Nine of Wands & Four of Pentacles: Personal Stability First

When people say someone would “give them the shirt off their own back,” it’s meant as a compliment of generosity.  But in reality, giving more than you can comfortably give isn’t a very good idea.

First of all, it’s not sustainable. You need win-win scenarios to be sustainable.

And secondly, it doesn’t convey a message of hope. It conveys the idea that the giver is strong and capable, but the recipient is not. It’s a far more useful gift to help someone find their own strength than demonstrate your own.  This is especially true if you aren’t sure of your own stability and resources. That’s a very temporary fix and one you’ll likely to resent eventually.

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This week for the outlook we have exhaustion (Nine of Wands), with advice coming in the form of the Miser (Four of Pentacles) from the beautiful Osho Zen Tarot.

Oy! But we can do this.

Exhaustion is pretty self-explanatory. Exhaustion is about having too much going on, too many moving parts, ending in a bone-weariness from trying to make everything happen just so. I’ve found I’m much more likely to reach this point personally when I try to hold myself responsible for stuff that’s not mine. My own stuff is enough!

If you ever hear yourself asking, “But if I don’t, who will?” Well, that’s a sure sign your nose is in business that’s not yours.

The advice to be “the Miser” may be a bit of a surprise to some of y’all, but I understand it perfectly.

Conserve your energy. Don’t expend resources at a rate you’re not comfortable with just because it looks to you like someone else needs help. Put your own needs first!

Now, people may be thinking this advice is selfish. But I don’t have the same concept of selfishness most do.

First of all, our perspective can only be “selfish.” No matter how hard we try to take into account the opinions of others, we have no option but to see the world from a personal perspective, the perspective of self. Anything else is at best, guesswork.

Many equate the idea of selfishness with fulfilling personal needs at the expense of others. But that is a definition of predatory behavior, not looking after the self! Preying on others does not build up the self, it diminishes it. It’s a form of self-harm, in addition to being hurtful to others. It’s true many predators may not realize this consciously, but that behavior signals weakness and fear, not the kind of “selfishness” I advocate.

When we prioritize our own need, it puts us in the best possible position to be of service to the bigger world. It’s exactly when I’m most healthy, strong and stable–both physically and energetically–I have the most significant value to contribute. In order to stay that way, I have to manage my own needs first.

This coming week, pace yourself and keep account of your own resources, physical or otherwise. Of course you can help out whomever you’d like, but make your offers from a position of strength, always. Furthermore, make sure any assistance acknowledges and amplifies the competence of those you are assisting. Think in terms of encouragement rather than rescue and you’ll be on the right track.

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Make space for self-care and manage your resources wisely this week. The rest will work itself out without any trouble.

Are you managing your resources effectively?

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Judgement & Nine of Wands: Prepping for Fresh Starts

Merry Christmas, Blessed Solstice, and Happy Whatever-You-Celebrate! As we wind up 2018, I’m feeling excited about the fresh start and renewed optimism a new year implies. Wrapping up this year’s energy is naturally part of that mix.

I’ve been getting pings lately to rush less and allow things to unfold at their natural pace. The rushing itself and interpreting my progress as insufficient is the issue, not the actual pace. In fact, what I’m hearing here is that things will actually progress more quickly and smoothly if I drop the angst factor.

Of course, I’m sure I’m the only one who does that. HAHAHA! –Tarot reader joke.

Another tidbit from the 2019 Look-Ahead Zodiac reading themes: let other people have their own processes, while you have yours. Don’t contort your behavior to fit into someone else’s ideal or to garner approval. It’s not sustainable. Likewise, don’t try to enact solutions for other people’s worries. Let them have their path, while you have yours. The biggest support you can give anyone is believing in their ability to navigate their own life. This helps shore them up a million times better than any “fixing” you can do.

This all flows very nicely into what Tarot has to say here.

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Judgement & Nine of Wands: Prepping for Fresh Starts 2

We’ve got Judgement as the outlook, with the Nine of Wands coming in for advice from the Star Tarot. I followed up with a draw from the Botanical Inspirations deck, and we got a lovely Gerber Daisy.

