Two of Wands: Finding Your Touchstones

I’ve been on the lookout for little reminders of late. Signs, if you’re inclined to call them such. Personally, though, I think of them as touchstones.

My touchstones are those little reminders of who I am, what is real and what really counts.

I see them all over when I’m attuned to them by looking. I find them in my joy at seeing a tiny kitten rescued or in watching the guy who feeds the racoons. I see them in flowers sent from a friend or the warming of my heart reading kind words about someone’s work in my crochet group. They don’t have to be big for me–only ring true.

Such small acts of kindness and love are both healing and reassuring. Connecting with these kinds of feelings and ideas makes me feel not only more like myself, but like I’m amplifying the very best in myself. I don’t need any specific set of conditions to do that.

If you spend much time noticing what you find “off,” you’re going to start feeling out of balance and out of sorts. It’s inevitable. I’m not saying unpleasant feelings cannot be justified. There is enough variety to observe, EVERY feeling could be a rational response to what you’re seeing. But where are you looking?

To me, certain feelings stray further away from my sense of inner truth. I want to live as close as I can to who I am at the soul level, which is what I consider to be the “real” me. Anger, disgust or fear give me the sense of being off-kilter. They are disruptive. I don’t think such feelings represent the best of myself. They aren’t what I want to feed.

So if you’re feeling weary or out of sorts with anything you see in the world, start looking for touchstones. It sure wouldn’t be a bad idea to practice that next week.

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Two of Wands Reversed Page of Swords

We’ve got a forecast of the Two of Wands with a reversed Page of Swords for advice. Cards pictured are from the Crystal Visions Tarot deck.

Two of wands offers us a “confidently stand your ground” vibe. Wands speak of heartfelt commitments or passions. Tarot twos especially show us choices, bringing our attention to polarities. It’s easy to see the downside of polarities, suggesting divisions or standoffs. But I try to always remember, polarities cannot exist in isolation. Each side of a polarity holds elements of the other in it’s very definition. If you define yourself as anti-something, you actually need that “something” to exist in order to retain that definition. The energies are entwined, one feeding the other.

Swords in general speak to reasoning, thought, conflict or communication. The Air element they represent usually has some emotional distance. Pages are often messengers and specifically, I often see this page delivering contracts, either formal or informal.

With a reversed Page of Swords to guide us, I’d take it slow. Don’t overcommunicate. Don’t fight with those whose heels are already dug in because while you’ll definitely get a dose of their passion, you won’t be able to find a conversation of reason. In terms of commitments, again don’t move quickly. Let the specifics be developed gradually and expect the final version to come together in time, not right now.

Positions will most likely remain entrenched this week and there won’t be any talking anyone out of what they already believe. I’d go further as to say it’s not an especially a good time to try. Comprisable territory is coming (or that Page of Swords wouldn’t have appeared at all), but it’s not yet here. I’d hold my tongue and let the Universe continue to sort things out until the time is right for meaningful dialogue. It’s not quite there yet, though.

Are you finding touchstones to help you stay grounded?


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High Priestess Reversed: Expecting the Best

Welcome to eclipse season. The first of this summer’s big three hit yesterday.

I’d ask if you’re feeling it, but quite frankly if you’ve the mental capacity to read this, I know the answer already.

I talk to my husband about…the world. He’s usually the only one, to be honest.

I know, no matter how disorganized my thoughts or how awkwardly my partially-formed ideas may be blurted, my basic goodness won’t ever be called into question.

It’s safe to process thoughts and feelings. He assumes I’m a decent human being from the get-go. There’s no need to prove the point.

In fact, he doesn’t merely offer me “the benefit of a doubt.” I am gifted an utter lack of doubt. While he may legitimately challenge facts or reasoning, the love in my heart and my desire for the greater good remains an absolute given, always.

Do you know how big a deal that is? It’s hard to even put into words how helpful such an environment can be when you’re trying to process difficult or painful realities. This approach dissolves defensiveness. I can hammer out a new, broader perspective that feels natural without becoming entrenched by a need to justify my starting place.

Now, I’m not about to tell anyone how to feel about anything. I will point out that one’s dominant feelings are largely dictated by perspective. Perspective is largely a function of where emphasis and attention is directed. If you can shift attention, you can shift perspective.

I actively look for good in others. I can almost always find it. It’s a good way to live.

If you can offer anything similar to folks in your world, I highly recommend it. It brings out the best in people. It brings out the best in me, for sure. Next week would be an excellent time to practice.

Next week in Tarot

The forecast for next week is the reversed High Priestess. Advice comes by way of the Two of Wands, as shown here from the Radiant Rider-Waite.

