Knight of Cups: Let Yourself Soar

“You can’t have it all…” he starts.

“Of course you can!” I interrupted, not concerning myself in the least with being obnoxious. I was visiting with friends.

“Maybe not all at once,” I continued. “Sometimes it takes a minute. And once you have it, you’ll obviously find a new ‘all’ to want. But there’s no reason not to have exactly what you want.”

I spoke with such conviction, he didn’t seem to know what to make of it. I could tell he liked the idea, but appeared unsure if the notion was revolutionary or delusional.

I get that reaction a lot. 

I’ve found myself saying similar things lately to a number of people. You don’t have to choose. You don’t have to compromise. You can have what you want. You can have it all. And I feel people wanting to believe me, when I say such things. Their gut does believe me, even when the brain argues.

That gut knows what the brain cannot fathom.

The reason why so many people don’t have what they want has nothing to do with the potential. It has everything to do with approach. Massaging and manipulating conditions to get what you want is very hard work, usually with a very limited payoff. You can make progress sometimes, but it’s both slow and exhausting. It’s easy to lose ground; there are too many moving parts. You question and second-guess and get discouraged and doubt yourself, trying to tilt the world. The world’s answer is “try harder” and that’s not a very satisfying answer.

A whole lot of your energetic budget is expended in a back-and-forth struggle. We’re so good at identifying all the physical reality, we tend to dismiss the energy. The energy always flows first, before the real world catches up to it in form of manifested circumstances. If you want life to be easier, work with the energy instead of the physical manifestation. It’s a lot easier to move!

In fact, energy work is the ultimate shortcut. Let go of the “how” and focus on the “why.” Evoke the feelings of what you want and start riding that vibe. Look for the elements of what you’re after in your present tense life. If you want love, seek opportunities to feel love. If you want abundance, look around for that which is abundant in your life, even if it’s in a different form. The idea here is to amp up the vibration of what you want.

Line up the energy first and hold it steady as you can. Then the outer, physical world must acquiesce to your dominant vibration. Give yourself permission to test this idea, even without seeing the logic of it. Look for your inner harmony and let the rest of the world fill in around that, because it will.

[bctt tweet=”He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the Universe.  -Marcus Aurelius #quotes” ]

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Here we have “Understanding” (aka the Knight of Cups) from Osho Zen Tarot, paired with Phlox–Unanimity and Harmony–from Botanical Inspirations. The bird shown here is getting ready for flight, as the bars are dissolving. He’s realizing that cage was an illusion and he’s preparing to join the other birds in flight. The suit of Water or Cups is representative of emotional flow. This isn’t a change in circumstances we’re talking, but a change in feelings.

This is a week to tell yourself “it’s possible” without bothering about the details. It’s a week to set your intention to see what can be. Take a light-hearted approach and consider making a game of it. Show yourself with little things that the energy work is effective and those bigger things will also start to fall in line.

External factors (and other people) are not relevant here. That sorts itself if you stay out of the way. Just line up your own vibe with what you want to see and let the Universe sort the details for you.

Are you feeling it?

If you want a little help figuring it all out, give me a holler for a private consult and I’ll do my best to help you get your energy lined up.

Helping with an Open Heart: Knight of Cups

I’ve been actively seeking a kinder, more loving perspective. I don’t believe I’m terribly lacking in that regard. But there’s always room for improvement. And I really like the way it feels. So I want more of it.

This process hasn’t been quite as obvious as I expected at first.

For example, I used to think helping others was more or less always an act of kindness. Of course, it’s not.

You cannot divorce your own values and needs from your interactions with others. Even if your intention is not about manipulation or enforcing your own worldview, it’s impossible to remove the “you” from the equation. We have no other vantage point than self.

You can empathize and imagine and intend from now until kingdom come. But you can never truly put yourself in another’s shoes because you are you, with your own unique blend of energy, experience and conclusions.

Helping behavior can be motivated from the discomfort or frustration of seeing matters not handled to personal standards. It can be motivated from distress over vicariously experiencing struggle, or fear for the person involved, or worry about being on the hook to help rectify unpleasant outcomes. All of this can come into play even without us noticing.  See how it’s difficult to keep the intention pure?

