Real Healers? Sort Of.

“You’re a healer,” the reader says decidedly, looking down at the worn deck of playing cards spread out on the cloth before her.

“Yes,” I nod.

“A very good one…” she adds, looking surprised.

“Thank you,” I said.  I wasn’t sure what else to say about that.

I don’t introduce myself as a healer, but it’s not uncommon for readers to describe me as such, just as this reader at a recent psychic fair. I do understand what she’s talking about. But the designation of “Healer-with-a-capital-H” is harder for me. It’s not a way I usually think of myself.

I usually just think about it as “having good energy.” I can comfortably own that. I’m very good at encouraging people who are open to and seeking encouragement.

Maybe that’s what healing actually is. Encouragement.

Healer is a funny term, the way it’s most commonly used. It implies one person–the “healer”–somehow works some sort of magic on another person–the “patient,” I guess, or the wounded one–to afford an improvement. The patient is in need of help, and the healer gives that help. There is a suggestion the healer is strong and well, and the to-be-healed is not. The healer is supposed to fix the wounded one. Except that’s not how I see it at all.

I cannot fix anybody! I don’t try to fix anybody. I don’t even try to fix myself, for God’s sakes.

There’s a very simple reason for this. I don’t see anyone as broken. 

I do understand people hurt. They struggle  They may be in physical or emotional pain. They want changes. They want to feel better. I can often help facilitate that, but I always understand implicitly, I’m only a helper here. Like an amplifier, I can turn up the natural signal of their well-being by clear focus.

What I do–getting grounded and centered, plugging in for divine inspiration and insight and translating what I receive–is a process available to literally everyone on the planet. EVERYONE. No exceptions.

You don’t have to be some kind of glow-in-the-dark-holy-special-gifted-with-the-sight-at-birth-psychic-healer to do this. It’s easier when you’re calm, and harder when you’re upset.  It’s helpful to have your own energy focused as a matter of practice and to be clear about your intention. Your beliefs and attitudes will influence what processes you may choose to do this There infinite ways to approach it and some habits definitely make it easier. But it’s not a special gift given unto a select few. And you already do it, probably a whole lot more than you realize.

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Those times when you know just what to do or to say, when the perfect words are inspired to you? Those times when you lean into self-care, or comfort a friend or make a comment or come to a realization about how to approach a topic? You are tuning in. That’s all that it is. That is “healing” energy in a nutshell. It’s being connected and inspired.

I have some skill at execution for sure, probably due to years of study and practice. I prioritize my connection because, with that connection, everything else works better. It’s more important to me to maintain my connection than it is to please anyone else. That all helps tremendously, but it’s not something only I can do. I’ve made a practice of it, but you can, too. Literally, any person on the planet can choose to do this for themselves.

When I’m working with someone one-on-one, I’m not reaching for a way to mend them. I don’t mend what I don’t see as broken. Do I hope to help them improve their experiences? Of course!  There is certainly more and less comfortable. There’s happiness and pain. There’s easy and hard. I know which ones I prefer, as do the people I work with. But there is not broken and whole, at least to me.

When I work with someone, I’m reaching for insights: information, tidbits or advice that will be of practical use. I’m looking to serve as an amplifier for an individual’s strengths and abilities. I’m asking for perspective and wisdom to shine light upon what someone already knows within their own heart. In my world, healers are not those gifted in furrowing out dysfunction and magically correcting it. I guess I think of “healers” as those particularly skilled at tuning in to an individual’s goodness and helping to amplify that by recognizing and reflecting it.

Healers don’t heal people. People heal themselves. It’s up to the individuals involved, however, how they attribute the outcomes.

Personally, I consider it an incredible honor to be able to participate at all. I feel good about my role in it, but I’m certainly not going to take credit for it. The credit always goes to the individual who is doing the real heavy lifting by adjusting their own vibration.

So in the sense I hold steady in my own connection (which allows me to help influence those looking for to shift their own energy), I guess I’m a “healer.” Or maybe it would be more accurate to say, I’m a helper. I’m a professional encourager. And yeah, I do think I’m good at it.

Whatever you call it, it’s an incredibly rewarding line of work.

What do you think being a healer is all about?

03/30/14: Stress Insomnia / Nine of Swords

9 of Swords Meaning

All the stress? It wears on you and it does impact your health, but the scares are a result are probably blown out of proportion says the Nine of Swords, paired with “Health.” Also be aware of the role guilt and fear plays into the picture, because it does.

