[This is from Mother’s Day, 2011. I ran across it tonight, and figured maybe somebody needed to hear it. ♥ ~Dix]
It’s almost Mother’s Day. And while countless images of impeccable Stepford-style family bliss march through our collective consciousness courtesy marketing, it’s enough to make anybody feel inadequate. For too many, Mother’s Day is just another reminder of something they don’t have.
Today’s Tarot is the Five of Cups, inverted. Known as “The Lord of Loss in Pleasure,” this card is associated with Mars in Scorpio. Like all Tarot fives, there’s disruption and conflicted feelings. Quite simply, this is a card of mourning losses. Inverted, expect the mourning to be cushioned, limited or short-lived.
Now, all those rainbows-and-sunshiny types—like, say, most Tarot readers—are going to chime right in with, “But look! Look! There are two cups still standing in the background! All is not lost! Look at what you still have.”
And you know, that’s true. I’ve said similar, I’ll admit it. But to dismiss the loss without acknowledging it is as big a disservice as to dismiss what’s remaining without acknowledging the loss. It leaves you stuck.
If you pretend like you’ve lost nothing, lingering pangs in the heart are very difficult to quiet. Dishonesty over magnitude or euphemistic platitudes about being “better off now anyway” won’t cut it. Maybe you are better off. Who cares? Not you, not right now. It hurts, damnit! Your heart always knows when you’re not being truthful, even if just with yourself.
Allowing yourself to feel the hurt, though, can let the pain to work itself through your system, like sweating off a fever. Fight (Mars) your way through the depths (Scorpio), to understand the whole picture. Acknowledging takes away some of its power. After feeling the pain for a while, it’s boring and yucky churning up more (unless that’s your hobby, but that’s another column).
Letting the sad pass through, we’re able to find the comfort and joy remaining. Let it come—just don’t hold on to it. Once you give the loss it’s due, it can pass through.
Then, turn to the “sweet” part of bittersweet. Give thanks for the love blessings you do have, those cups still standing. Nothing turns up the good better than being thankful for it. Happy Mother’s Day—may your blessings be many!
I’ll certainly miss my daughter a lot on Mother’s Day. But looking at those flowers she sent sure makes me feel grateful for her. And I can enjoy my furkids. Like Jewels, the Tarot kitty.
Is Mother’s Day usually a happy time for you? What about this year?
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by Heidi Darras