But what’s really sticking with me more than anything is the realization of the implications. Leaping to action whenever someone appears to be in the slightest need says as much as anything, “I don’t trust you are up to this task.” And that’s not the message I want to send anybody!

I’ve come to see it as a much greater service to express my faith in the other person’s capacity. That’s what I want to bolster. They have access to the same connection I do–plugging in and receiving divine inspiration. Their conclusions and solutions may not look like mine. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t right, for them.

My goal here isn’t just to butt out of other people’s business. It’s more about keeping my own heart open and trusting that everything in the universe is where it needs to be. It’s understanding I don’t have all the answers, but I’m not called to provide all the answers.

[bctt tweet=”The only answers I’m responsible for providing are my own. #OnMyRadar” via=”no”]

It’s taking more time for me to apply this on a larger scale. I see many things in the world that don’t suit my idea of righteous or good.  That doesn’t mean those things aren’t contributing to a greater whole. It only means that I don’t know how.

I used to feel the need to classify everything into categories of right or wrong, good or bad, wanted or unwanted. Social media amplifies this dynamic. But life isn’t so dichotomous.

What if we tried to view everything, personally appealing or not, as having a meaningful contribution in the greater tapestry of humanity? What if we trusted everything is always all right?

In the big picture, that’s exactly what I see.

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This week features the Messenger of Water (aka Knight of Cups) from The Good Tarot, along with the Gerbera Daisy from Botanical Inspirations: Purity, Cheerfulness and Innocence. We’ve seen that daisy before.

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive you will see it.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

Try assuming the best, for and about everyone. Take responsibility for your own decisions and only your own decisions. Of course, you can be supportive and helpful. Sometimes that is your role! And it’s a lovely role to play, when that happens. But make sure that helping is invited and done with the desire to be of service instead of “fixing.” Then, your efforts should hit their mark. You can send out love anywhere. And sometimes? The most loving thing you can do is trust the rest of the world (or just your little corner) to right itself.

If you’d like to take a closer look at your life and get yourself back into the flow, give me a holler for a one-on-one session.

Emotional Grace Period, Recommended. Weekly Tarot, March 20 – 26, 2017

I am an emotional creature. I value strong emotion as an important part of who I am, though it sometimes presents it’s own complications. To compensate, I’ve had to develop some skill in managing emotional response without overwhelming anyone too near the strike zone.

Thank you, Saturn.

Naturally, I’m not always perfect at this endeavor. You can just ask the landlady, after my butterfly bush meltdown.

But more often than not, I am successful. I step back. I ground. I meditate, at least when I get to the point that I can. I journal. I go outside. I clean. I take a nap. I distract myself in whatever way seems to help. In short, I do everything I know how to do to talk myself off that ledge.

I mean, dumping an inferno of emotion purges, that’s for sure. But while it relieves the pressure, that out-of-control feeling just sucks and there’s always a hangover after the fact. It’s just not who I want to be, you know? That’s not how I want to feel. So I do my damnedest to take a different route.

Next week, I’m expecting how we handle intense emotion to have relevance.

Full forecast video.

We’ve got a slew of repeats from recent weeks and inversions galore. It has the feel of sludging through mud, man. And notice the dominance of the cups in the week’s cards. Emotions remain “a thing” with a friendly, yellow-alert level Tarot-reader advisory to reign in knee-jerk responses (lest you have something to regret later). We’re wanting to sidestep the collateral damage factor. It can be done, but will require restraint to pull off. [bctt tweet=”Enforce a grace period before acting on strong emotions this week. #OnMyRadar” via=”no”]

