12/12/12: Upright Priorities | Reversed Justice

Uh oh. Reversed Justice. I don’t dig the sound of that! This card is from the interesting New Vision Tarot, showing the “behind the scenes” view. The baby in the basket behind the judge’s throne is reminiscent of the story of  Solomon splitting the baby—and probably plenty of custody disputes, for that matter.

One of the things most challenging about custody disputes is the interplay between personal wants and the needs of the children. But it’s far from the only situation where someone by necessity has to get the short end of the stick, you know?

What helped me through my personal experiences in that venue was understanding I was doing the best I can with what I had to work with at the time. The outcome was not good, and the emotional fallout lasted many years. But knowing that I acted with as much integrity as I could throughout, never resorting to “the ends justify the means” approach, and didn’t lose sight of WHO I wanted to be in the process, made it tolerable if not pleasant. I won’t say I never wondered if we’d have been better off taking an “any means necessary” approach. In terms of winning, we may have made it further. But always with the question, “At what cost?” You know?

Some decisions will go down in your favor, and some won’t. But if you keep sight on your highest values and consistently act in accordance with those values, you don’t lose your soul in the process. You may lose the battle, but you’ve got the war sewn up. That’s my perspective, anyway.

Have you struggled with “splitting the baby” dilemmas?

Tarot of the New Vision (English/Spanish)
by Lo Scarabeo

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Comments

  1. That’s interesting in Dixie. one thing I find difficult in the tarot is the layers on top of layers with meaning.

    I rushed to move across country for a job that I siked myself up for, not once thinking what if it isnt what i thought it would be? When it wasn’t fulfilling for me one of the things that made me abruptly quit (mind you I had barely any money saved up) was my integrity . 1) I didnt really feel I was benefitting from the experience. 2) I mostly did not agree with what I was seeing or hearing , I work on behalf of social justice, the organization I worked for seemed too corrupt and unprofessional for me. I am overly critical of myself that i did not work out the way that i wanted to the extent that I have lied about working for them. Even though that organization is very powerful and it’s understood that if you worked for them, you have to know what you’re doing. So right now I’m trying to correct my wrongs 1) stop beating myself up 2) own that i have integrity and that it was still an achievement 3) be more honest with myself and others for what I want 4) ultimately, I chose to work for them and I chose to quit, so I need to be more careful with my decisions.

    • It sounds like you are formulating a good plan to make the most of your experiences. I’d call that a success, even if the outcome wasn’t what you envisioned.

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