Two of Cups & Page of Swords: Communicating Minus the Baggage

Back in the old days when I had a job-job, I used to work with my husband. We usually went to lunch together. Captain Virgo is a news hound to the core, so we often listened to talk radio in the car.

And sometimes, this little habit drove me up the wall.

Why? Because he listened to all kinds of programs, featuring all kinds of viewpoints. Not just viewpoints I considered rational or valid, but ALL kinds.

So there were some programs I found quite agreeable, but others drove me nuts. I didn’t understand how on Earth he could listen to some of it without becoming infuriated. I certainly couldn’t!

It took a while for me to catch on: he likes to understand not only what others think, but why they think it. He likes to consider issues from multiple perspectives doesn’t automatically dismiss an idea based on who it came from. He finds the food for thought reward for listening, not solely seeking the quick emotional payoff of hearing someone else say what he already believes.

I’ve developed a huge amount of respect for this trait over the years and can even listen to a lot more without getting flustered. Not everything, because I’m not a double Virgo. But a lot more.

This coming week, I’d suggest we all look to focus more on relevant details and leave the emotional baggage–be it our own or another’s–by the door.

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Our weekly outlook came in as the Two of Cups, with advice from the Page of Swords from the Radiant Rider-Waite deck.

Listen to a short audio version of this week’s forecast below (3:42). Real-time Dix!

 

The Two of Cups signifies a lovefest of sorts. Like will be attracting like this coming week–well okay, it works that way in general, but you’ll really notice it this week. People will be especially inclined to hook up with others who feel and believe similarly.

So the vibe, in general, may be more comfortable in terms of feeling assured of your ultimate “rightness,” but that doesn’t mean anything has really been resolved on a grand scale or positions become less entrenched. In fact, I’m expecting the opposite as people paying near-exclusive attention to others who agree with them, thus providing a self-fulfilling sort of proof.

The world is bigger than what you can see, you know? This is true for all of us, no matter who we are.

Advice is coming in via the Page of Swords. Make your messages clear and to the point. Don’t a lot of emotional baggage to your words.  I wouldn’t bother telling people off or trying to sneak any guilt trips in your speeches here. Keep communications businesslike and fact-based.

It’s not so much about keeping the peace. It’s just that any extraneous emotion in communications at this point is very likely to muddy up the water and make your interactions far less effective. Be judicious with your words. Speak clearly. Focus on relevant details without emotional editorializing.

You don’t have to change your opinions. Just don’t assume everybody else has to share those opinions in order to be a decent human being. They don’t. Stick to what needs to be said as much as you can, respecting others to have the capacity to draw their own conclusions. They do have to capacity, every bit as much as you do.

How are you doing with managing those divides?

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Seven of Pentacles: Tending Your Personal Garden

The world is virtually popping with unsolicited advice–and loud advisors. Have you noticed?

Whether you consider it outright criticism or desire to lend a helping hand, it’s all more or less the same thing. People line up to tell the rest of the world how they “must” think, act and feel about anything and everything.

I always want to ask, “How’s that working out for you?” But I don’t. I’d rather fly below that particular radar myself.

I realize much of this comes from a natural desire to help. I’ve offered unsolicited advice for the same reason. Other times, people preach in an attempt to shore up their own sense of stability surrounding a particular topic. Or sometimes, people are fighting what they perceive as ignorance or misinformation.

The common denominator isn’t the justification list for telling you what to do. Truth be told, the list of “musts” has very little if anything to do with you, but a whole lot to do with who gets to make decisions for you, who gets to define your own reality.

Gotta own what’s yours in order to steer your own life. Absolutely! And the flip side of that is letting other people own their own reality.  Just know, when you are hit with incoming criticism or a how-to-live lecture, it’s not about you. By (my) definition, it cannot be. But the response, or the decision to fire your own reality right back at ’em?

That is all about you. I expect these issues to be relevant the coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

For this week’s outlook, we have the Seven of Pentacles, with the inverted Page of Pentacles coming in as advice from the mini Radiant Rider-Waite deck. (Aside: if you’re looking for a travel deck, this one is a lovely choice: petite and manageable, in its own little tin.)