Weekly Tarot Forecast in Bullet Points

  • Monday, Eight of Swords rx. You’ll have the chance to free yourself from the knots you’ve been tied up in, right here. Open window of opportunity, and you’ll likely get a nudge to go. Don’t hesitate, it moves fast.
  • Tuesday, Three of Cups rx. Don’t expect your friends to necessarily “get you.” That’s too much to ask. Look to feel comfortable in your own skin and the rest doesn’t matter. It’s your job to get you and nobody else’s.
  • Wednesday, King of Cups rx. Emotional impulsivity is a potential issue. If you’re feeling strongly, don’t complete the real world activity without emotionally stabilizing. Powerful emotions that are very short term.
  • Thursday, Five of Wands rx. Pick your battles! I mean, you can pick all of ’em if you want, but it would be unnecessary bickering.
  • Friday, Three of Pentacles rx. Life won’t go as you planned. It’s still okay. Just be flexible.
  • Saturday, Ten of Cups upright. YAY! This is a good time. Hook up with your family–blood or heart family, either way. Surround yourself with loving vibes however you can, even if it’s just the thoughts you are thinking.
  • Sunday, Empress rx. Even inverted, it’s still a good card. Prioritize self-care. Don’t expect everything will just fall into place perfectly today, because maybe not. But progress is good enough.
  • Overview/Advice: Knight of Cups reversed. FEELINGS are very strong and change very quickly. Give yourself a grace period, between feeling strong emotion and taking action this week. Grace periods will save your tail.

Maybe your experience will be different than what I’m expecting–I hope so! But even if it’s not, you can do this. Just give yourself a grace period before taking action to let the feelings enough that clarity can re-emerge. Take any real-world actions once you’re bathed in the energy you would like for the outcome and you’ll do well.

Much love, and stay safe out there.

Dix

p.s. This week’s forecast features the Radiant Rider Waite. Get your Tarot on 1-on-1, or just get my book and flip to a random page to give yourself a DIY bibliomancy reading!

 

Mine Vs. Yours: Weekly Tarot, Mar 6 – 12, 2017

The grocery checker looked me up and down.

Are my pants irking her?

Some people don’t approve of fuzzy pants at the grocery. What harm they see in it, I have no clue. It’s not a funeral, for Godssakes. Am I disrespecting the broccoli? I just want some coffee creamer and chocolate-something. Should I have to change clothes for that?

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I think not, but you probably guessed as much. Besides. The world needs more color and I’m doing my part.

Doesn’t matter if she likes my pants or not. I’m in her line. So be it.

“I just love your hair!” she says, when it’s my turn up. Oh.

Now, I don’t worry so much about what people think any more–a blessing of age. But there was a time, once upon a self-conscious phase ago, when I chastised myself for wanting to wear fuzzy pants everywhere.

“You just need to grow up!” I’d say sternly inside my head.

“What kind of a person lives their lives in fuzzy pants?” Of course the answer to that is easy enough. The kind of person who really likes fuzzy pants!

My job is to decide what pants suit me that day, and wear them.  Not to bother about outside reaction to the pants. That checking other faces instead of hitting up the mirror is what trips us up.

[bctt tweet=”Soon as you look outside yourself to see how you’re doing, you’ve lost the plot. #OnMyRadar” via=”no”]

This coming week is a lot like that.

Daily Bullet Points

It ain’t touchy-feeling this week, folks. But it doesn’t have to be scratchy-ouchie, either. Up to you, to play the cards as they come.

  • Monday, Eight of Swords. Limitations are self-imposed. In the context of having “scripts,” know people may not play their prescribed roles. Focus on just your own role instead for better outcome.
  • Tuesday, Eight of Wands. The sense of unsettledness is not fun, but short term. Everything is already underway, dude! Chill and let the energy that’s already in motion play out.
  • Wednesday, Five of Wands. Are you fighting? Do you really need to be? Sidestep unnecessary kerfuffle and choose your battles. People have wildly divergent interpretations of the same events.  Respect and let be. Because if you try to force others to become you, it won’t go well.
  • Thursday, Knight of Wands rx. Be wary of acting impulsively. Stay heart-centered, yes. But don’t insist that others understand you. That’s much less important than being you. You stay in your joy without looking for anybody else to validate your excitement.
  • Friday, Six of Pentacles rx. Be generous with assumptions. Assume the best of all.
  • Saturday, Page of Swords rx. Miscommunications and wires crossed. Possibility of bluntness, without malice but misunderstandings and sore feelings are possible. Be aware and you can miss than bus.
  • Sunday, Knight of Cups. Emotionally supportive tone to close the week. Good day to bask in love, in whatever form it exists in your love. Focus on loving feelings

Summing it up: The less you try to control others, situations, and conditions outside yourself, the better off you’ll be. All control starts at home/dixiblog/domains/afoolsjourney.com/public_html. With you, in your own head, I’d add. You know, In case you had already turned your attention to spouse or kids or something…snort.

