Law of Attraction and Blame the Victim?

Law of Attraction Bad Things and Good People?

What do you see?

One of the more troubling questions when considering a Law of Attraction worldview is when things don’t go right. What if you haven’t manifested up yourself a reliable car or the perfect home base or trustworthy relationships or whatever it is you want, maybe after years of trying? What if, to put in bluntly, one or many parts of your life sucks?!

I mean, if I create my life and my life ain’t what I want it to be, doesn’t that imply I’m broken? Life sucks = me sucks? Which means I feel crummy about inferior performance in thinking perfect happy-thought-reality-making-beams, leaving me with even lamer thoughts until lo and behold, I now know I’m an utter loser! (Don’t interrupt Virgo hopped on the Guilt Trip Express, man. You’ll just get run over.) Vibration raising fail!

And then you’ve got to account for the whole crappy things happening to good people thing, or when something tragic happens to an infant or whatever. Occurrences clearly outside the range and focus of personal vibration. I mean, we can decide this must be a “soul contract,” a decision before incarnation to include certain touchstones in a lifetime to grow or serve in a certain way. But it’s not completely satisfying. And you still can’t help but feel unsettled, wondering if any of the crappy you’ve had in your life came from you somehow or somewhere along the way–an indication you’re not whole somehow?

I think some of the difficulty comes in seeing pleasant occurrences as good and hence, reward, painful as punishment. That’s over simplistic. So Old Testament, you know? We get a lot of useful growth from pain. It’s like Universal homework. We become better people through our pain, a lot of the time. It grants us access to perspectives and depth of understanding that we wouldn’t be privy to else wise. I’m not saying I won’t duck it if I have the chance. Hell yeah! But given a choice of paying the price and doing without, most of the time, I’d opt to pay my admission again if that’s what the knowledge cost.

Everything that comes in your life, you get something from it. Every bit of experience feeds you SOMETHING. Some experience tastes better than others, so we learn to steer our vibrational rate to up the percentage of desserts to bitter roots, you know? That sounds reasonable to me.

But beyond that…the vibration frequency you have, that’ the world you live in, you know? You carry it with you, you feel it whether it’s there or not. It becomes a larger part of your everyday experience. Over time, others that match that frequency will be drawn to you. That’s the range things will feel most comfortable in, for all sides. It’s like everybody is dancing to the same tune…a synchronicity. Energetic alignment is magnetic.

And as you keep expecting the same, consciously or not, the list of reasons to expect it continues to rack up. Empirical evidences accrues to support your reality. Vicious circle if you want to trade realities.

But you can call off the pity party. No point of teeth-gnashing regret. That feeds the energy you want to oust. Look to clear out the fears that are hiding underneath, whatever lurks below ground that you don’t want to keep in your experience. Cleaning house gives you a smooth, easy energy flow.

The gift with clearing those blocks, shaking out the fears, is that you instantly get protection. It provides relief. You don’t have to struggle to keep unpleasant thoughts at bay.When you’re relaxed and thinking clearly, your channel is clear. You can trust your gut. When there’s something you need to know, you will. And you’ll be turned off, warned, repelled by or otherwise separated from those who’s vibration doesn’t match yours. Severely mismatched energy is jarring and uncomfortable.  Energetic ties aren’t being formed. It’s not sticking to you! It loses it’s power when you can detach and instead,  and makes room for what feeds you instead. Faith takes over.

Change the inside, change the outside. Heal and be healed. The “who started it?” question isn’t especially relevant. Just keep growing. That’s what this Earth gig is all about.

What do you think?

Effective Affirmations 101

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” –Wayne Dyer

Affirmations–short statements of what we want–are easy-to-use, feel good, and are a very practical tool for consciously changing our lives. Thoughts have energy, influencing the vibration of what you attract. The more a thought is repeated, the more deeply rooted the energy becomes in your life. Effective, well-constructed affirmations can shift our energy to powerfully alter our experience. So it’s worth the effort to learn how to use them well.