I’ve been seeing a lot of this seven lately–sometimes cards are just loud, you know? In the context of a weekly forecast, he’s suggesting plenty a-popping underneath the surface. Seeds planted long ago are in process of bearing fruit. So whatever is going on around you either personally or in the wider world, don’t assume it’s something brand new. It’s not. It’s been growing roots for some time now.

However, there’s also no point in assuming you can extrapolate “the ultimate truth” from what you see, either. The page of Pentacles is a master of detail but reversed? He may be getting the message entirely backward. You cannot divine another’s full motivations. Things may work out very differently than intended. Mixed, incomplete or confusing messages are all possible with this page being reversed. What’s more? The Page of Pentacles is not tentative. He may be quite sure of his messages, accurate or not.

I would encourage everyone to step back to avoid huge, sweeping (and irrevocable) declarations in the coming week. Let the harvest be complete here, okay? Stay in your own lane and assume the best of everyone because whether or not they are able to deliver on it, almost everyone does mean well.  It’s been my experience that people who are being unkind in some sort of pain. The worse the behavior, the worse the pain. I may not choose to involve myself with their issues, but that doesn’t mean I must denounce them, either.

Take note of what you perceive this week, sure. When is that a bad idea? But do so in pencil and don’t toss anything important in the mail yet, okay? Sometimes words are hard to take back so save yourself the need by keeping your own counsel right now. This is a lot easier to do if you keep your nose out of anybody else’s life. Stand back and wish them well and let the Universe sort it out.

Do you have a tough time keeping your mouth shut?

If you want some help sorting your thoughts, though, give me a holler for a private session.

 

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Knight of Wands: Passion and Value of Trouble

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened and vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.” – Helen Keller

I don’t know I agree that suffering is the one-and-only way to build character, but it sure can be a shortcut!

In the last year or so, I’ve been refining my personal philosophy. Taking the foundation I had already and expanding it. It wasn’t really a planned thing, but that’s how it’s working out and I like it.  And as I think (and talk, and write) my way through this process, I’m finding it becoming easier and clearer all the time.

I’m also finding myself straying further outside the norm, but I try not to bother much about that.

I am looking to drop as much judgement as I can manage about what’s “good” and what’s “bad.” Of course, absolutely there are things I see around me I don’t want, as well as much celebrate.

But when I move my focus from what feels good to me, to what feels bad in order to “fix” or even neutralize the people that perpetuate the “bad,”  invariably I start to veer off course. And I know I’m off course because it feels terrible and I lose my sense of being plugged in.

Basically, I see all the aspects of life as being served up on a plate. And there’s stuff on that plate I love, and stuff on the plate I despise. I can either spend my time devouring what I love and looking for more of that, or raging against what I despise and yelling at people they should not make any more of this awful stuff.

Passion is never a problem. Passion is always a gift. It’s what you DO with your passion that can feel good or not. Trying to control outside conditions is slow-moving and difficult trek. Controlling your own perspective, on the other hand, is relatively easy and you’re still contributing to the sum total of what you see as good.

All that having been said, not everything you run across is welcome. And that’s fine. Sometimes, challenging or painful circumstances can help propel us to a new level of understanding and really crystalize priorities in a way nothing else seems to do. And that’s all fine and well. In fact, that’s good. Because if you can see the good in everything that happens, extract that benefit and blessing out of it to appreciate, you will find a freedom that no other perspective can grant.

Always reach for appreciation. It makes the best of everything. #OnMyRadar Click To Tweet

If you can get to the point you can extract appreciation from EVERYTHING you see, at least some part of it, then you have found a rock-solid center that becomes scarcely shakable. Making the best of what you have, doing what you can with where you’re at now, making peace with whatever is going on around you? THIS is the path to connection. This is the path to joy. And believe it or not, this is also the path to positive change and growth.

But don’t take my word for it. Try it yourself, if you’ve a mind and see if it doesn’t work for you, too.

