Queen of Cups: Hearing Through Your Heart

Sometimes, I’ll pull cards for a forecast and immediately ask myself THAT question. Like this week.

“Are these cards really for the forecast? Or are they for me?”

I know it’s a silly question in practical terms. There is no meaningful distinction between the two.

Looking for signs or messages is akin to studying a piece of art. You may be appreciating the very same work thousands or even hundreds of thousands have before you. But whatever you take home from the experience will be personal to you.

Intuition will surface through whatever cracks we allow. Messages don’t require a single, specific address on the envelope to reach the intended destination.

 The Universe is a multi-tasker.

Thus, I find it very instructive to listen to myself handing out advice. If I hear the same words coming out of my mouth at least three times in a short period, I take note. I also realize it’s probably something others could benefit from considering as well.

“Accept how you feel. Don’t judge it. Don’t fight it. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Feeling crummy doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It will come and go. So just do the best you can with it, be kind to yourself through it all, and love yourself anyway.”

That line of thinking is likely to make next week a whole lot easier to manage. Just sayin.’

Next Week in Tarot

Outlook next week is the Queen of Cups (Water) with advice as the reversed Page of Cups (again, Water), pictured here from the Good Tarot deck.

I hear on very good authority that the Page of Cups in making frequent appearances in Tarot readings near you. He’s evidently the flavor of the day.

I expect the next week to feel a little like therapy–waves in and out with plenty of processing in between.  Sometimes the feelings will be intense, with potential for bittersweet.

The emotional flux is giving me the image of a ship pitching back and forth in choppy water. The reversed Page of Cups is often emotionally over-saturated. He may be waterlogged and possibly in need of a nap.  And that’s okay. Naps are our friends.

Accept whatever feelings you’ve got on deck. The feelings may form the character of a given moment, but they are not forever-feelings. The tide may indeed be in right now, but it always rolls back out. There are no exceptions to this rule.

So breathe. Take a step back. Soften the edges and be gentle with both yourself and everybody else. Just do the best you can with what you’ve got. Allow the necessary space for any emotional choppiness to settle down, so you can once again hear the voice of your heart more clearly. It will come.

You won’t  be able to see your way ahead–but you’ll feel it. It’s just a matter of settling the internal din.

As much as possible, also make this a week of listening to your body and giving it what it asks for. Eat when you’re hungry. Sleep when you’re tired. Fill your own cup first.

Beyond that, also pay heed to what you are feeding your mind. Your mood will instruct here. If you’re absorbing vitriol, the topic or objective truthfulness of the details is irrelevant. It will make you sick just the same. And if you’re wrapping yourself up in love no matter what the specifics, it will heal you just the same.

Take care, friends.

And if you want some help feeling your way forward, give me a ping.

Page of Cups Reversed: Homemade Peace

Our experience of reality is never the sum total of some sort of objective facts, although we certainly may be looking intently at those facts. The meaning we give, the explanations and assumptions made to draw conclusions, is central to how we feel about whatever we see. That meaning is all internally generated.

We take observations and we run them through our own filter of what we consider reasonable, how we would respond, and what makes sense to us in order to make sense out of what we see. Sometimes, the conclusions can generate compassion or understanding but a lot of the time, they just sow discord.

People talk about the “benefit of a doubt” as if it’s something you offer to others, a way of not assuming they’re evil or something. Personally, I find a generous appraisal benefits me more than the recipient. I don’t care if it’s objectively accurate or not. I just care that my own conclusions are comfortable for ME.

That doesn’t make me a doormat by any stretch. I can assume the best without further engagement. The point is to adopt the perspective that serves myself best and nothing else…Next week might be a good time to test this strategy.

Next Week in Tarot

Outlook next week is represented by the reversed Page of Cups, with advice being the Eight of Cups. These lovely cards are from the Crystal Visions Tarot.

Expect an emotionally intense week. That’s the bad news, or at least maybe bad news. Kind of depends on the emotions, you know? The good news is that periods of extra emotionality aren’t extended. The Page of Cups is pretty easily distracted or soothed, even by simple things.

The trick is going to be in the advice: Know what to step away from. I’ve got Kenny singing the Gambler in my head. “…know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em. Know when to walk away and know when to run.”

The righteously indignant may be correct about some of their assumptions, but they are not going to be happy. If your vision of happiness requires cooperation, you’re at the mercy of outside forces and even if you can line some of them up, you’ll never line them all up all the time. It’s a losing proposition.

