Chariot Reversed: The How Counts

I took on the role of mother young. This was an advantage to me in a number of respects, but most notably because I quickly realized I didn’t know what I was doing.

Understanding what you don’t know means you can educate yourself. So I read a lot. We’re talking books, because it was before the internet was so much of a thing.

I stumbled upon the book Children the Challenge and discovered how to discipline my kids without so much of the anger and frustration. I learned to step back from the power struggles and focus more purely on the natural and logical consequences of their behavior. That was the point of trying to socialize them. I learned to model the behavior I was hoping to inspire. From then on, my parenting became a lot more about what I wanted to teach rather than how I could force things to go a certain way because I was a bigger human.

The shift improved my life–and theirs—considerably.

Next week is a lot like the situation I faced when I was a newbie mom. Sometimes we get all tangled up in the question of how to do something while losing sight of the why. The “how” must remain compatible with the “why” or you’re working at cross purposes.

Next Week in Tarot

The outlook for next week shows up as The Chariot reversed, with advice of Strength. These are from the lovely Star Tarot Deck.

Both are Major Arcana cards, so I’m expecting the coming week to feel fairly intense. The issues at hand are very likely to be important to you. Expect your mindset to be critical in making the best of the week.

The Chariot reversed predicts a lack of focus–we don’t know where this ride is going! It’s not even so much an indirect route to the end goal here, but more like a careening ride to who-knows-where? This too-fast ride could be accompanied by a sense of overwhelm: too much incoming information invoking a general atmosphere of chaos.

We may have forgotten WHY we’re doing what we’re doing, instead noticing all the distractions. Add to that, any individual distraction may feel like a crisis. It’s sort of a putting-out-fires mindset.

Don’t bite, though, okay? It happens.  And it’s okay that it happens. Strength shows us how to get back on course. It’s very possible to get your bearings in these conditions, but it’s not automatic.

Despite the name, the Strength card doesn’t advocate for a brute force approach, ever. The lady with the lion is gentle and soft. Her potential to tame the lion is realized through unyielding focus instead of strong-arming her way through. She knows her goal. She knows that a gentle, persistent and above all, a kind approach will achieve her objective successfully without compromising her own spirit in the process. While she never abandons her objective, she also never abandons her true self by acting in a way that’s not consistent with who she is. She prioritizes her own integrity above all else.

Follow her lead this week. Step back if needed and and ask yourself, “What do I hope to accomplish here?” Behavior executed in the name of reaching a goal must be consistent with the goal itself. In other words, the ends do not justify the means. The means create the end. You don’t fight for peace here. You love for it.

Hope that helps and that you are able to remind solid, grounded and centered in who you really are. It’s your greatest power.


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Five of Pentacles: Accessing Solutions

Used to be, when I had a problem of some sort, I’d dedicate massive amounts of attention (read: obsession) to coming up with a solution. Most pronounced when I was feeling the weight of the problem closing in on me.

After all, we learn that we just need to “work harder” and “try more” to fix things, right?

At this point in my life, though, I think that’s the hard way to do it. I’ve learned that the vibe of a problem is definitely related to the solution, but it’s not on the same channel. I can tune in and get inspiration that gives me helpful, workable solutions but that never happens when I’m neck-deep in freaking out.

Instead, it comes so much more effectively when I can step back and clear my head a little. A little thing somebody says, a spark of an idea, something clicks inside me when I’m not poring over the issue. If I’m saturated in worry, I can never hear it. I have to step back or it doesn’t work.

Are you feeling some kind of crunch or pressure to cope? Maybe it’s time or money that isn’t is sufficient supply. Maybe it’s a health issue or personal relationship that is currently getting under your skin. It could be anything but at the moment, leaving it as-is seems untenable.

Right now, many are feeling an air of urgency to get something “fixed” once and for all, combined with no idea of to how to go about it. This is an understandably uncomfortable combination.

But as is so often the case, the cards have a little advice.

Next Week in Tarot

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For the outlook this week, we have a friendlier-looking-than-most version of the Five of Pentacles. Advice comes in via the Ace of Swords. These cards are from the beautiful Star Tarot Deck.

