Queen of Cups: Mind Your Own (Emotional) Business

I’ve made much more of a practice recently, of looking to mind my own business. And it’s tougher than I initially would have imagined.

I have no issue keeping my mouth shut–much to the surprise of those subjected to my mouth. Har! They have NO IDEA how much commentary flits through my brain that somehow doesn’t escape the hole in the front of my face.

Mars in Scorpio can keep a mouth shut.

But the emotional end–not becoming directly invested in what other people say or do or feel, themselves? That’s much, much tricker. We equate caring with winning others over to our conclusions, “fixing” something. But caring is not the same as asserting your own belief upon someone else, no matter how much you think your belief will serve in the situation.

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The drive to help, wanted or not, or the drive to correct or clarify or fix what’s going on in someone else’s world can be strong. Even that habit most of us have, of dividing life into piles of good and bad–and often, campaigning for others to accept our definitions? This all is minding the world’s emotional business, usually to the exclusion of our own emotional business.

And I’m not saying it’s wrong, if you decide to do this. (See what I did there? I’m staying out of it!)

I’m saying I’ve decided, for me, that I’m much happier if I’m not trying to recruit the rest of the world to be me. One me is plenty.

I’m much happier, trusting the people I care about to have the resources they need to figure out their own lives. (They do.)

I’m much happier, focusing on my own emotional state and remaining as healthy and stable and happy as possible.

This is a big world, you know? There are plenty of things you could focus on. If you’re fearful or angry or upset, you can find lots and lots in this big world to not only justify those feelings, but grow them exponentially.

There is also plenty in this world that is beautiful and encouraging and uplifting. And you can find lots and lots of that to focus on, to grow those feelings.

The choice is yours. As for me? I’m looking to mind my own business and keep my own focus on what helps me stay happy, in the flow and connected. Because that’s the most important thing ever, to me.

Video Transcript

Hey, this is Dixie from a fool’s journey dot com. I’m here with a thought for the energy of the moment. So hang on. Let’s see what we get.

Okay. Queen of Cups! Queen of Cups.

Really, really a good time to go with the flow. Now, that’s easier sometimes than we give, we give credit for. Because…this is a theme I’ve been on lately, I’m sorry. But basically, we try to manipulate the rest of the world.

Rather than trying to fix other people, just live yourself. Okay? Just live yourself! Just do you.

Just look to stay in the flow. Just prioritize how you feel and particularly your sense of connection. So that when you get those subtle little bumps here and there to try this or to do that, that you’re ready.

This can be a very comfortable week. Or a very emotional, kind of upsetting week. Really depends on you and how you direct your focus and thoughts as far as what it’s gonna be like.

So I would really suggest that you mind your own damn business. Okay? And that you stay focused on being in the flow, being connected, doing your own emotional state. Finding as optimistic and as positive an approach or perspective as you are capable of. And things will go better for you.

Okay? So that’s the snapshot of the moment. I hope it’s helpful to you. I hope you have an awesome week! Take care, peace out from the Goddess. Ommmmmmmm. Bye bye.


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Living the Microcosm: Weekly Tarot, May 1 – 7, 2017

“If you keep telling yourself the exact same stories about this, you’ll keep having the exact same feelings.”

I heard myself saying this to a friend recently. And like most of my best advice, it’s just as (annoyingly) applicable to the me as to the recipient! Maybe moreso, but I’m not gonna quibble either way.

 STORIES matter, whether or not they ever find their way out of our mouths.

We craft and evaluate our own stories according to criteria that is better at keeping us stuck than moving us upward and onward. We try to accurately capture the feelings at the time, deepening that emotional groove with each recounting. We list and weigh facts as objectively as we can muster. We may look to persuade, presenting our cases and seeking agreement for our rightness or soundness of reasoning. I get it. It’s human nature and it’s what we have been taught is appropriate in recounting stories.

But you know what? If your stories are very faithful reruns of events you didn’t like, that is EXACTLY the energy you are activating each time that story comes to mind. That energy grows with your focus. Is that really where you want to go?

