Emperor Rx & Six of Cups: Making Way by Letting Go

Sometimes, losing control is the best thing that could have ever happened.

In fact, I’ll double down on that: 1. “Control” is temporary at best, anyway, and 2. Always, letting go of (the illusion of) control is a good idea.

The relationship that’s sinking, or the job that’s disappearing, the kid that’s spiraling…whatever battle that it feels like you’re losing?

Ask yourself: what if this is really okay? What if this is making room for something that works better?

And maybe you won’t know what’s coming to replace “it.” But disintegration is a clear sign change is underway. Nothing breaks down without reason–or replacement.

Every single time I’ve felt the panic of knowing I no longer had a situation in hand (and there have been many because I’m old!), it’s made way for something that is a better fit for where I was at the time. Without exception. It may be growth or healing or understanding or a totally new paradigm of some sort. But it’s always been important.

I won’t say it’s always fast. I won’t say it’s always easy. But it’s always been meaningful, and that’s enough.

Change can be disruptive, especially if we want to cling (and all of us do sometimes). We want to see the full path to the other side because it can be scary. We want reassurance when the Universe invariably shows only the next step or two.

Be okay with just seeing the next step or two. If you’re plugged in, that next step will be inspired and it will take you exactly where you want to go, even if you have no idea how.

So no matter where you are: if something in your life feels like it’s slipping out of your grasp, take heart. That is the feeling of the decks being cleared to make way for a little “life redecorating.”

Next Week’s Tarot

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For the coming week’s outlook, we have the Emperor reversed (again!) and for advice, the Six of Cups, from one of my favorite decks, the Radiant Rider-Waite mini.

The reversed Emperor is suggesting that the world feels slightly out of control–not necessarily (or just) the world at large, but our personal worlds as well. This isn’t a great surprise with Mercury prepping to go retrograde in a couple of days. But it is an emphasis: if it feels what’s important to you is not quite within your realm of control, that’s because it’s not.

As if it ever really is…

The only control is self-control. #OnMyRadar Click To Tweet

It doesn’t really matter, though.

The Six of Cups advise us to trust, just as the children do. Be pure of heart and expect the Universe to work out what needs to be worked out. Maybe that seems naive to some, but to me? It’s as clear and sure as the sun coming up without my personal intervention.

Six of Cups advice: Trust. Take a break from trying to make the world spin just so. Relax and restore yourself. Exhale. Be pure of heart and generous.  Prioritize kindness over winning. Let go and let be.

I realize this advice is easier to give than to take because I do both. But once you start letting go of the fear-driven drive to control, life starts getting easier. Once you begin leading more with your heart, doors open and paths clear. Life begins to work in ways you never could have orchestrated through the force of will.

So let go. Allow others to control themselves. You control yourself. Lead with your heart and let the Universe do its own part.

Are you feeling the change afoot?

If you’re looking for a little shoring up on any of the above (or anything else), give me a holler for a one-on-one session and we’ll talk.

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King of Pentacles Reversed: Help that is Helpful

“Believing in someone is a much greater gift than protecting them. ” I was handing out this (unsolicited) advice to a friend recently, and I felt the punch of it even as I said the words.

I had to laugh later when I realized: this is advice I could well stand to heed myself. That’s why I felt the extra punch.

Parenting helped me some in this regard, but it sure didn’t eradicate the drive to fix or rescue. No matter whose knot it is, I want to untangle it. The urge is compelling, not subtle. And the urge says a lot more about me than the specific person or predicament I’m looking at.

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Of course, there is nothing wrong with being part of another’s solution. That’s a very humbling and rewarding role. I get the honor of this often when I read Tarot. But that doesn’t mean I’m the ultimate origin of the solution. Anything but!

It may seem like a subtle distinction, but in reality, it’s huge: if I’m solid, tuned in and steady, I remain receptive to the ongoing flow of intuitive inspiration. So in those interactions, I can easily find the just right words to deliver at just the right time. I know exactly what to do and exactly when to do it.

My faith in what I know about the Universe and the power I know everyone has can help override their worries. I’m not infected by their distress. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s really the opposite: I see them in their power and I know in a very strong way, they are equipped to create their own lives, whether or not they’re plugged into that fact.

Really, feelings of love, caring and faith are my cues I’m actually being helpful. When I feel scared or upset for someone–and see myself somehow as the path to their salvation or worry that I don’t know how to save them–that’s evidence I’m currently off-center and have little to offer beyond amplifying what they are already feeling.

Thanks, Tarot, for another timely reminder in the form of next week’s forecast.

