Ten of Wands Rx: Going Zen

Back in prehistoric times when I was in college, what turned out to be my toughest class came as a surprise. It wasn’t biology or statistics or algebra, some of the classes I though might challenge me. It wasn’t even the graduate psych seminar I finagled my way into as an undergrad.

None of the other classes compared to an intro to Eastern Civ class at the community college.

The professor wasn’t just insanely knowledgeable. He was extremely demanding. He expected us to develop a level of expertise on the subject far beyond what I would have imagined, even for a much more advanced class.

It was a small group of maybe 25. The tests were very difficult and frequent.A few dropped out after the first test. I wasn’t entirely sure if I would be able to pass, which is saying something for me. But I hung in there.

Those of us who stayed soon began recording his lectures, so that we could listen several times before the next class because that’s really what it took. By the end of the semester, there was a little tape recorder on every desk.

He joked that he felt like he was giving a press conference.

I think I studied more for that final than any other I’ve ever taken. When I got to the room, one of my classmates was holding up a sign she’d made. It read, “We Overcame!”

The professor said the sign was a bit dramatic, but it was obvious he took at as a compliment.

When we were all settled in and ready to go, he sported an impish grin and said he was going to play the devil today and offer us some temptation.

The final was to be the majority of our overall grade. But we could opt out of it.

He made his way around the room with a yellow legal pad, privately showing each of us a letter grade.  “If you want to skip the final, this is the grade I’ll give you…”

When it was my turn, he looked at me and considered for a couple of seconds. Then he scratched out a “B” on the pad.

I about fell out of my chair. I wasn’t sure how I was doing to be honest, so a B was better than I expected.

I didn’t take the offer. though. Nobody did. We had done some insane studying for that final and we were going to take the damn thing!

Leaving the room after taking a final was always one of my favorite moments of every class. At that point, I’d done everything I could do and it was time to let it go. Leaving that room was especially sweet.

I got an A in the class, incidentally. I think I was more proud of that A than any other. I don’t know for sure if my final answers were that great or the professor gave us “extra credit” for skipping the temptation.  I suspect he was more interested in our working to learn than in our answers to the final. But the spectre of the final was the vehicle for motivation.

Next week, I’m expecting it to feel a lot like walking outside the door after taking a tough final. It’s time to just let go and focus on doing the best you can with whatever you’ve got to work with—specifically, working on your own business.

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Ten of Wands Rx: Going Zen 1

For outlook, we’ve got the Ten of Wands reversed, with advice showing up as the Eight of Pentacles from the lovely Star Tarot Deck.

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It’s time to let go. If it’s not ours to worry about (or even if it is), it’s just time to release the sense of burden and responsibility for all that happens. Instead, our job is to just do the best we can with what we’ve got to work with.

We’re looking to improve, not solve. We’re looking to our own jobs, not anyone else’s jobs. Salvation isn’t coming in the form of the big picture here. Instead, we progress by working with the now, the details, giving full attention to the immediate, in-the-present-moment doing our best. Everything else sorts itself.

Just work your way through what is right in front of you and let the rest of the world (your world or the bigger world, doesn’t matter) sort itself. I’m not saying don’t care. You just express your cares here by how you live your own self. Yuo know? Your life is, in itself, the art you’re making.

If you want some help sorting it out, give me a holler and we’ll see about a one-on-one.

Ten of Wands Rx & Five of Wands: Flying with Certainty

Humans are a self-doubting lot. We look everywhere for reassurances: friends, family, society, science and signs…that’s a lot of insecurity.

This self-questioning approach, however, assumes there is exactly one right choice and everything else is a wrong choice and our role s to gather data to suss out the right option.

None of that is so.

Our singular job on the planet is to live the best, happiest life that we can as we see it. What that looks like will be different for every individual. There are an infinite number of routes to home here and they all can be “right.” It’s not the scenery itself that makes the journey a good one. It’s more about the beauty we find in the scenery we’re looking at, right now.

Next week, pick your route and keep your eyes forward.

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Ten of Wands Rx & Five of Wands: Flying with Certainty 2

For the outlook, we got the Suppression reversed (Ten of Wands/ Fire) and for advice, there is Totality (Five of Wands/Fire). It’s not too surprising to me that we get some intense cards for the outset of Eclipse season.

I prefer cards like Suppression to show up reversed. The reversal suggests coming into a place where the sense of burden is about to be lifted. I like that! Likely we’re already in the process of the weight lessening and that sense of being restrained is dissipating, or at least it should over the next week.

