06/01/12: Why I Don’t Judge…

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“I feel no judgment coming from you.” That’s a comment I get frequently from clients, and they’re absolutely right. I may not agree with particular choices, and I absolutely will cringe if I see a person suffering because of their choices, but I will NOT judge an individual’s worth based on those choices. There’s good reason.

Judgment is ruled by Pluto. Coming right between the Sun and The World, it calls for an accounting, when the score is tallied and the bill is due. Inverted, t’s not a question that we, personally need to judge.

I am well acquainted with judgment, mostly because I grew up immersed! From the outside world, I felt judged for my family’s separatist, apocalyptic religious beliefs. From my family, I felt judged for my decision to abandon said religious beliefs. At times, I’ve judged myself as lacking for my inability to reconcile the two. So it’s a concept with which I’m intimately familiar, many years on a first-name basis.

Here’s the thing: while I advise my clients, give them whatever insight and feedback I can yank out of the ether and personal experience, I do NOT make another’s decisions for them.

I paid very dearly to be in charge of my own life, losing relationships with people I love in the process. My experience has left me to see self-determination as SACRED, a responsibility more than a right.

I don’t need anybody else’s Karma, man! I’ve got my hands full with my own. And I have no idea what path someone else is on, or why they are the way they are. Maybe it’s their lessons. Maybe they volunteered to come down here and be a massive ass to serve as a teacher. (God knows I’ve learned a lot from that crowd. Haven’t you?) Maybe it’s leading up to something bigger.

I don’t need judgment. I don’t need to project my own right or wrong on anyone else. If I don’t like someone’s behavior, energy, or choices, if I find it bothersome or upsetting or disruptive, I extract it from my life to the fullest of my capacity.

Sure, I may speak out about values I hold dear, or try to counter ugliness and cruelty with kindness and love when the opportunity presents. I will detach in a New York minute from anyone or anything that creates unnecessary pain and drama in my life. That’s my right! But I do not need to condemn the person behaving that way anymore. It’s not my right and not my responsibility. I have faith, ALL energy goes exactly where it needs to go. My job is to direct my own for the greatest good.

How do you feel about judging others?

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Comments

  1. I don’t judge people because I know what That feels like. I’ve always been a free spirit and a bit on the ‘weird’ side, so why would I judge? I’ve always felt like the black sheep in my family, and I’m fine with that. Judgmental people make my blood boil. I’m so happy I’m older. Everyone can kiss my butt!

  2. Couldn’t have said it better. That’s how I feel about judgement.

    Someone once wrote or said, “Judgement is liking drinking poison and expecting the other person to die from it.” I have found that to be so also, cause whenever I do judge someone, it doesn’t feel very good to me, and when I allow them to be however they are without judgement, it feels better.

  3. Kashmiri says

    I can relate a lot to this, though I’m not judgement-free (I wish I was). I too have no interest in thinking of someone else’s karma at. all. This post inspires. Thank you.

    • Thanks, Kash. I won’t claim I never feel anything like it, or that certain behaviors don’t disturb me. It’s just having a positive framework helps me let it go easier.

  4. Your post reminds me of a book I bought for my oldest grandson.

    http://www.amazon.com/The-Little-Soul-Sun-Conversations/dp/1571740872

    The little soul and the sun. I love it.

    I laughed and waved at the cardinal (not the red bird I had been watching) who was waiting on my front stoop for me this morning as I left for work. He was tucked in my lavendar and the contrast of the red feathers and green foliage made him stick out like sore thumb. He never moved as I walked by and talked to him. Just tilted his head to the side as if he were studying me. LOL. Made me think of you.

    :snail: :turtle: :rainbow:

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