Next Week in Tarot

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This week, our forecast shows up in the guise of the King of Pentacles reversed with advice from the Eight of Wands reversed (Mini Radiant Rider-Waite in a Tin). While these aren’t particularly harsh Tarot cards, seeing them both reversed adds an element of tension.

For a little more clarification,  I grabbed my Botanical Inspirations deck and we got Amaryllis: Determination and Creative Achievement. It’s speaking to the outcome of following this advice.

I suspect we’ll generally have what we need to manage this coming week, but may not feel very sure of that fact. We may reach out to others, especially for practical or physical assistance. There’s also a potential for over-extending personal resources in an effort to rescue or otherwise provide for others you may not see as capable of taking care of themselves.

So questioning either your own ability to manage or someone else’s may be part of the mix. In either case, you want to make sure any action taken is done so from the right place. If you find yourself saying something like, “If I don’t do this, who will?” that’s your cue, you’re buying into a mirage. Same goes for thinking, “There’s no way I can manage this.” Both are illusion.

The advice here is to the point: don’t see anything as “an iffy situation.” It’s not. See it as workable. See any problem or crisis as serving a purpose, a turning point or improvement opportunity.  See whatever situations that crop up as necessary, even helpful to strengthing and clarifying the greater picture. See it all as a means of leveling up.

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” –Maya Angelou

True creativity is inspired. That’s why you cannot use it up. Your job isn’t to produce it from thin air, either for yourself or someone else. Your job is to tune in and allow the flow. This also sets the stage for other people hooking up to it as your connection helps influence them at the same time.

I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t provide support. Done right, that’s a beautiful experience for all involved! But when you do it from a position of strength in compensation for another’s weakness, it’s only reinforcing the status quo and lack of stability. If it doesn’t feel good, it’s not really helping.

I AM saying to only offer your own energy up from a steady and grounded space. If you want to provide meaningful support, do so only when you’re feeling strong love, appreciation, and respect for the strength and abilities of the other person you wish to assist. In such cases, you are tuned in and whatever you give will have a much more meaningful and longer-lasting impact. And isn’t that why we do it?

How comfortable are you with providing support? Have you noticed it working this way for you?

If you’d like a little support coming from a space of faith in your abilities to master your life, give me a holler for a personal session. ~Dix

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Two of Cups & Page of Swords: Communicating Minus the Baggage

Back in the old days when I had a job-job, I used to work with my husband. We usually went to lunch together. Captain Virgo is a news hound to the core, so we often listened to talk radio in the car.

And sometimes, this little habit drove me up the wall.

Why? Because he listened to all kinds of programs, featuring all kinds of viewpoints. Not just viewpoints I considered rational or valid, but ALL kinds.

So there were some programs I found quite agreeable, but others drove me nuts. I didn’t understand how on Earth he could listen to some of it without becoming infuriated. I certainly couldn’t!

It took a while for me to catch on: he likes to understand not only what others think, but why they think it. He likes to consider issues from multiple perspectives doesn’t automatically dismiss an idea based on who it came from. He finds the food for thought reward for listening, not solely seeking the quick emotional payoff of hearing someone else say what he already believes.

I’ve developed a huge amount of respect for this trait over the years and can even listen to a lot more without getting flustered. Not everything, because I’m not a double Virgo. But a lot more.

This coming week, I’d suggest we all look to focus more on relevant details and leave the emotional baggage–be it our own or another’s–by the door.

Next Week in Tarot

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Our weekly outlook came in as the Two of Cups, with advice from the Page of Swords from the Radiant Rider-Waite deck.

Listen to a short audio version of this week’s forecast below (3:42). Real-time Dix!

 

The Two of Cups signifies a lovefest of sorts. Like will be attracting like this coming week–well okay, it works that way in general, but you’ll really notice it this week. People will be especially inclined to hook up with others who feel and believe similarly.

So the vibe, in general, may be more comfortable in terms of feeling assured of your ultimate “rightness,” but that doesn’t mean anything has really been resolved on a grand scale or positions become less entrenched. In fact, I’m expecting the opposite as people paying near-exclusive attention to others who agree with them, thus providing a self-fulfilling sort of proof.

The world is bigger than what you can see, you know? This is true for all of us, no matter who we are.

Advice is coming in via the Page of Swords. Make your messages clear and to the point. Don’t a lot of emotional baggage to your words.  I wouldn’t bother telling people off or trying to sneak any guilt trips in your speeches here. Keep communications businesslike and fact-based.