But what if you rewrote your stories? What we want and what we don’t want in any situation show use the polarities of every subject. Rather than picking up the “don’t want” end and running with it, justifying that repetition because it seems a more “true” version of events, why not shift your focus to only the “wanted” end. That side of the coin is just as real and you can work with it. It also feels a hell of a lot better.

Pretend for a minute that all is well–perfect actually, because it kind of is. Pretend that the Universe works as it should–because honesty, it does. Imagine that it’s not your job to extract any specific outcome, but simply to amplify energy you want in your life courtesy focus, using your feelings as guide to how you’re doing. Because yes, that is exactly how it works.

Keep a check on your stories. Experiment with cleaning them up to better reflect what you want to live instead of what you don’t want to repeat. Right now is a great time to rewrite stories and give them happier endings.

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This week, don’t try to figure out long term implications for the world at large. Just live your own priorities true.

Oh man. The energy out in the wild has been wonky as Hell, huh? CHARGED. Electric and concentrated and driven. And most of all? Not so easy to predict, in terms out specific outcomes, as in where this rocket is going to light in the end. So don’t.

Here’s my weekly forecast to help give you grounding amidst the buzz.

Tarot Forecast (Video Transcript)

Mayday! Mayday! Incoming Tarot forecast!

Hey. This is Dixie from a fool’s journey. I am here to bring to you the tarot forecast, May 1st through 7th, 2017.

So, just gonna hop right in there. And see what we get.

Okay. Starting off the week, uhhhh. I want to say, I have a feeling of second guessing choices and decisions. Like we’re not, folks are not certain that they’re making a good call. I mean, there’s an orientation that’s very clearly towards the future.

But the emotional tenor of the choices that we’re making or how we’re seeing things play out is a little uncomfortable.

Just going into the beginning of the week. Moving in, I would advise you not to overdo the what-if scenarios. Like well, what if this happens and then that happens and then what if this, you know, if this happens and then that happens and…uh huh. Huh uh. That’s not gonna help.

We’ve got the four of cups, reversed. So don’t go arrrgghh, well you know, this and then this and then this, duttutututu. Because you know that’s how it works out anyway. It never is!

And don’t make everything about, well what’s the greater lesson. Just…sigh. Just look to lock in on what’s important to you and let go of the DETAILS about how that happens or if other people are gonna respect it or if it’s gonna dit-tit-dit-ti-tuh.

Like if setting certain boundaries is very important to you, then set the boundaries and stick to them. If getting along is very important to you, then work to get along and let go of the stuff that doesn’t serve that purpose.

The thing is, focus on the goal, not on the means to get there. Okay? If you do that, the week should go pretty well for you.

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And for the take-home/dixiblog/domains/afoolsjourney.com/public_html, for a take home/dixiblog/domains/afoolsjourney.com/public_html, advice/overview, message…I have got the seven of pentacles reversed.

What I want to tell you is that not everything you see is going to have a natural progression to what you, where you think it’s going.

So this predicting the future, that everybody’s doing like, “Oh my gosh. We’re on the road to disaster!” Is not helping. And it’s not accurate! More importantly.

So roll it back and keep your focus in the microcosm, not the macrocosm this week and in terms of where you put your emotional energy and I expect it to go pretty well for you.

I hope that helps. Let me know if it works out for you or if these forecasts are helpful because I need to know whether or not I can keep doing them.

Okay? Take care, peace out from Dixie. Mmmmmmmm. The Zen Goddess. Bye-bye!

Think my hair could be bigger? Because I think my hair could be bigger. It was pretty big right after I fixed it. And then, like, five minutes later, kind of went whoosh.


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Clean Your Own Space First: Tarot Forecast, Apr 25 – May 1, 2016

I’ve been spending a lot of time processing emotions in the last week or three. Very intense, very private, and very fluid emotional processing.

Many times during this process, I felt a strong urge to DUMP that dirty dishwater right into someone else’s lap. Didn’t matter who, really. Someone connected? Sure! Someone who happens to be standing too close? Yeah, probably.

