Mini-Reading | Moving to Montana?

Ten of Wands Reversed

“I’ve gotten a lot of signs about Montana lately. I wanted to be there for a long time, and when I moved back from Boise, ID to live with my aunt, I gave up the dream. Am I moving soon to Montana soon? (Insert Frank Zappa tune here. Me and the pigmy ponies.) Ha! Thanks!” -Libby

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Moving to Montana?

Libby…right now, you’re carrying too much to start doing what you need to do in order to move. Financial, emotional, functionally, you’re not in position to start making those “little steps” that pull it together, that you can find synchronicity and gifts and the roadsigns that help speed you along the path.

Doesn’t mean you can’t. But before I see it happening, you need a shift. You can start the shift by detaching emotionally from the outcomes of the people around you. Not that you can’t help. There’s nothing wrong with helping. It’s kind and generous and sometimes, just right, you know? But if you remain on the hook for their lives, you don’t have option to just live your own. Because there is always crisis, always needs, always something around you that takes precedence for you. Each one of these concerns is a tie that keeps you where you are.

Start emotionally distancing some from the anchors you have here, now, and you shift into the flow directed where you want to go. That’s where I would begin.

Good luck!

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09/08/11: Savior versus Supporter | Reversed Ten of Wands

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Do not remove a fly from your friend’s forehead with a hatchet.” –Chinese Proverb

I am very prone to biting off more than I can comfortably chew. I won’t say it’s “more than I can chew,” because once I’ve committed, I almost always WILL finish the job or die trying. Whether it’s mine or not, I believe I can do it quicker, easier, and better than most anybody else. This would be insufferably egotistical to say if it weren’t usually true. But egotistical or not, it’s still stupid.

At the time I volunteer, it all sounds like such a good idea! Virgo loves to help, man. But later, when I’m knee-deep in the soup and feeling it, I curse myself for of foresight. Note to self: don’t say “Yes” so damn fast!

Today’s Tarot forecast is the inverted Ten of Wands or Lord of Oppression, associated with Saturn in Sagittarius—you’ve got oversized (Sagittarius) responsibilities (Saturn)! As one of the Tarot Tens, we’re wrapping up one cycle in anticipation of starting a new. Tarot Wands are associated with fire, and are all about doing—working, creating, or building. So in short, the Ten of Wands is about carrying a huge load. Inverted, though, you’ve got means of escape.

The point here is to look carefully at what you’re carrying. If you’re load is too heavy, chances are some of it’s not yours. Your friends can figure out their own marriages. Your kids can decide for themselves what job is right for them.  Your coworkers can pick their own doctors. There are three little questions to look at here.

  1. Does the person want my help? If not and we’re talking a competent adult, pursuing is disrespectful.
  2. Do I want to help? Ability does not equal obligation. Am I in the position to take it on?
  3. Is it my place? Am I really “helping” by helping? Because some types of assistance allow people to avoid needed consequences to learn and grow.

One of the hardest parenting lessons I’ve run across is that there are NO magic words for helping a child wise up. You can plant seeds, but you’d best be happy averting your gaze once you have. Otherwise, you’ll drive yourself (and your kids) nuts checking the progress. A little faith is in order here, grasshopper. I didn’t want to raise dependent children. I wanted to raise strong ones. To do that, I had to find the strength within myself to know when to step back and shut up.

There’s a tremendous difference between SUPPORTER and SAVOIR, right up there with the difference between Mother and Martyr. I can drop a hint  (of the feather-weight versus leaden variety), offer insight, provide information, and that’s helpful, meaningful support. I can also tell others what to do, turn my life upside down in their name, or simply absorb their issues as mine—that’s running for savior and even if you manage it, you haven’t really done anything beyond emphasizing helplessness.

Saviors amplify weakness. Supporters amplify strength. Often, the most helpful thing I can do help convince someone they can effectively manage their own issues. That’s how I approach my Tarot work, too. I’d rather serve as cheerleader than crutch. Everybody’s happier and it has a much bigger impact, in the long run. It’s a more economical use of your goodwill. Leaves you with more to spend around.

Do you over-help? Can you find a route out?

Radiant Rider-Waite Tarot
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Everyday Tarot, 07/29/11: Can you hear me now?

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Tarot Déjà Vu!

Damn, Tarot.

Ya’ll have been digging on this Transparent Tarot, so I grabbed the deck, shuffled it up, and pulled three cards. And wouldn’t you know it—they were EXACTLY the same three cards we got a couple days ago—don’t isolate (King of Cups, Ten of Wands, Three of Cups). I KNOW I shuffled. Um…again? Unless I’m missing something in the message. The cards will have to be blunt if that’s the case. Even us Tarot readers have our moments, y’know.

So I pulled a couple more—Seven of Wands and Two of Cups. You see what we’ve got going on here? In every life, there are some burdens that we carry alone, and some battles that we have to fight ourselves. But if we always act from the heart, celebrate (and console) one another, and keep our hearts open to love and partnership, this is what gets us through. Connection fuels our resolve for perseverance and passion for living and keeps the work worthwhile.

The long and short of it? There are breaks in the assault of responsibilities and demands. So when you see one, call a friend! Keep your heart open, connect with people who care about you whenever and however you can, and work through everything, one step at a time.

You can do this…just not yesterday. Be here, now, full present emotionally and you’ll get through. Much love to all who could use a hug!

You see anything else in here? ‘Cause there may well be, since the cards are getting louder!

The Transparent Tarot
by Emily Carding

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Everyday Tarot, 07/26/11: Don’t Isolate!

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I’ve been kind of inclined to rush to the point the last few days’ Tarot forecast. Have you noticed? This is because I feel the same energy as everybody else, and this is what I can come up to work it. Don’t worry–I’m sure I’ll get my mouth mojo back soon.

Today’s 3-card spread is the Three of Cups, the Ten of Wands and the King of Cups. Here’s the quickie forecast:

Lighten your burdens by connecting with loved ones.  Definitely not the time to isolate. The extra juice this provides helps you care for yourself, for others, and live in concert with your feelings. That’s a worthy goal.

You feeling this?


The Transparent Tarot
by Emily Carding

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Everyday Tarot, 06/07/11: Breaking Free! 10 of Fire

daily-tarot-forecast-ten-wands-osho-zenYou’ll hear Tarot people talk about repeats. Best I can gather, this is an extremely widespread phenomena, and not surprising. Tarot points out truth, sometimes loud!

But I’ve also noticed some repeats are deck specific— whenever I pick up Osho Zen, odds have been 50/50 I’m going to see the card for Today’s Tarot forecast.

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