Four of Cups: Flowers in the Weeds

When life is not coming up roses, look to the weeds and find the beauty hidden within them. –L.F.  Young

What do you do, when life is not cruising along in line with your preferences? 

Maybe you sell for a living, and the world doesn’t seem to be buying. Or maybe you got a new job, and it’s just not what you’d hoped.  Maybe your relationship isn’t full of relating. Or maybe your kids are giving you fits. Whatever you’re looking at you don’t like, and it’s got you wound up in knots.

But here’s where it gets interesting. You have a choice, in every given moment.

You can focus on what’s wrong and work up a full-blown emotional explosion. You just start ramping up what you don’t like in your head and it grows.  Or you can reach for whatever feels the least little bit better and look for some beauty in the weeds.

[bctt tweet=”Seek the beauty in the weeds. There always is some. #OnMyRadar” username=”goddess_dix”]

How you feel about an unwanted situation is never, ever dictated by that situation. It cannot be by definition, because reaction is never external. A sense of well-being is not something that life bestows upon us, by doling out superior circumstances.

We generate our own happiness, through actively and consciously focusing on what pleases us, what we appreciate in any situation. This has nothing to do with outer circumstances and everything to do with what we practice every day.

We give the outside world far too much credit for (and therefore, too much control over) the state of our own well-being. Well-being is always an inside job, friends. When you don’t like what’s in front of you, fair enough. Your flowers aren’t blooming. You’re in the middle of the weeds. So start looking for the beauty there. Understand when life isn’t flowing smoothly, you are getting a nudge–maybe a hard nudge–to shift your energy. And that’s truly a helpful thing.

If we habitually complain and fuss (even internally) about everything that’s wrong in our world? Rough times are going to hit harder.  But if we have a habit of looking for the beauty anyplace we can find it, weeds or not? Life feels better, right then and there.

The less it feels like you have to appreciate in a given moment, the more important it is to do just that.

It helps. Every single time, it helps.

Next week in Tarot: Dream it Up

We have the Four of Cups (or 4 of Water from the Good Tarot) and the Venice Mallow Hibiscus from the Botanical Inspirations deck: Delicate, Fleeting Beauty.

I just got back from flower shopping with my daughter. She took home some Hibiscus that was speaking to her. Hibiscus is associated with love, dreams and divination. The Venice Mallow variety is sometimes known as the “Flower-of-an-hour” because of the short time it opens its blooms in the morning.

If you see a bloom? Take it in, right then and there.

The Four of Cups is always a dreamy energy–here, we’re considering what we don’t have, or perhaps imagining what we might want. You are the dreamer of this dream. It’s up to you to guide it.

This week, I expect we’ll have opportunities to dream up, or dream down wherever we are standing. This active steering of attention and imagination is a very effective way of flowing energy.  Make a practice of putting out what you want to get, because that’s how you tune this. And a very easy way to find the sweet spot here is looking for the good, the flowers, wherever you are.

Weeds or not, look for the flowers!

Are you finding flowers in your weeds?

If you want some support re-orienting, give me a holler for a one-on-one.

Seven of Swords: Under Wraps

Still on the “don’t overthink it” train here, as I hear myself dishing up versions of that advice left, right and backward.

Which also means, it still applies to me. Or I wouldn’t find myself in the position of amplifying that message.

Damn it.

Go with the flow.

Be easy, Breathe. Give yourself time to let the details fill in for you.

The path is yours and just yours. FEEL your way through.

Nobody knows what you’re doing better than YOU. Even if you don’t know quite yet. Because you will.

In the Cards for This Week

We have the Seven of Swords–that’s a card of holding your own, being true to yourself without weighing in outside opinion.

And we’ve got Nasturtium–Victory & Conquest. We don’t win by defeating other people. We win each time we are true to who we are, in the purest form of our spirit. When we act in harmony with the spark of the divine that is who we are, at the core?  That’s how we win.

Steer with your feelings, and keep the details to yourself. (Video here.)

It’s not necessary to get outside confirmation of your thoughts. In fact, it’s counterproductive and you can’t travel far on borrowed confidence. You definitely want to grow your own confidence this week by letting the details fill in on their own. They will. Just breathe deeply and give it a minute.

