Nine of Cups: Self-Validating Unicorns

I’ve been noticing with special clarity lately how vastly dependent “good” and “bad” is on perspective.

It’s always been there. What’s fat or skinny, what’s rich or poor? And yes, even what’s good or bad–it’s all completely subjective. I’ve done enough weight loss support and talked to enough Tarot clients to say this without hesitation!

What’s more, these designations will alter not based upon the circumstance, but ALWAYS based on the in-the-moment perspective of the individual.

The job that seemed utterly perfect at one point may be considered the worst ever at another point (or even another point in the same week).  Same for the relationship or the house or the car or whatever it is you’re concerned with at any given moment. People I consider thin may worry about their weight. People who seem rich to me can be upset about money. It’s an internal state, NOT an external one.

And however you feel is however you feel and there is no rightness or wrongness about that. It just is.

And it makes sense to make peace with wherever you are at, because what choice do you have? It’s current. It’s where you are at. Feeling crummy about it doesn’t change it. It just makes it harder to change it.

That’s not equivalent to resignation, by the way. It’s actually what unsticks you, not anchors.

Being at peace with where you are gives you a choice where you go with it. You can lean into whatever feels a little better, a little more satisfying, from wherever you’re at. That can be steered with just a little effort, caring about feeling better over other considerations. Choosing the thoughts you follow based on what soothes.

Or you can lean into worry and tension and upset. It’s always up to you, which way you lean from where you’re at.

And I’m not going to tell you one is right and one is wrong, because I don’t see the world that way. But I will tell you, one feels better. That’s the one I like to pick.

And that’s the topic of the Tarot forecast for next week.

Next Week in the Cards

This week, for outlook we have the Nine of Cups (Water) with advice coming in as the Seven of Wands (Fire) from The Good Tarot.

Now, the Nine of Cups is definitely a card of satisfaction–a wish being fulfilled. (Were you wishing for Mercury to go direct? Granted!) So I would expect to have some relief in the coming week if you’ve been struggling. And if not, still expect there to be icing on your cake, okay? This looks good to me.

Interesting in terms of advice, though…that Seven of Wands. To keep the “satisfaction vibe” active, you may have to reject or ward off the opinions of others. This is easier to do than you may appear at first glance, but it definitely takes practice.

What someone else thinks of you? Doesn’t matter. Whether or not anybody else agrees on what’s best? Doesn’t matter. Who approves of what or how many people sign on to your vision? NONE of this matters, not even one tiny little bit.

Insecurity fuels seeking outside validation. That’s a short-lived reassurance because it can and does change based on where someone else is at, at any given moment. The only lasting form of security comes from within. There is no other route.

You be your fancy, unique Unicorn self and *%#% the rest of anything else, okay?

Take care out there!

And if you want a one-on-one check to clear your head here, give me a holler.

Nine of Cups: Finding Value in Everything

I read an interview with Stephen Colbert, some time ago. And there was a part that really stuck with me.

He ended up as a comedian because of a tragedy. And he says of that, “You’ve got to learn to love the bomb.” The bomb is whatever blew your life up.

You can be grateful for what a bomb gave you, without having wanted it to happen. Those are two different things. They can and do coexist.

It’s Eclipse season, folks. Which you already know, if you’ve not been too “eclisped out” to notice. Big, bold shifts of energy everywhere you look.

And I’m thinking of BIG changes, big shifts. All those big shifts we ride through the years. Some of them are bombs, without question.

How they never turn out to be what you think they are going to be, at the time. How some of the most challenging turn out to define you, help you hone in on who you really want to be, at a depth you’d never found, nor would have been driven to find, outside the experience that spurred it.

And you can’t go back. Not that you’d want to. Not really. But it doesn’t matter, because there is no “back.”

There is only forward. And it’s your choice, what you do with that.

The Nine of Cups is often called “the wish card” and often read as a wish granted (including by me). But today, I want to call it “contentment” instead. And contentment isn’t contingent on any outside condition.