Are you tuned to your own channel?

This week’s forecast features the Radiant Rider Waite in a Tin (great for popping in your bag or car), and Dixie (who wrote this book). Want a one-on-one? Go here.

Energy Budget: Weekly Tarot, Feb 27 – Mar 5, 2017

I spend a good amount of time on social media for business. It’s goal-driven participation, but you know how that is. So much of everything there…

Oh my God, I hide so much!

It’s daily. Lots and lots and lots gets hidden or blocked. And not because there is thing one wrong with what I’m hiding. People can discuss whatever it is they want to discuss and feel about it however they want to feel about it. I am genuinely egotistical, but not so much I think I’ve cornered the market on truth or perspective. I would never want to impinge upon the freedom of others! But that doesn’t mean I have to be a participant in all of it, either.

It’s just really important to me, how I feel. I consider how I feel THE top priority in my life. It’s my job to feel as good as I can, as much of the time as I can. And to that ends, I won’t become mired in lengthy discussion of issues that are upsetting to me.

Does such avoidance make me selfish, uninformed, deluded, privileged, or otherwise derelict in my social responsibilities?

Maybe. I know for a fact, there are kind-hearted, loving people who deem it so–and that, too, is their right. Don’t care, if you want to know the God’s-to-honest truth. I love y’all but I’ve gotta make decisions for myself. Some people feel that fighting what they perceive as wrong is the only way to impact change. If that’s what you believe, then you should do that! Always do what you feel is right and I wish you well in doing it.

For me, I believe being the best person I know how to be is my greatest opportunity to contribute. So I’m doing that.

This week? People may benefit from a less direct approach across the board, too–more water, less rock. At least, consider stepping back until you’re feeling utterly stable in your own skin. Impulsiveness or brashly powering through barriers is not favored.

[bctt tweet=”Be more water, less rock. Weekly #Tarot Forecast” via=”no”]

Tarot foretells a week that remains somewhat squishy, with a mix of primarily Cups, Pentacles and peppered with some Major Arcana. We start out rough–eclipse hangover, perchance? But by the weekend (provided you played your cards right), it’s looking pretty sweet.

Overall, I keep getting themes of budgeting energy expenditures. Don’t spend what you don’t have to freely spend on any level, and prioritize managing your emotional state. That is something you ARE in charge of!  I’ll take it, ’cause really, what choice do I have anywho?

View the Full Forecast in video, here.

I liked the Queen of Swords advice last week to hit the bullet points, so I’m running with it.

Day-by-Day-Play-by-Play

  • Monday, Queen of Pentacles rx: Mind your resources and don’t spend more than what you’ve got of whatever it is.
  • Tuesday, Knight of Cups rx: Hold off with emotional dumping messages. Highly sensitive time in general and strong possibility you’ll be misheard if you communicate impulsively.
  • Wednesday, Six of Pentacles rx: Take care of your own business. Don’t hop in to try and fix for others. No charity work.
  • Thursday, Ace of Pentacles rx: Lowish energy. Don’t overspend, anything, again.
  • Friday, The Tower: Choices earlier in the week culminate. If you overdid, it will fall apart today. If you showed restraint, the crashes won’t be yours.
  • Saturday, The Chariot: Single-minded focus on what you care about, and forget the rest. Simple.
  • Sunday, Two of Cups: Great date night. Expect peace, harmony and music. Good flow today.
  • Overview/Advice, Six of Wands: It may not be obvious, but it’s all working out in the bigger picture. Appreciate what’s working and let everything else be.
  • Affirmation: Loss. Focus on what you’ve got, not what you don’t. It’s your choice, what you make bigger in your life.

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Are you able to “mind your own emotional store” easily? What helps you?


This week’s forecast features the Tarot Illuminati and Wisdom of the Crone deck. You know where to find me if you want a personal consult.