I”m not saying don’t care about anybody else. That’s not a formula for happiness! I’m saying assume the best you can manage and direct your toward something you can positively impact. It may sound trite but this is how you become part of the solution. It’s also a much better way to live.

The only peace that’s dependable is the homemade kind.

Do you make your own peace?


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Page of Cups: Squishy Messages

You ever find yourself wanting to make someone else FEEL what you feel? Maybe the topic itself wasn’t so important big picture, but in that moment, it feels very important to you to be understood.

It’s like if you can find those “perfect words,” somehow you can convince them to empathize with your perspective instead of seeing the world as they do. But attempts to recruit others to our viewpoint–especially through emotional means–often don’t end well.

What matters isn’t how many voices you find to agree with you or whom you can prod into feeling for you.

What matters is always behaving consistently with who you want to be. The “how” must match the “why” of whatever you’re creating or the end result will invariably miss the mark.

That’s basically what I saw out in the wild last week and this coming week appears to be a continuation on that theme.

Next Week in Tarot: Note What’s Yours

For the outlook next week, we’ve got the Page of Cups. Advice is the reversed Ten of Wands. Cards drawn from one of my (obviously) favorite decks, The Star Tarot.

Expect the week to be “squishy” emotionally. Not wild mood swings like you might see with the Knight of Cups, but still impactful on an emotional level.

With the Page/Princess as a forecast, I expect incoming information which may not be well-formed or fully developed initially. Pages often have a simple, childlike quality to their communication. The message is still relatively new and not fully branched out. With Cups as the suit in question, communication can be expected to have emotional content.

Advice couldn’t be clearer, however. The reversed Ten of Swords is non-equivocating. Set down whatever is not yours, period. Let go any burdens you don’t have to carry. Being understood is irrelevant. What someone else thinks or wants is irrelevant. How many people do or don’t agree with you is irrelevant. If it’s what’s in YOUR heart, you live it.

Only focus on right here, right now, today, what your intention is all about. I would echo last week’s advice of making sure the “how” you get to any point is consistent with the point you which to reach. That’s how you make the most out of the coming week. Let the Universe sort the rest out.

And as always, hit me up if you’d like a personal consult.

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Page of Cups: Easy Does It!

Things fall apart for a reason: it’s required to make way for something new. Many, many times, a big ol’ breakdown is the easiest path to clearing the way for that new.

And sometimes when it looks like something is falling apart? That’s only an indication it’s undergoing a rebirth or reconfiguration. You cannot see the path ahead clearly through all that dust from the demolition, though. That’s the vibe we’re looking at for the coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

five of swords reversed page of cups tarot cards

We’ve got the Five of Swords reversed for the forecast side, and the Page of Cups upright for the advice–Legacy of the Divine Tarot deck.

I made another quick video version here.

The bigger message this week is that it’s not over–don’t count yourself (or anyone else) out based on the early indications or trends. It’s not a done deal. In terms of best handling whatever comes up, be gentle. Be kind. Be easy and soft, particular when delivering difficult messages.

Now, this is how I try to behave all the time. A gently-delivered message, wrapped in love, is always going to be more palatable than a harsh rendition of the same facts.

But I’m not going to call this practice sugar coating, because there’s an important difference in my mind.

Sugar coating is adding something manufactured to a message, a phoney sweetness. Sugar coating is usually done  more as response to the speaker’s discomfort than anything else. It’s wanting to be seen as “nice” but still saying what you want to say.

Wrapping a message in love has to be genuine to be effective. Kindness will soften any message but it cannot be contrived kindness, or it just falls flat. Without the heart energy backing the words, they will ring hollow. When you are feeling loving energy during a communication, the message is imbued with the same energy. It doesn’t mean any message will be well-received necessarily, but it sure ups the odds tremendously.

Live in love and everything goes a lot easier.


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If you’d like to see what’s in the cards for you specifically, give me a holler and I’ll get you set up with a private session.

Page of Cups: Turning Down the Judgey

I have resolved to be less judgemental.

Not that I think of myself as particularly judgemental. I am not.  If I were shooting for a below-the-mean-rate of judgmentalness, I’ve have it sewn up already.

But when I recently found myself feeling super judgey at folks whom I perceived to be super judgey, the irony wasn’t lost on me. Being judgey at anybody for their judgmentalness makes me one of the judgey! Once you’ve seen this…well, it can’t very well be unseen.

I’d say the results of this personal campaign are mixed.

Most of the time, it’s not too hard. Every person on the planet has their own bag of weirdness, issues and what-have-you. It’s not a big struggle to guess that almost all of them are doing the best they can with whatever neurons are firing off in their heads.

