How do you love yourself?

Love starts at home.

Self-worth is not something you can get from other people.

Self-worth is a gift you give yourself–it sets the stage, the energetic tone, for how everyone else in your life treats you.

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Self-love protects you from ongoing toxic relationships. You have no need to wonder if you’ve somehow invited or deserve poor treatment.

You don’t need animosity, towards those who are unkind. Just detachment.

Detachment from negativity is easy if you don’t believe, deep down, negative assessments are correct.

But if the ugly rings true? It sticks.

Whatever resonates most strongly with our deepest held beliefs, we pay attention to and give it weight. We draw that energy like moths to flame, into our daily experience.

What do YOU pay attention to?

The people in our lives can feed us or bleed us. But we prime the pump by becoming willing receptacles of either experience, by way of our beliefs about ourselves.

Whatever you believe about yourself, you will find confirmation (and dismiss the incongruent). This is confirmation bias at it’s finest.

Don’t like the way people treat you?

Don’t bother trying to change them. It’s putting the heart of your happiness in the untrustworthy hands of another.

Instead, look to adjust what you believe about yourself. Once you change that, everything changes.

Have you found this to be true for you?

p.s. I’m checking out interest in doing a Tarot class, customized to the interests of the folks taking it. Since it’s my first go, I’m not charging much for it but am looking to make it a fun, worthwhile experience to anybody who’s participating. So give me a holler if you would like to look into it.

Choosing Miracle, Now

Living Now

“The first requirement of positive intent is acknowledging gratitude, and the second thing is to abandon grievances of all kinds. Grievance comes from the ego. There’s a beautiful passage in A Course In Miracles which says, ‘Every decision I make is a choice between a grievance and a miracle.’ Try to remember that.” –Deepak Chopra

Every moment is a choice between Grievance and Miracle. I choose Miracle.

Try chanting that to yourself, as you prepare to meditate or when you’re frustrated or emotional or when you just have a quiet moment. See how it sinks in, how it comes back anytime you could use reminder. Every moment is a choice in how you frame it, between dissatisfaction and gratitude, disharmony and harmony. How would adopting this worldview change your experience?

Every moment is a choice, between grievance and miracle. I choose miracle.

Do you find this to be the case?

Confucius’s Routes to Wisdom

Confucious wisdom

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”-Confucius

Which routes do you utuilize?

Intuitive Versus Rational Mind

Einstein had lots of interesting things to say.