But you know what? I didn’t. I didn’t do that. I keep it mostly too myself and finished up my own chores and I’m really glad I took that approach. Because now, I have some healing, and now I have a much clearer picture of additional areas I need to clean up.

That’s what I’m seeing for next week, too. The need to process internally and allow healing to take place. There will be time for talking and those conversations could definitely go down in the week ahead. Just make sure the emotional processing and reaching for clarity comes first. Don’t dump at the first sign of discomfort. Ride it out, find out where the discomfort is coming from, and then turn to outside measures once you’ve made some efforts to deal with your own, internal emotional status.

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In keeping with all the planets currently retrograde in the sky, I’m sensing the need for a light touch. More emotional housekeeping: the kind where you clean your own digs, not offer to white-glove the neighbors’ house. It’s like the full moon we just had in Scorpio blasted out some of the crud, and it’s our job to clean up the remaining mess.

Detail work, you know? Detail work. Finish dusting out the gunk and put a shine on it.

Monday, Patience – Queen of Cups: It takes a minute to sort out emotional flux. Feeling something stronger than you’d expect, or not as strong as you’d think? That’s a clue. More than expected emotion and you’re tapping an emotional vein, buried. Less and you’ve shifted, perhaps without even being aware.

Tuesday, Light – Five of Pentacles Rx: If you’re feeling dejected and bereft, you can get your hope back a couple of ways; first, turn your attention to all the great support you have on offer or have already received; and secondly, start looking at what you DO have instead of what you do not.

Wednesday, Moving On – Ten of Pentacles Rx: Let go of your vision of perfection – the perfect family, the perfect job, the perfect situation. It’s holding you back. I call this the “Magic House Syndrome” because it became a joke, when we were having a house built, how PERFECT everything was gonna be, once we got that house. Of course it’s silly but most of us do it sometimes. So instead of Magic Housing it, look at what you find, what you have around you this very second, and find ELEMENTS of perfection and grace in your now.

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Thursday, The Waiting Game – World Rx: It takes time to integrate new or disruptive lessons completely and responsibly. Allow it.

For today, I’m hearing David Bowie singing “Changes” so I’ll leave it to him to inspire you further.

Friday,  Shadow- Ten of Cups Rx: This combo whispers of family secrets–so secret nobody acknowledged them?  History may repeat itself, but you’re under zero obligation to respond in the same way as you have, historically. In fact, I’d suggest you don’t. Shine light in the closet. Acknowledge out loud what’s wrong (and what’s right). See it all, not just little bits and pieces.

Saturday, Spiritual Strength –Page of Wands Rx: Spiritual strength, that sense of being “backed up” by the unseen forces, is not coming through assertion of will. No projection required. Only observation.

Sunday, Intuition –  Two of Pentacles Rx: You want to hear the voice of Spirits? You seek to commune with the truth of your soul? Well, sit your ass down and shut up a minute, will ya? Because you cannot commune with Source when you’re running a dialogue, either out loud or in your head. Intuition fills empty space. To make room for it in your life, there has to BE empty space. Prescription: Quiet time!

Overview/Advice, Memories of Love Knight of Pentacles: This Knight is a very literal sort, and he doesn’t just think, think, think. He DOES, because while he’s extremely intellectual, he’s also part of the suit of Pentacles. So real world manifestation is his thing. Throughout the week, access your kindest, most loving memories and feelings about any person, place or situation before setting plans into motion or even opening your mouth tooooooooo wide. This will raise your overall vibration and connect you with the loving feelings, solid. It also will make for a much more pleasant week. If you retain nothing else from this forecast, remember this bit and you are covered, okay?

Affirmation – Burgundy: Awaken your passion. Creativity is healing and brings great revelations. But the presence of creative energy in your life is not automatic. It requires courting. This week? COURT Creativity and make her your mistress.

Are you in process of some emotional housekeeping?


This forecast features the Pagan Cat Tarot, with the Psychic Tarot Oracle to represent positions and the Color Oracle for the affirmation. If you enjoy these forecasts, you’d probably like Dixie’s Book, Everyday Tarot Archives or better yet, a personal consultation.