You don’t have to get your wish, to be content. In fact, it has nothing to do with what you have at all, and everything to do with how you’re thinking about it.

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So many times, people try to refill their spirit from the outside. Who loves me? Who agrees with me? Who reassures me? Who validates me?

When the conditions of my life better, I’ll be better! When I find someone who will give me what I want, I’ll be happy.

Those kinds of refills are only temporary at best, because the hole is constantly recreated by the doubts that spawned the questions. Of course it feels good when other people shine their love on you! And it feels good when you shine your love on them. But the only way for that love to flow freely is if you are shining on yourself, first.

Stay centered, my friends. Don’t worry about what others think of you, because it’s impossible for that to be about you anyway. And how you feel about it is always and only a translation of how you feel about you. All roads lead home, always. Always, always, always. There is no other way it can be.

Whatever bombs you have, do your best to appreciate them. Tap into the best of everything it gave you, through your appreciation and loving energy. And in doing so, you get access to the power of it.

Contentment isn’t a destination. It’s a perspective, and it’s accessed entirely by choice. Choosing what you focus on in any given experience, what vein you tap. It’s all there but you can mine what you choose from it.

Be well.

This week’s forecast features Osho Zen deck and man, is it pretty! Holler at me if you wanna go for a one-on-one session.

Who Cares about the Brussel sprouts? Tarot Forecast, Dec. 5 – 11

When my kids were little, they did the same thing all kids do: they looked at ugly veggies like brussel sprouts and declared them disgusting.

I had already firmly established I wasn’t going to make multiple, separate meals for dinner. Frankly, they were lucky I came up with one! But it still was an issue for me getting some veggies down their little gullets, taking my parental responsibilities for their well-being quite seriously as young mothers often do.

“Okay, that’s fine if you don’t like something. As an adult, I don’t force myself to eat things I don’t like. But I expect you to try it before declaring it disgusting.”

See, the “I fixed it just how you like it, with salt and pepper and butter!” had stopped working. So I made a rule, there must be a full bite taken, chewed and swallowed before determining whether or not something was “disgusting” and before being excused from the table

You see where this is going?

Worst rule I ever conjured. It gave me a lot more grief with the boy child than just letting him turn his nose up the the green spheres and be done with it.

Instead, we had a battle of wills. Over brussel sprouts. Who would give in first?

Honestly, I don’t remember who is was that folded. I just remember an extracted battle that felt lousy and completely missed the point of encouraging him to try something new in an open, accepting atmosphere.

This week? It’s kind of like that. You can insist on things that are not really that important (as both of us were doggedly doing in my story). Or you can look at the bigger picture and only insist on what matters. Because most of it doesn’t.

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Overall, the week is not looking too bad! Basically any setbacks this week look minor and as long as you keep in mind what matters most and dismiss the rest, they are not gonna throw you. Lots of opportunities for replenishing and if you take them, it’s smooth sailing. So go forth and have an awesome week.

Monday, Nine of Cups rx: Generally, I read this card as “almost perfect.” You can find complaints if you look, but why look? There is a lot to enjoy if you’re not a whiner. So don’t be a whiner!

Tuesday, Empress: Awesome day! Creative day, as this is the Tarot Mama. Good day to give birth to something new, or self care is good. Anything you do under the Empresses influence to heal or build yourself up, it tends to be especially effective. Good day.

Wednesday, The Lovers: Expect harmony. Usually with the Lovers, there is choice involved as when the man chooses to be with the wife and leave home, for example. We’re generally looking at fortuitous, comfortable. Will have the option to get your vibe on with people of like mind, so enjoy!

Thursday, Nine of Wands rx: A little different than what we’ve had up to this point. Usually, I’ll see this when someone is tired of holding out. Would not focus a whole bunch on getting your individual way. Shift focus to the bigger picture, what is really important. Forget specifics, but look to principles to get the most here.

