Queen of Pents: (Still) Being the Change

Sometimes, it’s challenging to take your own damn advice. Don’t you just hate that?

Stay in your own lane. Keep the faith. Avoid judging. Back to center. Stability before all else. Feel your way forward. Act only from love. Hand it over to the Universe. It’s not your job to manage the world. It’s your job to be the true to who you are. Live the change(s) you want to see.

These are the sorts of thoughts I share here regularly and they aren’t just pretty-sounding words for me. They are deep, heartfelt intentions. They represent how I mean to live every day of my life.

So imagine my chagrin at finding myself feeling agitated, drawn to doing just the opposite of what I believe and preach on a day-in, day-out basis. Oy!

Now, I’ve done pretty well in exercising self-control. Thank the Gods! It saves me from a lot of trouble, to be frank. I’ll never try to push someone else into being me. Beyond the fact I believe that effort to be morally wrong, it simply doesn’t work very well.

Good people come from an infinite variety of backgrounds and experiences. This suggests they will also have an infinite variety of perspectives. While I enjoy exposure to new perspectives, some will naturally be a good fit while others simply won’t. That means absolutely nothing big picture, as far as I’m concerned. To others, perhaps it does. I’m not about to live my life according to the definitions of others. I’ve made a lot of hard choices in my life to walk my own path and I consider it a sacred responsibility to do just that.

I can say I’ve been the recipient of social pressure from people believing they were acting in my best interests. Knowing what it’s like, I’ll never do it to someone else. Strong enough threats may garner superficial compliance, but that’s not persuasion. It’s fear. Fear only goes as far as the threat reaches, for as long as an individual continues to care about the threat more than they value personal freedom. Whether or not it “works,” relationships subjected to this process can be damaged ways that may not ever completely heal. It’s not something I would take lightly.

I care about the people in my life more than I care about being right, either subjectively or objectively. I’ve been reminding myself of this on a daily basis. Remembering this has been very helpful in maintaining those aforementioned intentions.

If you want to see change in the world (or more specifically, change in YOUR world) there is only one reliable way I see to ensure it: live that change. Let the change you want permeate your heart, mind and soul. It becomes your world front and center because it IS your life.

You’ll get your chance in the coming week to do just that, if you’re so inclined.

Next Week in Tarot

Outlook for the coming week is the Queen of Pentacles upright (nice!) with advice as the reversed Ace of Pentacles. More info provided by the reversed Nine of Cups–I wanted to double check myself on the advice and this card did the trick. These beautiful cards are from my well-worn Legacy of the Divine deck.

I love this deck, and find this incarnation of the Queen particularly stunning. She practically oozes fertility and abundance, from the rich green color scheme to the statement-piece flower pendant and even the lovely blooms on her dress. The glow from the third eye suggests a deep level of inner knowing. She understands the cycle of growth on an intuitive level. She knows what’s growing. She vibrates the change she wishes to see.

In terms of action steps–make plans now, not moves. The reversed Ace of Pentacles says it’s time to start envisioning what comes next. Action steps are close. That Ace wouldn’t show up otherwise, but not quite there.

The reversed Nine of Cups reinforces the idea: the timing isn’t quite perfect (yet), but close. Evision your perfect scenario, not bothering so much about the “how” part. Just look for hints and pieces of it to offer itself to you. You won’t see the entire path–we never do. Instead, you’ll see the next logical step as it comes into great focus. I’m expect that next step to be a little foggy next week, but you should start getting a whiff of it nonetheless.

Take heart. See the world around you as growing and evolving and know you’ll have a concrete place in it. Look to make sure YOU are on your path and let the Universe work the rest out. It does, like magick.


If you’d like a personal consult, give me a holler. We’ll sort out what YOUR intentions are all about.

Queen of Cups Rx & Justice: Don’t Be an Ass

I was talking with a customer service rep a few days ago. He wasn’t able to do what I wanted to be done.

“I’m frustrated with this answer, but I know it’s not your fault,” I told him.

The relief he expressed was palpable, even through a text chat.