While this image is a softer version of the Five of Pentacles than we usually see, the feel of this card’s vibe is harsh and cold. There’s usually a sense of isolation and sometimes loneliness weighing down when this card shows up. However, this card also shows up when there IS help available for the asking. Here, we just see the man’s loyal, furry companion by his side. But for many of us, those helpers come in human form as well.

As far as advice, the Ace of Swords gives us something to hold on to when we’re feeling overwhelmed and left out in the cold. It’s a single though, an objective. The Ace of Swords is the seed of a workable plan. It’s not the whole plan, mind you. When you see this Ace, you won’t have it all figured out by a long shot. What you will have, however, as a workable starting point.

This ace can manifest as a single spot of clarity amidst confusion, an overriding objective or mission to guide the way, or just the very first step to take right now. You won’t see the entire path and the details beyond the start are likely to be fuzzy if visible at all. But you will have a clear, understandable and workable place to start. And that’s really all you need here.

This coming week, don’t freak out if you find yourself feeling isolated or left out okay? Seek out emotional support if you need it, because it is available. And look for the “Ace of Swords” idea to help you shift to a better place. That one spark of inspiration, that single idea, the beginning of plan–this is the Ace of Swords personified in your life–this is all you need to begin forward motion.

Are you feeling “out in the cold?” If you are, start looking for your own Ace of Swords to help you find your way back to warmth and comfort.

As always, reach out directly if you’d like to set up a personal consultation.

Fool: Fresh Start, a Step at a Time

Well, today didn’t go as planned. When I came over here to write up your weekly, the site was a mess! It took me a while to figure it out. I ended up fixing it the hard way…oops!

A new adventure, I guess. But I learned something and I didn’t get all stressed about it, so that’s a good outcome as far as I’m concerned.

Sort of like the coming week’s forecast. Got a video for y’all.

Next Week in Tarot

Here we’ve got The Fool as outlook, with advice as the Ace of Wands from the Star Tarot Deck.

Now, I like the Fool card, a lot. This site wasn’t named “A Fool’s Journey” by accident.

But there’s one thing to know about the Fool, and that is this energy is really about what you don’t know yet, not what you do know. It’s the sense of seeking, looking for bigger understandings, that sets the Fool apart. His desire is strong.

The Fool is hungry for experience, knowledge and understanding. He knows it’s not always easy to obtain this, but he’s willing to do what’s required because it’s important. He trusts his true feelings to guide him.

With the Ace of Wands as advice, that’s a very good plan!

Don’t reach way out into the future. Take each and every step from the now and the future sorts itself. Expect new experience and adventures in the coming week and allow your heart to point the way. You’ll never go far wrong with that.

Be well, friends! And if you want a little one-on-one, give me a holler.

 

Four of Pentacles & Ace of Swords: Next Clear Step

I think people have pretty much always lamented how awful the world is. There’s plenty of stuff to feel bothered over, if you’re looking around for it.

But what if that “wrong” that we see is a force for good?

It’s what people see as “wrong” that directs thought towards what they see as right. It becomes an  impetus of growth and evolution. Sometimes it’s painful and messy. Renovation work can be a little chaotic in progress. But that doesn’t make the end result any less lovely.

Out of manure, beautiful flowers bloom.

Nowadays, I try to be respectful of everyone’s intention, whether or not I agree with any part of it. I want to be more kind. The trick to reaching for greater kindness is stepping back from judgement.

It’s tempting to measure everything against the yardstick of “What would I do?” But everyone isn’t me! We’ve lived different lives. We’ve interpreted our experiences in ways specific to our beliefs and whatever influences we were feeling at the time.

I don’t need to fault someone for being who they are, nor plot how I will straighten them out. My job is loving, not fixing. Sometimes, that’s harder to manage of the two approaches, but always worth the trouble.

Next Week in Tarot

We have the week’s forecast coming in as the Four of Pentacles, with advice from the Ace of Swords–cards from the lovely Star Tarot deck.