I always think of Judgement as a path to clarity. Ironically, I usually read this card as being decidedly “non-judgemental” in the sense of not assigning blame. It’s more of an observational thing, where what has been planted is bearing fruit and you can determine what works and what does not. This isn’t so much about right or wrong as it is informational. All information is good information, you know?

The same theme is echoed in the advice we’re getting with the Nine of Wands. This version features the black and white wolves–what we would consider shadow and light. We couldn’t see light without shadow. It’s all part of the same whole. While there is an inevitable sense of being tired with this card, it also lets us know that standing your ground is indeed possible and that the situation(s) it refers to are close to being resolved. Tarot Nines are indicative of nearing the end of a cycle. So let that knowledge shore you up!

Finally, we’ve got our lovely Daisies, standing for “purity, cheerfulness & innocence.” It’s a powerful attitude, and one I try to embody as much as I can manage.

Don’t be quick to judge yourself (or anyone else) as “good” or “bad” this week. People are where they are, and that includes YOU! I’ve found I am most likely to look upon others as lacking when I’m feeling that way about myself and I can’t be the only one. Moreover, what looks “bad” at first glance can really lead to wonderful improvements in the big picture.

Let other people do what they do and wish them as well as you can as they do it, regardless of whether or not you’d approve. Keep steadfast to what rings true to your heart of course. And always, expect things to work out. Good and bad are in the eye of the beholder, you know?

Are you prepping for a fresh start?

p.s. Last call for the 2019 Zodiac Year-Ahead readings! If you want an overview of what to expect next year in audio format (with a keep-able mp3) and pictures of your cards to guide your upcoming year, just shoot me $50 on Paypal and I’ll put you on the list. I’m doing pretty well with staying caught up, so there’s not a long wait.

Four of Wands & Nine of Wands: Self-Contained Stability

“You would do well to get over caring what other people think about you.” I was talking to one of my Tarot peeps recently when I gave this advice.

I know, I know. It’s definitely easier said than done.

But think about when this comes up, okay? We don’t need this sort of reassurance unless we’re shakey. If you’re confident already, there is no drive to find the outside confirmation. You just know. And in terms of stability, “just knowing” is the best place to find oneself.

On the other hand, when someone is unsure on some level, it begins to feel important–even vital–to get all the people to sign on. Putting aside the fact that getting mass adoption for any vision is pretty much a physical impossibility, the underlying question is even more compelling: do you really want to depend on others for stability? Because if you need the agreement, that’s exactly what you’re doing.

Of course, I love to take people along for the ride when I find something that works for me. I value being of service and it means a lot to me that sometimes, my thoughts or perspectives are useful to others. BUT that doesn’t mean I need the approval to feel okay. I also don’t advise looking to be of service directly until you’re at a point you’re comfortable when people ignore your input or just flat out disagree. Otherwise, you’re still kind of screwed.

I aim for a very self-contained stability. That’s the only way to be unflappable, you know? That idea is right up there with looking to the conditions around me to decide if I’m happy or not. There is just no point in that unless I want to be at the mercy of whatever I happen to look at. Not for me! It can be done internally. That’s the only way to have stability. So I’d suggest you reach for that. And next week? You’ll probably get a chance to practice.

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This week, the forecast is coming in as the Four of Wands reversed, with advice from the Nine of Wands. This is the lovely Star Tarot deck.

Expect the general psychic weather to be unsettled. People may not be feeling safe or at peace; there’s a sense of waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Maybe it’s you or maybe it’s just other folks, but there is a definite sense of unrest here.

In terms of advice? Fear and worry are contagious. Don’t catch it! Stand your ground. Tired or not, look to remain centered and sane, okay? Assume that what you see going on around you has a purpose and contributes to the bigger picture, whether or not you feel privy to the bigger picture.