I acknowledged his job is a hard one and customer service reps are getting hammered. I expressed appreciation for his efforts, regardless of the outcome. He was doing his best and I knew that.

I don’t know how many people he’d dealt with before me, or how they’d behaved. I don’t know was going on in his personal life or what other worries he was juggling. All I know is I felt a wave of relief and appreciation wash over the me minute it became clear I wasn’t going to dump on him for being the bearer of bad news.

Essentially, I was the recipient of profound appreciation for a kindness as humble as not being an ass.

I’d like to think I can almost always meet the “don’t be an ass” standard of humanity. It’s not an especially high bar, but worthy of consistency nonetheless.

Next week? I’m expecting plenty of the feels. This might get messy. Be kind anyway.

Next week in Tarot

This week, the outlook is the Queen of Cups (coming in reversed/pictured upright) with Justice for advice–here, pictured from The Good Tarot.

Emotions continue to rule the coming week–don’t expect them to retain consistency with any specific version of reality. Don’t expect the emotions to necessarily even agree with one another. The “feels” are not about conforming to expectation or answering to reason. Hello!

Emotion doesn’t have to make sense. It just is, and just being is enough.

Graciously accept whatever emotional wave rolls in–fighting doesn’t help anyway. Besides, even the most challenging emotions always roll back out again. Feel it. Cry your tears or rant your rants or whatever you’ve got to do. Let it flow through and when it subsides, consider a nap. Naps are good medicine.

But in terms of dealing with one’s fellow humans, employ the judiciousness and careful thoughtfulness of Justice. Weigh out responses. Act fairly and impartially. Do what you’ve agreed to do. Don’t try to force others to be you. Be as reasonable as you can manage. It will make things easier, especially as everyone out there is riding their own waves of the feels.

There is valid role for both emotion and reason, It’s not difficult to honor both. The difference isn’t in the which so much as it’s in the when.

Be kind to yourself and one another out there.

If you’d like a personal consult, please reach out. I’ll  work with folks on fees as needed during these weird times we live in. Stay well, friends!

Queen of Pents: Feed Yourself. Seven of Swords: Don’t Dictate Anybody Else’s Menu

What really “feeds” you? Maybe it seems especially relevant to you as it does to me right now, but it always matters.

For me, it’s quiet time. That coffee outside on the front porch, listening to the birds and wind rustling through the trees. And time spent hanging out with my loved ones, be it in person or virtual. The distractions from the daily noise I find in a good movie, a video game or crocheting something also go to “feed” me, refill my energetic cup so to speak.

A step back from conflict and sometimes, the “realities” of the day is consistently what’s most helpful. Thinking about what refills your cup and indulging in that is a very good plan for this coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

For the outlook this week, we have the Queen of Pentacles (Earth here), with advice as the Seven of Swords (Air) from The Good Tarot. Because I’m still looking for a softer, gentler vibe.

I love seeing this Queen for a weekly outlook, because she brings with her a sense of stabilization. I’m not saying all is right with the world next week. It’s gonna be a minute, you know? But next week, looks like we’re getting fed at lest. In one way or another, we’ll be fed.

Maybe we’ll get some encouraging news. Maybe we’ll start to feel some more hopeful in general. Maybe something in our world is stabilizing. Any way you slice it, this queen always brings some kind of meal. So look for it and appreciate whatever bounty is delivered in the days ahead.

Now in this deck, the Seven of Swords is described as suggesting an independent, non-conformist approach. Tarot sevens do point to self-direction in general, regardless of where the crowd is going. When I see this card in the space for advice, I’m generallygoing to suggest an indirect or under-the-radar approach.

Do what YOU feel is right, without trying to convert the world. Just contribute you own little part to the greater whole you believe is best.

Got that? Feed yourself. Don’t worry about what others are choosing to eat. No need to fight over it. Just feed yourself.

If you want a private consult, you know where to find me. Anyone who is having a hard time due the world craziness, please reach out and we’ll arrange a fee you can manage comfortably okay?

Page of Wands: Yelling it Like (You Believe) it is

Something’s been eating at me the last couple of days. I couldn’t quite put it into words until I read this story my friend, Josi, wrote on letting the heart speak.