Even those that don’t appear to be doing the best they can, who is to say? Righteousness is subjective and the level of individual certainty on the matter is irrelevant. I don’t trust someone to be right just because they are sure. I look inside for that.

So much of life now seems to be comprised of people lining up to declare what they are for and against, or perhaps it’s “who” instead of “what.” Nobody needs my vote here.

Of course I have my own standards of right and wrong. Maintaining my own standards are my job and one in which I do my best to excel. Nonetheless, other people’s standards are theirs to maintain…and ne’er the twain shall meet.

I initially started this practice because I don’t like feeling judged; I realized if I don’t want it done to me, I also need to avoid doing it to others. It’s the same thing, no matter what side of the table you are sitting on. But I realized as I’ve been working on this a while, it’s also given me a greater sense of freedom. I don’t have to be outraged or convince anyone of anything. I choose to just be the best “me” I can me. That is my contribution to the whole.

If I assume the best and ignore what I consider worst, I am happier. I have less outrage to manage and I can focus on the energy that is most pleasant and important to me. For me, that’s a win. For you? It’s up to you to decide! But I will say, next week looks like this approach would be well-advised.

Next Week in Tarot

The outlook this week in Understanding reversed (Page of Cups), with Projections (Seven of Cups) as advice from the Osho Zen Tarot.

We may hear things people say, but we don’t necessarily get how they’re feeling. Perceived meaning has a lot more to do with us than with them. This is both a personal and collective phenomena.

So understand, assumptions are what we’ve got to work with. Just realize any given assumption says more about the assumer than anything else. So why not choose the assumption that works best for you?

If a call doesn’t come or an email is not returned, why not just assume it isn’t personal? Why not say, “Oh, things must have gotten busy?” over, “Oh, this person doesn’t care about me?”

If I don’t agree with someone…I can listen to see where they’re coming from. I can ignore it and turn my attention elsewhere. I can note the difference and just move on. I’m not required to beat them over the head with my own perspective. Knowing this sure makes it a lot easier to interact with other humans.

I haven’t completely escaped the tendency to be judgemental or those flashes where I assume the worst about someone else or their intentions, towards me or not. But I’m making progress. And that’s all I expect from myself.

Do you usually try to assume the best of others?

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Page of Cups: Navigating a Case of the Feels

“Is she avoiding me? Is he mad at me? Am I being stupid? Why didn’t I see that? Why did I say that? Ugh.”

That is what people say when they have what I call “a case of the feels.”

That’s what I call it when your emotions are just a little raw and you can tell, it wouldn’t take too much attention on anything to kick full on into one emotional direction or another. That’s what I’ve been feeling and seeing recently and it looks like it’s relevant for the coming week.

We have the Princess of Cups (Page of Cups) for the weekly outlook, followed by Death reversed for advice from the ever-so-lovely Star Tarot.

The Princess presents a huge (and loud) emotional message. Expect your heart-strings to get pulled this week and when they do? Look for themes in what you’re feeling, not the individual occurrences.

Inverted Death as advice–doesn’t that make you think of the phrase “death warmed over?” This card would suggest that what looks like the end of anything may not be. There is a significant transformation and cutting back, but not complete elimination. Think of it as pruning what isn’t healthy to allow for fresh growth.

Much like with dreams, the specific details are much less important than the FEELINGS. The scenarios will vary but the feelings will tend to run a similar temperature when you get this dynamic rolling. In other words, if you are worried about upsetting someone close to you, then you’ll be calling up multiple examples of this dynamic as you become more emotional about it. That is not proof you’re a clod, by the way! It’s evidence you’re becoming more caught up in the emotional tide with worries of being inadequate or whatever.

When you’re dealing with a case of the feels, be gentle with yourself. Withdrawing from too much stimulation can be helpful. Note the emotional tenor of what sort of content you consume. TV shows, articles or even discussion can have a bigger impact if your emotions are a little on edge already. Naps are great therapy! Distraction helps.

This coming week, go easy on yourself from an emotional standpoint. Make your actions measured and gradual, pruning little by little whatever is uncomfortable around you without pushing for instant resolution. The step back is often enough. Take your time, step gingerly and replenish yourself emotionally by spending time doing things you love and feel good doing.

And don’t worry. It doesn’t help and these emotional blips always do even out in the end.

Do you have a case of the feels?

If you want a little help sorting it out, give me a holler for a private consult. And take care of yourselves out there!

~Dix