It’s an interesting rendition of the Four–the stone portal dominates, with the symbols of the four elements on each corner. Now the scene features a swan and is guarded by a dragonfly. You think there are some important changes being referenced? Because that symbolism pretty much screams change.

That portal isn’t flimsy. It’s solid and the foundation for change is just as solid. Tarot fours are a stable energy. So throughout this week, expect whatever exists is a sturdy foundation for what’s to come, regardless of whether or not it’s clear how exactly that all fits together.

The most involved, most complicated changes have multiple layers. The Universe orchestrates this, not the individual. At least, if you want it done well, you back off.

Let the Universe do its job and orchestrate, will ya?

The Ace of Swords suggests an aim for clear and focused thought. Any action taken should be decisive under this influence, but not taken until the path appears natural, the obvious next step. Not rushing to the end of the race, mind you. NEXT CLEAR STEP. Next clear step. That’s all you’re aiming for here.

The Ace of Swords does not need to backtrack or second-guess. The Ace is also not rushed, because once that clear choice is made, the energy moves fast. So don’t move until you’ve ready and you know you’re ready because you’re sure. There’s no angst about the decisions here. You will know.

In short: It’s not up to you to line up all the pieces next week. Just stay focused on the next clear step in your own lane. That’s all you need.

Give me a holler if you’d like some help getting your focus on. And have a great week!

Peace Out.
~Dix

Ten of Pentacles & Two of Swords: Madness versus Magic

Yes, sometimes people see the same events but it’s like they are watching two different movies. It’s easy to see out in the world, to a stunning degree.

But you can generate the very same phenomena on an individual level as well.

Looking at the same circumstance in two different states of mind will give you two, very different conclusions.

Madness versus magic is a matter of perspective right now. It’s up to you to choose which you want.

And that’s the theme of the forecast this week.

Next Week in Tarot

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This week, we’ve got the Ten of Pentacles (outlook) and the Two of Swords (advice) from the Star Tarot deck.

I expect the week to be good with one caveat: you have to DECIDE that will be good.

We’re so used checking outside conditions to confirm or deny our personal state. It’s easy to become anxious, compulsively taking score to decide if we’re doing well enough “to relax” or not.

How much money is in the bank or how did that conversation go or how’s that health condition doing? Too often, we decide how we are by looking around. It’s like we’ve abdicated the responsibility–read, control–for personal well-being to the world at large.

There is no real safety in having a solid job or stable relationship or good health or whatever measurement one uses asa personal hallmark of security.  Security via outside forces is always an illusion. Circumstances can and do change. Determining personal stability via the outside trappings is always a precarious position.

Now, I’m not implying any particular circumstance isn’t meaningful to us individually.Wanting specifics in our life is not inappropriate in any way.

But don’t depend on it! Start by assuming your own capabilities, worth and competence. Expect that even if some aspects of your life is not exactly what you want currently, it’s okay. You’ll figure it out as you go.

It helps to remember that peace of mind is internal. As such, it cannot be granted or snatched away by any outside force, because there is no outside force that bestows the peace. Instead, it’s how we think about those outer circumstances and our own ability to deal with them that grants peace of mind.

Perhaps this seems like mere semantics, but it’s not.

If I need something external to feel okay, then I’m never really free (or safe).

So many times people agonize over decisions, not wanting to make the wrong choice and somehow jeopardize their happiness or well-being. Hiccups come not so much from which choices made as they do from splitting our energy after we make the choices.

The worries, the second-guessing, the stressing out is what disrupts our own flow and intuition. That’s the real danger, not making an “incorrect” choice. It’s not a matter any individual choice being the right choice or wrong choice so much as it’s a matter of being “in the flow” versus not.

You think there’s only a single way to progress is life and if you make a wrong turn, there’s no other route? I don’t!

Being in the flow isn’t the specialty of a few, magical unicorn people. We all have the ability. You make the decision to be tuned in. You quiet your mind. You do your best to stay centered, no matter what is going on in the outside world. And you gracefully accept the fact, sometimes you won’t be there. That’s got to be okay, too, because it will happen. The fussing at ourselves over being off our game is a lot more destructive than actually being off our game. Nobody is on-game 100% of the time.