Expect a lightening of the load overall, even if it’s not sudden–although it certainly could be.

As far as advice, “Totality” is a little different flavor  than the traditional Five of Wands, which depicts a group of people fighting. Even in the Osho Zen version of the card, though, this is not a wishy-washy vibe. It’s an all-in approach.

We’re being called to fully commit to whatever we are doing, being fully present. Perhaps it may feel risky to invest fully and maybe we’re tempted to continue questioning our choices, but no good will come of it at this point. .

I’m seeing this in terms of a window opening. Make a call and MOVE. Don’t waffle on the direction you want to go or slow down to second-guess yourself about whether or not a given decision is “right.” Instead, once you make the call, commit. You make the decision “right” by lining up behind it and using your feelings to steer you along the path. The fit of your decision for you here is made true by how you live it, not by external conditions.

Take an upcoming opportunity to free yourself–and keep your attention fully on your goals and nothing else. Self-doubt is not your friend here. Focus, on the other hand, is exactly what is required.

You know how sometimes it’s easier to believe in other people than it is to believe in yourself? Give yourself the same gift of support you’d offer to a loved one, right now.  Expect the best from and for yourself. Be your own best cheerleader and watch how far you can fly.

Are you seeing a window opening?

Give me a holler for a private consult if you want a little help charting your own course.

Page of Cups: Turning Down the Judgey

I have resolved to be less judgemental.

Not that I think of myself as particularly judgemental. I am not.  If I were shooting for a below-the-mean-rate of judgmentalness, I’ve have it sewn up already.

But when I recently found myself feeling super judgey at folks whom I perceived to be super judgey, the irony wasn’t lost on me. Being judgey at anybody for their judgmentalness makes me one of the judgey! Once you’ve seen this…well, it can’t very well be unseen.

I’d say the results of this personal campaign are mixed.

Most of the time, it’s not too hard. Every person on the planet has their own bag of weirdness, issues and what-have-you. It’s not a big struggle to guess that almost all of them are doing the best they can with whatever neurons are firing off in their heads.

Even those that don’t appear to be doing the best they can, who is to say? Righteousness is subjective and the level of individual certainty on the matter is irrelevant. I don’t trust someone to be right just because they are sure. I look inside for that.

So much of life now seems to be comprised of people lining up to declare what they are for and against, or perhaps it’s “who” instead of “what.” Nobody needs my vote here.

Of course I have my own standards of right and wrong. Maintaining my own standards are my job and one in which I do my best to excel. Nonetheless, other people’s standards are theirs to maintain…and ne’er the twain shall meet.

I initially started this practice because I don’t like feeling judged; I realized if I don’t want it done to me, I also need to avoid doing it to others. It’s the same thing, no matter what side of the table you are sitting on. But I realized as I’ve been working on this a while, it’s also given me a greater sense of freedom. I don’t have to be outraged or convince anyone of anything. I choose to just be the best “me” I can me. That is my contribution to the whole.

If I assume the best and ignore what I consider worst, I am happier. I have less outrage to manage and I can focus on the energy that is most pleasant and important to me. For me, that’s a win. For you? It’s up to you to decide! But I will say, next week looks like this approach would be well-advised.

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Page of Cups: Turning Down the Judgey 3

The outlook this week in Understanding reversed (Page of Cups), with Projections (Seven of Cups) as advice from the Osho Zen Tarot.

We may hear things people say, but we don’t necessarily get how they’re feeling. Perceived meaning has a lot more to do with us than with them. This is both a personal and collective phenomena.

So understand, assumptions are what we’ve got to work with. Just realize any given assumption says more about the assumer than anything else. So why not choose the assumption that works best for you?

If a call doesn’t come or an email is not returned, why not just assume it isn’t personal? Why not say, “Oh, things must have gotten busy?” over, “Oh, this person doesn’t care about me?”

If I don’t agree with someone…I can listen to see where they’re coming from. I can ignore it and turn my attention elsewhere. I can note the difference and just move on. I’m not required to beat them over the head with my own perspective. Knowing this sure makes it a lot easier to interact with other humans.

I haven’t completely escaped the tendency to be judgemental or those flashes where I assume the worst about someone else or their intentions, towards me or not. But I’m making progress. And that’s all I expect from myself.

Do you usually try to assume the best of others?