Emotional Scrubbing: Weekly Flow Tarot, June 1 – June 7

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Another week where literal Mercury Rx is literal. Agh! I am struggling with this retrograde round, folks. I will spare you the details, but let me say I’m counting the minutes. Seriously, counting the minutes. I’m seeing and hearing reports of some harsh realizations cropping up and general upheaval. Just not very freakin’ comfortable. At all.

But it is what it is. It’s cleanup time and some of us? We have messes. To those who don’t, well good on you! As for me, I have some but I appreciate the opportunity to fix things up.

Monday, Two of Wands: Choices to be made.  Here I am talking about cleanup work, and we’ve got the maybe-not-so-happy housewife carrying a broom and mop. Make decisions that are “clean” today, ethically, authentically, as best you can. Make decisions that correct mistakes you’ve previously made. You’ll thank me next Mercury Rx.

Tuesday, Ten of Swords Reversed: More cleanup detail. The Ten of Swords I always prefer to see inverted, because that’s just past the apex of ouch! This card shows up when the inevitable reality has fully and finally sunken in. This is an inescapable but very necessary process. It’s like pulling the thorn(s) out of your paw before you bop on down the path.

Wednesday, The Moon: Ah, blessed sweet naptime! Understand we may be in a bit of a dream. Find some escape today. It numbs the sting and frankly, we need a break!

Thursday, King of Swords: Streamline! Hasn’t this guy been showing up a lot lately? Pare down and don’t overcommit. Also great for planning and reasoning through any obstacles that show up. Let “on-task” be your mantra today.

Friday, Nine of Cups: Oh thank God! We’ve got a fun Friday lined up. Expect (or deliver) a sweet surprise today. Look for a gift, in whatever form and whatever you do, appreciate it!

Saturday, Queen of Cups Reversed: I’m not thinking of this as moody per se…although this reversed Queen often is. But today, I’m thinking more over-emotional in general. You know that borderline weepy one can get without enough sleep? That. Nothing horrible. Just emotionally reactive. Be kind to yourself.

Sunday, Queen of Pentacles: Time in the outdoors is an excellent plan, as it good food and plenty of hugs. It’s a great day to spend time with loved ones and look after those who need some extra care as well. Especially rewarding to feed the hungry today.

Overview/Advice – Choose Wisely, Page of Wands reversed: Once again, it’s a week to keep a lid on the impulsive behavior. Tempers, stay in check! No rage quitting important parts of your life. You can honor your feelings–and should. But you don’t need to spill them all over the floor.

Affirmation: I forgive myself. I don’t need to expound a lot on this one, do I? Self-love is the foundation for being a loving person. Those who are not able to forgive themselves will always struggle with loving relationships. Forgiveness allows release. With release, you can open your heart. Open hearts can be filled.

This week is like an emotional scrubbing. You’ve got to get the dirt out of those wounds, but don’t scrub too hard. Things are a little raw. Overall, maybe not easy, but potentially powerful. I’m grateful for the breaks built in, and encouraged by the prospects of healing the week holds.

Are ya happy, Mercury?!

How’s your week looking?

Choosing to Move On: Weekly Tarot Flow, May 25 – 31

Man. Sometimes when I do a forecast like last week’s, where the cards end up matching my own experiences so closely, I wonder if I’m missing out for you guys and inadvertently reading for myself! I am thinking, maybe I’m just riding the same wave as everybody else. I don’t know, but the cards last week? Pretty much spot on for me.

Literal Tarot is literal.

And Mercury Retrograde continues to amaze and astound me, with some stunning deja vu. I feel very good about the fact that I learned plenty the first time around and didn’t need to waffle indecisively on how to play the reruns. It’s reassuring, those kinds of reminders. It feels good to not only see, but feel actual progress. You, too?

This week’s layout reminds me of recovering from an illness or emotional hit. The week starts out on a upnote but about midweek, there’s some processing to be done. We do end up on solid ground, though, with Sunday’s Queen of Pentacles. Also notable is that four of the eight draws, literally half the cards I pulled, are court cards. That suggests personalities, perhaps of the “larger than life” variety, will play a relevant role in the week’s progress.