It’s not so much about keeping the peace. It’s just that any extraneous emotion in communications at this point is very likely to muddy up the water and make your interactions far less effective. Be judicious with your words. Speak clearly. Focus on relevant details without emotional editorializing.

You don’t have to change your opinions. Just don’t assume everybody else has to share those opinions in order to be a decent human being. They don’t. Stick to what needs to be said as much as you can, respecting others to have the capacity to draw their own conclusions. They do have to capacity, every bit as much as you do.

How are you doing with managing those divides?

Need help sorting out your own communication issues (or anything else)? Drop me a line for a one-on-one consult.

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Seven of Pentacles: Tending Your Personal Garden

The world is virtually popping with unsolicited advice–and loud advisors. Have you noticed?

Whether you consider it outright criticism or desire to lend a helping hand, it’s all more or less the same thing. People line up to tell the rest of the world how they “must” think, act and feel about anything and everything.

I always want to ask, “How’s that working out for you?” But I don’t. I’d rather fly below that particular radar myself.

I realize much of this comes from a natural desire to help. I’ve offered unsolicited advice for the same reason. Other times, people preach in an attempt to shore up their own sense of stability surrounding a particular topic. Or sometimes, people are fighting what they perceive as ignorance or misinformation.

The common denominator isn’t the justification list for telling you what to do. Truth be told, the list of “musts” has very little if anything to do with you, but a whole lot to do with who gets to make decisions for you, who gets to define your own reality.

Gotta own what’s yours in order to steer your own life. Absolutely! And the flip side of that is letting other people own their own reality.  Just know, when you are hit with incoming criticism or a how-to-live lecture, it’s not about you. By (my) definition, it cannot be. But the response, or the decision to fire your own reality right back at ’em?

That is all about you. I expect these issues to be relevant the coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

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For this week’s outlook, we have the Seven of Pentacles, with the inverted Page of Pentacles coming in as advice from the mini Radiant Rider-Waite deck. (Aside: if you’re looking for a travel deck, this one is a lovely choice: petite and manageable, in its own little tin.)

I’ve been seeing a lot of this seven lately–sometimes cards are just loud, you know? In the context of a weekly forecast, he’s suggesting plenty a-popping underneath the surface. Seeds planted long ago are in process of bearing fruit. So whatever is going on around you either personally or in the wider world, don’t assume it’s something brand new. It’s not. It’s been growing roots for some time now.

However, there’s also no point in assuming you can extrapolate “the ultimate truth” from what you see, either. The page of Pentacles is a master of detail but reversed? He may be getting the message entirely backward. You cannot divine another’s full motivations. Things may work out very differently than intended. Mixed, incomplete or confusing messages are all possible with this page being reversed. What’s more? The Page of Pentacles is not tentative. He may be quite sure of his messages, accurate or not.

I would encourage everyone to step back to avoid huge, sweeping (and irrevocable) declarations in the coming week. Let the harvest be complete here, okay? Stay in your own lane and assume the best of everyone because whether or not they are able to deliver on it, almost everyone does mean well.  It’s been my experience that people who are being unkind in some sort of pain. The worse the behavior, the worse the pain. I may not choose to involve myself with their issues, but that doesn’t mean I must denounce them, either.

Take note of what you perceive this week, sure. When is that a bad idea? But do so in pencil and don’t toss anything important in the mail yet, okay? Sometimes words are hard to take back so save yourself the need by keeping your own counsel right now. This is a lot easier to do if you keep your nose out of anybody else’s life. Stand back and wish them well and let the Universe sort it out.

Do you have a tough time keeping your mouth shut?

If you want some help sorting your thoughts, though, give me a holler for a private session.

 

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Knight of Wands: Passion and Value of Trouble

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened and vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.” – Helen Keller

I don’t know I agree that suffering is the one-and-only way to build character, but it sure can be a shortcut!

In the last year or so, I’ve been refining my personal philosophy. Taking the foundation I had already and expanding it. It wasn’t really a planned thing, but that’s how it’s working out and I like it.  And as I think (and talk, and write) my way through this process, I’m finding it becoming easier and clearer all the time.

I’m also finding myself straying further outside the norm, but I try not to bother much about that.

I am looking to drop as much judgement as I can manage about what’s “good” and what’s “bad.” Of course, absolutely there are things I see around me I don’t want, as well as much celebrate.

But when I move my focus from what feels good to me, to what feels bad in order to “fix” or even neutralize the people that perpetuate the “bad,”  invariably I start to veer off course. And I know I’m off course because it feels terrible and I lose my sense of being plugged in.

