Our experience of reality is never the sum total of some sort of objective facts, although we certainly may be looking intently at those facts. The meaning we give, the explanations and assumptions made to draw conclusions, is central to how we feel about whatever we see. That meaning is all internally generated.
We take observations and we run them through our own filter of what we consider reasonable, how we would respond, and what makes sense to us in order to make sense out of what we see. Sometimes, the conclusions can generate compassion or understanding but a lot of the time, they just sow discord.
People talk about the “benefit of a doubt” as if it’s something you offer to others, a way of not assuming they’re evil or something. Personally, I find a generous appraisal benefits me more than the recipient. I don’t care if it’s objectively accurate or not. I just care that my own conclusions are comfortable for ME.
That doesn’t make me a doormat by any stretch. I can assume the best without further engagement. The point is to adopt the perspective that serves myself best and nothing else…Next week might be a good time to test this strategy.
Next Week in Tarot
Outlook next week is represented by the reversed Page of Cups, with advice being the Eight of Cups. These lovely cards are from the Crystal Visions Tarot.
Expect an emotionally intense week. That’s the bad news, or at least maybe bad news. Kind of depends on the emotions, you know? The good news is that periods of extra emotionality aren’t extended. The Page of Cups is pretty easily distracted or soothed, even by simple things.
The trick is going to be in the advice: Know what to step away from. I’ve got Kenny singing the Gambler in my head. “…know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em. Know when to walk away and know when to run.”
The righteously indignant may be correct about some of their assumptions, but they are not going to be happy. If your vision of happiness requires cooperation, you’re at the mercy of outside forces and even if you can line some of them up, you’ll never line them all up all the time. It’s a losing proposition.
I”m not saying don’t care about anybody else. That’s not a formula for happiness! I’m saying assume the best you can manage and direct your toward something you can positively impact. It may sound trite but this is how you become part of the solution. It’s also a much better way to live.
The only peace that’s dependable is the homemade kind.
Do you make your own peace?
Want a one-on-one to get your own strategy in place? Give me a yell.