Friday, Seven of Wands: Echoing same theme as yesterday. Look at core values, not little details. If it’s not important, let it the heck go!

Saturday, High Priestess: Great time to make time for quiet, contemplative events. Time outside if it’s not too cold, meditation, music, etc. Intuition is in high gear. It’s access through quiet activity, creative stuff, exercising your imagination, dreamwork, etc. Know your radar is in high gear, even if you’re not overly energetic. Not a super active vibe, but very receptive.

Sunday, Queen of Pents rx: Take care of yourself FIRST, before extending hospitality to others. If you don’t, you’ll run out of gas before it’s done.

Overview/Advice: Ten of Pentacles rx. Still a nice vibe even reversed. Stronger upright but still a good vibe. Know this week’s setbacks are minor and you can easily work your way around it if you choose. Keep the good attitude and it will go well. In fact, issues that come up can be helpful in terms of providing useful info anywho. Freaking out, it goes downhill, so keep the good attitude. Do what you can to roll with the flow and don’t get worked up.

Affirmation: As I say yes to life, life says yes to me. Take a chance! Do what you really want to do. For me this conjures up the idea, so many times when we’re looking at why we want something, we actually think in terms of what they don’t want, not what they do. It may seem like the same thing saying you don’t want to be sick vs. you want to be healthy, but it’s a lot different vibration. It’s not as subtle difference as you’d think. There is a big difference between pushing against vs. pulling for, although both bring more into your life.

 

Do you pick your battles? Or does it depend on your mood?

This week’s forecast features the Gilded Tarot and Louise Hay’s Power Thought cards. Get a personalized consult here.

Minding Your Own Business is Good Medicine: Tarot Forecast, Oct 31 – Nov 6, 2016

“I’ve decided to forget worrying about my kids,” I told my mom the other day. “I am staying out of their business completely and I’m a lot happier this way.”

“Really, Dixie? I don’t know how you can manage it.”

I was surprised. Really surprised. I thought my mom was pretty darned good at this! With the exception of an occasional lapse, she almost never tells us what to do or expresses judgement over our choices. (Okay. I’m not counting that face she makes sometimes when she sees something she doesn’t like. She can’t help that.)

“Oh, I worry all the time,” Mom confided. “It never stops. I just try to keep my mouth shut unless I’m asked.”

She clearly does a pretty good job of it.

For me, it’s not about caring. I care every iota as much as I ever have.

It’s just that my kids are adults now and I respect that. I respect the fact their choices are not mine, any more than my choices are my mother’s. I respect the fact they have access to the exact same resources as I do–those of the Universal stream of wellness. And I respect that, as individuals, it’s THEIR JOB to live their lives and figure out what they want and how to live. Not mine.

Also, it’s a whole lot nicer to say, “I’m sure you’ll figure it out” and mean it than to try and figure it out for them. It’s just good medicine, minding your own business, all around.

This week? This would be a very handy philosophy to adopt in general. (Okay, I think “always,” not just this week. But I am admittedly biased.)

Tarot Forecast Halloween Week

Happy Halloween, y’all! I decided to skip the Zombie Tarot this week even though the forecast begins on Halloween because why? I didn’t feel like using it. Reason enough, man.

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We’ve got some inverted cards, especially in the beginning of the week. So the energy is there, but not freely expressing. So we’ll probably have a slow start to the week, but no worries. It clears nicely by the end of the week. Looking at themes, I’m seeing the idea of being responsible for your own self and only your own self, and butting out of everybody else’s self. Even if you “know they are wrong!” Especially if you feel that way. You know why?

Trusting another to work out their own life, their own thoughts, and their own course is an act of respect and love. Anything short of that is sending the message, “I don’t trust you.” Not only that, but “I don’t trust your connection to the Universe to get you through this is the best way possible. So I have will do for you.” That, my friends, is not true and it’s a fancy way of avoiding mirrors.