Maybe to the people following the news, this seems like a ridiculous stance. I understand how looking around and seeing things you don’t like is upsetting. I am certainly not immune. But I do know that I can manage my perspective to choose those thoughts and ideas that feel best to me. I do know I can decide how much grief or struggle I will expose myself to on a daily basis. I do know that whenever things get tough, there call for improvement (and hence the energy in that direction) intensifies. I do know there is every bit as much good in the world as bad. And I know I have the choice of what I focus upon.

Do whatever you can–whatever you must, really–to stay solid, grounded and well this coming week. Expect that some folks may struggle and of course, extend your compassion and loving energy in their direction when you see it. But don’t get on that oh-my-God-the-world-is-scary train, because it’s hard to get off and it’s not going anywhere you want to go, anyway.

Are you feeling steady, grounded and safe? What might you do to enhance that?

Be well, friends! And if you need a little reorienting, feel free to holler at me for a one-on-one.

 

Stand Back: Weekly Tarot Forecast, Feb 7 – 12, 2017

Dealing with strife is something we’ve made harder than it needs to be. And in doing so, we’ve also made it far more painful.

Imagine having someone close to you, living out a substance abuse scenario in glorious full-color…ouch, right? Most who find ourselves there have a number of very understandable, very uncomfortable reactions. None feel very good.

We worry–how many ways could this go south, and how many people will it take out with it? We visualize disaster–and the expectation, in seeing a train wreck in the making, is not without basis.

We try to reign it in before impact. But there’s no way to do that for someone else. And a train wreck is a train wreck. Once momentum hits critical mass, it’s going where it’s going and nobody trying to grab on will make an impact. They’ll only get beat up trying.

(Pictured train wreck is the Montparnasse derailment of 1895. I would have wanted to be standing back, when that train came through.)

All the come-to-Jesus talking, all the bargaining and the watching and the trying to control what cannot be controlled, all the begging and wishing and raging won’t change for another person. Because that’s not your job or your right. Only for you.

But what if…what if you opted out of the drama? What if your intention, your perspective from a step back, made it possible for you to honor the good in a situation without immersing yourself in the pain?

I want to harmonize with what I believe to be good.

What would your life look like, if you tried to live that intention? What kind of vibe do you think that would build for you? What if you didn’t try to figure it out for anybody else, or you didn’t try to compensate for what you perceive as weakness, and just focused on what you love and appreciate? They are both part of what we opt to see as reality. There’s no universal law that says focusing on the crap side brings rewards.

When you focus on your love, on your belief in freedom, and the goodness you’d like to see for those you care about and the world at large…you become a mirror for that energy. You amplify it. You shine it and help others who’d like to reflect it, just by your example. Your influence grows and you feel good. You can actually make a difference and not get bloodied doing it. You get there by standing back from the “full reality” and reflecting the better reality.

Everybody runs their own (metaphorical) trains. Best to step back when you see one barreling through, holding on to he best of intentions and faith, while you mind your own itinerary.

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The first thing that jumps out at me about this combination of cards here, is there is going to be a certain degree of a need for detachment. And distance. As the week wears on.

Monday is Judgment. Which I find a little bit ironic, because Judgment, to me, one of the least judgy cards in the deck. However, the idea that you take a step back from blame or not blame, being happy with something or not being happy with something, and just kind of evaluate results. Evaluate, “Hey, this worked out for me. Hey, this could have worked out better.” It’s kind of what the Judgment energy is all about, so Monday, whatever you can do to kind of step back and look at things in that light, will be good for you overall.

Tuesday, we’ve got the Magician reversed. So, things will be going on that are out of your control. Get over it. Sorry, that’s not very warm and fuzzy. But if it’s out of your control, it’s out of your control.

Wednesday, we have the World! Upright. And to work with the energy of the World, you do your best to do your best. And don’t worry about what other people are doing. Take advantage of your abilities, your expertise, your knowledge. And use what you’ve got to the fullest extent you can. That’s how you work with the World.

