Ace of Swords Rx & Page of Swords: Get Clear

Sometimes when I listen to people, I could swear they are watching completely different movies about the same subject. At least, that’s how Captain Virgo describes it. The conclusions that are derived from the exact same stimulus are just polar opposites at times. It’s a very weird time overall in that regard.

To one degree or another, maybe this is always the case. But the phenomena is a lot more dramatic now than I remember it being in the past. I personally suspect this is a predictable byproduct of  significant social change.  While it can be messy, there’s no avoiding it. Change is the only constant.

On the one hand, it often saddens me to see how disruptive this can be at times. The ferocity of judgement against those watching “that other movie” is disconcerting. But on the other hand, I respect the passion that’s underlying much of what goes on. I guess evolution is just messy sometimes.

Next week is looking a lot like this phenomena to me.

Next Week in Tarot

This week’s outlook is the Ace of Swords reversed, with advice of the Page of Swords. Pictured is my favorite working deck, the mini Radiant Rider Waite in a tin.

Expect to run across plenty of confusion, muddled thinking, unclear ideas and otherwise incomplete theories out in the wild this week.

Your job, however, is to find your own clarity–which is much different from trying to impose your version of clarity upon others. That likely won’t be heard anyway.

If you’re not sure, don’t commit until you do feel sure. Misunderstandings may be eliminated by discussion or even a little time. Lots of ideas are flowing but they are not all good ones! Make sure any agreements you undertake are complete and spell out the details. Be aware of the role of emotion vs. facts in decision-making.

In general, this is a week to lean hard into the facts and double-check yours. Negotiate as needed but I wouldn’t assume someone else is “bad” because they’re operating from a different set of conclusions. I expect to see a lot of that going around.

Make your peace with yourself and let others do the same.

Are you sensing the confusion? And do you feel clear enough, yourself?

If you need a little help clarifying your own action plan, give me a holler for a one-on-one.

Eight of Swords: Self-Driven Perspective

Years ago, I was getting a reading at a psychic fair, which mostly consisted of me complaining vigorously about the judgy small town in which I lived.

I’d seen this reader before, and knew she was good. And I really, really wanted to move away from all this bullshit and was hoping she’d see a path for me to do that. So I was hanging on her every word, looking for clues.

“It wouldn’t make any difference, if you moved,” she said.

I was dumbfounded.

“You take yourself with you wherever you go.”

I wasn’t too happy with that answer. She was supposed to tell me how to escape, damn it!

So I complained about the reading to Captain Virgo. I was in a pretty complaining mood, evidently.

I was even more dumbfounded when he agreed with the reader. Agh!

It probably took me a few months to get the point and more like years to completely internalize it. So let me save you the trouble.

The issue was never judgy people in my small town. The issue was ME being insecure enough to care. I had to be judging myself first in order to notice or give weight to anyone else finding fault, if they even were. If you’re already judging yourself, you see everyone else through that lens, you know?

I was judging myself, and hence attracted those experiences everywhere. I followed up by finding fault with others for not making me feel better about myself. In fact, I was one of those judgy people, judging others for what I perceived to be their judging of me. It’s a full-on feedback loop and I was responsible for all of it.

Now, I could have altered my self-talk to soften it. “Oh well, everybody has their own perspective. They can do their thing and I can do mine. It doesn’t matter if anyone approves of me or not. Feeling good about myself is my job.” I could have focused on feeling good about myself, period, and left them to think whatever it is they thought. The sensation of being judged would have faded away.

What if we decide it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks? What if we decided that we don’t actually know why anyone else says or does what they do, anyway? What if we make our own commitment to be kind and loving to ourselves first, and let the rest of  our experience  shape around THAT energy?

Because I can tell you now, it will make a difference and fast. You don’t even have to move to a new town!

You get what you’re putting out. If you don’t like what it feels like you’re getting, change what you’re putting out. Next week would be a great time to practice this.

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook, we have the Eight of Swords and advice, the reversed Ace of Swords from my favorite working deck, the Radiant Rider Waite (in a tin).

The Eight of Swords is an old friend to me–or maybe it’s “frenemy.” Because I’ve seen it so many times in drawing for myself, I know this card very well. It points to self-restriction. The swords are nothing more than thoughts, or more precisely fears, all the reasons this lady believes she is unable to make progress. The water beneath her feet show us her perspective is based upon emotion as much if not more than fact. In reality, she’s loosely bound and the castle is visible in the distance. Even those swords don’t fully encircle her, but she doesn’t know it because she’s not letting herself see options.

