Ten of Wands Rx & Five of Wands: Flying with Certainty

Humans are a self-doubting lot. We look everywhere for reassurances: friends, family, society, science and signs…that’s a lot of insecurity.

This self-questioning approach, however, assumes there is exactly one right choice and everything else is a wrong choice and our role s to gather data to suss out the right option.

None of that is so.

Our singular job on the planet is to live the best, happiest life that we can as we see it. What that looks like will be different for every individual. There are an infinite number of routes to home here and they all can be “right.” It’s not the scenery itself that makes the journey a good one. It’s more about the beauty we find in the scenery we’re looking at, right now.

Next week, pick your route and keep your eyes forward.

Next Week in Tarot

For the outlook, we got the Suppression reversed (Ten of Wands/ Fire) and for advice, there is Totality (Five of Wands/Fire). It’s not too surprising to me that we get some intense cards for the outset of Eclipse season.

I prefer cards like Suppression to show up reversed. The reversal suggests coming into a place where the sense of burden is about to be lifted. I like that! Likely we’re already in the process of the weight lessening and that sense of being restrained is dissipating, or at least it should over the next week.

Expect a lightening of the load overall, even if it’s not sudden–although it certainly could be.

As far as advice, “Totality” is a little different flavor  than the traditional Five of Wands, which depicts a group of people fighting. Even in the Osho Zen version of the card, though, this is not a wishy-washy vibe. It’s an all-in approach.

We’re being called to fully commit to whatever we are doing, being fully present. Perhaps it may feel risky to invest fully and maybe we’re tempted to continue questioning our choices, but no good will come of it at this point. .

I’m seeing this in terms of a window opening. Make a call and MOVE. Don’t waffle on the direction you want to go or slow down to second-guess yourself about whether or not a given decision is “right.” Instead, once you make the call, commit. You make the decision “right” by lining up behind it and using your feelings to steer you along the path. The fit of your decision for you here is made true by how you live it, not by external conditions.

Take an upcoming opportunity to free yourself–and keep your attention fully on your goals and nothing else. Self-doubt is not your friend here. Focus, on the other hand, is exactly what is required.

You know how sometimes it’s easier to believe in other people than it is to believe in yourself? Give yourself the same gift of support you’d offer to a loved one, right now.  Expect the best from and for yourself. Be your own best cheerleader and watch how far you can fly.

Are you seeing a window opening?

Give me a holler for a private consult if you want a little help charting your own course.

Page of Cups: Turning Down the Judgey

I have resolved to be less judgemental.

Not that I think of myself as particularly judgemental. I am not.  If I were shooting for a below-the-mean-rate of judgmentalness, I’ve have it sewn up already.

But when I recently found myself feeling super judgey at folks whom I perceived to be super judgey, the irony wasn’t lost on me. Being judgey at anybody for their judgmentalness makes me one of the judgey! Once you’ve seen this…well, it can’t very well be unseen.

I’d say the results of this personal campaign are mixed.

Most of the time, it’s not too hard. Every person on the planet has their own bag of weirdness, issues and what-have-you. It’s not a big struggle to guess that almost all of them are doing the best they can with whatever neurons are firing off in their heads.

Even those that don’t appear to be doing the best they can, who is to say? Righteousness is subjective and the level of individual certainty on the matter is irrelevant. I don’t trust someone to be right just because they are sure. I look inside for that.

So much of life now seems to be comprised of people lining up to declare what they are for and against, or perhaps it’s “who” instead of “what.” Nobody needs my vote here.

Of course I have my own standards of right and wrong. Maintaining my own standards are my job and one in which I do my best to excel. Nonetheless, other people’s standards are theirs to maintain…and ne’er the twain shall meet.

I initially started this practice because I don’t like feeling judged; I realized if I don’t want it done to me, I also need to avoid doing it to others. It’s the same thing, no matter what side of the table you are sitting on. But I realized as I’ve been working on this a while, it’s also given me a greater sense of freedom. I don’t have to be outraged or convince anyone of anything. I choose to just be the best “me” I can me. That is my contribution to the whole.