The Priestess is an empath, currently quite overwhelmed. There’s too many intense feelings coming at her for her to easily sort out which are hers. She may feel compelled to act without the benefit of her usual sense of knowing or divine timing. Her intuition remains intact, but the sheer volume of emotion coming at her clouds her ability to distinguish signal from the noise.

Or maybe I project.

Either way, once we come back to center, the Two of Wands guides the way forward.

The Two of Wands shows  a man standing on solid ground. He looks off into the distance with optimism and positive expectation.

He isn’t looking out into the future filled with trepidation and worry over what’s coming. He’s not filled with disgust or anger. It’s not like he couldn’t find cause for those other feelings, but that’s not where he’s looking.

The world is literally in his hand. He understands his personal future is of his own making and in that moment we’ve spied upon him, he’s actively looking forward to the future he’s creating .

Every moment, do your best to both envision and embody the sort of future you want to live. ♥


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Two of Wands: You Can’t Please Everyone, So…

What do you do, when you can’t make someone happy?

Maybe you’re connected to someone in a way that’s not going to change. You want the relationship to work and be pleasant.

But despite your best efforts, that’s not happening. 

We often think if we can find the right (read: “magic”) words, the right approach or compromise or explanation, that would fix everthing. But it doesn’t.

This question has been on my radar recently and the answer is simpler than it would seem at first glance.

Nobody can truly understand what’s going on in the head of someone else. Nor do we need to. Your job is always YOU. 

If it doesn’t feel good, detach from it. Step back. Don’t make it your job to fix the other person or the situation. Just love ’em and give ’em some space.

It reminds me of the old song, Garden Party. “You can’t please everyone, so you have to please yourself.”

Priority one is being happy yourself. Let the rest of the bastards fend for themselves here.  Which takes us to next week’s forecast.

Next Week in Tarot

Outlook is the Two of Wands, with advice as the Ten of Cups (from the Legacy of the Divine Tarot deck).

Got a quick video forecast for you if you want to hear me say it. 😉

There will be choices this week. At times, your needs and desires may feel pitted against the rest of the world. But let your heart guide you.

Comfort and what feels most “at home” for you is the best guide. These decisions are best made outside the scope of pleasing anyone else.

This is actually better advice (for all the time) than you may think at first. If you stick true to your core and lovingly let other people determine their own feelings and experience, life gets a whole lot easier very quickly.

Try it with any challenging relationship. You don’t decide what someone else does or doesn’t do. Instead, you’re deciding what role (if any) you feel at home playing a part in. That’s it. Suddenly, life simplified.

Hope this is helpful and go out there and have an awesome week, folks! ♥


I will be doing some 2020 Holiday Year Ahead Readings as I sometimes do. The details of the special will be announced in a few days, so if you’re interested in what next year will bring for you, keep a lookout. As always, if you’d like a personal or issue-focused consult, you know where to find me!

Benefit of the Doubt: Tarot Forecast, Dec 12 – 18, 2016

My kids give me shit about my age sometimes, but truth is I don’t really care how old I am. Not that I’m going to admit that. I will tell them to shut up anyway. But in truth, I like where I am, and look to always like where I am.

Isn’t that the mark of a happy person?

Being at peace with wherever you are. Liking yourself. Knowing your life is your own and it’s worked from the inside-out. How you focus determines your experience.

Energetic weather in the wild is kinda wonky right now. At least, the way I’m feeling it. Intense, fast-moving. Ups are way high and the lows are way low and they both are shifting poles pretty rapidly. So it’s good to have some coping skills on hand.

Finding and holding your center will do you a world of good under these conditions (or any, really). What we’re shooting for here is an inner knowing that it’s okay, a sense of realizing who you are and who you want to be and that nothing can rock your peace. Your calm. Your happiness and sense of who you are.

Easier said than done? Sometimes. But it becomes easier and easier to maintain this stance, the more you practice it.

Practice when it’s easy and when conditions become less than optimal, it will be your default setting. Look for ways to feel good, as much as you can. Appreciate whatever you can. Live as happy as you can. And don’t bother with what anybody else is living. You cannot vibrate for another and you cannot force them to your perspective.

But you can look to keep your perspective as pliable and possible. You can do your best to make peace with your now, being true to who you really are. You can stay centered in your respect for yourself. Everything else will form around that core if you keep steady to that energy.

There’s a joke, where I live. “Don’t like the weather in Kansas? Wait five minutes, it will change.”

I didn’t say it was a funny joke.

But next week? It is a lot like that.