The reversed Ace of Swords suggests not overthinking. An important detail is likely to be missed if you think you know all there is to know here. An opportunity for escape or progression isn’t being noted, probably due to an assumption that is simply untrue. Both these cards point to a restricted field of vision.

The coming week is a perfect time for revisiting assumptions, looking at those situations where you feel you have no options and asking yourself how much fear is driving that feeling. I’m not saying you have to take a leap of faith. Far from it. Simply acknowledging there may be a route forward and giving yourself permission to see it is all that’s required. Let the universe sort it out from there.

Whatever you want to get? PUT OUT THERE and start in the mirror. It’s the only way that works. I know, we’ve tendency to point fingers and assign blame but forget being “right.” Forget who’s at fault. Forget what you think you know.

Be what you want in your life and watch what happens (and fast). It’s the only way that works.

Where might you alter your perspective?

If you’re looking for a consult, you know where to find me.

Emperor Rx & Six of Cups: Making Way by Letting Go

Sometimes, losing control is the best thing that could have ever happened.

In fact, I’ll double down on that: 1. “Control” is temporary at best, anyway, and 2. Always, letting go of (the illusion of) control is a good idea.

The relationship that’s sinking, or the job that’s disappearing, the kid that’s spiraling…whatever battle that it feels like you’re losing?

Ask yourself: what if this is really okay? What if this is making room for something that works better?

And maybe you won’t know what’s coming to replace “it.” But disintegration is a clear sign change is underway. Nothing breaks down without reason–or replacement.

Every single time I’ve felt the panic of knowing I no longer had a situation in hand (and there have been many because I’m old!), it’s made way for something that is a better fit for where I was at the time. Without exception. It may be growth or healing or understanding or a totally new paradigm of some sort. But it’s always been important.

I won’t say it’s always fast. I won’t say it’s always easy. But it’s always been meaningful, and that’s enough.

Change can be disruptive, especially if we want to cling (and all of us do sometimes). We want to see the full path to the other side because it can be scary. We want reassurance when the Universe invariably shows only the next step or two.

Be okay with just seeing the next step or two. If you’re plugged in, that next step will be inspired and it will take you exactly where you want to go, even if you have no idea how.

So no matter where you are: if something in your life feels like it’s slipping out of your grasp, take heart. That is the feeling of the decks being cleared to make way for a little “life redecorating.”

Next Week’s Tarot

For the coming week’s outlook, we have the Emperor reversed (again!) and for advice, the Six of Cups, from one of my favorite decks, the Radiant Rider-Waite mini.

The reversed Emperor is suggesting that the world feels slightly out of control–not necessarily (or just) the world at large, but our personal worlds as well. This isn’t a great surprise with Mercury prepping to go retrograde in a couple of days. But it is an emphasis: if it feels what’s important to you is not quite within your realm of control, that’s because it’s not.

As if it ever really is…

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It doesn’t really matter, though.

The Six of Cups advise us to trust, just as the children do. Be pure of heart and expect the Universe to work out what needs to be worked out. Maybe that seems naive to some, but to me? It’s as clear and sure as the sun coming up without my personal intervention.

Six of Cups advice: Trust. Take a break from trying to make the world spin just so. Relax and restore yourself. Exhale. Be pure of heart and generous.  Prioritize kindness over winning. Let go and let be.

I realize this advice is easier to give than to take because I do both. But once you start letting go of the fear-driven drive to control, life starts getting easier. Once you begin leading more with your heart, doors open and paths clear. Life begins to work in ways you never could have orchestrated through the force of will.

So let go. Allow others to control themselves. You control yourself. Lead with your heart and let the Universe do its own part.

Are you feeling the change afoot?

If you’re looking for a little shoring up on any of the above (or anything else), give me a holler for a one-on-one session and we’ll talk.

King of Pentacles Reversed: Help that is Helpful

“Believing in someone is a much greater gift than protecting them. ” I was handing out this (unsolicited) advice to a friend recently, and I felt the punch of it even as I said the words.

I had to laugh later when I realized: this is advice I could well stand to heed myself. That’s why I felt the extra punch.

Parenting helped me some in this regard, but it sure didn’t eradicate the drive to fix or rescue. No matter whose knot it is, I want to untangle it. The urge is compelling, not subtle. And the urge says a lot more about me than the specific person or predicament I’m looking at.

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Of course, there is nothing wrong with being part of another’s solution. That’s a very humbling and rewarding role. I get the honor of this often when I read Tarot. But that doesn’t mean I’m the ultimate origin of the solution. Anything but!

