Queen of Swords: Writing Your Own Story

I’ve spent damn near a lifetime separating out what other people think of me from what I think of myself. Most days, it’s pretty automatic now, although occasionally I’ll run something that strikes a sore spot.

It took me a very long time to realize unless I agree at least a little bit with any assertion, it doesn’t impact me. If there’s no foothold inside me already, I cannot be touched.

The root of any emotional reaction isn’t from an outside stimulus. It’s internal. Keep that in mind the coming week…

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For the weekly outlook, we have the Queen of Swords paired with advice from the Four of Wands using the Star Tarot (which I may or may not be slightly obsessed with at this point).

Now, I don’t read the Queen of Swords as “negative” per se, although she’s not especially warm and fuzzy, either. She is focused and precise, though. She cuts through whatever stands in her way and some would no doubt describe her as cold.

A “Queen of Swords week” would have facts surfacing, calculations made and some options eliminated. She excels in clarification, honing in on a particular course or outcome. Also, understand none of the Queen’s actions are actually personal regardless of how it may feel. This queen doesn’t operate that way. The Queen of Swords is all about the end game. Her vision of the end game will match her idea of the greater good. But the how-to part of her game puts emphasis on the bigger picture, not the individual components.

In terms of advice, the Four of Wands came in reversed for me (set upright for the picture). I see this as folks potentially feeling disrupted by what they see and hear around them.

Your job–should you choose to accept it–is to create a safe haven for yourself ANYWAY. Regardless of what happens in the outside world, you can foster an internal sense of stability, safety, and comfort for yourself. This is much easier when we remind ourselves such feelings are internal, not externally generated.

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It’s true, events spill over from outside yourself that may impact you. But we give others way too much control over (and credit for) how we feel. We act as if there is nothing we can do about our reactions to anything when in fact, the opposite is true. How you feel about anything is very closely tied to how you choose to think about it.

Others can and will tell whatever story they see fit. But for it to become YOUR story, you have to cooperate by believing it.

Do you feel like have a handle on your own story?


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Page of Cups: Navigating a Case of the Feels

“Is she avoiding me? Is he mad at me? Am I being stupid? Why didn’t I see that? Why did I say that? Ugh.”

That is what people say when they have what I call “a case of the feels.”

That’s what I call it when your emotions are just a little raw and you can tell, it wouldn’t take too much attention on anything to kick full on into one emotional direction or another. That’s what I’ve been feeling and seeing recently and it looks like it’s relevant for the coming week.

We have the Princess of Cups (Page of Cups) for the weekly outlook, followed by Death reversed for advice from the ever-so-lovely Star Tarot.

The Princess presents a huge (and loud) emotional message. Expect your heart-strings to get pulled this week and when they do? Look for themes in what you’re feeling, not the individual occurrences.

Inverted Death as advice–doesn’t that make you think of the phrase “death warmed over?” This card would suggest that what looks like the end of anything may not be. There is a significant transformation and cutting back, but not complete elimination. Think of it as pruning what isn’t healthy to allow for fresh growth.

Much like with dreams, the specific details are much less important than the FEELINGS. The scenarios will vary but the feelings will tend to run a similar temperature when you get this dynamic rolling. In other words, if you are worried about upsetting someone close to you, then you’ll be calling up multiple examples of this dynamic as you become more emotional about it. That is not proof you’re a clod, by the way! It’s evidence you’re becoming more caught up in the emotional tide with worries of being inadequate or whatever.

When you’re dealing with a case of the feels, be gentle with yourself. Withdrawing from too much stimulation can be helpful. Note the emotional tenor of what sort of content you consume. TV shows, articles or even discussion can have a bigger impact if your emotions are a little on edge already. Naps are great therapy! Distraction helps.

This coming week, go easy on yourself from an emotional standpoint. Make your actions measured and gradual, pruning little by little whatever is uncomfortable around you without pushing for instant resolution. The step back is often enough. Take your time, step gingerly and replenish yourself emotionally by spending time doing things you love and feel good doing.

And don’t worry. It doesn’t help and these emotional blips always do even out in the end.

Do you have a case of the feels?

If you want a little help sorting it out, give me a holler for a private consult. And take care of yourselves out there!

~Dix

 

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Judgement & Nine of Wands: Prepping for Fresh Starts

Merry Christmas, Blessed Solstice, and Happy Whatever-You-Celebrate! As we wind up 2018, I’m feeling excited about the fresh start and renewed optimism a new year implies. Wrapping up this year’s energy is naturally part of that mix.

I’ve been getting pings lately to rush less and allow things to unfold at their natural pace. The rushing itself and interpreting my progress as insufficient is the issue, not the actual pace. In fact, what I’m hearing here is that things will actually progress more quickly and smoothly if I drop the angst factor.

Of course, I’m sure I’m the only one who does that. HAHAHA! –Tarot reader joke.