I would not be surprised if you are presented a clear option, midweek, of DEALING with a difficult situation versus taking a little dip in the river of denial. I won’t give you my advice because you probably already know it. But if choose to process, expect to be back on your feet by the time you’re wrapping up the weekend. Fair enough?

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Monday, Nine of Cups: Again with the Nine-of-Cups-Monday! Not that I’m complaining, mind you.  Expect a gift, wish to be granted or lovely surprise today. It could be tangible, or not so much, like gifts arriving in the form of kind words and appreciation. Whatever you get, be glad for it and bask a little in the gratitude. Gratitude basking is one of my favorite sports.

Happy Memorial Day!

Tuesday, King of Swords: Catch up on what needs to be accomplished. Make phone calls, pay pills, fill out paperwork, take notes, research options. This is an excellent day for cutting through red tape and taking care of business. It will go as smoothly as it’s going to, during a Mercury Rx. Besides as we all know, you cannot stop living your life based on Mercury’s antics. Life remains open for business, so take care of it!

Wednesday, Two of Wands: Choices to be made today. You can hold your own, whatever you choose so don’t let self-doubt be the deciding factor.  You definitely have got this, so make the right choice for you.

Thursday, Ten of Swords reversed: On the comeback from overwhelm, or sense of great hurt and betrayal. You may well be feeling some sting, but seeing this card reversed is a good thing. It means those swords are coming out and healing is underway. Don’t try to force anything. Just let it happen.

Friday, The Moon: A dreamy, escapist quality to the day. Very little focus. More recuperation time. Drinks, naps, tunes and movie binges will all fit the mood d’jour.

Saturday, Queen of Cups Reversed: Keep those emotions in check, lest they leak all over the floor. Moodiness and sentimentality quite likely. If you spend the day with others, pick people you trust if at all possible. Love is very healing.

Sunday, Queen of Pentacles: Doesn’t the world look so much better after a good night’s sleep? It’s all that’s standing between the reversed Queen of Cups meltdown and the upright Queen of Pentacles, happy Earth mother. Eat! Better yet, feed somebody. Be kind to your body and stimulate your mind. Physical activity is a great outlet today, as is time outside. Think picnic,  meditation, nature walk or even coffee on the porch.

Overview/Advice: Sacrifice, Page of Wands: You cannot have everything your way! Change what you can–or what is your business to change–and let go of the rest. Trusting others to be competent is an act of faith, a way to show respect. Don’t drive your point home/dixiblog/domains/afoolsjourney.com/public_html too hard. Put it out there and walk away. Mind your business, and let the rest take care of itself.

Affirmation: I am willing to let go. As sparks of spirit in a physical body, we have a finite amount of energy to budget throughout our lives Spending it in fear of the future or fuming over the past is not a particularly good expenditure. It limits your true point of power: the infinite now. Forgiveness isn’t a gift you give to others. It’s a way to improve your own life, right now. Living with a loving heart, bearing no ill will, and just getting on with your life best you can is SO much more peaceful than any other option. Let go, let go, let go. Love yourself enough to let go of the hard stuff. Let any pain and unpleasantness flow through you, and love that too. As you accept it, you can release it.

How are y’all doing out there? Are you choosing to move on?

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Revisionist History: Weekly Flow, January 19 – 25

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Many years ago, I went to a reader at a psychic fair and asked my favorite question to ask of readers: “What do you see regarding my spiritual development?

Am I doing it right? Am I missing something? Am I progressing fast enough?

It seems those questions never go away completely, at least not for me. Because I try to follow the dots, I try to do what I’m led to do when I’m led to do it, but it doesn’t always work out “right” by my expectations. It feels like failure, but that doesn’t mean it is failure.

Almost 10 years ago, I got the opportunity to buy a low carb community. I had all the signs there, clear as day, in my face obvious, this was the right choice, so I did it. Enthusiastically and with both feet, I jumped in! A couple years of relentless work went by and I was incredibly disappointed, in both myself and my spiritual support system, when that venture didn’t end up as successful as I’d hoped.