In short, you trust that the Universe will keep spinning, both in your personal life and the world at large. That’s the job of the Universe. Your job is to stay centered and decide to be well.

I expect next week to go very well if you make the decision right here and now, you WILL have a good week. Whatever you see, interpret it in that framework.

You can weigh out your decisions however you like, but once you’ve made one, stick by it. Stand behind yourself! Be your own biggest supporter and the outside world will step up to affirm what you already know. Otherwise, who knows what kind of ride it will be?

How are you at expecting it’s all good, even if you can’t see how right away?

If you’d like a little help reorienting, give me a holler for private consult.

Ten of Wands Rx: Going Zen

Back in prehistoric times when I was in college, what turned out to be my toughest class came as a surprise. It wasn’t biology or statistics or algebra, some of the classes I though might challenge me. It wasn’t even the graduate psych seminar I finagled my way into as an undergrad.

None of the other classes compared to an intro to Eastern Civ class at the community college.

The professor wasn’t just insanely knowledgeable. He was extremely demanding. He expected us to develop a level of expertise on the subject far beyond what I would have imagined, even for a much more advanced class.

It was a small group of maybe 25. The tests were very difficult and frequent.A few dropped out after the first test. I wasn’t entirely sure if I would be able to pass, which is saying something for me. But I hung in there.

Those of us who stayed soon began recording his lectures, so that we could listen several times before the next class because that’s really what it took. By the end of the semester, there was a little tape recorder on every desk.

He joked that he felt like he was giving a press conference.

I think I studied more for that final than any other I’ve ever taken. When I got to the room, one of my classmates was holding up a sign she’d made. It read, “We Overcame!”

The professor said the sign was a bit dramatic, but it was obvious he took at as a compliment.

When we were all settled in and ready to go, he sported an impish grin and said he was going to play the devil today and offer us some temptation.

The final was to be the majority of our overall grade. But we could opt out of it.

He made his way around the room with a yellow legal pad, privately showing each of us a letter grade.  “If you want to skip the final, this is the grade I’ll give you…”

When it was my turn, he looked at me and considered for a couple of seconds. Then he scratched out a “B” on the pad.

I about fell out of my chair. I wasn’t sure how I was doing to be honest, so a B was better than I expected.

I didn’t take the offer. though. Nobody did. We had done some insane studying for that final and we were going to take the damn thing!

Leaving the room after taking a final was always one of my favorite moments of every class. At that point, I’d done everything I could do and it was time to let it go. Leaving that room was especially sweet.

I got an A in the class, incidentally. I think I was more proud of that A than any other. I don’t know for sure if my final answers were that great or the professor gave us “extra credit” for skipping the temptation.  I suspect he was more interested in our working to learn than in our answers to the final. But the spectre of the final was the vehicle for motivation.

Next week, I’m expecting it to feel a lot like walking outside the door after taking a tough final. It’s time to just let go and focus on doing the best you can with whatever you’ve got to work with—specifically, working on your own business.

Next Week in Tarot

For outlook, we’ve got the Ten of Wands reversed, with advice showing up as the Eight of Pentacles from the lovely Star Tarot Deck.

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It’s time to let go. If it’s not ours to worry about (or even if it is), it’s just time to release the sense of burden and responsibility for all that happens. Instead, our job is to just do the best we can with what we’ve got to work with.

We’re looking to improve, not solve. We’re looking to our own jobs, not anyone else’s jobs. Salvation isn’t coming in the form of the big picture here. Instead, we progress by working with the now, the details, giving full attention to the immediate, in-the-present-moment doing our best. Everything else sorts itself.

Just work your way through what is right in front of you and let the rest of the world (your world or the bigger world, doesn’t matter) sort itself. I’m not saying don’t care. You just express your cares here by how you live your own self. Yuo know? Your life is, in itself, the art you’re making.

If you want some help sorting it out, give me a holler and we’ll see about a one-on-one.