[bctt tweet=”Forget outside confirmation. Seek INSIDE confirmation. #OnMyRadar” username=”goddess_dix”]

That’s all there is to do. Relax and lean into the faith you’ll figure out the best path as you travel it. You not only can, but you will. Look for the signposts of blessing along the journey and it’s sure to be sweeter than it would have, otherwise. It helps you create a more beautiful now-reality.

Do you have some changes brewing? 

This week’s forecast features the Good Tarot (because I’ve been digging on the artwork) and the Botanical Inspirations Deck (because it’s been speaking clearly to me). Want to look at your personal business? Give me a holler.

Page of Swords: Gaining Clarity

“Stop trying to think it all through and figure out all the potential avenues yourself. Leave that up to the Universe. Trying to map it all out is slowing you down.”

Damn it!

I’m talking to one of my Tarot people and realize, I’ve been giving out versions of this advice repeatedly lately. Whenever I notice that happening, I know that Tarot is also talking to me.

And the cards I drew for the weekly seem to be putting the punctuation right on this message.

Damn it.

This Week in Tarot: Getting Clearer

Good tarot page of air

Here we have the Page of Swords (or Page of Air) from the Good Tarot, along with Phlox from Botanical Inspirations.: Unanimity & Harmony. (I was going to say Phlox is one of my favorite flowers, but I realized: I always seem to say that. I do love ’em, though!)

This combination says good ideas are afoot. Clarity is within your grasp. You can easily receive inspiration now!

But honestly? I’d keep those ideas that are percolating primarily to myself. Let them develop and brew. The harmony you really want to reach for here, right now, is internal. Be of one mind about something and let your thoughts settle in before you start broadcasting your message.

I would not go looking for a broad agreement this week. I’d be looking for internal agreement. Don’t work on convincing other people in order to reassure yourself. Borrowed confidence never lasts very long anyway. Instead, be reaching for clarity. That’s never going to come from any place outside yourself. You may be inspired to clarity, from something you hear or see. But the click happens inside your head and inside your heart.

Once you are feeling the clarity, though? Sure, run your mouth as you like. Because by that point, you won’t really care what anyone else has to say about it. And in the case of tuning in to your own truth, not giving a damn about what anyone else has to say about it is a really good thing.

Are you in the process of getting clear?

If you need some help, give me a holler for a one-on-one session to assist you in sorting things out.

Three of Swords: Defining Moments as Doorways

When I was young, I thought the defining moments of my life would be made up of joyous milestones. Turning 21! Graduations, weddings, and promotions would somehow tell me who I was. Rituals and accomplishments would bring these pinnacles to be served up on a silver platter, or so I thought.

I had it utterly backward.

My defining moments have not been made up of smiling pictures and pretty dresses. They’ve pretty much always come when I’ve been alone, feeling beat up, beaten down and tired. They’ve come most clearly in struggle, not in peace. How we deal with pressure and transition does more to shape us than the bows we take when we’ve reached a goal.

I’ve come to the conclusion that defining moments are forged most clearly as we do what feels right in our hearts, despite any pressure otherwise. Outside voices do not matter. This is 100% an inside job.

[bctt tweet=”Life’s defining moments come from listening to the song of the soul. #OnMyRadar” via=”no”]

I’d advise doing that, this week for sure. And every week thereafter.

This Week in Tarot

In order to move toward something new, by default something old must be left behind. We’re looking at this kind of motion right now.

Three of Swords Tarot, Apple Blossom

Here we’ve got the Three of Air–better known as the Three of Swords from the Good Tarot, along with Apple Blossoms from the Botanical Inspirations Deck.

The Good Tarot uses the phrase “Rejection is God’s protection” in describing this card. The Three of Swords often denotes a painful separation. While I’d probably never put it quite that way to someone in the middle of a heartbreak, there is a lot of truth in that perspective. The apple blossom is associated with choices, knowledge, and illumination. It compliments the Tarot’s message nicely here, emphasizing separation is sometimes the result of choices, growth and increasing clarity.

When things don’t work out, there’s almost always a very good reason why. There’s also almost always an opportunity for a defining moment.

There is a metamorphosis underway. Consider whether you want to (or have to) let go and move on at this point.