That path, however, branched out in ways I could not have anticipated. It pushed me to expand my knowledge base and skillset way beyond my comfort zone.  More recently, that chain of circumstances has left me managing a sizable low carb Facebook page, at a time when I’m getting clear signs I need to attend to my own eating habits and health. Not wanting to be a big, fat hypocrite, I have very much cleaned up my own act. Had I not found myself at the helm of that community now, I’d probably still be eating junk.

So I could say that initial decision was a failure. Or I could say, it gave me exactly what I needed, even when I had no idea I needed it. There have been SO MANY times, so many projects and plans and ventures, that have gone down exactly the same way. It’s almost as if the Universe conspired against my will to look after my best interests and turned “failures” into big, fat blessings. When I manage some perspective, I can begin to see at least some of the many layers I would never have been able understand at the time.

There are echos of the past ringing throughout this weekly forecast, along with the ability to redefine some of that past. While I’m usually not a big fan of revisionist history (in the self-serving sense), this week it can work in your favor—not by denying what’s come before so much as reframing it. Reframing your history is an incredibly powerful tool. It’s a good week to wield it to your advantage.

When I did the draw for last week, I felt the urge to do a second for this week. I noticed we got the same affirmation (after shuffling). That suggests this week is a continuation of last week’s vibe. Hello, Mercury retrograde (Jan. 21 – Feb. 11, 2015)!

Monday, What you Can Change – Ace of Swords Reversed: You can change how you think, and what you accept as immutable reality. Really, one single thought, a core concept reversed, will put everything else in an entirely different framework. It’s a day to question assumptions and convictions to see if they hold up. Whatever you’ve just decided is, well, is it?

Tuesday, Friendship – Nine of Pentacles: A world of education at your fingertips, courtesy friends. If you are having trouble mastering your lower impulses especially, friends can provide a veritable how-to manual. Even if you don’t ask for advice directly, look for instruction on dealing with your own situation by how your friends have dealt with their life.

Wednesday, Romance,  Queen of Cups Reversed: Connections are intact and strong, but I’m expecting excessive sentimentality and/or out-and-out moodiness with this Queen on her head. Tears are quite possible. A hot bath and (maybe) a glass of wine will soothe jangled nerves. Regardless, know the emotional intensity is a passing thing. Don’t treat it as permanent. Just let it flow through you and run it’s course.

Thursday, Career – Emperor Reversed: Work mate says, “You’re not the boss of me.” Not a good day to play dictator with coworkers! Possibly, there is a boss that lets things get out of hand. As far as you are concerned, keep yourself in check with work-related issues. Self-control is the name of the game and personal responsibility pays dividends.

Friday, Success – Six of Pentacles: Generosity pays off today. You may be either benefactor or donor, but group endeavors and giving of your time, energy or money has rewards. This is the magic that brings it all together. Yay!

Saturday, Past – Eight of Cups Reversed: Eh…echos of the past. What do you claim to “be over” but aren’t, completely? This floats in your brain. There may be triggers, there may be tears. Don’t be frustrated that that emotional history is not scrubbed clean from your life. It’s not a sign of weakness, dealing with past issue. It’s a sign you’re strong enough to continue your work at a higher octave.

Sunday, Blocking or Covering – Strength: This is the note that plays in the background throughout the week. Slow, gentle, steadily dealing with each day, each feeling, each challenge as it arises. Going into a Mercury Retrograde the 21, we’re clearly reviewing the past but as dull as that sounds, it’s got an enormous perk: We have a chance to adjust it’s meaning! That is a wonderful, if sometimes underappreciated, gift.

Overview/Advice – Five of Pentacles Reversed: Stop focusing on what you don’t have for God’s sakes! Go back to focusing on what you do. How you view your station is utterly and completely your own choice and while a perspective of lack drains you, a perspective of gratitude feeds you. Be willing to reach out for support when you need it, all while retaining responsibility for your own damn self.

Affirmation – I am safe in the Universe and all life loves and supports me. What needs to happen, happens. The Universe has your back.

Are you feeling echos of the past lately?

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