Aside: get some sleep for goodness sakes!

My advice: Self-care, and seek support from trusted companions. That in and of itself will make you feel better in an immediate, tangible way. And of course, you can always fill my favorite prescription of a good, long nap!

Is the stress wearing on you?

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The Zombie Tarot: An Oracle of the Undead with Deck and Instructions

Sending Energetic Support Safely Video

Here’s a quick run-down on how to send out some energetic good mojo without getting run down!

Note: I did not discuss the ethical issues in this video but there are some–notably respecting the free will of the recipient and intention for the energy to be available for the highest good of all concerned.

Do you send good energy out to folks?

From Grief to Peace? 1-Card Video Tarot Reading

“I don’t know what the question is. Except how can I find some peace?” -S

S. explains she’s recently lost a couple of people to death and is in a lot of pain. She’s looking for some relief from the grief.

Short answer: Quiet the inner critic, say what you need to say to them (they’re around), and start taking steps to put parameters around the pain and therefore, impact. Schedule time for processing to “fall apart” so you can continue to function the rest of the time. Begin acting more peaceful and the emotions catch up with you.

How do you get past grief?

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A Psychic’s Limitations & Your Light

Don't be discouraged quote

” I don’t try much to tap into world events; that’s not something I particularly want to be shown, because what am I going to do about it, you know?”

This was a conversation I had about a week ago with one of my Tarot people. She reminded me there are situations when it could indeed matter–smack! her point hit home–but she seemed convinced in that case, I’d be given the info I needed whether I went looking for it or not.

I wondered if she was right…

I couldn’t help but think of this conversation yesterday afternoon, when I first realized what had happened–the world was mourning the tragedy in Connecticut.

I spent most of the day oblivious: working on that post about Zodiac readings, requesting feedback and setting up a Holiday Specials page. I was thinking about what I needed to change on the site, working up a newsletter, what other gifts or goodies I might offer to my people, and how to improve my business. Mundane matters. I hadn’t spent any time surfing the news or checking Facebook or otherwise interacting with the world.

I had no idea anything might even be amiss, beyond a few moments of idly wondering if or how that Tower I drew for yesterday’s Everyday Tarot column might manifest itself. I hoped it wasn’t connected to my crying jag of the night before. The Tower always makes me nervous.

Some psychic I am.

I’ve had a post half-written, rattling around in my head a while now about how the psychics and Tarot readers and mystics at large just don’t know EVERYTHING. Sometimes, what we’re given via divine grace is SO amazing, so clearly supernatural, that our people expect us to have every single answer. They expect perfection, garnished up at the ready on a silver platter. Failure to serve it up can only mean we’re somehow “holding out.” Lapses of omnipotence must mean we’re not really trying, you know?

No, no, no. I can’t do that. Illustrated in living color, I can’t do that.

This isn’t the post I was planning to write.

I don’t hold myself up as glow-in-the-dark-holy-special. I don’t talk about my great-great-great grandmother handing down the gift of seeing through the veil, near-death experiences altering my DNA or popping out of the womb to be some kind of aura-reading, ghost-befriending infant spiritual prodigy. Like many, I’d explained away most of my own mystical experiences as “coincidence” or “imagination” for most of my life. But they were still there.

That doesn’t make me better or worse than anybody else. I don’t want to stand high above those I serve, teetering upon a shaky pedestal. The ego may dig the attention for a minute–it calms self-doubts I carry in my heart–but the higher the pedestal, the harder the fall. And if you’re honest with yourself, the fall is inevitable.

Instead, I look to walk BESIDE those I work with. I’m a seeker, just like you. Yes, I have innate skills and yes, I’ve worked hard to develop them to the point I can justify charging for their application. But we all have some degree or another of the same gifts. We access those gifts through raising our vibration. I encourage everyone to connect to their own inner divinity. We each have our path, and our job here on earth is to find and follow it as best we can.

Times like this,  the truth becomes even more poignant. NO ONE has all the answers. Nobody has the market cornered on light. But each of us holds a light of our own. Expressing love is the most straightforward way to access the light.

Whatever light you’ve got, please do light your candle by it and step forward. Hug your family and call your friends and do your damnedest to shine that light everywhere you go. As small as it may be, as inadequate as it may seem in the face of great pain, every little bit of it counts. Everyone who speaks and acts in love IS a natural healer. We need you.

Much love.