If I assume the best and ignore what I consider worst, I am happier. I have less outrage to manage and I can focus on the energy that is most pleasant and important to me. For me, that’s a win. For you? It’s up to you to decide! But I will say, next week looks like this approach would be well-advised.

Next Week in Tarot

The outlook this week in Understanding reversed (Page of Cups), with Projections (Seven of Cups) as advice from the Osho Zen Tarot.

We may hear things people say, but we don’t necessarily get how they’re feeling. Perceived meaning has a lot more to do with us than with them. This is both a personal and collective phenomena.

So understand, assumptions are what we’ve got to work with. Just realize any given assumption says more about the assumer than anything else. So why not choose the assumption that works best for you?

If a call doesn’t come or an email is not returned, why not just assume it isn’t personal? Why not say, “Oh, things must have gotten busy?” over, “Oh, this person doesn’t care about me?”

If I don’t agree with someone…I can listen to see where they’re coming from. I can ignore it and turn my attention elsewhere. I can note the difference and just move on. I’m not required to beat them over the head with my own perspective. Knowing this sure makes it a lot easier to interact with other humans.

I haven’t completely escaped the tendency to be judgemental or those flashes where I assume the worst about someone else or their intentions, towards me or not. But I’m making progress. And that’s all I expect from myself.

Do you usually try to assume the best of others?

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Nine of Wands & Four of Pentacles: Personal Stability First

When people say someone would “give them the shirt off their own back,” it’s meant as a compliment of generosity.  But in reality, giving more than you can comfortably give isn’t a very good idea.

First of all, it’s not sustainable. You need win-win scenarios to be sustainable.

And secondly, it doesn’t convey a message of hope. It conveys the idea that the giver is strong and capable, but the recipient is not. It’s a far more useful gift to help someone find their own strength than demonstrate your own.  This is especially true if you aren’t sure of your own stability and resources. That’s a very temporary fix and one you’ll likely to resent eventually.

Next Week in Tarot

This week for the outlook we have exhaustion (Nine of Wands), with advice coming in the form of the Miser (Four of Pentacles) from the beautiful Osho Zen Tarot.

Oy! But we can do this.

Exhaustion is pretty self-explanatory. Exhaustion is about having too much going on, too many moving parts, ending in a bone-weariness from trying to make everything happen just so. I’ve found I’m much more likely to reach this point personally when I try to hold myself responsible for stuff that’s not mine. My own stuff is enough!

If you ever hear yourself asking, “But if I don’t, who will?” Well, that’s a sure sign your nose is in business that’s not yours.

The advice to be “the Miser” may be a bit of a surprise to some of y’all, but I understand it perfectly.

Conserve your energy. Don’t expend resources at a rate you’re not comfortable with just because it looks to you like someone else needs help. Put your own needs first!

Now, people may be thinking this advice is selfish. But I don’t have the same concept of selfishness most do.

First of all, our perspective can only be “selfish.” No matter how hard we try to take into account the opinions of others, we have no option but to see the world from a personal perspective, the perspective of self. Anything else is at best, guesswork.

Many equate the idea of selfishness with fulfilling personal needs at the expense of others. But that is a definition of predatory behavior, not looking after the self! Preying on others does not build up the self, it diminishes it. It’s a form of self-harm, in addition to being hurtful to others. It’s true many predators may not realize this consciously, but that behavior signals weakness and fear, not the kind of “selfishness” I advocate.

When we prioritize our own need, it puts us in the best possible position to be of service to the bigger world. It’s exactly when I’m most healthy, strong and stable–both physically and energetically–I have the most significant value to contribute. In order to stay that way, I have to manage my own needs first.

This coming week, pace yourself and keep account of your own resources, physical or otherwise. Of course you can help out whomever you’d like, but make your offers from a position of strength, always. Furthermore, make sure any assistance acknowledges and amplifies the competence of those you are assisting. Think in terms of encouragement rather than rescue and you’ll be on the right track.

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Make space for self-care and manage your resources wisely this week. The rest will work itself out without any trouble.

Are you managing your resources effectively?

