Nine of Cups: Self-Validating Unicorns

I’ve been noticing with special clarity lately how vastly dependent “good” and “bad” is on perspective.

It’s always been there. What’s fat or skinny, what’s rich or poor? And yes, even what’s good or bad–it’s all completely subjective. I’ve done enough weight loss support and talked to enough Tarot clients to say this without hesitation!

What’s more, these designations will alter not based upon the circumstance, but ALWAYS based on the in-the-moment perspective of the individual.

The job that seemed utterly perfect at one point may be considered the worst ever at another point (or even another point in the same week).  Same for the relationship or the house or the car or whatever it is you’re concerned with at any given moment. People I consider thin may worry about their weight. People who seem rich to me can be upset about money. It’s an internal state, NOT an external one.

And however you feel is however you feel and there is no rightness or wrongness about that. It just is.

And it makes sense to make peace with wherever you are at, because what choice do you have? It’s current. It’s where you are at. Feeling crummy about it doesn’t change it. It just makes it harder to change it.

That’s not equivalent to resignation, by the way. It’s actually what unsticks you, not anchors.

Being at peace with where you are gives you a choice where you go with it. You can lean into whatever feels a little better, a little more satisfying, from wherever you’re at. That can be steered with just a little effort, caring about feeling better over other considerations. Choosing the thoughts you follow based on what soothes.

Or you can lean into worry and tension and upset. It’s always up to you, which way you lean from where you’re at.

And I’m not going to tell you one is right and one is wrong, because I don’t see the world that way. But I will tell you, one feels better. That’s the one I like to pick.

And that’s the topic of the Tarot forecast for next week.

Next Week in the Cards

Nine of Cups: Self-Validating Unicorns 1

This week, for outlook we have the Nine of Cups (Water) with advice coming in as the Seven of Wands (Fire) from The Good Tarot.

Now, the Nine of Cups is definitely a card of satisfaction–a wish being fulfilled. (Were you wishing for Mercury to go direct? Granted!) So I would expect to have some relief in the coming week if you’ve been struggling. And if not, still expect there to be icing on your cake, okay? This looks good to me.

Interesting in terms of advice, though…that Seven of Wands. To keep the “satisfaction vibe” active, you may have to reject or ward off the opinions of others. This is easier to do than you may appear at first glance, but it definitely takes practice.

What someone else thinks of you? Doesn’t matter. Whether or not anybody else agrees on what’s best? Doesn’t matter. Who approves of what or how many people sign on to your vision? NONE of this matters, not even one tiny little bit.

Insecurity fuels seeking outside validation. That’s a short-lived reassurance because it can and does change based on where someone else is at, at any given moment. The only lasting form of security comes from within. There is no other route.

You be your fancy, unique Unicorn self and *%#% the rest of anything else, okay?

Take care out there!

And if you want a one-on-one check to clear your head here, give me a holler.

The Sun & Five of Pentacles: Managing the Messes

Yesterday, my Low Carb site was hacked, along with a friend’s (who I sometimes help out).

So I spent the day a little differently than I’d planned.

If I’d left it to tech support alone, it probably would have been fixed today or maybe tomorrow. But it was fixed within a couple of hours because I took an active role.

I didn’t do it alone, though.

Captain Virgo’s research helped me very quickly identify the source of the issue. Various websites provided a lot of clarification and insight on how to fix it. And tech support confirmed what I was finding was accurate.

I also didn’t sweat it. While I don’t run a hosting business anymore, I’m very glad for the lessons I learned when I did. One of the most valuable was to maintain an even emotional keel when something is broken because freaking out doesn’t do a damn thing to help fix it.

It’s a lot easier to think straight when you’re not having metaphorical kittens, man.

But in the end? I took responsibility. It’s my site (and my income) that was at stake. I may have needed help, but it was important that I participate for a quick resolution.

Next week looks kind of like that to me.

Next Week in Tarot

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For the outlook, we have The Sun–Hello Spring! For advice, we’ve got the Five of Pentacles with The World for clarification. These cards are from what you can probably guess is one of my favorite decks, The Star Tarot.

As far as the outlook, I’d expect things to start lightening up. We just passed the Spring Equinox and the Sun has moved into Aries. So this isn’t terribly surprising.

With the weather (finally) warming up, I’m finding the open windows and stream of visitors at the Birdseed Oracle Cafe are lifting my spirits along with the temperatures. Not to mention, I’ve been counting down the days until Mercury goes direct again. I’m ready for motion forward! Can you feel the energy lightening up, too?

Enjoy the pleasantness to the fullest. Don’t discount the good by citing worries and woe to cancel it out. Because what’s good is no less good just because it’s not the entirety of our experience. If anything, the stuff that’s less wonderful makes what we do appreciate even more precious.