It may seem like a subtle distinction, but in reality, it’s huge: if I’m solid, tuned in and steady, I remain receptive to the ongoing flow of intuitive inspiration. So in those interactions, I can easily find the just right words to deliver at just the right time. I know exactly what to do and exactly when to do it.

My faith in what I know about the Universe and the power I know everyone has can help override their worries. I’m not infected by their distress. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s really the opposite: I see them in their power and I know in a very strong way, they are equipped to create their own lives, whether or not they’re plugged into that fact.

Really, feelings of love, caring and faith are my cues I’m actually being helpful. When I feel scared or upset for someone–and see myself somehow as the path to their salvation or worry that I don’t know how to save them–that’s evidence I’m currently off-center and have little to offer beyond amplifying what they are already feeling.

Thanks, Tarot, for another timely reminder in the form of next week’s forecast.

Next Week in Tarot

This week, our forecast shows up in the guise of the King of Pentacles reversed with advice from the Eight of Wands reversed (Mini Radiant Rider-Waite in a Tin). While these aren’t particularly harsh Tarot cards, seeing them both reversed adds an element of tension.

For a little more clarification,  I grabbed my Botanical Inspirations deck and we got Amaryllis: Determination and Creative Achievement. It’s speaking to the outcome of following this advice.

I suspect we’ll generally have what we need to manage this coming week, but may not feel very sure of that fact. We may reach out to others, especially for practical or physical assistance. There’s also a potential for over-extending personal resources in an effort to rescue or otherwise provide for others you may not see as capable of taking care of themselves.

So questioning either your own ability to manage or someone else’s may be part of the mix. In either case, you want to make sure any action taken is done so from the right place. If you find yourself saying something like, “If I don’t do this, who will?” that’s your cue, you’re buying into a mirage. Same goes for thinking, “There’s no way I can manage this.” Both are illusion.

The advice here is to the point: don’t see anything as “an iffy situation.” It’s not. See it as workable. See any problem or crisis as serving a purpose, a turning point or improvement opportunity.  See whatever situations that crop up as necessary, even helpful to strengthing and clarifying the greater picture. See it all as a means of leveling up.

“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.” –Maya Angelou

True creativity is inspired. That’s why you cannot use it up. Your job isn’t to produce it from thin air, either for yourself or someone else. Your job is to tune in and allow the flow. This also sets the stage for other people hooking up to it as your connection helps influence them at the same time.

I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t provide support. Done right, that’s a beautiful experience for all involved! But when you do it from a position of strength in compensation for another’s weakness, it’s only reinforcing the status quo and lack of stability. If it doesn’t feel good, it’s not really helping.

I AM saying to only offer your own energy up from a steady and grounded space. If you want to provide meaningful support, do so only when you’re feeling strong love, appreciation, and respect for the strength and abilities of the other person you wish to assist. In such cases, you are tuned in and whatever you give will have a much more meaningful and longer-lasting impact. And isn’t that why we do it?

How comfortable are you with providing support? Have you noticed it working this way for you?

If you’d like a little support coming from a space of faith in your abilities to master your life, give me a holler for a personal session. ~Dix

Two of Cups & Page of Swords: Communicating Minus the Baggage

Back in the old days when I had a job-job, I used to work with my husband. We usually went to lunch together. Captain Virgo is a news hound to the core, so we often listened to talk radio in the car.

And sometimes, this little habit drove me up the wall.

Why? Because he listened to all kinds of programs, featuring all kinds of viewpoints. Not just viewpoints I considered rational or valid, but ALL kinds.

So there were some programs I found quite agreeable, but others drove me nuts. I didn’t understand how on Earth he could listen to some of it without becoming infuriated. I certainly couldn’t!

It took a while for me to catch on: he likes to understand not only what others think, but why they think it. He likes to consider issues from multiple perspectives doesn’t automatically dismiss an idea based on who it came from. He finds the food for thought reward for listening, not solely seeking the quick emotional payoff of hearing someone else say what he already believes.

I’ve developed a huge amount of respect for this trait over the years and can even listen to a lot more without getting flustered. Not everything, because I’m not a double Virgo. But a lot more.

This coming week, I’d suggest we all look to focus more on relevant details and leave the emotional baggage–be it our own or another’s–by the door.

Next Week in Tarot

Our weekly outlook came in as the Two of Cups, with advice from the Page of Swords from the Radiant Rider-Waite deck.

Listen to a short audio version of this week’s forecast below (3:42). Real-time Dix!