Monday, Ten of Pentacles rx: I like this card in general. But today, I want to tell you to be aware of your purchases and put off impulse purchases. I don’t see this as heavy, not a big financial issue, but more like buying something and seeing it on sale the next day. Also? Extrapolate the concepts towards energy resources and not just cash. Like you may start something that requires more time, energy or effort than you were prepared for. So expenditures of any sort may demand more than you had initially budgeted. Not a shortage so much as just more than you expected.

Tuesday, The Empress rx: The Empress is a peach no matter how she shows up. Today though…don’t mother those that don’t want to be mothered. Don’t meddle or offer unsolicited advice. You’ll have much better luck focusing on your OWN projects instead of other people’s projects.

Wednesday, Ten of Wands: Here’s one I’d rather see inverted! But you get what you get. Many tasks. Feelings of being burdened with responsibilities. Ask yourself, which are truly yours. Some may not be. Secondly, prioritize for the important stuff and let everything else go. Focus first and foremost on what matters truly, and the day will go well.

Thursday, Queen of Wands rx: Normally when this lady shows up reversed, there can be potential for being stubborn or overcontrolling. But right now, let’s hone in on your disposition and general attitude. There is a tendency to be fussy over stuff that isn’t that big deal in the bigger picture. Like a child who has missed their nap, there may be a little crankiness out in the wild. If your mood is off, cut yourself and everybody else some slack. Withdraw instead of striking out and allow yourself time to get back to your happy space.

Friday, Eight of Wands: Stuff may feel unsettled and up in the air. But the energy is moving quickly and it will be settled in short order. Know that all the components already in place. Like someone who has already sent off a letter that cannot be retrieved, what’s going down is a done deal. So let it be and call upon your faith because that’s what you’ve got.

Saturday, Nine of Cups: Weekend looks great! This is “the wish card.” All is right with the world kind of feeling. Expect a good day and enjoy it.

Sunday, Four of Swords: It’s an opportunity to set down your burdens and rest and replenish. It should be a happy, fun and replenishing time for most over the weekend. Have fun!

Overview/Advice: Page of Cups: Be loving, be kind, and live from your heart, yes. But to expand, pay a lot of attention to your feelings! They are your GPS. If it feels icky, don’t touch it! Please don’t let your brain talk you out of it. You don’t need a list of reasons why you don’t feel it. And likewise, if you’re feeling excited, go with it! Don’t separate yourself from your own internal signal by discounted it. Your emotions are extremely important, this is where you get so much guidance! So throughout the week, look to let your emotions chart your course. Honor them, as they are SO valuable and important! A lot of psychic and intuitive info comes in this way.

Affirmation: I am at peace with my age. What are you gonna do if you’re not? Makes a lot of sense to make peace with whatever you cannot change. If you know me, you know I pretty much don’t care about my age. Your age doesn’t dictate what you can and cannot do. What’s in your heart and your desires drives this. I love being my age–I like the life experience and the confidence that comes with a few miles, along with a little broader perspective. But you will feel how you feel. I would suggest, however, you look for things to appreciate about whatever age or place you happen to be, you’ll be much happier. Look to stuff to feel good about no matter what!

You cannot control others. You are happier when you live life not obsessing over what you cannot control. Be happy. Live your own life and focus on what matters to you. Show everyone the same respect. It’s the best advice I can give you…for this week and yes, forever beyond, too.

Are you at peace with what cannot be changed?

This forecast uses the Tarot Nova mini deck, and the Louise Hay Power Thought Cards for the affirmation. If you dig my stuff, you may like my book, Everyday Tarot Archives, and/or a consult. Be well! ~Dix

Ground and Center: Weekly Tarot, Aug. 15 -21

For many years, I’ve felt like my life worked out pretty well, overall. But never, ever on my timetable! It seemed the harder I wanted something–unless it hit the point of overwhelming desire–the less likely it was to show up for me.

