03/21/13: Distractions / rev 4 of Cups

So…today, I got sucked in the black hole of studying how to make better videos instead of actually, say, MAKING better videos…now, I’m not saying this was a complete waste. I’m not happy with my skills yet. I learn a lot from this research. I’ll use that data and hope y’all will reap the benefits.

But it’s a fine balance, you know? A fine balance.


Uh oh.

Here, we have the reversed Four of Cups, associated with Moon in Cancer. Can you say “moody?” The mood here to me suggests a dreamy dissatisfaction. He ignores the three cups in front of him, and doesn’t even seem to be focusing on or reaching for the fourth. He’s lost in his own process. He’s thinking it to death!

Don’t get so caught up in the notion of perfection, of what you are missing, that you fail to capitalize on what you’ve got right this minute. How do you think you get there from here, huh?

A little dissatisfaction is fine, often even healthy. It highlights growth potential. A lot can leave us discouraged. Any kind of what-if daydreaming can be creative, productive and inspiring. Too much, it can be procrastination in a shiny dress.

Stay emotionally connected to where you’re at; allow yourself some time to dream it up, sure! Allow yourself to honestly acknowledge potentials unrealized. But don’t get bogged down in the process.

Eh. Guess I’d better get back to work!

Do you get distracted?

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05/10/12: How could I have been so blind? | 4 Cups


“Because you’re not what I would have you be, I blind myself to who, in truth, you are.’ Madeleine L’Engle

We’ve got the Four of Cups (Moon in Cancer)—the man is dressed in leaves, suggesting a cycle of active growth. Yellow, as the sky is here, often symbolizes intellectual or mental understanding, although since we’re in the suit of cups, we know the outcomes he considers have emotional significance for him. The three full cups on the ground show what he already has, while the other, offered ethereally, shows an outcome that’s captured his attention, not yet materialized.

I often see the Four of Cups when one is dissatisfied with life, looking for something very different from what they have. It can also indicate you’re missing what’s right under your nose, not appreciating what you’ve already got, or just full-on dreaming something up.

People see what they’re ready to see, when they’re ready to see it. Nothing more, nothing less. So very much is perspective, informing emotional response and flavoring experience.

That’s how you can live something, clear as crystal plain as day in front of you, and not understand it until 20 years later. Because that’s how long it took me, to figure out what happened.

I was 19. One of my father’s friends was there, banging on the door of my beat-up, trailer. I was dressed for bed, because I worked nights.

I desperately wanted him to go away. I was in horrible pain at the time, and he knew it. He was one of the ones deciding my fate.

He kept banging. So eventually, I poked my head out the door, trying to hide my thighs. I didn’t want to completely alienate him—but I did want him to leave.

So I tried to get him to leave. At first, politely. He kept pushing. He insisted I talk to him, insisted I let him in. I said no, still trying to be polite.

He physically pushed past me, into my house. I was stunned! He wasn’t even supposed to be visiting me alone—I knew protocol, and this wasn’t it. But to push his way in when I said no? When I wasn’t fully dressed? Really?

“You need to go! I’m not even dressed. You need to go!! You need to leave.”

Talking, talking, he just kept talking. Louder, he said I had to listen to him, I had no choice.

“No, I don’t HAVE to do anything!! We are NOT having a conversation! Get out of my house! You need to leave now!”

He wouldn’t shut up and he wouldn’t leave.


In between the arguing, he wasn’t budging. I just snapped, and started hysterically screaming at the top of my lungs.


He left. I don’t think it went down quite like he’d planned.

Now, I’m thinking most people hearing this story have a pretty good idea of what was going down.

Me? It took me literally TWENTY YEARS to realize it. I am not a stupid person, either.

And that, my friends, is a very long Four of Cups/How-could-I-have-been-so-blind? moment. It took me twenty years to be ready to see what was right in front of my face.

Have you had some of those “How-could-I-have-been-so-blind?” moments?

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04/26/12: Mama’s Driving! | 4 Cups

“A family is a place where principles are hammered and honed on the anvil of everyday living.” Charles R. Swindoll

Mama’s driving! Today’s Tarot is the Four of Cups of the Zodiac Tarot (Moon in Cancer) –perfect for today’s Moon in Cancer.

There’s nothing wrong with taking the long way, if that’s what feeds you. Look to people, places and things that emotionally nurture you and even more, those you love. Focus on what’s important and pay attention to your driving. Where you direct your attention is exactly where you’re going to end up, you know.

If you’ve got some flowers to plant, it’s a good day for it. Or a picnic lunch with your family would be a good choice. Just remember—keep Mama happy today. And if you are Mama, well…keep Mama happy, too. But this is the Chariot, so don’t think it’s somebody else’s business to do that for you. You’re driving, Mama. If there needs to be a change in course, it’s your responsibility to do so.