Thursday, we have the Star, which is kind of a nice interlude here.. The Star is about hope. Not promise, not sure thing. But optimism. And bright light, and what I want to tell you about this card in particular and Thursday is: give yourself permission to be optimistic. Give yourself permission to hope for the best and not dream of the worst. Give yourself permission to look on the bright side. Even if it seems like it’s itty bitty tiny small. Okay. It will kind of open the way for energy to flow for you on Thursday and make it a little bit easier.

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Friday I’ve got the Nine of Wands! This guy is pretty much always tired. So, you know, that is what it is. I will say that when I see the Nine of Wands, I do know that you can hold out. You can get through whatever you need to get through. In this case, the week! And, you’ll make it, just maybe you’re kind of sick of it. The feeling that I’m getting with this is, just, the feeling of kind of being burned out, and, and tired of hearing the same thing and maybe a little cranky. But you know, you do what you need to do.

So…don’t stress anything. Yes, you will get where you need to be and you are towards the end of the cycle. By the time you hit a nine, so that’s something to feel good about. But it is what it is.

Saturday, I’ve got the Five of Cups. And I don’t know what to tell you about that, other than there’s a possibility emotions are going to be twangy and people are gonna be feeling what’s not right, feeling what they don’t have, feeling a sense of loss. Obviously this is a forecast for the collective, so, it’s not super individual in that sense. But the collective is made up of a lot of individuals.

So whatever you’re feeling in that regard, feel it! You know, let it come, let it go, be kind to yourself in between. It’s not that hard. Just, all of it passes. Everything passes. Life is a temporary condition! Life is a transitory condition. So, you’re feeling bad, that certainly is, too. Give yourself a chance to get over it. Okay?

And Sunday, I have the Four of Wands reversed. And, I’m reading this today as, you have to make a little extra effort to make a place feel safe. Or comfortable for you. I think it’s worth it, but it’s not automatic. You have to make effort. Um, doesn’t necessarily have to be a big to-do. Although it could be, if you wanted it to be. But…take steps to, to, to create a comfortable environment for yourself. A corner of your home/dixiblog/domains/afoolsjourney.com/public_html, or you know, a night out with friends, with people that you really trust, or, or whatever. Safe space. Not in an overbearing kind of way where you tell other people what they can and can’t do, but make a safe space for you.Okay?

The overview or advice card that we’ve got for the week is Death reversed! That’s funny, it makes me think, “Death warmed over! Death warmed over!”

And what I want to say about that is…there’s a tendency right now to want to push, push, push, push, push or to try to hurry things along. And it’s not gonna work. So, why bother? Understand that what you think is the end of something may not be, or what you think something that should be ended, maybe there’s a purpose you don’t necessarily see. You don’t know all there is to know about it, but just take things as they come, okay? Take things as they come. It’s, it ain’t over until that fat lady sings. And, you don’t need to sing.

For the affirmation card, from the Louise Hay deck, I have “My future is glorious.” Ohhhh. And the back says, “I now live in limitless love, light and joy. All is well in my world.”

Now, that particular sentiment might be a little much for where you’re feeling or how you’re feeling. But the idea of focusing on that, you know:  you live in love, you have control over that. Not whether or not you have a lover in your life, but whether or not you live in a loving state, yes, you do! You have complete control over that.

So, joy and light and love are things you have control over. And if you look to consciously shift your focus, your mood, your vibration to a place of joy and love and life, your future will not only feel more glorious, it will become more glorious.

It’s okay to feel however you feel, you know, but do what you can to raise that, raise that, raise that a little bit at a time.

Are you feeling it? Take a step back and give yourself permission to drive your own train.

This week’s forecast features the Morgan-Greer Tarot and Louise Hay’s Power Thought Cards. What your own consult? Go here.

Who Cares about the Brussel sprouts? Tarot Forecast, Dec. 5 – 11

When my kids were little, they did the same thing all kids do: they looked at ugly veggies like brussel sprouts and declared them disgusting.

I had already firmly established I wasn’t going to make multiple, separate meals for dinner. Frankly, they were lucky I came up with one! But it still was an issue for me getting some veggies down their little gullets, taking my parental responsibilities for their well-being quite seriously as young mothers often do.