There was something more important than being right in that moment. Being kind. Being honest. And, sharing how I really felt.” – Josi

The focus on being more “right,” better informed, and frankly, far more morally justified than one’s neighbor is strong right about now.

Personally, I don’t think I’ve ever been lectured into becoming a better human being. But it doesn’t mean people ain’t gonna try. Just look at these cards for next week…

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook this week, we have the Page of Wands (Fire), with advice being the Queen of Pentacles (Earth) reversed. These cards are from The Good Tarot deck.

People are speaking passionately–often, that reads as angrily. Fear is a great activator for anger and the fear is thick right now.

Messages coming from the Page of Wands may be brash or blurted, but are seldom moderated. Dump a lack of tact into a mix of uncertainty and you’ve got explosive potential. Expect next week to be full of people telling one another what’s-what in no uncertain terms. Expect those others being told to push back.

Furthermore, understand both sides of these arguments near-universally believe they are holding the moral high ground while smacking one another back and forth.

Advice for the week–the reversed Queen of Pents–would suggest not to be the one to light the fuse on any firecrackers or “truth bombs” or whatever you want to call it. Step back. Take no action. Do not feed your own voice into the noise when you’re feeling all wound up and self-righteous because I can guarantee you, it almost certainly will do no good.

Now, I’m not even suggesting many of the folks a-yellin’ aren’t objectively “right.” Or maybe your clever comebacks are more “right.” Or somebody is partially right and the others are or are not or what the Hell ever. I don’t know and in utter frankness, I don’t care.

The bigger picture, the higher truth, isn’t a specific set of facts. The higher calling is giving a damn about both yourself and your fellow human beings.

The higher calling is kindness. The higher calling is compassion.

The higher calling is LOVE.

Of course, we aren’t going to feel loving full on 24/7/365, especially in the midst of stress and uncertainty. And that’s fine. But neither will anybody else. You need to give not only each other but also yourself plenty of space and understanding in this regard.

My advice is pretty simple. as usual: If you want to share your perspective or make your case, great! Just make sure you do so ONLY when you’ve reached a point you can speak from a loving place. There is a whole lot better chance your words will hit the mark to be heard if you tune in your heart before you let your mouth take over. And yes, I’ll say it: this is never bad advice. It’s just extra timely right now.

Don’t forget what matters. And stay safe out there, friends!

~Dix

p.s. Give me a holler for a personal consult if you think it would help. I’m more than willing to work with you on fees if that’s an issue right now. We’ve gotta look out for one another.

 

Knight of Swords & Queen of Pentacles Rx: Plan in Pencil

I’ve been sort of compulsively crocheting lately, utilizing little snatches of time that I carve out from my daily routine. In the morning during coffee time. My break between work and cooking dinner. In bed while watching TV.  I’m using whatever yarn I’ve already got on hand (admittedly plenty).

Crochet is very calming to me. It’s highly satisfying to complete either a square or an entire project (even when I have no end game whatsoever about what to do with the finished item). It’s meditative and clears my head.

I love the process of the creation. It feels like magic to me–literally making something out of nothing by waving my magic (crochet) wand in and out of some string. I enjoy the planning too–deciding what to make and selecting an approach to get there.

I especially like picking out what yarn to put together. Yarn choice has such a huge impact on the finished piece. Considering what yarn would compliment the texture of the stitch, or laying out colors next to one another to contemplate their potential marriage makes me feel like an artist.

It pleases me tremendously, and the whole point of the activity is being pleased. Even if I didn’t enjoy the planning, I’d still need to do it, though. Since I’m using my existing yarn stash, some planning is necessary to get an finsihed project I like.

But sometimes, the outcome of my planning looks absolutely nothing like what I planned! At times, it’s a better than I’d hoped for but sometimes, not so much. I may form plans all I want, but I come up with consistently better results if I’m open to amending the plan as I go.

This forecast reminds me a lot of this process.

