, folks!

I usually read Judgement as speaking to clarity, seeing the whole of a situation without blaming or rancor. A rather dispassionate type of assessment. Here, as “Call,” the deck book suggests stepping into your own truth, the call to your authentic voice.

The Eight of Swords is about releasing illusion and allowing yourself to see the truth. In this deck, letting go of falsehoods is emphasized. You tell the difference not by the numbers of people who agree with you, but by what rings true in your heart.

By following through with the call to release what isn’t genuinely part of your truth, you get the gift of the White Rose: a fresh start and wisdom.

I would suggest this week, seek what’s personally important with the intention to obtain your insight from within. Do a gut check first, without considering what others say is right or wrong. Let your intentions and feelings guide you in living authentically. Nothing else can do that, effectively and in concert with who you really are.

Make your fresh start about being as true to your self, your soul, as you can. Know who you are. Be who you are. And let everybody else be who they are. We don’t have to understand or agree with anyone else. We just have to do it for ourselves.

I already have a life to live. One, but it’s quite enough to manage! I aim to just live it the best I can. It’s sure a lot easier than trying to please the rest of the world!

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