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King of Swords & Nine of Pentacles: Who controls whom?

I’ve been mulling over the concept of personal responsibility in interactiosn. Its been highlighted through many different lenses as I go about my daily life and interact. Fitting, I think, considering the recent Full Moon in Libra.

On the one hand, I’m a big believer in not relying on outside confirmation in general. What people say and do is determined by how THEY look at the world, not any solid reality about you. An outside form of measurement is a poor and unreliable substitute for listening to intuitive guidance for directional cues.

Besides, allowing contentment to be conditional on the outside world is a one-way ticket to misery, right there. None of us can garner the kind of cooperation that would be needed to force the rest of world to behave! And it wouldn’t be our right to do so, even if we could.

On the other hand, I’m a big believer in the Law of Attraction because I can see it operating. But putting these two ideas together creates a little conundrum.

The Law of Attraction would suggest that the all experiences have to match the personal vibration. There is no way to evade responsibility for our lives.

Here, however, I’d be quick to point out the difference between responsibility and blame.

What if there were no “blame?” What if we are all just where we are and like it or not, there is still value being delivered, a contribution to the greater whole?

I no longer assume the things I don’t like in my own world are broken, proof of shortcoming or random disaster. I guess I’ve gradually developed a different worldview… This life is a work of art. A creation to be experienced: both what we’d consider light and darkness has it’s place in ultimately making the world more than it was before.

I don’t expect anyone else to adopt this perspective. Because I try to keep my nose firmly out of other people’s perspectives. It’s up to you! But the ideas I’m talking here are definitely in line with next week’s vibe.

Next Week in Tarot

This week, I grabbed the colorful but decidedly non-traditional Osho Zen Tarot for a fresh look at what’s up. We got the King of Swords (aka Control) as the outlook, with the Nine of Pentacles (aka Ripeness) as advice.

I expect a lot of “black and white” with how people think, react and present this coming week. There’s a strong sense of polarization and unfortunately, not a lot of flexibility in this vibe. What’s more, it’s definitely got a strong whiff of holier-than-thou about it.

“Control” isn’t just a keyword here. It’s the intention of many right now.  If you’re not on board, they may try to push you off the boat! That’s the bad news.

The good news is, you don’t have to be a player in this silliness!

Our advice is “Ripeness.” Ripeness is letting things take their natural course, letting life do it’s thing. Focusing on harvesting your own fruit when it’s ready, without worry about the schedule factor or bothering about how anybody else is tending garden. I’m suggesting an inward focus, (although to be fair, I usually do suggest this). But the cards are backing me up here.

When there’s a heavy flavor of control in the wild, you’ve got three choices.

  • Be one of the controllers.
  • Be one of the controlled. (This option includes fighting back the controllers, by the way, because it’s still running your show even if you’re not doing what they want, you.)
  • Ignore it altogether and do your own thing.

See why I’m voting for the latter here?

Here’s hoping your own week is peaceful and your enjoy your own (ripe) fruit.

p.s. If you want a personal consult, give me a holler.

2 of Pentacles: One Step at a Time

I’m trying to unclog a kitchen sink as I write this. Jury is still out on whether there will be a plumber in my future or not. We’ll see!

Maybe this will sound dumb to you. But it’s true: the way I’ve felt about this situation is like a less-intense version of this week’s forecast.

Next Week in Tarot

Here we have (a slight blurry) Two of Pentacles (aka Rainbows/Moment to Moment) for the outlook and Nine of Swords (Clouds/Sorrow) for advice from the Osho Zen Tarot deck.

The outlook isn’t hard to read. Lots going on this week, so just don’t let it overwhelm you. Take it step by step, moment by moment and stay in the present to manage it all.

But for advice, sorrow? It’s an Osho deck, so I looked to see what Osho has to say here.

The arrow is hurting: it can be used. The pain is not to make you miserable, the pain is to make you more aware! And when you are aware, misery disappears. -Osho

So yeah, if you are feeling some woe, okay. Don’t try to pretend you feel better than you feel. But don’t see it as something gone horribly wrong, okay? See it as an indication, nay, an opportunity, to transform here. You can feel better. You can adjust your outlook and adjust your choices and find ways to feel better. Honestly, feeling upset with yourself is often a much bigger deal than the actual situation was anyway.