Next Week in Tarot

Ever have on of those weeks where you thought you knew what you were doing, but it turned out nothing like you thought it would? You may consider the changes great or not so much, but you couldn’t have seen them coming. That is exactly what I’m expecting here.

For the outlook next week, it’s the Knight of Swords. Advice is the reversed Queen of Pentacles, paired with the reversed Two of Swords, all from the bright and lovely Crystal Visions Tarot.

This Knight suggests information and ideas will be freely flowing and move fast–although there may just-as-fast-moving changes in direction. Tarot Knights can often signal impulsiveness or unpredictability as well as general movement.

We’d be well-advised not to get too comfy with whatever appears to be “in progress.” Pentacles are the suit of physical manifestation, so this Queen coming in reversed says that nothing is set in stone yet. You cannot take it to the bank. So don’t get married to any approach for taking care of an issue based on what you hear early in the week. Some elements will likely remain in place, but there may be material differences from what you heard early on versus what eventually comes to pass.

There’s also the matter of that reversed Two of Swords I pulled for extra insight regarding the advice. This angel chick tells me isn’t a lot to figure out here. She’s blindfolded. So you won’t be able to see everything coming. No need to overthink–a real temptation in this environment! Instead, remain flexible and pencil in the options because they are prone to needing adjustment as the week wears on.

In other words, roll with the punches. This next week, you may have to pull out some stitches or change plans mid-project. Colors you thought would work together may not, or those you thought wouldn’t may be perfect together. None of this is necessarily a bad thing, but it can undoubtedly trample on your joy if you’re not ready to be flexible. So be flexible!

Are you feeling the need for flexibility?

If you need a little help sorting, as always you can contact me for a private consult here.


p.s. I’ve had some great messages from spirits, guides and dead folks in pre-session meditations. It wasn’t something I planned so much as something that’s developed over time, to the point some of my regulars have told me these are a highlight of their readings.

So I wanted to experiment with this. I’m thinking email sessions (with mp3 downloads) on the meditation visitors plus a simple Tarot spread looking for advice from whomever shows up. The messages in general tend to be very uplifting and encouraging, so think of it like a personal development reading.

I’m trying just a few of these to see how they work out before deciding if I want to make it an ongoing option. So if you’d like to be one of the first (maybe only) to try a Spirit Messages Reading, send  $40 via Paypal this week and we can see how it goes!

Queen of Pentacles & Nine of Swords: Making Way

What looks like bad news isn’t always. How many times have you freaked out about something you didn’t want to happen only to realize in the end, it was a good thing? Maybe even the best possible way forward?

When you want to remodel, you have to clear the old mess out. It always gets worse before it gets better.

That’s what this coming week is looking like. Disruptive for sure. But perfect at the same time.

We just can’t quite see it yet.

Next Week In Tarot: May not be Easy

For the outlook we have Flowering (Queen of Pentacles). For advice, I drew Sorrow (Nine of Swords), with a clarifying draw of Thunderbolt (The Tower). I used the Osho Zen Tarot and because of the complexity of these cards, I always read them upright regardless of how they appear.

Putting this together, I am seeing a week of clarity unfolding. All is progressing as it should.

That doesn’t, however, mean it necessarily FEELS like that is what happening. The outlook is great, but the advice cards here are unsettling. So, it may bother us, what we see. We may find events of the coming week upsetting and scary.

But just allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel (and really, what choice have we got)? Understand, what seems scary and disruptive is a natural part of the process. Much change doesn’t progress smoothly, evenly, and gently. Sometimes, it’s the tearing down of the old walls that must happen before the new ones get built. Decay disruption clear the decks and allow for improvement. Without that, we’d be forever stuck.

I would add to the advice here: be slow to take action. Let the disruptions shake out. Be kind to yourself in the midst of emotional processing and allow all of that you need. But don’t let your concerns prompt you to “do something” to resolve at this point because anything you do under a stressed out, must-act-now influence is highly unlikely to be helpful.

Let the truth sort itself out. You’ll recognize what’s solid by what’s left standing.

Are you seeing cause for concern? And are you able to sit it out?

If you would like a private session to check in, give me a holler.