As far as advice? This week, don’t be too shy to ask for help if you need it–particularly from those more experienced than you. Do the responsible thing. Sometimes, that’s managing a mess on your own. Sometimes, that’s allowing someone else to provide support in cleaning up the mess. The important thing isn’t who does what right now, only that it gets completely done. Even if you need help, still take the lead on managing your own messes and either way, you’ll learn a lot in the process.

Strength Reversed: Look for the Sunshine

I’ve been working on another project this weekend and I’m tired of looking at the computer screen and fighting with my keyboard.

Because of course, the space and delete keys want to act up on me.  Hello, Mercury Retro! I see you!

So I’m going to keep it short and sweet this week.

Next Week in Tarot

Strength Reversed: Look for the Sunshine 3

This week for the outlook, we have Strength reversed. You may think you can’t do what you need to do. I’m getting this as a feeling of being worn down and probably a little angsty. Worried and maybe frustrated in general.

For advice, we have the Sun.

Make peace everything, okay? You are where you are and that is fine. It has to be, because what choice have you got?

If you start thinking about what’s annoying you, what you “can’t put up with anymore,” whatever has got you at your wit’s end? You’re going to have a Hell of a time putting up with it. You may still have to put up with it, mind you. But you’ll wonder if you’ll be able to do it.

That doesn’t sound like a fun ride if you ask me.

The Sun suggests we just do our best to be happy, like the children do. Not worried over what that person is thinking or whether or not something’s going to break down next week. Not thinking cranky thoughts about cranky people doing cranky things. Not trying to work it to get our way. Without agenda and without malice.

Just be in the moment.  Enjoy the sunshine, whatever bit you get. It’s all good and nothing else is going to help this week.

Enjoy the sunshine and look for it because you can always find at least a little, if you try at all.

The deck is the lovely Start Tarot. You can email me if you wanna talk one-on-one.

Take care, friends! ♥ ~Dix

 

Wheel Reversed: Mind Your Own Business

“I don’t know,” I said to a friend. “So many people are focused on what’s right with the world and what’s wrong with the world, as if it’s  it’s their personal responsibility to give a giant thumbs up or thumbs down on the rest of humanity.” I gesture, for added effect.

“I barely know what’s going on in MY head, let alone what’s going on everyone else’s heads. I am just not very interested in deciding what’s right and wrong for everybody else.”

I mean, if you like that sort of thing, I’m not going to try to talk you out of it. But for me? I’m a lot happier just staying in my own lane. That’s enough.

And staying in one’s own lane would be a very workable strategy for the coming week.

Next Week in Tarot

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This weak features the Wheel of Fortune Rx for the outlook and advice form the Page of Pentacles from Radiant Rider-Waite Tarot.

Maybe it looks like things aren’t going your way…or what you’d consider the “right way.” Don’t sweat it. The wheel spins too and fro and the time and even the folks that think they know what’s “good” and what’s “awful” cannot see the full picture. That takes perspective and knowledge of time and space people just don’t have.

So rather than worry over all these big questions, advice for the week is focus on the moment, the day-to-day details of what you’re doing now, on putting one foot in front of the other. Focus on taking care of physical needs and practical concerns and always, just doing the best you can with what you have to work with. This is a narrow field of vision here.

Appearances don’t matter. Long term projections are irrelevant. This week, be in the now and do the best you can with what you’ve got to work with. That’s your only job.

If you ask me? That’s enough.

Are you managing to stay in your own lane?

If you want some help navigating your lane, though, give me a holler for a private consult.

 

Emperor Rx & Six of Cups: Making Way by Letting Go

Sometimes, losing control is the best thing that could have ever happened.

In fact, I’ll double down on that: 1. “Control” is temporary at best, anyway, and 2. Always, letting go of (the illusion of) control is a good idea.

The relationship that’s sinking, or the job that’s disappearing, the kid that’s spiraling…whatever battle that it feels like you’re losing?

Ask yourself: what if this is really okay? What if this is making room for something that works better?

And maybe you won’t know what’s coming to replace “it.” But disintegration is a clear sign change is underway. Nothing breaks down without reason–or replacement.

Every single time I’ve felt the panic of knowing I no longer had a situation in hand (and there have been many because I’m old!), it’s made way for something that is a better fit for where I was at the time. Without exception. It may be growth or healing or understanding or a totally new paradigm of some sort. But it’s always been important.

I won’t say it’s always fast. I won’t say it’s always easy. But it’s always been meaningful, and that’s enough.

Change can be disruptive, especially if we want to cling (and all of us do sometimes). We want to see the full path to the other side because it can be scary. We want reassurance when the Universe invariably shows only the next step or two.

Be okay with just seeing the next step or two. If you’re plugged in, that next step will be inspired and it will take you exactly where you want to go, even if you have no idea how.

So no matter where you are: if something in your life feels like it’s slipping out of your grasp, take heart. That is the feeling of the decks being cleared to make way for a little “life redecorating.”

Next Week’s Tarot

Emperor Rx & Six of Cups: Making Way by Letting Go 5

For the coming week’s outlook, we have the Emperor reversed (again!) and for advice, the Six of Cups, from one of my favorite decks, the Radiant Rider-Waite mini.

