It’s been a long, long time since I’ve had a romantic breakup. Been married 26 years! That’s a good thing.
But there are other sorts of breakups, too. Breaking up from a job, or a friend. Or even breaking up from a family member or an identity–it doesn’t matter what. The feelings of loss, realization, reassessment and integration are very similar. It’s pretty much a universal experience. And much as it can suck, it’s also pretty much a universally necessary experience. You cannot align yourself with what’s right for you if you’re still married to what’s not, you know?
Hello, Venus Retrograde! I’m looking at you. And don’t forget, Venus is not just love.
Taking this week as a whole, it looks like the trajectory of a breakup. We start out with potential pity party–seating for one–but as the week progresses, we’ll have the opportunity of coming out of it not only feeling good, be actually paving the way for better. From Monday (stop feeling sorry for yourself!) to Tuesday (acknowledge what you’re actually dealing with, no dramatic license), to Wednesday (decide what kind of person you want to be), that takes us to to Thursday (Ooops, we haven’t really been always our best, huh?) and Friday (but we can be, if we make adjustments). Saturday (hey, we HAVE made progress) and Sunday (being gentle with the less enlightened) rounds out the week.
Where is this all going? Advice says, God only knows so stay flexible–but do your best to be happy anyway! Personal happiness is an often-unacknowledged service to humanity. Click To Tweet
Monday, Attitudes and Thoughts – Suppression/Ten of Wands: What’s bringing you down? How you think about it, Sparky. It’s all in the perspective. If you feel heavy, look a little lighter outlook. Attitude adjustment, well advised.
Tuesday, Crowning Influences – Maturity/Ace of Pentacles reversed: What’s come to fruition? That’s what you have to deal with here. Not what should have happened, not what you would have wanted to happen. What you’ve got, right smack in front of you. Forget the alternate scripts, and stick to the facts today. It will work much better that way. [Aside – What’s up with making the Ace “Maturity?” ‘Cause the Ace I’d expect to be young, and Maturity to be more Queenish.]
Wednesday, Conscious Desires – The Miser/Four of Pentacles reversed: Wish to be more generous and brave. You can do that! Don’t fuss at yourself for where you feel you fall short. Look for ways to stretch. And thank you, for adding to the love and light in the world, man.
Thursday, Cons – Existence/The Magician: The challenges you are dealing with are real, entrenched–and possibly not any the easier with a realization of your own role. Don’t settle for victim status, even if you were “done wrong.” Review your own involvement in whatever situations you have on hand, because that’s a point of power for the future.
Friday, Outcome – Awareness/The Chariot: Clarity and breakthroughs today. Facing up to yourself is rough work, but pays significant dividends.
Saturday, Pros – Past Lives/The Moon reversed: Reflecting on the past offers a better measuring stick of growth than just about anything else right about now. See how far you’ve come? See how much crazy you’ve left behind? Go you!
Sunday, What to Avoid – Thunderbolt/The Tower reversed: Don’t smack-down or shock others today, right or not. Be truthful, always, but also considerate and kind in your honesty. It is much less disruptive and persuasion is a much sweeter route.
Overview/Advice, Future Life – Possibilities/Two of Wands reversed: Be open to exploring what you have never considered. Plan in pencil. Sometimes the Universe has a different agenda.
Affirmation: My greatest gift to give is my happiness. I used to always say, if your happiness depends on other people’s behavior, you’re on dicey ground. That’s dangerous! And if you can hold on to your optimism regardless of the situation, you can lighten the load for any around you. People NEED optimism. People NEED encouragement. People need happiness! It feeds them, and encourages and cheers them. Just like misery and pain rub off, so does joy. No matter what your life, your state, your situation or your company, joy brings up the energy in the room. That’s a pretty good gift to show up with, don’t you think?
Are you in the process of “breaking up” with anything?
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