Armchair astrology note: I’m not surprised to see this sort of message like the cherry on top of a Scorpio full moon. Full moons are a time of release and Scorpio is an intense, emotional energy. Not lightweight! People are under significant pressure and stressed, so make allowance for that as much as you can.

Appreciate the contribution of what you’re leaving behind to where you are, right now. All that clarification has helped you grow into the “new you.” It helped shape you and you cannot love yourself while hating the events that defined you. But always, make your choices based on what your heart says is true and right. Then, what feels like a mess turns into a defining moment.

Take a deep breath, and walk through the door with appreciation in your heart for all that’s come before. Make this transition a defining moment.

Looking to reorient your perspective? Give me a holler for a 1-on-1.

Eight of Cups: Cutting Emotional Tethers

I’ve been on a quest to pay less attention to outside world and more attention to my own world and what I’m doing within it. Being rooted in the now. Trying to live my life in ways that feel good instead of backseat driving the world.

I’d call this more of a practice than accomplishment–because honestly? It’s tidal. I have to practice every single day!

Tarot This Week

Here, we have the Eight of Water (aka the Eight of Cups) –that ship has sailed, baby! And our friendly flower, the Violet, adds the message of Faithfulness and Modesty to the mix.

This speaks of letting go of preconceived notions, over how the world should run. Not everything is yours to decide. Disengage emotional tethers to whatever isn’t working for you and aim your sights on best care you can of your own damn self instead, okay?

You are free to engage in whatever interests you want. Of course, there aren’t right or wrong things to care about. Just make sure your emotional energy is engaged primarily in ways that benefit you. Don’t tie yourself to anything that doesn’t feel good. Cut the emotional tethers if it’s beating you up. Love it and wish it well on it’s way and you’ll be free.

Peace Out.
~Dix

p.s. This week featured the Good Tarot andBotanical Inspirations deck. For a 1-on-1 with Dix, holler.

 

Sun: Finding Happy When it’s Nowhere in Sight

Being unhappy isn’t wrong. It’s not evidence you’re not exactly the right place, in the right time. It’s not evidence of a failing. It’s a perfectly normal part of the cycle of life.

It’s not fun. But it’s not in any way inappropriate, either.

Unhappiness often helps us break free of situations no longer serving and imparts crazy levels of crystal-clarity on what we actually would like to live. All our experiences become an integral part of shaping who we are. They feed our desires and start the foundation of the better our lives will become.

You can’t simultaneously love who you are and hate the experience that created you. And it doesn’t really matter how you got here anyway. Right now, you’ve got “here” to work with.  Best to make peace with it as a first step in being able to move forward.

But you can make the transitional time to better flow smoother and faster. And it’s not so difficult to accomplish.

Just do your best to give as much airtime as possible to anything that feels even a little bit better to you. Of two options, always take the one that feels better. Of two thoughts, choose by what feels better over what may seem more likely or more true. FEEL your way through.

Attention turns up vibrations. Turn up the better feeling vibrations by looking for the little bits and pieces of life you can appreciate, wherever you can find them. The topic doesn’t matter–only the emotional tone  matters. Give love the priority. Give appreciation maximum airtime.

[bctt tweet=”There is no better analgesic than appreciation. #OnMyRadar” username=”goddess_dix”]

This week, we have the Sun, from Good Tarot, and HoneysuckleDomestic Happiness and Devoted Affection–from the Botanical Inspirations deck.

The Sun is one of my favorite Tarot cards. Living the Sun–your own Sun–is nothing short of being true to your inner spirit. The Honeysuckle is another of my favorites. The intoxicating Honeysuckle has long been associated with love and fidelity.

The Sun in Astrology speaks to your identity, the real self: not a reflection as seen outside you. It’s that inner spark of light, of heat, of pure energy that IS the foundation of who you are. Your own Sun is nothing short of your personal divinity. Pure love, in a nutshell.

This week, declare wherever you are at as okay. Feel love for yourself. Appreciate the goodness that represents the truth of who you are. Calling forth as much love as possible helps you connect to your joy.

Dedicate yourself to being the most authentic, appreciative and loving person you can manage to be in any given moment. And it doesn’t matter how thoroughly you manage. You cannot get it wrong, because it only matters that you are reaching for it. Consistently live this way, and your life will to get better and better.

I promise.

Peace Out.
~Dix