Self-Contained. Weekly Tarot Forecast, Oct 3 – 9, 2016

One of those things I learned from parenting: there is no bigger setup for failure than trying to control someone else’s life.

Even if your intentions are golden.

Even if they’re headed for a big, fat brick wall.

Even if you’re “right.”

Your responsibility–or more accurately, your RIGHT–to run any life begins and ends with you. Nobody else but you. Not your kid or your mother or your brother or your high school classmate.

Just you.

Everybody has their own perspective. Everybody has their own thoughts and feelings and priorities. Unless someone is looking for your input specifically and explicitly, why try to force it upon them?

That’s what comes to mind, looking at this forecast.

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The week begins in fits and starts. There’s a tendency to rescue others, or be more accurate, TRY to do so “for their own good.” There may be questions about how others are going to manage this or that and the feeling like you must involve yourself because, well…you are the only one who can step in and fix for them.

That’s not a good idea. But you know that, right?

You do nobody any favors when you look to be their strength. Instead, see the capacity in them, help remind them of their own strength and stand the Hell back out of their way while they find their own footing. Your job, and your only job, is to find your footing. Not your neighbors.

Eyes on your own paper, yo!

Audio Version of the Week’s Tarot Forecast


Monday, Two of Pentacles rx: Prioritize, baby! It ain’t all your job, everything in the world. Don’t fuss at yourself for what you don’t get done. Do what you can and let the rest go.

Tuesday, Eight of Cups rx: Feeling of claiming something doesn’t matter to you, but it does. How you feel is how you feel. Denial doesn’t change it. Don’t fool yourself! Be aware, anything that you react to more strongly emotionally than you would expect, that points you’ve tapped into a feeling vein that is attached to something else.

Wednesday, Page of Pentacles rx: Don’t spend more than you’re comfortable spending. And don’t try to take on extra tasks that are not yours. Take it easy, physically. Let others manage their own issues.

Thursday, Ten of Wands rx: Opportunity to drop or release obligations, ideas, details, issues, responsibilities that are NOT yours or that you’ve carried needlessly. Good day to let go of issues you’ve been holding onto without cause.

Friday, King of Cups rx: Be aware of potential of fluctuating emotional states. Sit with emotions for a while, put them to the scrutiny of reason before acting. Behave in an emotionally mature way and take your time…kind of testy feel, possible overreactions. Don’t take sloppy emotions in the wild personally, because it’s not.

Saturday, Ten of Pentacles: Fun! Good day for family activities, or friends that feel like family. Good money day. Check your mailbox! Maybe there’s a check. Lots to apprecite today.

Sunday, The Moon: Good possibility some of the info you run across today may not be entirely accurate. Doesn’t have to be a big deal, but there is a blurring of truth here. No drastic action. Good day for imaginative projects, or watching movies. Reading fiction, too.

Overview/Advice, Knight of Cups rx: The theme of this forecast is check your emotions and go slow in emotional matters. Knee jerk reactions are not your friend, so don’t be in a hurry to resolve. Take your time. Be easy and gentle. Pull back and soothe yourself when you are feeling emotional, to get centered and grounded before moving. Or opening your mouth!

Affirmation: We are each responsible for the thoughts we think. Sometimes we try to dazzle others with facts, facts, facts, reasons, reasons, reasons, emotional appeals, etc. It’s not your job or my job to convince anybody else. It’s our job to think our own thoughts and let others think their own thoughts. Think thoughts that keep you calm, centered and in a good, appreciative state. That’s ALL you have to do. You’ll connect with those whose vibes match you. However it works out, it’s okay. All you have to do is feel as good as you can and everything else goes smoothly.

Look to be self-contained this week, emotionally. Not that you don’t love beyond yourself or you don’t enjoy some awesome connections, too. That’s a good thing. But in terms of stability, happiness, your emotional state, making decisions and whatnot? Look within and don’t meddle. Self-contained is your keyword here.

Are you (usually or often) self-contained emotionally?

[bctt tweet=”Your only job is to look after yourself, your own connection. Plug in.” via=”no”]

This week’s forecast features the New Vision Tarot and Abraham-Hicks Money and the Law of Attraction cards. If you like it, you may like my book, Everyday Tarot Archives, or a personal consult.

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