“Okay, that’s fine if you don’t like something. As an adult, I don’t force myself to eat things I don’t like. But I expect you to try it before declaring it disgusting.”

See, the “I fixed it just how you like it, with salt and pepper and butter!” had stopped working. So I made a rule, there must be a full bite taken, chewed and swallowed before determining whether or not something was “disgusting” and before being excused from the table

You see where this is going?

Worst rule I ever conjured. It gave me a lot more grief with the boy child than just letting him turn his nose up the the green spheres and be done with it.

Instead, we had a battle of wills. Over brussel sprouts. Who would give in first?

Honestly, I don’t remember who is was that folded. I just remember an extracted battle that felt lousy and completely missed the point of encouraging him to try something new in an open, accepting atmosphere.

This week? It’s kind of like that. You can insist on things that are not really that important (as both of us were doggedly doing in my story). Or you can look at the bigger picture and only insist on what matters. Because most of it doesn’t.

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Overall, the week is not looking too bad! Basically any setbacks this week look minor and as long as you keep in mind what matters most and dismiss the rest, they are not gonna throw you. Lots of opportunities for replenishing and if you take them, it’s smooth sailing. So go forth and have an awesome week.

Monday, Nine of Cups rx: Generally, I read this card as “almost perfect.” You can find complaints if you look, but why look? There is a lot to enjoy if you’re not a whiner. So don’t be a whiner!

Tuesday, Empress: Awesome day! Creative day, as this is the Tarot Mama. Good day to give birth to something new, or self care is good. Anything you do under the Empresses influence to heal or build yourself up, it tends to be especially effective. Good day.

Wednesday, The Lovers: Expect harmony. Usually with the Lovers, there is choice involved as when the man chooses to be with the wife and leave home/dixiblog/domains/afoolsjourney.com/public_html, for example. We’re generally looking at fortuitous, comfortable. Will have the option to get your vibe on with people of like mind, so enjoy!

Thursday, Nine of Wands rx: A little different than what we’ve had up to this point. Usually, I’ll see this when someone is tired of holding out. Would not focus a whole bunch on getting your individual way. Shift focus to the bigger picture, what is really important. Forget specifics, but look to principles to get the most here.

Friday, Seven of Wands: Echoing same theme as yesterday. Look at core values, not little details. If it’s not important, let it the heck go!

Saturday, High Priestess: Great time to make time for quiet, contemplative events. Time outside if it’s not too cold, meditation, music, etc. Intuition is in high gear. It’s access through quiet activity, creative stuff, exercising your imagination, dreamwork, etc. Know your radar is in high gear, even if you’re not overly energetic. Not a super active vibe, but very receptive.

Sunday, Queen of Pents rx: Take care of yourself FIRST, before extending hospitality to others. If you don’t, you’ll run out of gas before it’s done.

Overview/Advice: Ten of Pentacles rx. Still a nice vibe even reversed. Stronger upright but still a good vibe. Know this week’s setbacks are minor and you can easily work your way around it if you choose. Keep the good attitude and it will go well. In fact, issues that come up can be helpful in terms of providing useful info anywho. Freaking out, it goes downhill, so keep the good attitude. Do what you can to roll with the flow and don’t get worked up.

Affirmation: As I say yes to life, life says yes to me. Take a chance! Do what you really want to do. For me this conjures up the idea, so many times when we’re looking at why we want something, we actually think in terms of what they don’t want, not what they do. It may seem like the same thing saying you don’t want to be sick vs. you want to be healthy, but it’s a lot different vibration. It’s not as subtle difference as you’d think. There is a big difference between pushing against vs. pulling for, although both bring more into your life.

 

Do you pick your battles? Or does it depend on your mood?

This week’s forecast features the Gilded Tarot and Louise Hay’s Power Thought cards. Get a personalized consult here.

It’s What You Make of It – Weekly Tarot Forecast, Nov. 9 -15, 2015

When I first started dating my husband, we had some near fights over things I said.

Or to be more accurate, we had some near fights over what he HEARD.

