Tissue anyone? Dealing with Grief

weekend Forecast

Note: This is an old forecast, but I’m pulling it back up for anyone who needs some encouragement dealing with grief. Hoping it’s not you!


Damn! I pulled for Saturday and Sunday and after seeing what I got, I cringed hard, and drew one more for advice. Tarot Fives are never comfortable, but these two are especially harsh. Sorry to be the bearer of a bleak forecast, but better to know so you can dress appropriately, huh?

One the plus side, Tarot fives are highly dynamic, usually fast-moving agents of change. There is upheaval and uncertainty, but likely not long-term. And they can portend important shifts, made quickly.

We are always saying we want it now, huh? Or maybe that’s just me.

Saturday, Five of Pentacles:  This card screams poverty, feelings of being without. Whether it’s money, love, options, ideas, friends, or something entirely different you feel “out of,” we’re talking standing in the cold. I do usually point out when this card appears, help tends to be available for the asking. The problem is, nobody wants to ask!

You may be hurting and possibly scared, but it’s important to realize not only your role in creating the situation if there was one, but—and don’t hit me for saying this—your potential role in maintaining it. Be aware there likely ARE options that you haven’t been ready to consider. Fair enough if you don’t choose to consider them. You’ll get no judgment from me! Just realize the difference.

Sunday, Five of Cups: What can I say that isn’t obvious? This is a card of grief and loss. We’re not talking a complete loss even though it may feel like it. Still, there’s sadness for what is gone. It may even have snuck up on you and punched you in the stomach when you were looking the other way. Nothing sucks more than sucker-punch sadness, man!

Cry whatever tears come, letting them wash away pain. Be gentle with yourself. Any kind of cleansings, smudging or baths taken with the specific intention to clear away the past issues and pains of all sorts are recommended. Clearing out physical or electronic items associated with pain and loss can also help release the energy, as can journaling or pouring those emotions into some other creative or physical endeavor of your choosing. Just remember wherever you place that energy it stays, so you might want it to be something you’ll be disposing of when you’re done. No baking it into comfort food!

The best way through this kind of energy in my opinion is always surrender and release, surrender and release. Fighting it directly is like denying your true feelings, and such a charade never fools the heart. The feelings themselves will dissipate if you allow them to be spent. Like a shot, it only hurts for a little while.

Coping, Four of Pentacles: You are stable, you are safe. You have what you need. This is what the Four of Pentacles tells me. Hold on to what you have and withdraw if it helps. Take inventory. Ground. Know that you are okay. Honest. Do what you need to in order to feel safe and abate anxiety. Breathe.

Affirmation: It is safe to look within. I am hoping I’m WAY off here for the vast majority of those reading this. But if you’re not one of the lucky ones, know it’s okay—even helpful—to see yourself as clearly as you can, and forgive yourself for whatever shortcomings you perceive, you know?

I’m really seeing this whole thing as a highly internal process—like regrets over lost opportunities or possibilities. Just do the processing that needs to be done, let it pass and look forward to a brighter week ahead. I’m on call for virtual hugs should anybody want to collect one.

Much love to any who need it.

You doing okay?


Tarot Illuminati by Eric Dunne & Kim Huggens

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Comments

  1. Just reading this. The weekend really had been cocooning, reminiscing, a little weepy. Must try to have positive thoughts while cooking! Thanks for the lesson in self forgiveness. Even though most of the situations were not of my doing, I still feel as if I could have changed them. But as you said, there are things which could be done now to move forward! And we are safe now…

  2. Today is 8 years since my Dad’s passing. In the last year, a younger brother and sister have crossed. It is also my late Grandfather’s birthday. They were all military men, so for me, this. Reading is appropriate!

    And since the Fun Lovin’ Criminals in my immediate family wandered into ridiculous legal trouble Again, Series 3, Episode 3. coutdate 1, hereafter Legal 3.3…. Well poverty is hanging around too! Life goes on. I shall visit the Alzheimer’s Facility where Mom lives.

    See, it All fits! Thanks for the personal reading! ;0 Belle

    • WOW, Darlin’! I’m so sorry this is that appropriate for you! And it hadn’t occurred to me how much the grief card would apply for many to Memorial Day.

      Much love to you, doing what you can with what you got!

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