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Four of Cups: Finding Unseen Solutions

I held my tongue the other day. Figuratively, at least.

See? It happens!

I kept myself in check until I got a grip on an almost overwhelming urge to be helpful. I didn’t end up saying anything.  The non-beneficiary of my wisdom was someone (justifiably) freaking out over a tech catastrophe.

I know the feeling very, very well. Having managed websites and online services for many years, I’ve had more than my fair share of similar catastrophes. Some only impacted my business, while the worst also impacted my customers, who depended on me to make things work. So yes, I understand.

In fact, compared to my worst freakouts (with full-on cursing and tears), she was holding it together fine. But she was distressed and don’t like people being in distress when I know I have an answer.

I just realized it was an answer she probably wouldn’t have been interested in hearing. I saw no point in further aggravating her to make myself feel better.

Here’s the advice I didn’t give: Once you’ve done what you initially know how to do, the ONLY thing that ever helps is surrender.

Let it go for a while. Step back and distract yourself. Focus on something else and give the problem space.

You are not going to get any flashes of inspiration when you’re freaking out over “how bad” the situation is.  It never, ever happens. You’re not going to make progress. You’re not going to fix it. If anything, you’ll make it worse. The voice of experience knows this.

When things feel like a mess and you have no idea what to do now, the best course is always to offer yourself some relief from the mess.

Whenever and however you can, step back and surrender what is to the current moment. Move your attention elsewhere for a while. Eventually you’ll get your inspiration on how to address the situation most productively. But that inspiration won’t come in the throes of panic. There’s too much static in the emotional waves for you to plug in and hear any answers.

Inspiration only shows up after you detach enough to clear the space for it. It can come quickly, but will take however long is required to clear your head. Nothing else works.

That approach is pretty much what I’m advising for next week. You can listen or not, but I’m doing my best to sell it!

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Four of Cups: Finding Unseen Solutions 4

The outlook this week is the Four of Cups–sage advice comes in the form of a very lush Ten of Pentacles from the rich and colorful deck, Tarot Illuminati.

The Four of Cups indicates we initially won’t see all our options. The most workable choice is close, but easy to miss. Obsessing over past failures, feeling sad and frustrated about what’s not working, keeps us from seeing what will work.

The Ten of Pentacles says to count blessings without equivocation. It’s easy to forget how many wins we have when we’re distressed. So be deliberate about acknowledging blessings–the abundance and the love on tap right now.

Now, this approach may strike some as an utter waste of time. We live in a world that values hard work above all else. If obstacles loom large, they may feel like a crisis. I’m not about to say whatever concerns you doesn’t matter. Just the opposite.

Maybe you feel short of blessings at the moment. I understand that. But no matter what situation we find ourselves in, there is something to be appreciated.

Stepping back, taking a breather and finding some way to feel blessed makes a huge difference. You’ll begin to relax almost immediately Your mind clears. As a result, you become more capable and efficient. It works the same way food or sleep does in terms of strengthening us. It doesn’t have to be a lot here. Just any little bit of appreciation you can seek and find will offer a sense of relief. You get there by appreciating and loving, whatever and however you can, big or small. That’s all you need to start the shift.

Once your mind quiets, answers can show up. And it does so much more, utterly tangible good than almost anyone realizes.

In shifting to an appreciative state, you’re opening doors to intuition and (divine) inspiration. THEN is when you’ll be able to see the glowing cup on offer in this card–the solution that seems like it’s appearing from nowhere but feels “just a little different” and somehow gives you a glimmer hope (before you start tearing it apart in your head, that is).

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You can’t strongarm an incoming inspiration into being. You can, however, set yourself up to receive one. By giving yourself permission to stop suffering over problems, setting aside what’s not working and realizing how many good things you have right now, you clear the way to see the gift of solutions.

Whether or not this strikes you as feasible, what do you have to lose in giving it a try? Because if there’s even a chance I’m right here (and I AM), this little bit of advice can turn around even the most intractable situations very quickly.

Have you tried stepping back from problems to allow for solutions to appear?

If you need some help realigning, drop me a line to talk about a private consultation.

Eight of Cups Reversed: Still Old News

When I first started dating my husband, there were a few times I’d be talking when suddenly, he’d get very upset with me.

I was absolutely crazy about him and wouldn’t have intentionally said anything to bother him, ever. So such episodes took me utterly by surprise.

“What’s wrong?!  I don’t understand…”

Fortunately, we were able to discuss it. Turns out, he’d sometimes “hear” something very different than what I was actually trying to say.