Another tidbit from the 2019 Look-Ahead Zodiac reading themes: let other people have their own processes, while you have yours. Don’t contort your behavior to fit into someone else’s ideal or to garner approval. It’s not sustainable. Likewise, don’t try to enact solutions for other people’s worries. Let them have their path, while you have yours. The biggest support you can give anyone is believing in their ability to navigate their own life. This helps shore them up a million times better than any “fixing” you can do.

This all flows very nicely into what Tarot has to say here.

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We’ve got Judgement as the outlook, with the Nine of Wands coming in for advice from the Star Tarot. I followed up with a draw from the Botanical Inspirations deck, and we got a lovely Gerber Daisy.

I always think of Judgement as a path to clarity. Ironically, I usually read this card as being decidedly “non-judgemental” in the sense of not assigning blame. It’s more of an observational thing, where what has been planted is bearing fruit and you can determine what works and what does not. This isn’t so much about right or wrong as it is informational. All information is good information, you know?

The same theme is echoed in the advice we’re getting with the Nine of Wands. This version features the black and white wolves–what we would consider shadow and light. We couldn’t see light without shadow. It’s all part of the same whole. While there is an inevitable sense of being tired with this card, it also lets us know that standing your ground is indeed possible and that the situation(s) it refers to are close to being resolved. Tarot Nines are indicative of nearing the end of a cycle. So let that knowledge shore you up!

Finally, we’ve got our lovely Daisies, standing for “purity, cheerfulness & innocence.” It’s a powerful attitude, and one I try to embody as much as I can manage.

Don’t be quick to judge yourself (or anyone else) as “good” or “bad” this week. People are where they are, and that includes YOU! I’ve found I am most likely to look upon others as lacking when I’m feeling that way about myself and I can’t be the only one. Moreover, what looks “bad” at first glance can really lead to wonderful improvements in the big picture.

Let other people do what they do and wish them as well as you can as they do it, regardless of whether or not you’d approve. Keep steadfast to what rings true to your heart of course. And always, expect things to work out. Good and bad are in the eye of the beholder, you know?

Are you prepping for a fresh start?

p.s. Last call for the 2019 Zodiac Year-Ahead readings! If you want an overview of what to expect next year in audio format (with a keep-able mp3) and pictures of your cards to guide your upcoming year, just shoot me $50 on Paypal and I’ll put you on the list. I’m doing pretty well with staying caught up, so there’s not a long wait.

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Fool & King of Swords Rx: Just Enjoy the Ride

I’ve been buying Christmas presents and second-guessing my choices more than I’d like to admit.

I tend to think this week’s advice is pointed at me but I’m sure some of you could use it as well. Ha! So let’s get straight to it.

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This week, the Fool reappears upright to give us our outlook, along with the reversed King of Swords as advice. I like seeing the Fool here! He suggests a lighthearted, engaged sort of week. I would expect the energetic mood to be generally nice (even if Mercury is in retrograde). Maybe it’s that extra time off for the holidays that does it. The inverted King is taking this advice a step further with the suggestion not to overthink things this week.

Now, when I say, “Don’t overthink it,” that usually means one thing: don’t argue against yourself! So often, we get a notion and it feels good. A nice, clean impulse, right? And that lasts about 3 seconds, until the second-guessing and self-doubt sets in.

“Am I being stupid? Will this even work? Is this a bad idea?” And on and on it goes, until what felt like a great idea a minute ago is now the bringer of sure disaster in your head.

Don’t do that to yourself, okay?

I would suggest you alter the script a little to be more supportive of yourself. Know you’ll figure it out as you go. Understand you don’t need all the answers before you start. Give yourself credit for having good ideas. Expect success. Remind yourself of how you always do figure things out and start paving the way for everything to go more smoothly.

People think that forecasting all possible disaster (and then working very hard to avoid it) is how one stays safe and successful and I would argue it’s the opposite. Success comes about most readily from being plugged in and in the flow. That is what makes things easy. The free-flowing intuition comes from quieting the mind, not thinking all the thoughts and figuring out all the permutations of potential so you can navigate.

This week? Take it easy. Consider your life an adventure. Focus on having good EXPERIENCES and worry less about what they all mean. If the experience is pleasant, you’re doing it right. If it’s not, well, you noticed that. The fact it’s not pleasant is your call to adjust. Therefore, you’re still doing it right. You can get use out of whatever it is, so there is no doing it wrong, here.

The trick is making the turn early on. Before you find yourself completely discouraged, shift from disaster to potential for success. I mean, both potentials are always there, right? Feed the one that you want to grow.

This week, actively seek evidence of your plans working. Consider your time on this Earth as a grand adventure, and notice all the fun and wonder there is to see along the way. Shut down the inner “negative Nellie” and give more airplay to the inner cheerleader. Just enjoy the ride and you’ll have a good week!

How is your week going? 

p.s. I haven’t really talked about my Zodiac Year-Ahead readings this year. That’s a forecast for 2019, covering all the astrological houses so pretty much every area of life. The readings are done in an audio MP3 file, with a picture of the cards and you don’t need to know astrology at all. If there is a demand, I’ll offer them again through the end of the year. Just shoot me a payment for $50 and I’ll put you on the list.