 

The Two of Cups signifies a lovefest of sorts. Like will be attracting like this coming week–well okay, it works that way in general, but you’ll really notice it this week. People will be especially inclined to hook up with others who feel and believe similarly.

So the vibe, in general, may be more comfortable in terms of feeling assured of your ultimate “rightness,” but that doesn’t mean anything has really been resolved on a grand scale or positions become less entrenched. In fact, I’m expecting the opposite as people paying near-exclusive attention to others who agree with them, thus providing a self-fulfilling sort of proof.

The world is bigger than what you can see, you know? This is true for all of us, no matter who we are.

Advice is coming in via the Page of Swords. Make your messages clear and to the point. Don’t a lot of emotional baggage to your words.  I wouldn’t bother telling people off or trying to sneak any guilt trips in your speeches here. Keep communications businesslike and fact-based.

It’s not so much about keeping the peace. It’s just that any extraneous emotion in communications at this point is very likely to muddy up the water and make your interactions far less effective. Be judicious with your words. Speak clearly. Focus on relevant details without emotional editorializing.

You don’t have to change your opinions. Just don’t assume everybody else has to share those opinions in order to be a decent human being. They don’t. Stick to what needs to be said as much as you can, respecting others to have the capacity to draw their own conclusions. They do have to capacity, every bit as much as you do.

How are you doing with managing those divides?

Need help sorting out your own communication issues (or anything else)? Drop me a line for a one-on-one consult.

Seven of Pentacles: Tending Your Personal Garden

The world is virtually popping with unsolicited advice–and loud advisors. Have you noticed?

Whether you consider it outright criticism or desire to lend a helping hand, it’s all more or less the same thing. People line up to tell the rest of the world how they “must” think, act and feel about anything and everything.

I always want to ask, “How’s that working out for you?” But I don’t. I’d rather fly below that particular radar myself.

I realize much of this comes from a natural desire to help. I’ve offered unsolicited advice for the same reason. Other times, people preach in an attempt to shore up their own sense of stability surrounding a particular topic. Or sometimes, people are fighting what they perceive as ignorance or misinformation.

The common denominator isn’t the justification list for telling you what to do. Truth be told, the list of “musts” has very little if anything to do with you, but a whole lot to do with who gets to make decisions for you, who gets to define your own reality.

Gotta own what’s yours in order to steer your own life. Absolutely! And the flip side of that is letting other people own their own reality.  Just know, when you are hit with incoming criticism or a how-to-live lecture, it’s not about you. By (my) definition, it cannot be. But the response, or the decision to fire your own reality right back at ’em?

That is all about you. I expect these issues to be relevant the coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

For this week’s outlook, we have the Seven of Pentacles, with the inverted Page of Pentacles coming in as advice from the mini Radiant Rider-Waite deck. (Aside: if you’re looking for a travel deck, this one is a lovely choice: petite and manageable, in its own little tin.)

I’ve been seeing a lot of this seven lately–sometimes cards are just loud, you know? In the context of a weekly forecast, he’s suggesting plenty a-popping underneath the surface. Seeds planted long ago are in process of bearing fruit. So whatever is going on around you either personally or in the wider world, don’t assume it’s something brand new. It’s not. It’s been growing roots for some time now.

However, there’s also no point in assuming you can extrapolate “the ultimate truth” from what you see, either. The page of Pentacles is a master of detail but reversed? He may be getting the message entirely backward. You cannot divine another’s full motivations. Things may work out very differently than intended. Mixed, incomplete or confusing messages are all possible with this page being reversed. What’s more? The Page of Pentacles is not tentative. He may be quite sure of his messages, accurate or not.

I would encourage everyone to step back to avoid huge, sweeping (and irrevocable) declarations in the coming week. Let the harvest be complete here, okay? Stay in your own lane and assume the best of everyone because whether or not they are able to deliver on it, almost everyone does mean well.  It’s been my experience that people who are being unkind in some sort of pain. The worse the behavior, the worse the pain. I may not choose to involve myself with their issues, but that doesn’t mean I must denounce them, either.

Take note of what you perceive this week, sure. When is that a bad idea? But do so in pencil and don’t toss anything important in the mail yet, okay? Sometimes words are hard to take back so save yourself the need by keeping your own counsel right now. This is a lot easier to do if you keep your nose out of anybody else’s life. Stand back and wish them well and let the Universe sort it out.

Do you have a tough time keeping your mouth shut?

If you want some help sorting your thoughts, though, give me a holler for a private session.