It happened to me a few times, too. It wasn’t anybody’s fault. It was the terrain.

He was raw from his divorce. I still felt beat up from my last train wreck of a relationship. So sometimes, echos of an unhappy past would surface in our not-unhappy present.

Practiced emotional reactions have a way of sneaking up us. They color our sense of reality. If you’ve spent years living with unkindness, manipulation or hidden agendas, you’re going to perceive those oft-repeated themes sometimes, even where they aren’t there.

While it’s absolutely true the past helps predict the future, if you don’t remain mostly present in the now, there’s no path for changing the past.

And the more you focus on a troublesome past, the more you’ll perceive repetition. Eventually, you’ll develop a remarkable ability to literally recreate it by attracting those most likely to give you more of it.

Or you can work though to make a different future.

My husband and I were lucky. We talked it out from the start. We built trust. Without being able to disrupt that cycle, we probably wouldn’t still be together these 30-ish years later.

This next week would be a good time to leave the emotional trips of the past behind and look to the now you want instead.

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For the forecast, it’s the reversed Eight of Cups. Advice is given by the Eight of Pentacles, upright, both from the Tarot Illuminati deck.

Some perceptions are colored by old emotional issues–maybe those you thought you’d already left behind.

I know that can suck. But it’s okay.

Realizing and acknowledging what we’re tapping into, we can quickly see those emotional responses that aren’t completely based on the here and now. That’s useful information!

It helps if you worry less about what’s “true” and more about what feels best. You cannot know what’s inside someone else’s head. But you can know what feels the best to assume. So do that!

And above all, just keep working your way through it. We get better as we go. One little bit, one step at a time is how progress is made. It’s not a quick fix here. It’s a process! But if you keep your wits about you, it doesn’t have to be an ugly process.

I wouldn’t even call it repair work. It’s not fixing the old car. It’s creating a new one, you know? The outlook that’s going to drive your future is getting built. Make it a sweet ride!

Are you hearing echos of the past (and are you able to recognize them for what they are)?

Be well out there, friends! And if you want help making a plan for driving in the direction you want, give me a holler.

Two of Pentacles & Ten of Swords: Believe in Them

It’s easy to get caught up in things you have no control over. I know–I’m an expert at it! Many years of practice haven’t gone to waste.

I might worry about my parents or how my kids are doing, or how a friend is navigating a rough patch. I tend to be more concerned about how other people are managing than managing myself. Maybe you do, too.

I am trying to focus more clearly on the strength and resourcefulness of the people I care about, though. It’s a practice, really. But sometimes, that faith in someone’s ability to manage and ultimately thrive is the best gift you can give.

It looks like we really have enough on our own plates right now, so it might be a good time to practice this idea in the coming week.

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Two of Pentacles & Ten of Swords: Believe in Them 5

For next week’s outlook, we’ve got the Two of Pentacles. Advice comes in the form of the Ten of Swords, with additional insight from the World, reversed. These cards are from the drop-dead gorgeous Tarot Illuminati deck.

The Two of Swords is clear here: It is enough for you to keep up with your personal responsibilities (and feelings) this coming week. You will be able to, if you stay focused on the tasks at hand.

Focus isn’t always easy, though. I expect lots going on–the seas are not calm. Emotional outbursts, meltdowns or even moral panics could vbe part of the background scene. But paying attention to all that hullabaloo is a distraction most of us can’t readily afford.

In terms of advice, the Ten of Swords extends last week’s theme: feel what you feel. Deal with your own business. That IS enough.

Otherwise? Your issues may unconsciously surface in the attempt to deal with other people’s business and who knows how that might turn out?

One nice thing to remember about the Ten of Swords: while this card invariably is depicted as dire, it’s always clear indication that this moment, right here and now, is as hard as it gets. From a Ten of Swords perspective, there is no place to go but up!  So acknowledge that you’re ready for improvements and don’t try to take on anything beyond what is truly yours to juggle here.

The World reversed elaborates that the perspective is not yet there to see the bigger picture and integrate into our worldview yet. Still too much emotional churn for that.  But the beginning of this broader understanding is already underway. You don’t see the World card, upright or inverted, without that energy being expressed to some extent.

In short: do what you need to do. Manage your own thoughts and emotions. You be in charge of YOU. Give others the gift of having faith in them. The world with sort itself.

If you’d like to schedule a private session, give me a holler here.

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