Do you look for the value of trouble?

Featuring the Radiant Rider Waite and Botanical Inspirations decks.  Give Dix a holler for 1-on-1.

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Knight of Wands: Get moving!

I run a sizable Facebook page. And people getting started out sometimes come to me, asking for advice. I’m generally at a loss for what to tell them.

Because when I tell them the truth, they are not likely to believe me. 

They are expecting secrets and formulas and systems. I don’t have any of that.

See, I tried to run a business like it, years before. I had a good start and was very excited and worked very, very hard. I gave it all I had!

And I got exactly nowhere beyond mediocrity. I eventually gave up, but still had the Facebook page. For a long time, it sat around collecting dust and spam.

It was a touchy subject.

But as time passed, I started feeling better about the whole thing. I got over the topic–and more importantly, myself. I released expectations and just played there, whenever I happened to feel  like it.

People would email me, wanting to network on something or other, and I said “No thanks,” over and over again. “This is just a little thing I do for public service,” I’d say. “I am not trying to turn it into anything.”

I was just doing whatever felt good, whenever I felt like doing it, because I wanted to do it.

Guess when it took off?

Not trying pays off. #OnMyRadar Click To Tweet

In the initial trying, I introduced a LOT of contradictory energy. I was worried about my decisions being right or my skills being good enough or letting down other people or whether or not I was worthy of success in that space.

In the not trying, I just did my thing. There was no split in my energy. I didn’t take any action, ever, TO make something happen–and hence, I didn’t have any doubts or fears or self-criticism clouding the choices I was making. I was just doing what felt good, in the moment–one moment after another moment after another.  The steps that took me from there to here unfolded naturally.

We spend so much of our lives, thinking success or failure is all wrapped up in our action–studying, figuring out the right action, taking it, working hard, giving it our all. It sure wasn’t for me.

Results come with good timing. And the timing doesn’t come from analyzing or figuring out all the permutations of potential trajectories.

Good timing comes from being connected.

Doing what I wanted to do, what I enjoyed doing, when it felt good to do it? That hooked me up with the right people and circumstances to grow into more. That gave me perfect timing. That is pretty much the only thing that’s ever worked for me.

The best action today isn’t going to be the best action last month or the best action next week. And the way the Universe works? You don’t see way ahead, how every step is going to play out. It’s malleable. It moves and transforms. It’s energy in motion and the flow of that energy is going to change from moment to moment, just like your energy flows and changes, from moment to moment.

You see the next step forward and that’s it. But honestly? That’s enough.

Plugging in is what makes your timing right. Being connected and in the flow. Am I starting to sound like a broken record about this? Because honestly, I think this is always the answer.

That being said, of course: I’m expecting this week is ripe for some action. And if you stay plugged in, it should work out well for you. Just make sure you’re more interested in feeling good while you’re doing it than in how it’s going to pay out and you’ll do well.

Knight of Wands: Expect movement! While you may change your mind and adjust course, don’t worry over it. Just enjoy your ride for the sake of the ride. If you do that, then it will be fun and rewarding every step of the way and into the next, best place you’re going.

Be well out there!

This forecast features the Radiant Rider Waite and Dixie. Check on a private consult, right here.

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Not Done: Queen of Wands Rx, Knight of Pentacles Rx

I used to try, really hard sometimes, to make things happen. Work hard and apply yourself and all things will be possible, right?

Funny thing is, this never got me too far. And I never understood why until recently.

I’m coming to realize, the way I’ve moved forward historically hasn’t even remotely been a result of how strenuously I applied myself or even what blessings I bring innately. It’s not about working hard at all–action can be counterproductive, especially if undertaken in a state of worry or frustration. When I’m trying very hard, it’s a good indication I’m out of sync, right there.

I don’t want hard work. I want RIGHT work. Big difference.

Because the right action, taken at the right time, can only be accomplished by someone tuned in: connected and inspired. Then, you can ride that energy flow and then, everything works out, just so.

