Queen of Pentacles & Nine of Swords: Making Way

What looks like bad news isn’t always. How many times have you freaked out about something you didn’t want to happen only to realize in the end, it was a good thing? Maybe even the best possible way forward?

When you want to remodel, you have to clear the old mess out. It always gets worse before it gets better.

That’s what this coming week is looking like. Disruptive for sure. But perfect at the same time.

We just can’t quite see it yet.

Next Week In Tarot: May not be Easy

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For the outlook we have Flowering (Queen of Pentacles). For advice, I drew Sorrow (Nine of Swords), with a clarifying draw of Thunderbolt (The Tower). I used the Osho Zen Tarot and because of the complexity of these cards, I always read them upright regardless of how they appear.

Putting this together, I am seeing a week of clarity unfolding. All is progressing as it should.

That doesn’t, however, mean it necessarily FEELS like that is what happening. The outlook is great, but the advice cards here are unsettling. So, it may bother us, what we see. We may find events of the coming week upsetting and scary.

But just allow yourself to feel whatever it is you feel (and really, what choice have we got)? Understand, what seems scary and disruptive is a natural part of the process. Much change doesn’t progress smoothly, evenly, and gently. Sometimes, it’s the tearing down of the old walls that must happen before the new ones get built. Decay disruption clear the decks and allow for improvement. Without that, we’d be forever stuck.

I would add to the advice here: be slow to take action. Let the disruptions shake out. Be kind to yourself in the midst of emotional processing and allow all of that you need. But don’t let your concerns prompt you to “do something” to resolve at this point because anything you do under a stressed out, must-act-now influence is highly unlikely to be helpful.

Let the truth sort itself out. You’ll recognize what’s solid by what’s left standing.

Are you seeing cause for concern? And are you able to sit it out?

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Nine of Wands & Four of Pentacles: Personal Stability First

When people say someone would “give them the shirt off their own back,” it’s meant as a compliment of generosity.  But in reality, giving more than you can comfortably give isn’t a very good idea.

First of all, it’s not sustainable. You need win-win scenarios to be sustainable.

And secondly, it doesn’t convey a message of hope. It conveys the idea that the giver is strong and capable, but the recipient is not. It’s a far more useful gift to help someone find their own strength than demonstrate your own.  This is especially true if you aren’t sure of your own stability and resources. That’s a very temporary fix and one you’ll likely to resent eventually.

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This week for the outlook we have exhaustion (Nine of Wands), with advice coming in the form of the Miser (Four of Pentacles) from the beautiful Osho Zen Tarot.

Oy! But we can do this.

Exhaustion is pretty self-explanatory. Exhaustion is about having too much going on, too many moving parts, ending in a bone-weariness from trying to make everything happen just so. I’ve found I’m much more likely to reach this point personally when I try to hold myself responsible for stuff that’s not mine. My own stuff is enough!

If you ever hear yourself asking, “But if I don’t, who will?” Well, that’s a sure sign your nose is in business that’s not yours.

The advice to be “the Miser” may be a bit of a surprise to some of y’all, but I understand it perfectly.

Conserve your energy. Don’t expend resources at a rate you’re not comfortable with just because it looks to you like someone else needs help. Put your own needs first!

Now, people may be thinking this advice is selfish. But I don’t have the same concept of selfishness most do.

First of all, our perspective can only be “selfish.” No matter how hard we try to take into account the opinions of others, we have no option but to see the world from a personal perspective, the perspective of self. Anything else is at best, guesswork.

Many equate the idea of selfishness with fulfilling personal needs at the expense of others. But that is a definition of predatory behavior, not looking after the self! Preying on others does not build up the self, it diminishes it. It’s a form of self-harm, in addition to being hurtful to others. It’s true many predators may not realize this consciously, but that behavior signals weakness and fear, not the kind of “selfishness” I advocate.

When we prioritize our own need, it puts us in the best possible position to be of service to the bigger world. It’s exactly when I’m most healthy, strong and stable–both physically and energetically–I have the most significant value to contribute. In order to stay that way, I have to manage my own needs first.

This coming week, pace yourself and keep account of your own resources, physical or otherwise. Of course you can help out whomever you’d like, but make your offers from a position of strength, always. Furthermore, make sure any assistance acknowledges and amplifies the competence of those you are assisting. Think in terms of encouragement rather than rescue and you’ll be on the right track.

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Make space for self-care and manage your resources wisely this week. The rest will work itself out without any trouble.

Are you managing your resources effectively?

If you’re looking for some one-on-one time, give me a shout for a personal consult.

Eight of Swords: Self-Driven Perspective

Years ago, I was getting a reading at a psychic fair, which mostly consisted of me complaining vigorously about the judgy small town in which I lived.

I’d seen this reader before, and knew she was good. And I really, really wanted to move away from all this bullshit and was hoping she’d see a path for me to do that. So I was hanging on her every word, looking for clues.

“It wouldn’t make any difference, if you moved,” she said.

I was dumbfounded.

“You take yourself with you wherever you go.”