Of course, we tend to notice that dynamic most on subjects where we’re not where we’d like to be. The ones we are? Kinda taken for granted.

But a funny thing about that. Sometimes, when I’d eventually just forget about it and give up? What I was wanting showed up. Once I was able to set aside the worry and fuss and thinking, thinking, thinking about all of it, sometimes it would work out in the background. The Universe appeared to be on it, as soon as I’d get out of the way.

This week? Leave the heavy lifting to the Universe so that life can just unfold as it will. Your job is to manage your own emotional state. Ground and center, yo.

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The first thing that jumps out about this week is the number of inverted cards. Typically, a spread with this many reversals is going to point to a sluggishly moving week. We’ve got a mix of Tarot suits, so no one elemental energy predominates. Most of the cards showing up are not super uncomfortable energies as far as that goes, but they will be partial, slowish, or otherwise less than forthright in their manifestation. That’s fine, though. The big thing is that you stay centered throughout, not tossing this way and that due to what’s going on circumstantially. Because if you can get your center no matter the situation? You’ve got it made!

Monday, Nine of Swords rx: Anxiety letting up a little today. Take any openings here and run with them by consciously soothing yourself and directing your thoughts from anxious spirals to more comforting territory. Sometimes we worry as if the act itself will somehow prevent disaster when it’s pretty much the opposite. When we vibrate disaster, it has an uncanny way of finding us.

Tuesday, Ten of Pentacles: Solid money day; great time to reconnect with your “heart family.” Feeling at home and making space to feel appreciation for what “home” means to you turns this lovely vibe up. Good food, also highly recommended!

Wednesday, Page of Wands rx: One step at at time still counts. In fact, it’s the surest way to keep moving ahead. Making peace with where you’re at is not the same thing as condemning yourself to an eternity right there. It’s actually the first step in moving ahead.

Thursday, Justice rx: Ground and center, ground and center, ground and center. It feels like a whirlwind outside. I’m seeing storms brewing outside the door of your little cabin. Get yourself inside! Separate from disruptive people, places and situations to the best of your ability–either literally or in terms of the attention you pay–and hunker down in your own happy place. Ground and center.

Friday, Strength rx: You may doubt your own abilities, but that doesn’t mean those doubts are accurate. Focus on thoughts that enhance your feeling of self-confidence.

Saturday, Nine of Cups rx: Don’t pick out the little thing that’s not exactly to your liking to give attention to. Select all the bigger things that are! You always have a choice in how you feel, executable by your selection on what you think about. Just keep reaching for the thoughts that give a little relief from where you are to step your way up the emotional ladder.

Sunday, Five of Cups: Okay, this card is sad. No getting around that–the Five of Cups is a card of loss. It’s not total loss (hence the remaining, standing cups), but it might feel like it in the moment. Keep up your self-care routines and continue edging your way up the emotional ladder by thinking thoughts that comfort you. It gets better.

Overview/Advice, King of Swords rx: Don’t overthink it this week. If it feels good to think about something, that’s reason enough to indulge yourself in those thoughts! If not, that’s reason enough to step back. Let your feelings guide you as much as you can.

Affirmation – Sensitivity, Archangel Haniel: “You are extra-sensitive to energies and emotions right now. Honor yourself and your feelings.”

No feelings are wrong. But some are certainly more pleasant than others! We can keep reaching for the feelings that feel better by consciously directing our thought processes  A lot of our pain and angst is totally unnecessary. Being sensitive? That’s a wonderful thing. It makes it easier for us to get connected and stay connected and get all those beautiful nudges and urges from our intuitive guidance system and nothing serves us better. But as our sensitivity may be turned up this week, it also means we must be extra mindful of caring for ourselves. Imbalances in energy are amplified under these conditions. So ground and center! And be kind to yourself.

Be well!