The reversed Emperor is suggesting that the world feels slightly out of control–not necessarily (or just) the world at large, but our personal worlds as well. This isn’t a great surprise with Mercury prepping to go retrograde in a couple of days. But it is an emphasis: if it feels what’s important to you is not quite within your realm of control, that’s because it’s not.

As if it ever really is…

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It doesn’t really matter, though.

The Six of Cups advise us to trust, just as the children do. Be pure of heart and expect the Universe to work out what needs to be worked out. Maybe that seems naive to some, but to me? It’s as clear and sure as the sun coming up without my personal intervention.

Six of Cups advice: Trust. Take a break from trying to make the world spin just so. Relax and restore yourself. Exhale. Be pure of heart and generous.  Prioritize kindness over winning. Let go and let be.

I realize this advice is easier to give than to take because I do both. But once you start letting go of the fear-driven drive to control, life starts getting easier. Once you begin leading more with your heart, doors open and paths clear. Life begins to work in ways you never could have orchestrated through the force of will.

So let go. Allow others to control themselves. You control yourself. Lead with your heart and let the Universe do its own part.

Are you feeling the change afoot?

If you’re looking for a little shoring up on any of the above (or anything else), give me a holler for a one-on-one session and we’ll talk.

The Fool or the Emperor: Who is Wiser?

I’m in the process of learning more about marketing  (for my low carb business). It’s been enlightening from all sorts of angles because I’m both consuming and deconstructing a whole lot of marketing material as I’m learning.

Naturally, people offering marketing how-to info often are frequently selling more advanced marketing systems. Sometimes, very pricey marketing systems! Some of these, I do feel a strong urge to buy. It’s emotional and I know it!  My rationality is, fortunately, keeper of the credit cards. But seeing this with fresh eyes has made for a fascinating experience.

And it’s exactly the same energy interplay as next week’s Tarot…the Fool wants to buy, buy, buy! Now. He wants to believe every promise and learn every new trick. He seeks the advanced understanding he can gain in the process. He wants to move!

The Emperor shakes his head and says, “No, no, no.” He wants to dismiss every offer as lacking value, full of fluff and shiny only because of how it’s presented, with plenty of psychological triggers that stimulate the urge to buy.

In truth, both elements are a reality to varying degrees and the only way to consistently and effectively divine the difference between promise and the personal value–to a specific individual–is intuitive.

You’ve got to stay grounded and plugged in to make wise decisions. But then again, that’s never bad advice!

Next Week in Tarot: Fool & Emperor

The Fool or the Emperor: Who is Wiser? 6

For the forecast, we have The Fool for outlook and advice as the Emperor–note that both cards actually showed up reversed, but I photographed them upright for easier examination. These are from the gorgeous Star Tarot Deck.

The Fool reversed suggests a week with plenty of potential for false starts, confusion, misinterpretation, and partial truths. This isn’t necessarily bad, particularly if you are aware of it.  If you’re prone to impulsiveness, however, it could be a bumpy ride. So you may want to reign that in.

Astro aside: Mercury has already entered his shadow in preparation for the next retrograde in Pisces on March 5, stationing direct on March 28th. The shadow period is where he covers the space in the sky he’ll soon be revisiting during retrograde and you can consider this “setting the stage” for the upcoming retrograde in terms of themes.

The Emperor reversed would have us remain flexible and avoid making a judgment before all investigation is complete. If you feel yourself getting fired up and ready to rain down some fire and brimstone? It would be a VERY GOOD idea to take a step back and engage in some deep breathing. Seriously. Personal boundaries are (always) appropriate to maintain, but I would skip schooling the transgressors this week. In short, you don’t know what you don’t know.

The interplay between these two energies is also very interesting.

The Fool is a blank page, very much wanting to learn everything he can. He’s driven by a desire to fully experience the world and he’s willing to leave the comfort zone of his small life on a quest to obtain knowledge. Dangers to the Fool come largely from his naiveté and lack of real-world experience. He is prone to trust what he’s told and may not always have the sophistication to realize not everyone is as forthcoming as he is.

The Emperor, on the other hand, has gained enough expertise to be sitting in the big chair. He is decisive without question and has a level of confidence in his own abilities the Fool is only hoping to discover through his travels. But the Emperor’s raw authority will only get him so far. His leadership skills will fully blossom only if he’s willing to exercise some of the Fool’s never-ending curiosity and desire for growth. He cannot dismiss new ideas out of hand or his rulership will stagnate.

In the question of who is wiser, Fool or Emperor, the answer depends on when you ask. They both have their good days. Always be open to new experience and learning from other points of view, but remain steadfast in commitment to maintaining personal authority and heeding your intuition. Combining these two approaches will net the best results.

Are you feeling more “Fool” or “Emperor” lately?

If you are ready to hone in on your own answers, give me a holler for a personal consult.

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