I wasn’t too happy with that answer. She was supposed to tell me how to escape, damn it!

So I complained about the reading to Captain Virgo. I was in a pretty complaining mood, evidently.

I was even more dumbfounded when he agreed with the reader. Agh!

It probably took me a few months to get the point and more like years to completely internalize it. So let me save you the trouble.

The issue was never judgy people in my small town. The issue was ME being insecure enough to care. I had to be judging myself first in order to notice or give weight to anyone else finding fault, if they even were. If you’re already judging yourself, you see everyone else through that lens, you know?

I was judging myself, and hence attracted those experiences everywhere. I followed up by finding fault with others for not making me feel better about myself. In fact, I was one of those judgy people, judging others for what I perceived to be their judging of me. It’s a full-on feedback loop and I was responsible for all of it.

Now, I could have altered my self-talk to soften it. “Oh well, everybody has their own perspective. They can do their thing and I can do mine. It doesn’t matter if anyone approves of me or not. Feeling good about myself is my job.” I could have focused on feeling good about myself, period, and left them to think whatever it is they thought. The sensation of being judged would have faded away.

What if we decide it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks? What if we decided that we don’t actually know why anyone else says or does what they do, anyway? What if we make our own commitment to be kind and loving to ourselves first, and let the rest of  our experience  shape around THAT energy?

Because I can tell you now, it will make a difference and fast. You don’t even have to move to a new town!

You get what you’re putting out. If you don’t like what it feels like you’re getting, change what you’re putting out. Next week would be a great time to practice this.

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For outlook, we have the Eight of Swords and advice, the reversed Ace of Swords from my favorite working deck, the Radiant Rider Waite (in a tin).

The Eight of Swords is an old friend to me–or maybe it’s “frenemy.” Because I’ve seen it so many times in drawing for myself, I know this card very well. It points to self-restriction. The swords are nothing more than thoughts, or more precisely fears, all the reasons this lady believes she is unable to make progress. The water beneath her feet show us her perspective is based upon emotion as much if not more than fact. In reality, she’s loosely bound and the castle is visible in the distance. Even those swords don’t fully encircle her, but she doesn’t know it because she’s not letting herself see options.

The reversed Ace of Swords suggests not overthinking. An important detail is likely to be missed if you think you know all there is to know here. An opportunity for escape or progression isn’t being noted, probably due to an assumption that is simply untrue. Both these cards point to a restricted field of vision.

The coming week is a perfect time for revisiting assumptions, looking at those situations where you feel you have no options and asking yourself how much fear is driving that feeling. I’m not saying you have to take a leap of faith. Far from it. Simply acknowledging there may be a route forward and giving yourself permission to see it is all that’s required. Let the universe sort it out from there.

Whatever you want to get? PUT OUT THERE and start in the mirror. It’s the only way that works. I know, we’ve tendency to point fingers and assign blame but forget being “right.” Forget who’s at fault. Forget what you think you know.

Be what you want in your life and watch what happens (and fast). It’s the only way that works.

Where might you alter your perspective?

If you’re looking for a consult, you know where to find me.

King of Swords & Nine of Pentacles: Who controls whom?

I’ve been mulling over the concept of personal responsibility in interactiosn. Its been highlighted through many different lenses as I go about my daily life and interact. Fitting, I think, considering the recent Full Moon in Libra.

On the one hand, I’m a big believer in not relying on outside confirmation in general. What people say and do is determined by how THEY look at the world, not any solid reality about you. An outside form of measurement is a poor and unreliable substitute for listening to intuitive guidance for directional cues.

Besides, allowing contentment to be conditional on the outside world is a one-way ticket to misery, right there. None of us can garner the kind of cooperation that would be needed to force the rest of world to behave! And it wouldn’t be our right to do so, even if we could.

On the other hand, I’m a big believer in the Law of Attraction because I can see it operating. But putting these two ideas together creates a little conundrum.

The Law of Attraction would suggest that the all experiences have to match the personal vibration. There is no way to evade responsibility for our lives.

Here, however, I’d be quick to point out the difference between responsibility and blame.

What if there were no “blame?” What if we are all just where we are and like it or not, there is still value being delivered, a contribution to the greater whole?

I no longer assume the things I don’t like in my own world are broken, proof of shortcoming or random disaster. I guess I’ve gradually developed a different worldview… This life is a work of art. A creation to be experienced: both what we’d consider light and darkness has it’s place in ultimately making the world more than it was before.

I don’t expect anyone else to adopt this perspective. Because I try to keep my nose firmly out of other people’s perspectives. It’s up to you! But the ideas I’m talking here are definitely in line with next week’s vibe.

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This week, I grabbed the colorful but decidedly non-traditional Osho Zen Tarot for a fresh look at what’s up. We got the King of Swords (aka Control) as the outlook, with the Nine of Pentacles (aka Ripeness) as advice.

I expect a lot of “black and white” with how people think, react and present this coming week. There’s a strong sense of polarization and unfortunately, not a lot of flexibility in this vibe. What’s more, it’s definitely got a strong whiff of holier-than-thou about it.