Basically, I see all the aspects of life as being served up on a plate. And there’s stuff on that plate I love, and stuff on the plate I despise. I can either spend my time devouring what I love and looking for more of that, or raging against what I despise and yelling at people they should not make any more of this awful stuff.

Passion is never a problem. Passion is always a gift. It’s what you DO with your passion that can feel good or not. Trying to control outside conditions is slow-moving and difficult trek. Controlling your own perspective, on the other hand, is relatively easy and you’re still contributing to the sum total of what you see as good.

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All that having been said, not everything you run across is welcome. And that’s fine. Sometimes, challenging or painful circumstances can help propel us to a new level of understanding and really crystalize priorities in a way nothing else seems to do. And that’s all fine and well. In fact, that’s good. Because if you can see the good in everything that happens, extract that benefit and blessing out of it to appreciate, you will find a freedom that no other perspective can grant.

Always reach for appreciation. It makes the best of everything. #OnMyRadar Click To Tweet

If you can get to the point you can extract appreciation from EVERYTHING you see, at least some part of it, then you have found a rock-solid center that becomes scarcely shakable. Making the best of what you have, doing what you can with where you’re at now, making peace with whatever is going on around you? THIS is the path to connection. This is the path to joy. And believe it or not, this is also the path to positive change and growth.

But don’t take my word for it. Try it yourself, if you’ve a mind and see if it doesn’t work for you, too.

Do you look for the value of trouble?

Featuring the Radiant Rider Waite and Botanical Inspirations decks.  Give Dix a holler for 1-on-1.

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Knight of Wands: Get moving!

I run a sizable Facebook page. And people getting started out sometimes come to me, asking for advice. I’m generally at a loss for what to tell them.

Because when I tell them the truth, they are not likely to believe me. 

They are expecting secrets and formulas and systems. I don’t have any of that.

See, I tried to run a business like it, years before. I had a good start and was very excited and worked very, very hard. I gave it all I had!

And I got exactly nowhere beyond mediocrity. I eventually gave up, but still had the Facebook page. For a long time, it sat around collecting dust and spam.

It was a touchy subject.

But as time passed, I started feeling better about the whole thing. I got over the topic–and more importantly, myself. I released expectations and just played there, whenever I happened to feel  like it.

People would email me, wanting to network on something or other, and I said “No thanks,” over and over again. “This is just a little thing I do for public service,” I’d say. “I am not trying to turn it into anything.”

I was just doing whatever felt good, whenever I felt like doing it, because I wanted to do it.

Guess when it took off?

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In the initial trying, I introduced a LOT of contradictory energy. I was worried about my decisions being right or my skills being good enough or letting down other people or whether or not I was worthy of success in that space.

In the not trying, I just did my thing. There was no split in my energy. I didn’t take any action, ever, TO make something happen–and hence, I didn’t have any doubts or fears or self-criticism clouding the choices I was making. I was just doing what felt good, in the moment–one moment after another moment after another.  The steps that took me from there to here unfolded naturally.

We spend so much of our lives, thinking success or failure is all wrapped up in our action–studying, figuring out the right action, taking it, working hard, giving it our all. It sure wasn’t for me.

Results come with good timing. And the timing doesn’t come from analyzing or figuring out all the permutations of potential trajectories.

Good timing comes from being connected.

Doing what I wanted to do, what I enjoyed doing, when it felt good to do it? That hooked me up with the right people and circumstances to grow into more. That gave me perfect timing. That is pretty much the only thing that’s ever worked for me.

The best action today isn’t going to be the best action last month or the best action next week. And the way the Universe works? You don’t see way ahead, how every step is going to play out. It’s malleable. It moves and transforms. It’s energy in motion and the flow of that energy is going to change from moment to moment, just like your energy flows and changes, from moment to moment.

You see the next step forward and that’s it. But honestly? That’s enough.

Plugging in is what makes your timing right. Being connected and in the flow. Am I starting to sound like a broken record about this? Because honestly, I think this is always the answer.

That being said, of course: I’m expecting this week is ripe for some action. And if you stay plugged in, it should work out well for you. Just make sure you’re more interested in feeling good while you’re doing it than in how it’s going to pay out and you’ll do well.

Knight of Wands: Expect movement! While you may change your mind and adjust course, don’t worry over it. Just enjoy your ride for the sake of the ride. If you do that, then it will be fun and rewarding every step of the way and into the next, best place you’re going.

Be well out there!

This forecast features the Radiant Rider Waite and Dixie. Check on a private consult, right here.

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