Five of Swords & Queen of Swords Rx: Do-It-Yourself Love

I’ve been considering the notion, “What someone thinks about me is none of my business.”

This is far easier to preach than practice.

Sometimes, we want to feel understood, heard and seen. Moments of feeling known that way are powerful.

But we’d best never rely on someone else to provide us that kind of juice. We can appreciate the energy when we get it, since it’s one way of being fed. But it’s always best to still be able to feed oneself, you know?

The drive to be understood–or validated, whatever you want to call it–is strongest when we feel the most vulnerable. If you’re not sure of your own worth, it’s natural to look for outside reassurance.

But those kind of holes cannot be filled from the outside. It helps for a minute but the hits of confidence doesn’t very long if we don’t strongly know our own goodness.

Self-love has got to be self-generated. Getting clear for yourself on what feels best to you  and not worrying much about anything (or anyone) else is exactly the sort of approach I’d recommend for the coming week. Take a step back and focus on the view you enjoy most.

Next Week in Tarot

The forecast cards wanted to come out as a duo, so I pulled the advice as a duo as well.

For the outlook, we have the Five of Swords and Four of Cups reversed.

Advice comes in the way of the Queen of Swords reversed paired up with the Lovers, all from this well-worn but still lovely Legacy of the Divine tarot deck.

It may appear battles are lost or won, and decisions are set this week. You may not feel satisfied with  some of the outcomes. There’s a tendency to get stuck mentally in what you don’t dig here, running things around and around in circles in your head. Don’t.

The Queen of Swords reversed is sharp and critical. Teamed up with the Lovers as guidance, she suggests stepping back from critical analysis and instead focus on harmony, wherever you can find it. That harmony may (and often will) be found through focusing on entirely different topics.

So you don’t need to “make your peace” around issues that disturb you. Instead, reach for ANY peace, for ANY harmony.

We think it’s the outer circumstances of our lives that dictate our subjective feelings, but it’s really the other way around. Shift your feelings and you’ll shift your experience.

You don’t need anybody’s cooperation. You just need to decide for yourself, what matters most to you.

Place priority on loving yourself and watch the rest fall in line.

Want a one-on-one with me to plot out an action plan together? Give me a holler!

Shine Thy Light!

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