“Control” isn’t just a keyword here. It’s the intention of many right now.  If you’re not on board, they may try to push you off the boat! That’s the bad news.

The good news is, you don’t have to be a player in this silliness!

Our advice is “Ripeness.” Ripeness is letting things take their natural course, letting life do it’s thing. Focusing on harvesting your own fruit when it’s ready, without worry about the schedule factor or bothering about how anybody else is tending garden. I’m suggesting an inward focus, (although to be fair, I usually do suggest this). But the cards are backing me up here.

When there’s a heavy flavor of control in the wild, you’ve got three choices.

  • Be one of the controllers.
  • Be one of the controlled. (This option includes fighting back the controllers, by the way, because it’s still running your show even if you’re not doing what they want, you.)
  • Ignore it altogether and do your own thing.

See why I’m voting for the latter here?

Here’s hoping your own week is peaceful and your enjoy your own (ripe) fruit.

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Chariot & Tower Reversed: Productive Obstacles

Everyone’s life is filled with those outcomes that didn’t work as expected. I would venture a guess that the ratio of works-as-expected vs. not is minuscule. But that doesn’t mean you’re off track.

Those relationships that broke up, or the jobs that fizzled or the plans that fell apart may have been upsetting. But in the bigger picture, they become a part of the fabric of who we are and they contribute immeasurably to outcomes. How much drama and pause they offer, however, is up to you.

When what I want isn’t coming together, I find it good to remind myself that what IS happening is still useful. And that’s pretty much the topic this week.

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Our weekly outlook is the Chariot, with advice coming in as the Tower reversed from The Good Tarot. Two major arcana cards (and especially these two) makes me think the week is likely to feel eventful and significant.

The Chariot is associated with the zodiac sign of Cancer the crab. One thing I often find with the Chariot: success is assured with follow through, but progress will be indirect. Crabs move sideways.

The black and white horses on this card (shown as Sphinxes on the traditional Rider-Waite deck) are both shadow and light–suggesting the conscious use of all forces and inclinations to guide the journey. There’s no right and wrong implied: only an overriding goal.

And the Chariot is always taking it’s rider home. It could be a new home certainly, but consider the newness as reflecting a deeper truth, a more honest rendition of identity. Things are moving ahead, even if it seems like the process is taking a very meandering course.

The reversed Tower for advice tells us not to freak out and scrap everything in the midst of trouble. Expect PRODUCTIVE disruption. Understand that what’s happening now is part of the overall process and not “certain doom,” okay?

I know. That’s easier to say than to do. But perhaps taking a step back and a few deep breaths will be helpful anyway. When is it not?

I also think it’s worth noting, the Chariot is numbered 7 and the Tower reduces to a 7 as well. Tarot sevens point to powerful force, stamina and challenge as being central to achievement.  The key to mastering the sevens is following your inner guidance and convictions, even if that isolates you from the approval of others. Definitely, Tarot Sevens are a call to follow the guidance of heart and let the rest of the world do what it will.

Slow-go is better than no-go. In the obstacles, delays, and setbacks we learn and accomplish so much that is usually vital for our ultimate success. And hey, who doesn’t want “ultimate success?”

It’s all a part of the journey, man. Accept it as such, seek it’s usefulness and the trek will be much more pleasant to traverse.

Are you seeing indirect motion?

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Five of Cups Rx: Making Space for the Next Step

It’s been a weird week, hasn’t it? At least for me, it has. I’ve heard plenty of reports that out in the wild, it’s been the same.

And my allergies have been acting up, even indoors. So I’m walking around for the last week with a vague impression I’m about to cry or have recently cried: my face feels emotional! And it’s especially odd because the physical sensations of proximity to tears seem to color my perceptions at the same time. I’ve felt like I need to be gentle with myself because of it, you know?

Not that’s ever really bad advice. I think being gentle with yourself an being gentle with everybody else is always a good idea.

Just be kind. And in particular, next week is a good time to practice that kindness.

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From The Star Tarot, this week’s outlook is the Five of Cups (coming in reversed) with advice as the Three of Wands (also reversed).

That R.E.M song comes to mind…Of course, it’s not the end of the world (even as we know it). It’s not even close.

But yeah…I do expect some space to open this week for most of us. Something ends. It may not be space you were looking to open up, though. Sorry about that.

Or maybe you’re somewhere similar to where I’ve been and feel a proximity to emotionality without a “logical” reason for it.

Doesn’t matter. Be kind and gentle, to yourself first and others you encounter. Feel whatever feelings show up. That’s what we do, right? Feel all the feelings and let them flow.

But when you’re done feeling the feelings, look ahead. Always, finish up by looking ahead. Being in the moment is always adequate preparation for taking the next step.

You won’t be able to see it clearly yet, but that’s okay. When we think we see clearly exactly what’s going to happen, that’s all an illusion anyway. At best, we can usually make out the next step or two.

And that’s enough. A little faith and the next step or two is all it takes.

How are you doing out there?

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