The good news in that is that whatever is utterly under your skin on one day? Probably be a non-issue within 24 hours. It’s a quick-change week, so don’t get too wrapped up in any sort of drama because it will be short-lived. That’s something to work with, huh? So let’s hit the day-by-day play-by-play.

Monday, Death: Might be a tough day. Sorry! Could even be an ugly or upsetting event in the news. In a short-term forecast, the “weightier” cards like Death don’t have the same implications as other, longer term readings, though, so no need to get overly wrought up. But do understand the day may have some heavy or difficult energy, nonetheless. It is what it is, but don’t worry about it much because why? Look at tomorrow.

Tuesday, The Sun: Pretty much the exact opposite emotional tone from yesterday. Yay! It’s a great time for fun activities. Look for things to appreciate and feel joyful, and make the most of these kind of days when you get them. Enjoy! Because that’s why we’re here.

Wednesday, Knight of Wands rx: Progress is happening, even if you feel impatient about it. I’m seeing someone tap, tap, tapping their foot. But do know we’re moving forward and call upon your patience mojo. It’s totally warranted.

Thursday, Queen of Wands: Perfect follow-up to yesterday. See? Here’s evidence of the progress we’re making. Enjoy the progress. It’s a good creative day, with lots of room for joy.

Friday, High Priestess: Action? Not so much. Turn inward, get grounded and have quiet, reflective time. Meditation is super-charged. Intuition is right on. Passive, receptive trust in your knowing. And know everything is okay.

Saturday, Hanged Man rx: Antsy feeling, like a drive to do something, do something, do something. The picture folks have conjured is not entirely clear. Postpone action a bit and work on your faith. Get your mindset CLEAR, before you take action. If you don’t have the faith in place, don’t make the phone call, write the letter or whatever. Faith comes first and don’t move on anythign until you got it.

Sunday, Eight of Cups rx: Want to toss up your hands to walk away? You’re not quite ready. The situation isn’t there, all the facts are not out, etc. Just trust! Keep working on the faith. We’re getting there…

Overview/Advice, Two of Wands: Pointing towards a couple of things. Standing your ground, being firm and convinced in what’s right for you and settling in for that. Not activism or convincing others, but for YOU. The second element that’s highlighted here is paitence. It’s a longer term energy, the long game for this coming week. There are ups and down, but breathe deeply, take your time, and let it unfold at it’s own pace. MAKE PEACE with where you are. Rushing won’t get you away from what you’re unhappy with…get where you want emotionally first, and the outer circumstances morph accordingly.

Affirmation: “I am developing the skill to direct my thoughts.” You may not realize how much impact this has. We’re not truly responding to what’s happening outside ourselves. It’s what’s happening in our heads! You can have the exact same experience, but whether it’s Heaven or Hell is determined by what you’re thinking about it.

Any new circumstance you’re exploring, do an emotional temperature check. See how you’re feeling about it. If you’re feeling uneasy, uncomfortable for any reason, look to shift your thoughts. If you do this early on before you get a lot of momentum, it’s much easier to shift. If you can shift up the emotional tone of the situation, you completely shift your experience. This changes the outcome. A lot of what is good or bad in your experience, as in pretty much ALL of it, is a function of how you think about it, which determines how you feel about it. This week, practice checking in on your feelings and ask, “Is there a way I could think about this that would feel a little better?” Don’t worry if that something you could think would be considered “true” as some kind of objective reality. Just look at ways to frame it to feel better and choose that.

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We talk about giving someone else the “benefit of the doubt” as if it’s really about the other person, a gift of some sort. It’s not. But it’s definitely a gift. See, regardless of the situation and regardless of how convinced you are that it’s likely one way or another, you can still assume it’s coming from a malicious, ugly place (and maybe it is), or you can assume no ill-intention as default (and maybe that’s true, too). Even if it’s coming from an ugly place, getting upset about it doesn’t help you and your experience. If you assume even the ugly is not about you because it never is–even if the other person thinks it is, it’s still about how they look at the world–then you’ll have a much happier life.

Personally? I think that’s a very awesome gift!

Are you free with your benefit of a doubt?

This forecast features the Radiant Rider Waite in a Tin and some Abraham-Hicks Divination Cards.

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Looking for What You Like: Tarot Forecast, Sept 26 – Oct 2

Back in the days when I worked in an office. I liked to give out cards at Christmas. Maybe stick a candy cane to them or something. But the real gift was the note inside.

For each person I worked with, I would spend a little while and write out a handwritten note of appreciation, mentioning something I particularly liked or enjoyed about them. I wanted each note to be personal, and completely heartfelt.

Sounds lovely, huh?

But you know the problem with that, right?