This week’s forecast features Legacy of the Divine Tarot and some Doreen Virtue Angel cards. If you dig it, you may like Dixie’s book, Everyday Tarot Archives. Or a personal consult.

Ready to Soar: Weekly Flow Tarot, June 27 – July 3, 2016

Timing is everything. I can do the same things, but if my timing is off–best indicated by how I FEEL about it, in the moment–it just doesn’t work. But when I am feeling good about it? Much different story.

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When I look at the forecast for this week, I’m seeing someone flopping themselves about, shaking the dust off of their clothes. Sort of like a wet dog, you know? Shiver and shake to break free of the mess, getting ready to take off. That’s how this week feels to me.

I totally blame Mars retrograde. We’ve been buried up to our necks in everything that isn’t right, is not working, feels stuck, and cannot be changed for what seems like forever now. The good news, of course, is that we had opportunity to see what’s not working, and the 29th, Mars goes direct. So that very frustrating feeling of being unable to move forward or accomplish whatever you like should start dissipating. YAY!

And next week’s forecast bears this dynamic out. The beginning of the week is murky, but it turns around to a lot more clear and optimistic towards the end. The weekend is perfect for clearing your head and clearing the air.

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Monday, Eight of Wands: Take heart! While situations are not yet settled, it’s breaking loose and it won’t be long before resolution will be upon us. You may not be able to see just what’s happening behind the scenes, but trust that movement will be forthcoming. If unsure of what you need to do, set the topic aside for a few days. End of the week, it will be more clear. This also has a feeling for me, of being inundated with details. If that’s true for you, just list it out and go one thing at a time.

Tuesday, The Moon: Be aware of stories that are compelling, but not factually accurate. Perhaps–no probably–the feeling content is the same, though. Great time for a little escape, too. Movies, books or music? Divine intervention, right there.

Wednesday, The Sun rx: Ah, let’s get happier today! Optimism is starting to take root. Feed it, to see it grow. Enjoy it. Revel in it–don’t talk yourself down. The lift is timely. Mars goes direct.

Thursday, The Empress: Feed yourself well today. Share it. Literally and figuratively, eat quality. Creative projects go well. Self-care and replenishment is always a good choice when the Empress shows up. Time in the garden or in nature is especially rewarding.

Friday, Ace of Cups: A little something you run across may really touch your heart today. A look, a few words, a tone of voice, something small. May take you by surprise. That’s okay. Wherever your feelings run deeper than you’d initially expect, it’s tapped another, deeper emotional vein. Look at it, with an open, compassionate heart–both the “little thing” and what it triggers.

Saturday, Page of Swords: Talk it out. Negotiate. Communicate. Come to an understanding. This is a great day for clear, plain talk. Understanding wins, and thoughts and ideas come into focus. Get quiet and clarity will settle upon you like a butterfly landing on your head.

Sunday, Queen of Swords: Prioritize. Make good on your agreements from yesterday.  Stay laser focused on goals and don’t get sidetracked with irrelevant tangents. If you take this approach, you’ll get a lot done today! Lean towards rational and fair for the best outcomes.

Overview/Advice, The World: You got this! You know that, right? Because the World says you do! Throughout the week, make your decisions based on who you want to be–the responsible, together and accomplished adult that you are. Act in a way you’d feel fine about other people knowing, even if nobody is looking. Responsibility and applying your full skillset in an honest, straightforward way to the challenges of the week pays off.

Affirmation, Nine of Cups: I love this card as an affirmation prompt. So many possibilities! All is perfect in my world. I’m where I’m supposed to be, doing what I’m supposed to be doing. I am at the right place at the right time. I am content. I am satisfied. I am enough. I appreciate what I have. I am grateful. I am joyful. I love my life. Everything is always working out for me. Life is fabulous!

Take your pick or make your own, here.

What affirmation will you use this week?

This forecast uses the Radiant Rider-Waite Mini Deck. Get a personal consult here, or check out my books. And love your life.