There were patterns in communication with his ex-wife that impacted his paradigm. There were times he heard attacks that I never launched–they were echoes of old fights with a very, very different person.

Now because he’s a very rational Virgo moon, clarifying my thoughts by providing a few supporting details completely eliminated the conflict. But had he not been able to adjust his hearing, we might not have made it so far, you know?

The energy this week is kind of like that.

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The first thing that speaks to me about this spread in the number of reversed cards. The slow, trudging feel of reversed cards does not for a smooth week make. The other thing that bothered me more is the overview card in the position of “Future,” the Ten of Swords. Not exactly my favorite card to see, no doubt.

But with only one Major in the bunch, I’m thinking at least frustrations and skinned egos should be of the everyday variety and relatively short lived. So I’ll take my comfort where I can find it!

Monday, What to Avoid – King of Pentacles: Don’t be sugar daddy (or sugar momma) and don’t try to feed everybody else if your cupboards are almost bare, for yourself. Your first job is to take care of YOU and yours. I love me some generosity, but it comes after taking care of personal responsibilities, not before. You know how they say on airplanes, in the event of an emergency, you are supposed to put on your own oxygen mask, before attempting to help anybody else? That.

Tuesday, Cons – High Priestess reversed: Mixed signals and incorrect assumptions could be a “thing” today. Don’t assume you know where other people are coming from if it’s not been made explicit. Potential for inopportunity blurting, 70%. Best if it’s not you as blurter, huh? I’d rather be the blurtee any day!

Wednesday, Outcome – Page of Swords reversed: Sharp, critical words lead to hurt feelings. Overly edited, unclear communication can lead to misunderstandings, though. It’s a fine line to walk! Deliver messages straight up and neat–don’t dilute them, but don’t editorialize an extra punch with passive-aggressive chastising buried in the mix, either. Say what’s true and necessary, but with as much kindness as you can. Or at least without a smack, okay?

Thursday, Conscious Desires – Ace of Pentacles: There is desire to get going in real-world, something-to-show for your efforts ways. Financial issues are one potential. Seeing actual, physical progress on your projects are another potential avenue. We want something to SHOW for our efforts and we’re quite aware of it today.

Friday, Attitudes and Thoughts – Hanged Man reversed: A little trouble letting things go today? A bit shaky on the faith? Look for something fun to do and aim for some out-and-out escapism to counter. Obsessiveness isn’t a fun hobby.

Saturday, Pros – Nine of Wands reversed: You don’t HAVE to dig your heels in to the bitter end unless you decide to do so. Why not reassess what’s really important here? Only dig in if it’s worth it. Knowing not everything is worth it is a true gift. Use it!

Sunday, Immediate Future, Six of Wands: Payoff! Thank goodness. Be generous, bold, brave and true to your ideals and others will follow. I like this one!

Overview/Advice, Future – Ten of Swords: Ouch, ouch, ouch! I’m not digging on the Ten of Swords as a weekly overview at all. But you get what you get. Don’t be surprised to run across some over-the-top crap during the course of the week, or people who manipulate situations for their own benefit. Yes, it can be hurtful but it’s always better to know. And if you find yourself getting ready to go nuclear, remember this forecast before you burn the lot of bridges. What’s your purpose? What do you hope to accomplish? Will an outburst serve that purpose or no? Act accordingly, because the implications seem…sticky here. They remain in the air a while.

Affirmation: My life is unlimited in every respect. This thought initially seems at odds with some of the forecast this week to me. I would editorialize here though (as if I do anything but), and say that your life is primarily limited by your perspective. Are there hard times and big challenges that cross our paths? OH YEAH! But it’s not your struggles or pain or even gifts that define you. YOU define you, by what you make of all those struggles and pains and gifts.

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Can you see ways you’ve limited yourself by what you’ve made of something?

This forecast features the mini Radiant Rider-Waite in a tin and the Deck of 1000 spreads, with some Abraham-Hicks affirmation cards. If you dig these forecasts, you’d probably like Dixie’s book.

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