There’s always “that one guy,” or “that woman…” agh! The one that gets under your skin and drives you crazy.

“I don’t wanna do a note for So-and-So,” I’d think, a little belligerently, to tell the truth. Except it would be pretty rude to hand out sweet notes to everybody but that one.

This meant a few of my cards took an extra long time to compose. These challenging cards required me to step outside my ego a little bit and relax the defensive stance long enough to find something true, uplifting and kind in my heart to say about the somebody who absolutely drove me batty.

Funny thing, about those tough-to-write notes? While my notes were well received in general, the hard ones were the best received and without exception, my interactions always improved after writing one of those harder notes.

This week is a lot like that. Look for what you like–even if it’s harder to see than what’s in your face–and you’ll do well.

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Audio Version of This Forecast – more rambly goodness.

Monday, Future – Four of Wands rx: Don’t run too far into the future, in your head. Don’t make a big deal out of, “Where is this going, where is this going, where is this going?” There is a lot of wiggle room in the energy right now. Wrong turns may be just the break you need. So get your chill on.

Tuesday, Unconscious Desires – Knight of Pentacles rx: It’s okay to want what you want. More money, more stuff, more friends, more comfort. It’s ALL okay to want, whatever it is you want, for yourself, without guilt. Your suffering does not add to the life of another. Lifting up yourself is contributing to the whole at the same time. If you find yourself fussing about wants, allow yourself the space to like what you like without guilt. Appreciate what is already around you; that will clear up any wobbles in your vibe in very short order.

Wednesday, What to Avoid – Ace of Cups: Normally, the Ace of Cups would be a small feeling, one that’s just taking root. So practice an awareness of your emotions. If you find yourself out of emotional sorts, actively look to soften that emotion and get re-centered. So back off from the specific negatives to more generally negative…to more generally positive. Any uncomfortable emotion, look to soften it up in the early stages before it gets bigger.

[bctt tweet=”Shift toward positive emotions when feelings are little, before they’ve grown. #OnMyRadar”]

Thursday, Cons & Friendships – Two of Wands rx: Be aware of the egos of friends – or how they may step on your ego’s toes. There is no need for everybody to see things the same way. Your job is not to set anyone else’s vision. It’s to be true to your own vision. Today, the work is not to gain widespread agreement. The work is to live what you know.

Friday, Lesson – Empress: Nurture yourself! Self-care is awesome. Arts and crafts, or any kind of creative project, is especially rejuvenating. Soothe yourself and be gentle with you.

Saturday, Problem – The Fool: This combination says, the issue is what you don’t know. Your job is to gather more info. It’s a day for fact finding.

Sunday, Finances – Death rx: Ugh! No, I’m not going to say, “Your bank account looks like death warmed over.” Because, c’mon! But I will say, if you have been working on finances? You’ve made strides. To go further, add more harmony in your life and less discord. Don’t fight about money with anybody. Out loud or in your head, don’t bother with how anybody else believes money should be spent. Look for areas of agreement, and ignore other stuff. Think of a field that’s been burned out, with new seedlings germinating and popping up. It takes time, so be patient! Let it be and it will shift.

Overview/Advice, Blocking or Covering – Page of Wands rx: Stress from people pulling different ways this week. Don’t be overbearing in advocating for your opinion or option. You don’t have to agree with everybody or anybody. Just look to understand other perspectives. That is enough.

Affirmation – The better it gets, the better it gets. You will find what you’re looking for. So if you’re looking for ways to correct you kid, you’ll find issue after issue after issue to correct. If you’re looking for awesome things about your kid, you’ll find that, over and over and over, again too. Look for what you love. Don’t push against anything this week. It’s fine, not to find harmony with everybody and everything.  Just look for what you like. And have an awesome week!

Do you try to look for what you like in situations?

This week’s forecast features the New Vision Tarot, the Deck of 1000 Spreads, and Abraham-Hicks Money and the Law of Attraction cards. If you like it, you may like my book, Everyday Tarot Archives, or a personal consult.

Your Call: Tarot Forecast, Aug 22 – 28, 2016

One recurring comment I hear from my Tarot people after readings is, “I feel no judgement coming from you.”

I was thinking about that this morning and I realized, through all the years I’ve been doing this work with a goal of being as clear a channel as I’m able? I’ve never felt a sense of disapproval from Spirit. Never. I’ve felt, go this way and that way. Guidance is there for sure! But not, approval vs. disapproval.