Letting your feelings run their course and then deciding to get back on track to a better-feeling place is the way you get beyond sorrow.

When something goes wrong with the house, I sometimes get anxious or overreact. I am bothered because I feel helpless to fix it, much like this sink. In reality, I have plenty of resources at my disposal and there are multiple paths to a solution.  I already know this for something as trivial as a clogged sink, but the same principle applies to everything. The Universe has resources at the ready all the time. We don’t have to come up with the answers. We just have to manage our emotions well enough we can be inspired to some.

So hang in the moment as much as possible. If all is not sunshine and roses? Okay, I get it. Life isn’t always. Just feel what you feel without adding angst about how you feel to the mix. Take time out and try not to get it all over everybody else if you can.

And then, when you can? Let go a little. Relax a little. Know you’ll figure it out as you go. In truth, that’s the only way we figure anything out: as we go.

Are you figuring it out as you go?

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Nine of Swords: Easy Does It…

Quick aside: For those of you that noticed I didn’t post last week, sorry (and thank you for missing me)! I was very wrapped up in a work project and simply didn’t manage. Thanks for looking for me, though!

♥ I appreciate you. ♥


“Living what you don’t want makes your heart call out louder for what you do what.” I said that to a worried mom earlier today, and it’s true. It’s just a way to remember that no matter what is going on, something is coming of it and that “something” is ultimately able to work in your favor.

Now, I’m all about looking at the bright side. Enough that I am sure I annoy the holy heck out of people. Sometimes, I get tired of listening to myself. Har!

But the fact is, sometimes you don’t like what happens in your world or the bigger world. Sometimes, it’s hard to see an upside. Sometimes, you are going to feel hurt or upset or disturbed. Because that’s part of life.

Storms happen.

When you’ve got a storm underway, I’m not going to tell you to pretend to like it. I am going to say it’s best if you can avoid obsessing, though. Obsession and focus just makes those clouds bigger and blacker and scarier and doesn’t do a damn thing to help you ground and stay clear enough to navigate well.

Self-care is your best friend. Staying as connected as YOU can, easing your own path, is your primary responsibility. That doesn’t make you uncaring about what you see as going wrong. It makes you well-prepared to deal with whatever comes your way from a place of clarity and connection. Your work in that regard can serve an an umbrella against the storm.

Coming Week In Tarot

This week for the outlook, we have the Nine of Swords (Sorrow) and for advice, the Five of Swords Reversed (Compassion) from the Osho Zen Tarot. Ouch! This rendition is an especially interesting one. I always imagine this man sitting alone in a corner of his room at night, chastising himself for what he might have done differently. I think a lot of us do that on occasion. I also don’t see it ever being especially helpful.

Expect the coming week may include general worries, possibly guilt or a sense of isolation creeping in at times. This is a melancholy energy and I expect it to be floating around out in the wild. Incidentally, it may not be your personal energetic state–and if it’s not, please don’t adopt it! You have nothing to offer anyone else if you sink right down to the same vibration they are wrestling with, you know? It’s a good idea to learn to stay stable within your own energy no matter what’s going on elsewhere.

But if it is yours, that’s okay, too. You can manage well enough. We all have those fluxes and learning to soothe ourselves and shift is a valuable skill.

Don’t look to others for solutions or reassurance. Don’t battle out with the rest of the population over what’s the best or most right or take any polls about how you should live your life (looking at you, Libra)!

Instead, remind yourself you are doing the best you can, and that your best is always enough. Pull back from any issues of contention and just shoot for comfort. Self-care is always a viable and frankly, wise choice.

Be kind to yourself. Don’t worry about what anyone else things or does or is. It’s their job to decide what’s right for them and how they feel about things. It’s your job to do the same for you.

Take an easy, gentle approach to the week and look for opportunities for levity and it will go better for you.

Be well, friends! And if you want to talk one-on-one, hit me up.