Helping with an Open Heart: Knight of Cups

I’ve been actively seeking a kinder, more loving perspective. I don’t believe I’m terribly lacking in that regard. But there’s always room for improvement. And I really like the way it feels. So I want more of it.

This process hasn’t been quite as obvious as I expected at first.

For example, I used to think helping others was more or less always an act of kindness. Of course, it’s not.

You cannot divorce your own values and needs from your interactions with others. Even if your intention is not about manipulation or enforcing your own worldview, it’s impossible to remove the “you” from the equation. We have no other vantage point than self.

You can empathize and imagine and intend from now until kingdom come. But you can never truly put yourself in another’s shoes because you are you, with your own unique blend of energy, experience and conclusions.

Helping behavior can be motivated from the discomfort or frustration of seeing matters not handled to personal standards. It can be motivated from distress over vicariously experiencing struggle, or fear for the person involved, or worry about being on the hook to help rectify unpleasant outcomes. All of this can come into play even without us noticing.  See how it’s difficult to keep the intention pure?

But what’s really sticking with me more than anything is the realization of the implications. Leaping to action whenever someone appears to be in the slightest need says as much as anything, “I don’t trust you are up to this task.” And that’s not the message I want to send anybody!

I’ve come to see it as a much greater service to express my faith in the other person’s capacity. That’s what I want to bolster. They have access to the same connection I do–plugging in and receiving divine inspiration. Their conclusions and solutions may not look like mine. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t right, for them.

My goal here isn’t just to butt out of other people’s business. It’s more about keeping my own heart open and trusting that everything in the universe is where it needs to be. It’s understanding I don’t have all the answers, but I’m not called to provide all the answers.

[bctt tweet=”The only answers I’m responsible for providing are my own. #OnMyRadar” via=”no”]

It’s taking more time for me to apply this on a larger scale. I see many things in the world that don’t suit my idea of righteous or good.  That doesn’t mean those things aren’t contributing to a greater whole. It only means that I don’t know how.

I used to feel the need to classify everything into categories of right or wrong, good or bad, wanted or unwanted. Social media amplifies this dynamic. But life isn’t so dichotomous.

What if we tried to view everything, personally appealing or not, as having a meaningful contribution in the greater tapestry of humanity? What if we trusted everything is always all right?

In the big picture, that’s exactly what I see.

This week features the Messenger of Water (aka Knight of Cups) from The Good Tarot, along with the Gerbera Daisy from Botanical Inspirations: Purity, Cheerfulness and Innocence. We’ve seen that daisy before.

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive you will see it.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

Try assuming the best, for and about everyone. Take responsibility for your own decisions and only your own decisions. Of course, you can be supportive and helpful. Sometimes that is your role! And it’s a lovely role to play, when that happens. But make sure that helping is invited and done with the desire to be of service instead of “fixing.” Then, your efforts should hit their mark. You can send out love anywhere. And sometimes? The most loving thing you can do is trust the rest of the world (or just your little corner) to right itself.

If you’d like to take a closer look at your life and get yourself back into the flow, give me a holler for a one-on-one session.

Solace in a Crazy World: Five of Pentacles (again)

The world feels a little crazy now. Have you noticed?

[Insert maniacal laughter here.]

I’m not bothered too much by it, personally. Sure, I feel for people suffering, but I see it much differently than many do.

I’ve felt lots of energy shifts over the last few years. Massive and global energy sifts. The turbulence is a symptom, not an end diagnosis.

The outcomes I’m seeing (and further expecting) are social changes, not social collapses. But “Tower moments” as the status quo breaks down is often a part of major change. It’s happened so many in my own life, I’ve lost count. What felt like utter chaos and tragedy in the midst turned out to be exactly what was required for a fresh start. It’s the perspective a bigger picture can provide.

It’s certainly challenging sometimes to maintain optimism in the middle of a stormy night. That’s exactly the reason I step back. I take media breaks and limit exposure to upsetting stories or discussions. In my personal life, I may seek distraction. Some would call it denial. I call it self-care. I have come to realize I can only contribute meaningfully to any sort of good when  I prioritize my own needs: physical, emotional and above all, energetic.

It really does help. And this is exactly what Tarot is speaking about to me this week.

My phone picture doesn’t do this Tarot artwork justice. I’ll be pulling out the good camera next time!

Here we have the Five of Pentacles (Earth) from the Good Tarot, along with Belleflower from Botanical Inspirations, meaning “Gratitude.”

Does this seem a smidge familiar? Repetitive Tarot is repetitive

They are more or less opposite energies, and yet perfectly compliment one another. Because they show two sides of the same coin.

When you focus on flaw, you’ll feel brokenness. When you focus on difference, you’ll feel separation. When you focus on shortage, you’ll feel lack. When you focus on connections, you’ll feel supported. When you focus on grace, you’ll feel protected. When you focus on blessings, you’ll feel blessed.

The Five of Earth here is the calling. This desire, the wanting, summons energy through you. It quite directly births a new future, conceived as a result of what you may be considering as “wrong” in the present. Welcome or not, it’s a gift.

The Belleflower represents a “thank you” for the gift. When you acknowledge any gifts, they bloom. Just as the calling comes as a result of a problem, solutions come as result of gratitude. Looking for the good tunes in to the good and turns it up.   Nobody can tune in to solutions while fixated on problems, And nobody can tune in to problems while steeped in gratitude.

You don’t have to love everything you see. We aren’t wired that way! We have unique, individual preferences and out of those personal preferences, an endless tapestry of diversity is woven. That is exactly as it should be.

When life feels a little craptastic (personally or globally), understand that feeling dissatisfaction is in itself a form of energy work. Feelings are a function of the energy you’re channeling at that moment. Anger or disillusionment or frustration or sadness are all calling out for change, even when not invoked specifically. You can spend as long or as little there as you like, there. It all adds to the collective evolution.

But if you want, you can also align with the energy of solutions and progress as you see it. I find that a much more pleasant experience. Gratitude activates this energy stream. Your appreciation and acknowledgement of what is going right is a way of watering the seeds of change. It also impacts your subjective experience tremendously.

This is perhaps a long-winded way of saying, you WILL find what you look for. Fortunately, you get to decide.

If you want a little support in perspective-realigning, contact me for a 1-on-1 session. And be well, friends!

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