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Fool Rx & Page of Cups: Heart-Guided

I’ve been (trying) to make it a practice to be less bothered. About anything and everything, I want to stay as centered as possible. I don’t always make it, but I know I’m getting better because when I don’t? I really feel it more acutely now.

This is very different, by the way, from “agreeing” with everything. I just mean I’m not declaring myself as personally responsible for 1. straightening anything (or anyone) out, or 2. figuring out how to fix crap.

Life is a lot easier without it, you know? It takes practice and sometimes, my mom sensibilities still kick in to warn or meddle just a teensy bit. But overall, I’m really happy with where I’m at with it.

This week, we have the Fool reversed for the week’s outlook and the (Princess) Page of Cups for advice, all from the Star Tarot.

I’m reading the reversed Fool here as a collective tendency to jump to conclusions. Don’t expect much in the way of follow-up questions this coming week: just misunderstanding and emotional reactions to first impressions.

I mean, sure, it doesn’t help that it’s Mercury retrograde at the moment. But it appears people will be seeing what they believe and not the other way around, as we so often claim. Expect very little investigation to be evident before folks go diving into the freaked-out frenzy, and the head-first approach will probably be the norm.

Of course, that doesn’t have to be OUR norm, does it?

For advice, we’re looking to that lovely, heart-connected princess. Let your feelings guide you. If it feels good to approach a subject in a particular way, do it! In reality, that’s the only antidote for this kind of energy and what you’ll find is that if you let your heart guide you, then you’ll get exactly the information you need and want. It serves far better than one would ever realize if they haven’t tried it.

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Bottom line, here: Nobody else gets to tell you what deserves your attention. Only you can make that call and I’d suggest using the barometer of how it feels to your heart to make the call in a way that works for you.

Are you feeling the rush to judgment out there (and are you managing to sidestep it)?

Want a little help choosing your focus? Give me a holler for a one-on-one.

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Four of Wands & Nine of Wands: Self-Contained Stability

“You would do well to get over caring what other people think about you.” I was talking to one of my Tarot peeps recently when I gave this advice.

I know, I know. It’s definitely easier said than done.

But think about when this comes up, okay? We don’t need this sort of reassurance unless we’re shakey. If you’re confident already, there is no drive to find the outside confirmation. You just know. And in terms of stability, “just knowing” is the best place to find oneself.

On the other hand, when someone is unsure on some level, it begins to feel important–even vital–to get all the people to sign on. Putting aside the fact that getting mass adoption for any vision is pretty much a physical impossibility, the underlying question is even more compelling: do you really want to depend on others for stability? Because if you need the agreement, that’s exactly what you’re doing.

Of course, I love to take people along for the ride when I find something that works for me. I value being of service and it means a lot to me that sometimes, my thoughts or perspectives are useful to others. BUT that doesn’t mean I need the approval to feel okay. I also don’t advise looking to be of service directly until you’re at a point you’re comfortable when people ignore your input or just flat out disagree. Otherwise, you’re still kind of screwed.

I aim for a very self-contained stability. That’s the only way to be unflappable, you know? That idea is right up there with looking to the conditions around me to decide if I’m happy or not. There is just no point in that unless I want to be at the mercy of whatever I happen to look at. Not for me! It can be done internally. That’s the only way to have stability. So I’d suggest you reach for that. And next week? You’ll probably get a chance to practice.

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Four of Wands rx Nine of Wands

This week, the forecast is coming in as the Four of Wands reversed, with advice from the Nine of Wands. This is the lovely Star Tarot deck.

Expect the general psychic weather to be unsettled. People may not be feeling safe or at peace; there’s a sense of waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Maybe it’s you or maybe it’s just other folks, but there is a definite sense of unrest here.

In terms of advice? Fear and worry are contagious. Don’t catch it! Stand your ground. Tired or not, look to remain centered and sane, okay? Assume that what you see going on around you has a purpose and contributes to the bigger picture, whether or not you feel privy to the bigger picture.

Maybe to the people following the news, this seems like a ridiculous stance. I understand how looking around and seeing things you don’t like is upsetting. I am certainly not immune. But I do know that I can manage my perspective to choose those thoughts and ideas that feel best to me. I do know I can decide how much grief or struggle I will expose myself to on a daily basis. I do know that whenever things get tough, there call for improvement (and hence the energy in that direction) intensifies. I do know there is every bit as much good in the world as bad. And I know I have the choice of what I focus upon.

Do whatever you can–whatever you must, really–to stay solid, grounded and well this coming week. Expect that some folks may struggle and of course, extend your compassion and loving energy in their direction when you see it. But don’t get on that oh-my-God-the-world-is-scary train, because it’s hard to get off and it’s not going anywhere you want to go, anyway.

Are you feeling steady, grounded and safe? What might you do to enhance that?

Be well, friends! And if you need a little reorienting, feel free to holler at me for a one-on-one.

 

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