Are you feeling the Mama moon?

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10/15/11: Time Out | Rev. Queen of Coins, Four of Cups

“In every walk with nature one receives far more than he seeks.” –John Muir


Today’s Tarot forecast is the inverted Queen of Pentacles (Water in Earth) and the Four of Cups (Moon in Cancer).  Take some time away from all the people you care for, all the work you do. You don’t have to do it all, by yourself, all the time. Take a break for dreaming. Mark it on your calendar, if need be!

It’s also a good idea to acknowledge what you have currently as well as what’s on offer, on every level. It’s easy enough to take for granted people and situations that sustain us, always seeking the missing pieces without acknowledging what’s already there. Withdraw, meditate, and be still for a minute or two now. All is stable (the promise of Tarot Fours), so it’s the perfect time to take a time out. Back off a bit, take time out to let the full picture sink in, and you’ll be prepared to make the most of what you’ve got coming.

You have a time-out coming?

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08/07/11: What’s in that drink? | Four of Cups

four-of-cups-tarot-housewives-deckToo much “things can never change” leaves people depressed and unmotivated. Too much “living in a dream world” leaves people unmotivated and ill-equipped to deal with current situations. We fare best with a balanced diet of now and then.

Today’s Tarot forecast is the Four of Cups or Lord of Blended pleasure, associated with the Moon in Cancer. We’re talking one serious drink, man! Our housewife is thinking it over, but somehow, I suspect there’s no way for her to gauge how that drink is going to go down. And also little reason to think it would be substantially different than the other three she just threw back, you know?

The Four of Cups reminds me that all is not always what it appears. Fantasy has a way of being so…perfect, you know? There’s not dishes and bills and dirty laundry to soil the illusion of bliss. Day-to-day isn’t always so neat but to me, it’s superior because it’s real. And not just in the physical, time-space kind of reality, but “real” in the sense it’s not predictable and tidy and already wrapped up with a bow.

I grow from reality! I am surprised. I bend, I flex, I learn and I change from the cups I’ve actually drinking. And if I don’t like the drink? Then let’s check the recipe, to see what all went into making it. Then, I’m equipped to mix up a tastier drink. :drink:

For me, the Four of Cups is about being fully present, wherever you are in life. Right here, right now, experiencing and understanding what is first—then, some attention directed toward where you want to head provides guidance on your next step. Not all your attention, but enough to see and act on the potential.

So we’re searching for the sweet spot, to merge dreams with present for the most fulfilling overall experience. Because neither a life without dreams or dreams without life satisfies. Let’s drink a little from both. But responsibly, please!

How are your dreams looking?

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Everyday Tarot, 06/16/11: Planting a New Garden / 4 of Cups

tarot-forecast-four-cupsAre you a “grass is always greener” sort?  Or do you tend to stay with what you’ve got, maybe even long after you’d have been better served moving on?

Today’s Tarot is “Discontent and Boredom,” better known as the Four of Cups or “Lord of Blended Pleasure,” associated with the Moon in Cancer. And it’s true, sometimes this card can signal being stuck in a rut. Mostly, I see this fellow pop up when more attention is being paid to what is not than to what is.

Now, we talk about the Law of Attraction, and tuning in to the vibration you want. And what you want may not exactly be reflective of current experience. Ouch. Feeling like you’re missing the boat  doesn’t exactly put you on the frequency to fulfillment, huh? So you need another approach.

Instead, start with elements that have the essence you want, and turn them up. Since form is irrelevant at this point, you can be creative. Work your way backwards, starting with the feeling you want.

If I wanted a partner, I’d look to what I expected to get from having that relationship. Companionship, security, and love? Get a dog! A sense of shared goals and dreams? Volunteer, or work on a cause. Your enjoyment is much more important that how you activate that vibration. The more joy, the higher, quicker, and louder the energy echoes into other other areas of your life.

But—and this is important—don’t dog yourself for feeling restless or unsettled sometimes. It’s not a failing. It’s a gift! Uncomfortable feelings are like a warning buzzer that something’s out of alignment. Or maybe we have extra challenges—difficulties give us powerful insights and potent energy. Our wounds grant us compassion, empathy and ability to heal.

Any difficult energy can operate like a a pent up spring—an invitation to burst forth in a new direction. It may be a challenge to master, but it’s a potent force for creation. “Discontent and Boredom” reminds us if we don’t like the view, we can plant a new garden, using whatever seeds we’ve got on hand.

How are your flowers doing?


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