Tips for More Effective Affirmations

  • Use the present tense. “I’ll have what I want someday” is affirming nothing other than NOT having it now.
  • Affirm what you do want, not absence of what you don’t. Words like “don’t, won’t, can’t” and so on aren’t processed by the subconscious. The disclaimer part doesn’t get attached to the energy you’re sending out. So an affirmation like, “I’m not stressed” actually sensitizes you to stress! Oops.  Not the plan? Instead, try something like, “I feel calm and grounded.”
  • Forget the how; focus on the what. This is no time for control-freaking. Defining the how limits the affirmation’s potential unnecessarily. Have enough faith to allow your dreams multiple paths to realization.
  • Go for the essence, not a single example. It casts a wider net. Instead of, “I make it to work on time,” perhaps “I arrive early and with ease.”
  • Affirm with feeling. It’s the emotional charge in your affirmation that gives it wings. The more positive emotional energy your affirmation generates, the better (and faster) it works for you.
  • Use the one-step up approach. If you’re fearful about paying your bills, affirming yourself as a mufti-millionare is only going to leave you feeling like a liar!  You’ll have trouble generating the positive emotion that’s required to attract the energy you want when you cannot believe the affirmation. Start modestly and once you have that mastered, work your way up. “I have enough to share” or “I have many riches in my life” may be more accessible emotionally and still help shift your energy toward abundance. Once that comes easily and you’re feeling it, you can continue building from there.
  • Appreciate. Gratitude turns blessings up. Love, joy and appreciation are extremely potent vibrations. The most effective affirmations are often built atop acknowledgment of the blessings you already have in some form. If you remember to be thankful for the essence in whatever form it already exists, you’ll begin finding more and more of it to be thankful for.

Let the lack starve! Instead, look for hints of the energy in your life you’d like to grow, and use your affirmations to feed it!

Do you use affirmations? What helps you most?


Everyday Magic: Literal or Metaphorical?

Everyday Magic

Everyday Magic is where the spiritual and physical intersect.

Literal or metaphorical? From the comments:

“I think I sometimes take these wonderful spiritual metaphors and relate them right back into the material world, even though they may not be intended as that.

But I actually did spend hours yesterday taking lots of old clothes out of closets, and marked it for Goodwill.” – sophie

I mean the metaphors both ways. Multi-layered reality. Both physical cleaning and energetic cleaning are brands of the same type of energy–release. So working on one enhances and smooths the way for the other. As above, so below. This is an everyday expression of the Law of Attraction.

Do you see the energetic/physical connections?

Inverted Sun: Love, Not Regret

From a reading…

Don’t worry that you’ve created the mess by not always focusing on the light, okay? Yes, you create your reality, but in a relationship, you do not create it alone. So stop thinking of problems as a personal failing, where you were not “good enough” to successfully fight for the higher ground.

This whole thing, the ups and downs and in between, is a series of the life lessons for you to study. You are not failing spiritually, because of the shadow on your happiness. You do not control everything that happens directly. You control your thoughts, where your energy goes.

And even when things stray into uncomfortable avenues, there will be something of use there for you to pick and and learn from that can add to your eventual fulfillment and gifts to others. So accept it all all part of the process, okay? With LOVE, not regret.

What do you see?

Where’s the Feng Shui Lottery-Winning Fishpond?

Feng shui fishpond

Lucky Koi?

My husband was flipping through channels, pausing on a show about lottery winners. One winner was proudly attributing her winnings to her Feng Shui fishpond, with the water flowing right in toward the door.

My husband leans back with a mildly disturbed look and sort of grunts.


“Feng shui.” He shakes his head. “Where’s our fishpond?! How come you didn’t tell me about that? We have no fishpond. We have no winning lottery ticket! What’s wrong with this picture?!”

“Ooops. Sorry. Guess I was slacking!”

Evidently, it’s my job to keep him posted about these things. What’s your job?

Everyday Tarot, 05/21/11: Art of Manifesting with Inverted Nine of Cups

daily-tarot-forecast-inverted-nine-cupsBe careful what you wish for. You may get it. –English Proverb

After all, the grass is not always greener. It just looks that way from the other side of the fence. So why haven’t you manifested yourself a prettier lawn, grasshopper?!?

Today’s Tarot Forecast is the inverted Nine of Cups, or “Lord of Material Happiness,” associated with Jupiter in Pisces. Sometimes known as “The Wish Card,” it’s all about big (Jupiter) dreams (Pisces) coming to life! In the suit of cups (Emotion), we’re definitely talking wishes near and dear to your heart. Inverted, I’d say it’s not quite there yet, or something’s in the way. Uh oh!

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