Being tuned in requires a light touch. It requires a high vibration: appreciation, love, joy, optimism, or contentment are the sort of things one will feel when they are tuned in. It’s a very peaceful state. And it’s a state you cannot force. You can only invite.

It feels right. I feel good and it just feels right. I feel enthusiasm and lightness about the situation.What’s done then turns out well. And while there is effort expended, that effort doesn’t feel so much feel like work.

Listen to your own rhythm as much as you can. It makes staying tuned in easier. Look for the best, the bright side wherever you can find it. Appreciation helps tremendously and makes tuning in much easier. It makes everything much easier.

 

I got to see a newborn butterfly the other day. It was sitting still as a sculpture, just above its cocoon. I watched and waited–and watched and waited–and eventually, when he was ready, he moved.

Got that? He took off only when he was damn good and ready.

Be an emerging butterfly: Move when you're damn good and ready. #OnMyRadar Click To Tweet

In other news (but not really), on my radar for next week: wait! Things are not done so cool your jets. Not super surprising since Mercury doesn’t turn direct until September 5th.

What I’m seeing: What you “know” today may be different than what you see tomorrow. So breathe and let life unfold for you, rather than trying to unfold it yourself. Just take your time and don’t obsess. Situations are not yet ripe for wrapping up. Don’t dig your heels in, obsessing over details and miss the bigger picture. Exhale and give it a minute. The situation isn’t ripe, the cake’s not baked. Send out your request to the Universal information stream and be open to getting the final pieces.

This week’s forecast features the Radiant Rider-Waite (yes, again). If you want a personal consult, you know where to find me.

And breathe! ♥

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Reversed Eight of Pentacles: My Work is to Be

Armchair astrology notes: Mercury is retrograde so double-check communications and if you don’t already know we’ve got an eclipse coming, there isn’t much I can do for you! Make allowances for the edginess so many are feeling and be kind to yourselves out there!

On My Radar Right Now…

The reversed Eight of Pentacles says, “That’s not your job.” You don’t have to work it all out. Or come up with an answer for all the questions. Or solve all the problems. Or know all the facts. It’s not your personal job to sand off the rough edges of THE world–or even YOUR world.

If your joy depends on outside forces, you're screwed. #OnMyRadar Click To Tweet

When you hitch your sense of well-being onto conditions outside yourself, you’re utterly screwed. Always! Oh sure, it could seem like you’ve got it under your control for a minute, but we both know that’s illusion. There is no way to keep ahead of the permutations of behavioral possibilities that are other people! Cannot be done. I don’t always keep up with my own brain, for Godssakes! But luckily, there is no need.

FEEL your way through. Options are always lit up for you , but you cannot see them if you’re not vibrating somewhere in that neighborhood. So your job is to get in that neighborhood. You do that by comforting and soothing yourself. You reach for your center and there it is!

Freedom, security or happiness are not gifts from the Universe that some are blessed with while others cruelly denied. Because these words describe internal states, not external. Of course, we are impacted by others but it’s up to us what we do with that. How low long we remain soaked in whatever energy, and how big and fast that energy grows? That’s up to us, set by what energy we feed.

Riding a bike, you don’t say to the bike, “You, Bicycle, must always adjust yourself to keep me in balance. Good bikes stay upright!” And if you expect that, you’ll be forever disappointed.

Instead, you expect to maintain your own balance and constantly correct, for when you’re leaning too far one way or another. It may be the road you’re traveling that introduces the lean, but you take it upon yourself to keep your center of gravity intact. And as you relax into the ride, it gets easier and easier keep your balance and stay on center. Keep practicing!

So right now, look to do what you do. Be true to yourself. Don’t worry about what’s been or what’s coming. Just be here, now. Fully present. Be here for yourself alone and as you do, you’ll be able to bless the others by your clarity and and the inspiration you can only access when you are clear and connected. It really is the only way to be a part of improvement, anyway.

But don’t do it with an ulterior motive, because that mucks things up. Just do it for you.

And really? That’s enough. It’s better than enough!

It’s perfect.

This week’s Tarot features the Radiant Rider Waite deck. Hit Dix up for a personal session.

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