Spirit never counts you as unworthy of having the essence of what you want, although to be frank it will go a lot smoother if you don’t try to dictate every little detail of what route it comes, arrival time and what outfit the desire is wearing. Instead, the essence of it, the underlying feeling state, lines up for you when you’re energetically ready to receive it. (Which, readiness comes in the form of not arguing against it, using your emotions to guide you in feeling better to help nudge you towards paths that lead you there.)

One of the biggest misunderstandings I see is people wanting to know, “What does Source/Spirit/the Universe wants me to do?” I’ve never had the impression there is some mysterious checklist of life to-do’s (that you must accurately guess) to make you a worthy person living a worthy life, and other things you should or should not do that would make you an unworthy person living an unworthy life. It’s more either plugged in or a clogged connection, you know? If you’re kind and loving and happy, you’re plugged in. If you’re unkind or unloving or unhappy, your connection is clogged. It’s a continuum of connection to Source.

Every Spirit I’ve ever encountered through whatever filter used to communicate to me, there is only one overriding tone without exception–love. It’s never anything short of  complete and unconditional love, no matter what life someone is living or what life someone wants to live.

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See, it’s not a matter of “what the Universe wants you to do” or what God wants you to do, however you frame Source energy. It’s not Source’s job to make up your mind for you! As individual beings, we have very clear preferences of what we want. Spirit can yield the path in magical, miraculous-seeming ways. But that happens not because this is what Spirit has parentally determined what is best for you. Spirit indeed guides us, but it’s towards the truth of whom we’ve decided to become.

That’s what I was reminded of, looking at the week ahead. It’s your job to decide what you want.

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Overall, the coming week looks pretty upbeat, provided you’d rather be happy than right. If you can stay in your own lane and not worry so much about what anybody else is doing, you can have a pleasant ride. In other words, don’t micromanage life! Just manage the micro, and let the Universe work out the big stuff, okay?

Monday, Knight of Pentacles: Knock through details one at a time. Don’t bother looking at the forest or even wondering how many trees are in it. Just focus on the tree right in front of you, until you’re done with that. Methodical attention that’s fully focused one one thing at a time yields the greatest return.

Tuesday, The Chariot: Keep focused. Where you’ve come from doesn’t matter. Where you’re at doesn’t matter. How you’ll get there doesn’t matter. The Chariot calls us to reorient on how we want to feel, over and over again, to lead the way. It’s a Cancer card for God’s sakes! Cancer is ruled by the moon, which speaks to our emotions. How you feel matters and here? How you feel very directly drives how successful you are.

Wednesday, Page of Swords rx: No need to knitpick. No need to sign the dotted line just yet. Give things a minute to clarify and make sure, whatever you’re doing, you’re doing it from a place that feels good at the time. That always is the most effective action.

Thursday, The Empress: Lush creativity. Today can yield many beautiful things, if you nurture their growth be kindness, love and joy. You included. Enjoy it! Revel in the physical, creative and replenishing pleasures of the day.

Friday, Six of Pentacles: Be generous. In order to be generous with others, first come from a place of being generous with yourself. Give to yourself first–this allows you to be in a place where you have an abundance of which to share.

Saturday, Two of Wands rx: Less pushing. More allowing. Less rock, more water. Less digging in. More yielding with flexibility. Look for the path of least resistance and take it!

Sunday, The Moon: A good day for dreaming and stories and if you like? A little magic, too. Don’t get hung up on hard-core, literal reality. ‘Reality” is murky, not super clear in this energy. But the feeling tone will not and cannot lie. So instead of trying to ferret out literal truth, look through metaphor glasses today–everything you note, ask yourself, “What is this like?” instead. And you’ll see truth reflected everywhere.

Overview/Advice, Nine of Pentacles: This is largely a week for clarifying and refining the lessons you’ve been learning. The faster you’ve got the energy moving around you, the…harder you can get hit with whatever you’ve had holding you in place. That’s not a bad thing, though. It’s a very useful opportunity, to clean out that gunk in short order. The trick to cleaning up here is to get plugged in FIRST so you can act from a tuned in, inspired place. This is how you make use of that education and keep moving ahead.

Affirmation: Alligator! Alligators are known often to roll under the water after they’ve snatched their prey. The alligator reminds us our strength is often enhanced by flexibility. The alligator is powerful and his appearance is a good reminder to acknowledge our own power. The alligator lives in water – the element of intuition and emotion. So we, too, live in the same energy. Pay attention to the currents in that regard to keep your vibration clear and make your path easier. It’s all right, you know? It’s all right and you’ll get there. Just roll with it.

Are you feeling the flow? Can you let yourself in there and ride it?

This week’s forecast features the readily available Radiant Rider-Waiteand Medicine Wheel cards. If you dig it, you might dig the book, Everyday Tarot Archives.